Occurrences Leading To Sexual Defilement In Marriage
Here are the five avoidable occurrences leading to sexual defilement in marriage:
👉🏾 Covetousness
This is a great weapon used by the devil to destroy homes and marriages today. When a wife or husband isn't satisfied or contented with their STATUS, STATURE, POSITION & SITUATION - there's a great tendency that either of them will GO OUTSIDE the marriage to fulfill their expectations and demands.
Covetousness covers almost every area and sector of life.. Ranging from coveting other people's beauty, body endowments, sexual appeal and attraction, wealth, fortunes, assets, positions, title, gifts, talents, grace, anointing, knowledge, intellect, etc.
Many are DEFILING THEIR BEDS, just to get what they want AT WHATEVER COST. Many homes are experiencing crisis, conflicts and chaos because of the LACK OF CONTENTMENT among couples.
Many men aren't SATISFIED with their wife's beauty, body endowment, food, sexual appeal, etc. - and therefore, won't mind going out to meet their needs.
Many woman aren't CONTENTED with their husband's body physique, sexual appeal, financial status, etc. - and won't mind engaging in extramarital affairs to fulfill their expectations and needs.
*Other reasons responsible for defilement in marriage are:*
👉🏾 Prioritizing ministerial, career and professional pursuit, at the expense of SEXUAL INTIMACY.
👉🏾 Low sex drive and life among couples, due to "too much schedules and programs", at the expense of the marriage.
👉🏾 Lack of discipline in friendship or relationship with the opposite sex - especially colleagues at work, church, school, business; female or male friends in the neighborhood; suitors and admirers; former relationships or courtships, etc.
👉🏾 Spiritual attack form the pit of hell - which is the main reason behind most spouses engaging in extramarital affairs, and practicing adultery.
Finally, when a home doesn't take JESUS CHRIST to be the anchor and captain of their marriage ship, the home is bound to suffer immeasurable and countless attacks from the kingdom of darkness - and nothing destroys a home faster and quicker than husbands and wives engaging in ADULTERY & IMMORALITY.
Right Attitude To God's Service As A Ministers Of God
Faithfulness
As a ministers of God we should be trustworthy,reliable or loyal to peoples around us. If a man of God recognizes this and he is ready to endure, then he would be counted among the faithful. This is to say that the pressures and stress associated with our ministerial responsibilities, we are able to through Christ support, bear them.we can only be sustained by maintaining our faith in Him.we should let our yes be yes and our no should be no, anyone who is not faithful in the assignment entrusted to him will lose the reward because each person will be judged by his deeds. We should not compromise because of worldly things or deny Christ in time of tribulations or disaster.
Commitment
A ministers of God that has a right attitude to God's service must be totally committed to personal discipline. 2Cor. 6: 4-10 pls let study the bible passage very well.we should therefore resist every temptation that may bring reproach to our ministry and we should therefore make God and His ministry our first priority.Paul's pursuit of discipline made him succeed in his ministry.whenever we are facing one challenges or the other, we should not see our situation from human perspective and hopeless, we should not fall victim of such thinking. Apostle was even Ready to die(Act 21:10-14) as a true disciple not because he was stronger or a more experienced disciple but because he was highly committed and motivated by hope he had in Christ Jesus.
Be heavenly focus
As a ministers of God we should be heavenly focus, if we are heavenly focus we will not think about worldly things, we will eat as the world eat and also we will not do as the world do. All our aim or ambition will be on heavenly focus. By then, we will count everything in this world as vanity upon vanity.Roman 12:1-2.
Total submission
We must to submit everything to God as the owner of our souls and our caller who as call us out among the dust. where He lead us we have to follow. Giving our heart to Jesus is the right service that will please the Lord. When we do this then we will have the urge and unction to preach the gospel. We will not be ashamed to preach the gospel to every creature. Paul gave his life to God that he put all his strength and might into evangelism " That is why I am so eager to preach the gospel also to you who are at Rome." (Roman 1:15); "Yet when I preach the gospel, I cannot boast, for I am compelled to preach. Woe to me if I do not preach the gospel!"(1Cor.9:16). Therefore right attitude to God is not momentary experience, it is a long life pursuit where we give all that we are to honour all that He is.
Finaly, minister of God should not be too anxious of worldly things, e.g money, position,wealth,power and any other things. Although nobody is perfect but we should be praying that God should conquered the power of flesh and uphold us to the end. I pray for us that God will count us worthy and give us the grace to reign together with Him, in His kingdom. Amen!
The Expectations Of Wives From Their Husbands
If you are going to be a good husband first at home. There are some expectations from your wife and children.
🖍️ Give her gift.
It is very funny that some husbands and pastors don't know how to give their wife gift. They are good in collecting offering in church but they are stingy to their family.
Some men doesn't know the size of their wife's *under wears,foot wears,and clothing*. You need to surprise your wife. Women are created to be a receiver while men are created to be a giver. If you are not a giver it means you sent your make up. God is a giver and you must be as well.
How we you travel as a husband and wife without buying a gift for your wife?
🖍️ Respect your wife.
Respect they say is reciprocal. If you want respect from your wife respect her too. In the public don't shun her off, Respect her opinion in matters in decision taken,don't see her as weaker vessel carry her along in the journey of life.
If you are a minister of God that rubbish your wife in the church by giving her systematic insult you are not a man of God sorry to say.
You wife is a helpmeet in all ramification ministry inclusive. I have not seen a sane man that will rubbish, insult or molest his helper.
🖍️ Try to solve her problems and needs.
The needs of your wife is your responsibility. Either she is working or not. The day you say yes I do you are saying you are now able to add more bill to the bills you've been paying before.
She need :
Caring and petting and cuddling
Good clothes and shoes.
Good food and cream.
She need adventure.
She need good surprise package....
🖍️ Don't be too far from her.
Keeping distance from wife kills them gradually. You may be sleeping on the same bed and with her and you are far from her. How?
Taking decisions without her.
Giving he one syllabic answer whenever she ask question.
Nothing eating her food.
Going out to outing alone against your practices.
and many more.
She also want you to be
🖍️ Be very neat always. Don't be a dirty husband, throwing your cloth anywhere at home.
She want good smell from your body as you make love with her.
She want faithfulness
Your wife hate infidelity. She need your 💯% attention and faithfulness solely to her. Keeping too much girl or ladies as friend is suspicious to her. If she question you on that don't be angry. She is only keeping what belong to her.
Don't be too inquisitive
There are some men that want to know details of everything that transpire when he was not home. Trust your work wife. Don't lock her at home and given her unnecessary boundary.....
CONCLUSION.
One of good things that may ever happen to a man of God is to have a good giving wife.
You incomplete without her. If you are so useful in the church caring to church members, applauding them for what they are and doing in the church without doing the same to your wife you are as good as useless.
Your ministerial achievement will not be reckon with if your wife and children are neglected.
Be wise!
