This will be an interesting article for the ladies, the men can enjoy it as well. Have I become an advocate for women? Have I suddenly join the feminist gang? Or am I advocating for equality?
Oh no! Before I start, let's make it clear that I'm not here to advocate for women's rights. I'm here to advocate for family peace; peace between husband and wife; peace in the home; peace in the society; peace in the church; peace in the community; peace in the nation.
No one wants to quarrel with his wife, or for that matter with any woman. No man wants to be an object of taunts and giggles by fellow men. The taunts don't hurt as much as the joy you derive when she makes you do all the crazy things she loves to see her man do.
But ladies, what you don't know is that certain things bring out the manly nature in your husband. Certain things make your man do kinds of stuff he will never know he can do until you ask him to do them. This will be a story for another day.
Now, let deal with the issue at hand. There are certain things men need to know about women, which is necessary for every man to bear with their woman.
When you marry a woman you got to deal with her idiosyncrasies. Women can easily be irritated or provoked for several reasons, and the understanding of these reasons is necessary for every man to have a lasting, peaceful, and enjoying relationship with his woman
Man must learn to master the techniques with which he deals with his woman to keep the relationship in the best of relationships. If she is normally irritable, it is up to man to find out what is causing her this awkwardness to prevent it.
Women are characterized by their feelings, they are assumed to be emotional and therefore they are so-called "emotional creatures”. But women are not just emotional. The woman is a highly complicated creature having another set of reasons for what you see, hear or feel. The complexity of the woman can be attributed to the fact that there are many female characters in one person. At the same time, the woman can be hard, fragile, unpredictable, vulnerable, rational, and emotional. To understand this complexity, you need to understand the psychology of women. If you do not know how their psyche works, you will never be able to build any stable relationship with them.
The following are the most common reasons why women are easily irritated.
1. They wear brassieres and tight underwears
This is not funny at all. A woman who wears a brassiere, a form-fitting undergarment designed to support or cover a woman's breasts, from morning till evening can be so uncomfortable. This, to many women, causes some kind of psychological behavior, especially if it is worn from day to night.
The pain is there, and also they bear it, just so to keep the breasts in shape under the gown or whatever top they wear. Someone who has been under such conditions can easily get annoyed with anyone. I guess this is a major reason for most women's behaviors at night to their men.
Most times, as a man, I get very uncomfortable in my bussers or pants which is even freer than what the women wear. You might think that a woman who wears a pair of tight jeans is feeling great showing off her curves, the truth is that she is the most uncontrollable human being on Earth, and needed as much as possible to get off from that thing as soon as she gets home. You can also think about the tight pants under the tight jeans. Almost every woman wears tight pants. Do you think it's comfortable for them?
So before you get annoyed with your woman's behaviors at times in the other room, think about the pains and how uncomfortable she has been under those tight pants and jeans all day.
2. They plate, weave, coil their hair or put on a wig.
What do these things have in common? True, this is not the first time you hear words like "braiding, weaving, " But together? Yes. All of these are related, and they magnify the pains the women bear continually without telling anyone.
The woman's head requires more care than men, namely for women of African descent. This is because the head is one of the main ways that attract male attention. This means that there is always work to perform, especially on the African continent. This is necessary if the head is to look good and remain healthy under high temperature, scalp itching or scratching due to heat, etc ... And many can go on in this condition for six months carrying a braided hear.
Sometimes, I feel very sorry for my wife, seeing how uncomfortable she is under her braided hair, and yet she won't think of getting it off until at least three months elapsed.
If you are reasoning with me as a guy, you can begin to see the freedom that men have with their hair. No scalping, inching, scratching, etc. Men enjoyed the freshness of the air on their heads making their brains more relaxed and functional.
Do you get what am telling you now?
This aspect of a woman's life has a lot of impact on how she reacts to external factors which include her behaviors. You don't have to blame the women, count it on nature.
3. They bleeds, carry a pregnancy, and breastfeed babies
Most women have their menstruation period every month, which might last between 3 to 7 days. Imagine that! Bleeding for 7 days and still running around doing all other things.
We might look at this as a normal thing for the women, but when you consider how you feel the time you got a cut on your finger and the bleeding isn't stopping for 5 minutes, you will be able to bear with your woman idiosyncracies.
This period of bleeding can be hell for most women, yet being the woman that she is, she wrapped herself up and go to the office or her place of work, returns home sometimes late, and still do her house chores like cooking and washing clothes while we the men sit on the sofa in the sitting room with the phone in our hands browsing or chatting with friends or watching TV waiting for the dinner to be served.
How about pregnancy pains which will last at least for 9 months, and thereafter baby breastfeeding begins. No resting period for the women, and on top of this, men still demand sex from the women after 3 months of giving birth. I think the women deserve some medals for their bravery to face all these challenges in life.
It's apparent for men to think about all of these when dealing with their women. The life of a woman is so complicated but you understand their nature they can be so exciting to be with and you might even go as far as to choose to die for your woman.
As men, let's try to tolerate women because the Woman's life is wearsFULL, workFULL, weakFULL, wombFULL, worthFULL, wealthFULL, worshipFULL, and wonderFULL.
An admonition from the Holy Bible can help us conclude this piece of writing better.
Husbands "give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered." (1Peter 3:7 NLT)
Thank you for enlightening us men who doesn't know much about this stuff. Well, we haven't have a serious quarrel yet because we're both understanding and now I understand more about the reason of their behavior so thank you