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Aimless wandering. Harphazard thoughts. Random feelings. A lack of direction. Devoid of purpose. Feelings of the world being against you.

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Have you ever felt been at that point in your life before or are you still in that point in your life? Alot of us get stuck in some or all of the states that were mentioned above. Do you always feel mentally exhausted? Stressed out easily with of without physical or mental exercise? Do you feel lack of energy often even when you haven't engaged yourself much?

One of the things each and everyone of us has to know pertaining our life journey is to be able to clearly distinguish between the things that matter and those that do not. Due to how closed the average human heart is, not everyone gets the privilege to have a completely open heart which generates energy on its own, so we are left with a limited amount of energy, but again with thus limited amount, most of us still choose to spend most of it on the things that matter not, then we end up getting spent, even without any physical or mental effort. You get the idea?

False hopes, lust, baseless desires, anger and even joy(pointless joy). All these are emotions that not only end up consuming our energy , but also our time, time that we could have easily spent in doing things that matter and add value to our lives.

I am not saying that one should become a robot(even rusty has emotions haha) and give up all his emotions, aside the fact that that is simply impossible as long as you're human, that would not add any meaning to your life. Let's take anger for example, it is an emotion and a very strong one at that. We all know what people do in anger and later comeback to regret it in their hearts even if they don't come to apologise because of shame. Anger is an opportunity to grow, how? Whenever you feel anger, you have either of these two choices : to yield to your anger and destroy a relationship that matters to you, or to not yield to it and let it pass as the fleeting emotion that it is. Emotions are fleeting and they pass with time, even the strongest and probably the best emotion which is the very source of our existence, Love, passes with time if not cherished. So which would you rather choose as the rational being that you're : Giving up a relationship that matters to you or giving up to a fleeting emotion that comes to pass and therefore doesn't matter?

Again, I am not saying that you should suppress your emotions. In fact, that could have a more devastating effect than letting them gain control over you at that moment. We should know that emotions are energy and as we all know, energy can neither be created nor destroyed. Suppressed emotions always come back, sometimes spontaneously, and could wreck more havoc than they would have if acted upon in the first time. Let them pass through you like the energy they are. Feel them burn through you. Feel them burn through your being and then, feel them pass like the fleeting emotions that they are. That's how you let go. That's how you grow. That's how you have enough time to do things that matter to you right now and spend very little or not time dwelling in thoughts that would not move even a tiny rock. That's how you become a spiritual person.

I used emotions as the main example when talking about things that don't matter because that's the driving force of action and they still control our activities no matter how we claim to be rational. Even the most rational beings still apply emotions, albeit positive, to their thinking, but they are still emotions.

Let me use myself as an example. As a medical student, it's only rational for me to concentrate on my studies because they matter alot to me and leave anything that serves as a distraction for me because it matters less, but is it only the rationality that's involved? No. There's also the fear of failing, which is a raw emotion. Fear is a very strong emotion isn't it? That's it. Emotions are always there even when we claim to be rational, although they might be underlying that we hardly notice them.

So readers, when you feel that sudden urge to go scrolling on your Instagram feed watching videos that add little or no value to your life when you should be doing something completely different like learning that skill you swore to yourself that you'd learn this new year, when you feel that sudden urge to go clubbing instead of visiting that relative you haven't seen in a long time to strengthen the bond of family, whenever you start to worry that a person may not like you instead of hanging out with that person to know what amazing personality they are and could even change your life, ask yourself, is this really what I should do? Does it matter to me at this moment?

I hope you guys do not think that I am against enjoyment. Nahh, in fact I love enjoyment like crazy because that matter too😂😂. Ask my friends. All I am saying is you shouldn't swap them for things that can't be delayed. As you start to pay more attention to things that matter, you even start deriving pleasure and enjoyment from them.

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I get your point here😀

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4 months ago

nothing but the truth. Really enjoyed reading this.

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4 months ago

Sometimes we can't judge which matters matter most in our lives. Then, it is indecision that can make any mistake. Once an error is committed, nothing can be done to go back.

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4 months ago

That's correct. That's why we need clarity. We should avoid taking rash decisions. If we aren't clear about something now, we should leant to leave it for later. Patience.

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4 months ago

Layla the Doctor 👩‍⚕️.

Nice words from a doctor like you. The last part got me 😆. You already passed your message across and if they don’t get it, they forget about it. You don’t need to keep proving yourself again and again.

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4 months ago

Thanks McYusuf.

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4 months ago

I always try to separate the important from the unimportant and not attach importance to unimportant things because sometimes I feel so exhausted and then I realize that it is because of these unimportant things that have taken away my energy. Taughtful article.

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4 months ago

I am happy you enjoyed it. Thanks for reading.

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4 months ago

Your write-up takes me down memory lane. At a point, I could see myself stuck and not seeing a way forward. Kudos!

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User's avatar xus
4 months ago

Thanks for reading.

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4 months ago

Self control is mastery.. Anger would only bring you more misery later and we would regret our thoughtlessness... a very nice article indeed

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4 months ago

Thank bilqees

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4 months ago

Absolutely!

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User's avatar xus
4 months ago

I can relate to those experiences. But I must pause to say welldone. Dealing with stuff at med school and yet having little time to craft insighful piece, proves how much of a genuise you are.

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User's avatar xus
4 months ago

Awwn. Thanks for the complement xus. It hadn't been really easy. Still managing.

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4 months ago

You have good insight on things that actually matter... Great article...!!!

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Thanks Lucifan.

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