Not everyone could feel the nostalgia, for we were vanquished by females, and some are introverts here; that's not a sour face. But in my younger self, I really looked for trouble, war, and provoking people. Sometimes even not my care, I feel like I care. Also influenced by peer pressure and being young, wild, and accessible. But those days had passed. I now understand why some people, even if they see someone in trouble, just don't look at it and continue walking as soon as possible. Even if there was a fight, I don't give a moment. I don't want to be involved; maybe that's a sign of maturity?.
At first, I questioned people why it's easy to just walk along and never mind others. Even if one is doing something wrong, just ignore it. Others make a public display of affections and even vulgar taboo. Ignore it and just goes to the way where they must have to be.
What makes me write this one? One friend confessed something taboo, but things became questionable when this person wanted me to be part of the lies. I just leave one reply and never chat back again. I just said, "I could keep that secret, but I will never be part of it" also if that person could delete our conversations, I don't want trouble. This is not simple, like when we were young. I could be part of the trouble in those juvenile times, but things have become different now.
I loved trouble when I was young; we also chatted about things from the past just to divert the topic to something.
Men always had a dark past, some don't, but most do.
The content is solely my self-interest and thought; this might not be similar to others or yourself. This also might not be for you.
Maturity is that you don't care about other people's wrongdoing;
Why I will care? Not that gossip ladies that all want is to have topics in people's lives. Once in your life, had you ever talked to someone who used illicit drugs? Once in your life, had you been with someone who was once jailed for doing something terrible?. I did; I learned from them. At first, I didn't know they were those kinds of people; it just went with the flow. I talked to them, and they confessed things to me. When I was young, I really cared or was curious about what they do? How they did do that?. But now it feels like maturity hits me; I currently don't care about it.
Even I see someone whom I know cheating on their wives. I don't care; they just do things naturally and let others do the job. I don't want to be part of the trouble.
Sometimes being silent about the others' issues is the best thing to do.
Maturity is when you become selfish:
Back in my younger days, I really wanted to share. But now I think it becomes more proper not to share. It's not always about food or things as we get mature. There is so much to consider that it's better to just with ourselves firsts. Problems and anxiety are sometimes better to stay, not be shared with anyone. This is also one thing in my mind, so my social media is not that active anymore. One month I just post something; besides, I am not that social media fame.
Times and experience somehow also teach us to be selfish, where when you get to the point of nothing, what you expect from people doesn't meet your expectations. You began to be selfish and think it was better to save it for another day rather than help those who were shown no good. "Better to give than received" I started to think that not everything this proverb applies.
Is maturity hitting us that hard? I think no, it's about the experience.
Better learn from the past; as I mentioned, I really liked to interfere with trouble when I was juvenile; now, it feels and looks like not beneficial anymore if I do so. Also, learn from the past, where we have seen what the odds were. I think maturity is not what leads me to this kind of bizarre reality; it's all about the experience I have seen. The attitude of others toward me and the knowledge that I always recall.
Sober and selfish is the one that reminds me of what I thought older when I was young; now, I can come out understanding. It's the maturity within experience, indeed.
I still think it's the way my friend confessed the taboo doings. I just said that I am out; I don't want a problem. And I don't want to lose a friend for I could keep a secret if that person thinks I am not a good friend of not giving an excuse for that person to go out, I don't mind. Maturity in friendship also taught me how to look for better friends then.
I wrote this thought from nowhere, but I guessed some will be benefited. It is better to cut people than make lies for their benefit while you're in trouble if things go wrong, that how matured people do.
Thanks for reading.
You really sound mature in this one. I can tell before how mature you are when you were talking about rabbit raising in your blogs.