Dealing with trust issues.
People who have trust issues are much more greater in number than those who don't and you all know the reason why. I doubt if anyone here has never been betrayed by either a family member, a friend or anyone else within your circle. The depth of hurt is something many of us do not overcome, not even in two lifetimes. There are other reasons why a person might develop trust issues which include mental health disorders or even past childhood trauma, whatever the reason for a person to develop trust issues is, it is very important we learn how to manage it. Trust issues, although being a form of coping mechanism or protection against a form of hurt you have experienced in the past, can be really detrimental to other genuine relationships you still have left.
A lot of people suffering from trust issues developed it in romantic relationships they had once given their all to, it shattered them to th point where they feel like they will never be the same again, to a point where they feel like anyone who comes to their life is there to use them and betray or dump them when they have fulfilled their purpose which is very sad. Betrayals can be very hurtful, those who've been there know what I am talking about. While that may seem like a reasonable thing to do, if you ever have wish to be in another relationship, carrying serious trust issues you have developed from previous relationships into a new relationship is just another firm of emotional baggage which is never something that is healthy in a new relationship. This if course doesn't mean that you should lower you guard down too early, you should be careful all right, but if your past feelings of betrayal begin to interfere in a new relationship, know rush you aren't only hurting yourself, but also the person with whom you are in this new relationship with, all because of someone who never valued you and is probably there living carefree as if he did nothing to hurt another soul, no worth it is it?
I know, it can be hard sometimes to come to trust another person after being subjected to such heartbreak after someone else had made you feel like you will never get out of such feelings, that's why it is important to take time to fix yourself first. Go to therapy, talk to a member of your family, go on a vacation, spend time alone, reflect alot on your past relationships, practice mindfulness alot, do things that make you heal. Try to see it as a part of life's lesson from which you've gained experience. It can be difficult to heal from such things of course and for some people, they never do, and to those people, I pray they get God bless them with extremely understanding partners.
I have had trust issues once, but not from a relationship. The source of one's trust issues doesn't matter much as the effects are always the same. I have seen how it severely affected those in relationships, how it destroys homes. You see, trust is a very important ingredient in maintaining relationships, sometimes even more important than love. What's love anyways if not a state or sacrifice and surrender to whatever it is that lies ahead as long as you love that person. Learning how to move on is a skill that need to be taught in schools, or perhaps an art we should all train ourselves in, for bringing past into present always affects the future.
Thanks for reading.