Love Standard: What Type Of Girl Am I Looking For?

For some days now, it feels like I am more comfortable being single at the moment. Been years now, but it seems like it's more fun to be alone, maybe because I have these goals and dreams for myself and my family at the moment and having a partner not yet suits my moods, perhaps because I want to explore more, and in days to come, this is somehow the best things to do. But it also comes to my head, asking myself what I am looking for in a girl to become my partner. Does my old love standard changes even a bit?

Last night I was scrolling through my phone and saw a video of a lady. I admit she was this beautiful girl. But in the videos, it was posted September, so I am a bit late in the trend. In the video, she explains that beautiful girls like her are also looking for a handsome guys at least. That was a natural law, as she said, for they will look for the classic beauty they won't be left behind. She also claimed that boys do the same when a handsome-looking man looks for beautiful girls.

I am not handsome but triggering the question of what I am looking for. Is this the physical appearance, intelligence, way of life, career, and anything more that will interest me to court her, something that still not every ordinary woman-owned, something that she will be called mine? That was the question I asked myself, and this shall be just the main idea that came to my head.

I will be honest that I have a standard for girls. Not everyone interested shall be called a chance. I also accept that some girls don't suit me by their means, but that's fine. There were no hard feelings about that one.

But the standard I am looking for is not about race or beauty. But I am more intelligent and side of career-oriented. Though a man should provide everything for the family, the generation is changing. I have seen a lot of families that only depend on the man that becomes something else. Later, I saw a family of two get broke when the man did all the job, not because it was the man's fault, but somehow the pressure was.

I am looking for someone who could help me grow. I don't want to be in a very toxic and childish relationship anymore, for 23 is not the age of playing teenage life, but somehow planning for what will happen in our 30s.

Being educated and not doesn't mean boys or girls doesn't complete education doesn't mean they must be disregarded, and that wasn't the thing. Goal-driven is the one that I am looking for, the one that will somehow understand that there will be times and days I will be a busy man facing the challenge of work. I am more on the reality side of things, and I am more in the chances who what life will be like in the next year to come; a girlfriend or wife that could understand me is somehow a great joy, someone that I will be proud to say mine.

Someone with whom I could talk about everything, from finances, savings, and investments. I wanted security for both of us, that's why. Especially that way of life is changing abruptly, and we cannot argue that life is becoming harder every day. The idea of survival of the fittest is somehow in the hype in the following years to come.

Well, in today's generation, we are somehow not just looking for a partner. Some plan life after. That was me. That was the real side of me. I do look at the idea of a comfortable life.

Back to the video I first mentioned, people hate the standard of the girl she presented. That beautiful girl wanted a handsome man. I agree with her, for that was her standard in looking for someone. Maybe her goal is to have a supermodel child of her own, so she must look for handsome faces, or perhaps she wants and loves a more good-looking man. Still, that was her choice.

You should not limit our standards or judge someone who gives insight that she has a high standard. We also planned nothing but the best for us.

I am not weakening other lads and myself, but girls should have that kind of standardization, not because you will love him or him, for you have no choice—It's freedom to love and look for someone to love.

My standard doesn't mean it's required; if I meet someone, maybe this will change the moment too. How about you? What was your standard in looking for partners?