Anger In Relationship

People always say love is a sweet thing which I choose to believe, it is nice to experience love, love can make you forget all your pain, it can take you to another dimensional realm, people in love tend not to see the mistake of the one they are in love with but what happens when the one you love is the one causing you pain, WHAT WILL YOU DO?

It is normal for couples to have a difference that sometimes clashes with each other due to the different backgrounds and way they are brought up, this sometimes can make them misunderstand each other and fight but the ability to overcome this kind of challenge matters a lot.

Anger In Relationship

We, humans, are emotional creatures so there is no way we can avoid getting angry, but the ability to suppress one's anger in a relationship matters a lot. I see some ladies or guys say

That is the way I am, you have to love me like that.

Love you like what, yes, your partner may love you but if you aren't ready to change your bad character, it can lead to the end of such a relationship without remedy. Anger is one of the major factors that has ended many relationships and now a day, many young couples haven't learned how to suppress or control their anger yet they think of getting married.

It still surprises me how a person will get so angry and destroy things, break the remote, throw away some glass, shout and act in some strange way, and say some hurtful things that would hurt the other partner.

Many people don't know that, glass can be replaced, the remote can be repaired, material things can be bought again but words said, a word said, a word said can never be taken back, those hurtful things you have said, those insult you said, those secret you relieved due to angry can never be taken back, it has been registered in the heart of a person. As a human, for some individuals, it is easy to forgive and for some, it isn't, but for every human, it is never easy to forget, no matter how much you love the person, it is never easy to forget a hurtful word a person you love said.

Ways to control anger

I was a person that gets angry so easily before, little things that don't count can get me angry and I destroy a lot of things which is not in my bad record both with friends and family but I'm a better person and trying my best to be the best.

These are various way to control anger, I have used them and it has worked for me over the years.

• Count numbers: This was the first mechanism I used when I started learning to control my anger, I count numbers, I will keep counting in my mind just to see the highest I can count too and with time, the anger will fade away and I will be able to think straight and give the right response to whatever made me angry

• Take a walk: If the person that got me angry is with me at that moment and I don't want to cause a fight or say some hurtful things, I would just walk away, not because I don't know what to say or how to act but because of my sanity and that of the other person, I would just walk away, I do this mostly for people I don't rate at all.

• Keeping quiet: For a person whom I love, I would just keep quiet, this is because I already know how to control my anger, if you don't know how to yet, you can take a walk, but this mechanism works too, I would just keep quiet and think of the good days we had together, cause I know after the anger, we would still have each other, either as friends or family.

• Read psychological Books: I read a lot from my young age thanks to my big sis from France, she brought a lot of books when she visited us in Nigeria and she started working at a library, so I read a lot of books that also help me learn how to control my emotions

• Pray to God: Some people might not believe in God, but if you're a believer, pray to him to help you with your anger issue, the supernatural controls the natural, your anger is human and human being and supernatural being, so with prayer I believe it things can getting better, you would also need to apply those above mechanisms too.

In conclusion

Before you think of going into someone's life and becoming the better half of that person, you need to work on yourself, mentally, physical, emotional, financially and what so ever way you feel you can better yourself, well the truth is your partner is also there to help you become a better person, a partner that isn't ready to help you become a better version of yourself, or always complaining about you or reporting you to people, it better you stay away from such person because you have nothing to learn from such person.

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