You Are Husband First

Truly speaking no matter how you are been used of God. You are husband to a woman and father to some people.

The success of your ministry is determined by your success at home

TEXT: 1Tim 3:1-7

This is a true saying: If a man is eager to be a church leader, he desires an excellent work. 2 A b church leader must be without fault; he must have only one wife, be sober, self-controlled, and orderly; he must welcome strangers in his home; he must be able to teach; 3 he must not be a drunkard or a violent man, but gentle and peaceful; he must not love money; 4 he must be able to manage his own family well and make his children obey him with all respect. 5 For if a man does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of the church of God? 6 He must be mature in the faith, so that he will not swell up with pride and be condemned, as the Devil was. 7 He should be a man who is respected by the people outside the church, so that he will not be disgraced and fall into the Devil's trap.

To be a leader in the church is a good thing. It is a place of responsibility.

But how responsible is a man that is not responsible at home?

INTRODUCTION

God in His Mercy and will seperated some people for special assignment for His kingdom.

He called some to be an

• Apostle

• Prophet

• Pastor

• Evangelist

• Teachers......

The same God gave to man marriage for the purpose of companionship, procreation, Dominion which is made possible through the helpmeet given to him(man).

But it is a pity today that a lot of Minister's of God today are foreignersand strangers in their very home. They place ministry above marriage which is wrong in God's order things.

Marriage precede Ministry i.e God instituted marriage before ministry. Our ministry start from home If your wife cannot applaud you,any applaud and accolades you may receive from people outside is a praise that will kill the ministry.

WHO IS A GOOD MINISTER?

I will look at it from the perspective of marriage, family and husband

👉🏿 A man with one wife.

Read the text again. A man that will be a minister that will receive applaud from God must have just one wife. Presently we have Minister's that have girl friend or concubine in any common or major cities of ministration. They abandon there wife at home and prostituting all around hidden under the umbrella of ministry.

Pitiable enough some will lie against holy Spirit that God instructed them to leave or divorce there wife to marry another. But the Bible says in Malachi I hate divorce.

What do you say about pastor that says his wife is no longer fit for the ministry because of the booming ministry his present Calibre, status,class,friends, associate,exposure, the same wife that was with him when things are very tight.

One of my fathers in the Lord used to say this, ask your wife this question:am going to make heaven or not? He said if your wife said yes, congratulations.But if she said no, you have a serious work to do.

Because she knows much about you.

Whatever you wife says about you is whom you are because she knows you too well.

No matter your calibre and exposure you are husband. You are G O, Apostle, Most senior Apostle, Reverend and Bishop, Pastor and prophet. You must know that you are husband to someone.

People may carrying your Bible.

Another cleaning your sweat.

Another person cleaning your shoe....

Mind you somebody is at seeing your nakedness daily as the case may be.

👉🏿 Manager of his family

He must be a man that can take care,instruct,regulate, checkmate his family.

It means He must be able to

Teach: A good husband and father must be able to teach his family members in the ways of God. The principles of God in tbe Bible

E.g Holiness, obedience,charity, respect for elders, truthfulness,moral, faithfulness....

but father and husband that all these are not visible in his life how will he teach his family members?

We may be eloquent,vibrant, hardworking,loving and caring in the church and at home otherwise all our activities in the church is just Zero.

Note: Your first congregation is your family members.

Your first pulpit is your table at home

Your first pew is the chair in your living room

Your first member is your wife.

👉🏿 A self controlled man.

A minister of God must be disciplined in all sense.

Disciplined in responding to sexual intercourse while his wife is not available. God gave us sexual gift but outside our wife is like heaping a coal of fire upon once lap which will definitely burn the lap.

Discipline in eating. Some minister of God can eat anywhere, even on the road, it shows how loose the person his.

Food is good, we need it, but not all offer of food byou can take.

Disciplined in issue of money. Don't be a pastor or leader that easily say both your money and other people's money that we should not lack any of them. It means money can't be kept in your custody. You are junior brother to Judas Iscariot

👉🏿 A respectable man.

He must be a man of integrity and dignity. Mind you is your wife and children that can attest to your integrity,then people in the society.

Your relationship with others, male and female, in the neighborhood..... Who are you in the community?

You don't demand respect but you command respect. You must stop shouting and requesting for respect. Your attitude and disposition will determine may be you will be respected or not.

👉🏿 A man without fault.

He must be faultless in all sense. Like Jesus the prince of this world came to Jesus but they find no fault in him. Faultless in issue of money, women, friendship,word,..... If you are standing in the front of people to teach and preach to them in any issue, are you not faulty in those things you are teaching them. You can ever be a good Minister and husband if you a man with faulty.