What is your reaction to the bad behavior of others?

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Have you ever this experience that one of your closest friends or acquaintances, suddenly in your complete disbelief, with a behavior, upset you and break your heart?

It must have happened to you. I saw many times this behaviors from my friends and my loved ones. Who, in my complete disbelief, behave, or say or do something that breaks my heart, while there was nothing in my heart but love for them. I have always loved them dearly, I never expected such behavior from them. In such cases, what is your attitude towards such people? Honestly, my husband and I behave completely differently in dealing with such people in such situations. I want to see which category you belong to, and how do you react to the behavior of these people in such situations?

My reaction

When someone I never thought of, treats me in a way that upsets me, I do not tell them in words what has upset me, but that person will no longer be the person he used to be for me. I reduce my contact with them, so that they realize because of their behavior, they are no longer the same person to me.

When someone mistreats me, I no longer allow them to make amends, I completely distance myself from them. I know this may be wrong. Maybe I should listen to the other side, maybe he also had a reason for this behavior. But I do not do that. I just walk away, maybe because I'm an introvert person, and I do not want to talk about what 's going on in my heart, and what's upsetting me.

I always prefer to be alone, so it does not matter to me that I even want to leave my best friend behind because of his behavior. I tell myself, he should not have made this mistake against me in the first place, now that he has done so, I will not allow him to make up for it, because he will certainly do it again next time. But I know I might be arrogant at times like this.

My husband's reaction

But my husband always behaves quite the opposite in dealing with such people. When someone upsets him, he easily tells the other person. He says "you upset me because of this, I did not expect such behavior from you, what could be the reason for this?" He listens to the other side's defenses, and if the other side can convince him, his relationship with him will be the same again. What I can never do... When someone upsets me, or breaks my heart, is no longer my ex, and I can not treat him like I used to. Maybe because my husband is an extrovert, and his social relationships are very important to him. So he easily forgets the bad behavior of others, and becomes with them again as he was before.

Final thoughts

And the point is, when we see bad behavior from those around us, I do not like to say anything, I just change my behavior, and stay away from them. But my husband continues to be in a relationship, expressing his and even my displeasure with the other parties, and waiting for a response from them. In such cases, I tell my husband at least do not tell them my upset, or the parties don't need to know they have upset us with this act. But my husband insists that he must warn them of their bad behavior, that by showing our grief, we show them, they should not do this to us again.

What do you think about this now? Which category do you belong to. Do you, like me, remain silent in the face of the bad behavior of others, and distance yourself from them, or, like my husband, express your grief, and wait for an answer from the other side, and if the answer is satisfactory, you continue the same communication with the other party again?

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