Currently, a big panic has taken over my family, this wasn't caused by anyone in my family but by an extended family member.
What really happened?
Let me start the story from the beginning of the beginning.
I have a cousin (name withheld) who is very beautiful, she is the daughter of my mom's younger sister. Back in those days when we were very young, my mom always talk about her because she's almost age mate with my elder sister if not older. I haven't seen her once but as time went on, when she was about to visit my home she traveled out of the country. She went to study and after she was done she settle down for a while and it was then I got the opportunity to be friends with her on Facebook.
She sent me a request and I was like, "mom isn't this your beautiful niece in another country" she was like yes she's the one. So I accepted it and we started talking, this was like 3 years ago. We got close and we exchanged numbers, we started calling and texting, and in a short time, we became very close. I noticed she hardly posts any guys or guys but her female friends and I was proud of her.
I went back to school for my higher national diploma program, a 2 years course. It was then our communication depreciated. I was too busy with my studies to always be online and she was already using more than 8 years in a foreign land.
Yesterday I know my mom has always been on long calls, what is she always talking about with her sisters? So I asked and she told me her younger sister called her and said her daughter doesn't want to return home again.
I was like "she might have her reason and besides who would want to come back to a country with a bad economy"
She said that's not the point. A lot of suitors have come to ask for her hand in marriage from different starts and she had refused to come to see them. The last one came from Abuja city to Benin and spent a week waiting for her return but she refuse to come.
Her mom was so worried and started asking her questions like why don't you want to return home? Do you hate me? And many other questions because she was so worried. When she saw her Mom was becoming too worried it was then she decided to open up to her.
Mommy, it's not like I don't want to come home but it's just that I want to ask you a question. If I bring someone home, will you accept?
Her mom was like for sure, I would accept and why not, if it someone you like and has a future with you, no problem. she was like
Ok, I have someone here and I don't want you to get angry or anything. The person is a female like me and I a lesbian now. We plan on getting married soon, I hope you can accept it.
That was where everything scattered. Everyone in the family was shocked, why are we shocked?
Firstly, our tradition is against such kind of relationship and marriage, our constitution is against it and finally, their religion and general national regions are against it.
What will her mom say? What will she tell people? At first, I thought it was a joke but she was serious about it and she said if they aren't gonna accept her, she's not going to come back home again.
I have been worried about her and I don't know if it's right to talk to her about it. I don't want a situation she will get angry with her mom for telling the rest of the family. In her defense, she said she had tried men and it didn't work for her and she has no feelings for men sexually or emotionally.
I still don't understand or get it. Was it wrong to send her away and make her stay that long?
The way everyone in the family is confused is the same way I'm confused cause I don't know what to say or if I should talk to her.
I just hope we can solve this in the right way. Thanks for reading
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