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Why being a boy is hard?

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Written by   89
6 months ago
Topics: Boys, Beliefs, Challenge

It was a joke for some people to think being a boy is hard. They say being a boy was easy and you will not encounter much pressure than girls. But that is not true at all. In this generation, being a boy is hard because there are many stereotyping and gender roles you need to comply. A boy is not a full-grown man. A boy is an age where he is only starting to discover himself.

There are many reasons why a boy didn't tell his problems and share it with others. Only few boys have the courage and guts to tell their parents that they are experiencing something hard. The society think that being a boy is a preparation for being a man, and you must stand tall for yourself because one day. You will not only stand for yourself, but your family.

What’s the hardest thing about being a boy? What specific pressures or challenges do boys face?

The hardest thing about being a boy is becoming a boy itself. There are expectations people wanted to see from you and you must have a strong physique. They will expect you to become something you don't really want to. You must play basketball. You must get girlfriend. You must build your body because if you are too thin, they will tell you that just for few blow of air, you will be gone.

The pressure of being a boy is the peer pressure. Peer pressure for boys are a bit higher than girls I think. It is because when boys set a plan, it will happen no matter what - whether rain or shine. Boys would give you a straight, frank and no colorful words when they are giving you advises. Peer pressure for boys are compact and solid. You cannot say no unless you have a life and death situation.

What are the good or best things about being male? What are the advantages that society provides for boys and men?

The best thing being a boy is, we don't have a monthly menstruation because if we do, that's a horrible pain. We are very lucky that boys don't need to buy monthly napkins and pads. We are lucky that we can take off our shirt when we are sweating and hot. Unlike girls, they can't do that because of their breast and it is very inappropriate.

Being a boy can lead us to many opportunities, but those opportunities will only be successful if we work hard for it. Right now, what a boy can do is also suitable for girls. Girls can do what boys can whether it is household chores or job opportunities. But still, there is still a stigma that boys are powerful and superior than girls. I believe we are equal in any ways.

Tell us about a specific time you learned what is expected of you based on your gender?

I have this experience when I was in grade 8 that I used leggings because we will dance for a certain event at school. When I bought the leggings, the vendor asked me who will wear it. I said, I am the one who will wear it for school. She told me that it is not appropriate for a boy to wear it, but I told her that we all boys in all section will wear it, not just me.

This kind of gender-based stereotyping is really wide and deep. We cannot blame them since their generation has poor knowledge and acceptance in the current trends. I also think that wearing a leggings are not bad at all. Yes, it is a bit fit, but I don't use it for daily clothes. I used it specifically only for the dance competition of our school.

Do you think it is harder to be a boy or man today than for your parents or grandparents? Why or why not?

I think in my grandparents era, they are more stricter than the current generation. Their beliefs about boys being a boy is firm, strong and solid. Boys should be masculine and will help their father in work. I remember my grandpa told me that he always tasked to help in the farm as a young boy.

I believe I am still lucky because in some ways, some girls game can be played by boys now. And boys game can be played by girls too. That is how the society change and this is a good change now. I think there are many changes to happen, but it will not change a fact that whether you are a boy or girl, it is hard to be one.

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I understand your point,there's something in your heart that maybe time will come you will be facing pressure,when your having a family in the future you should be the strongest to protect your family in any circumstances.

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6 months ago

Though I am not a boy, I can feel how you feel towards expectations and demands for being a boy. But whatever others think about genders, always be yourself, and be who you are no matter what.

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6 months ago

i think even girls have so much pressure when their parents expect a lot. girls have the highest tendency to receive overprotection.

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6 months ago

You are right there .. When you are a man people think you should be hardworking, and you should be able to stand on your own, if you are an eldest child you should be the one to support your family ..

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6 months ago

it's okay to be hardworking and supporting your family. but don't cater all the responsibilities as yours. you will not enjoy life.

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6 months ago

Being a boy in those era was really tough compared to now. There were things that were stationed for the masculine and it must be you to do it. Also, the flexibility was not there, you can't date to wear a Ladies wear, not even to any competition

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6 months ago

it was an era we grateful for that has ended. our new generation has a lot more freedom and the gender norms are lessen.

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6 months ago

You were right, before was indeed more pressured compare now. Just like as a man you should earn more than a woman can, financial issues. So as a man, you must be the provider.

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6 months ago

yes, it was the mindset and culture before. but today, both the wife and the husband are working together. sometimes wives earn more than husbands.

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6 months ago

I guess the gender stereotyping of some boys came from their fragile and toxic masculinity. Some boys want to be seen as something dominant and strong, and doing feminine things can really affect their masculinity.

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6 months ago

it means some men who are doing feminine things are being branded as something else. but right now, it is not an issue right now.

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6 months ago

Para sa akin equal lng kasi kahit babae ako para nmn akong lalaki sa dami ng gawain ko. Wla nmn akong aasahan na iba kundi ako lng din.

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6 months ago

single mom ka po ba ate? siguro mga bata pa po ang mga anak mo kasi wala ka pang naasahan na gumawa ng gawain bahay. hehe.

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6 months ago

Mga ilang years lng nmn ako naging single mom pero 8 years na kmi ni partner bale papa ni bb kulot. May 16 years old na ako pero bntay bata lng yun. Pero marunong yun sa gawaing bhay kasi tinuruan ko nmn.

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6 months ago

(Opinyon ko lang ha..) Sa panahon ngayon, mapababae man o lalaki, nakaakibat na talaga yung pressure eh. Lalo na mula dun sa mga taong ang taas-taas talaga ng expectations sayo. Though kung dun sa pampalakasan or pampabigatan ng gawain, mga lalaki talaga ang inaasahan para dun. Well, hindi din naman natin maitatangi na may mga babae din na kayang gawin ang mga yan.

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6 months ago

tama po ate. hindi naman na mahalaga ngayon kung panlalaki or pambabae ang gawaing ginagawa mo. marami ng lalaki ngayon ang naglalaba, nagluluto, nagbabantay ng mga anak at ang mga asawa nila ang nag wowork.

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6 months ago

In my 21 years of existence, I had so many things learned from being a boy to young adult right now. First is that we are not entitled to do what the gender based roles are. Many more, I don't want to discuss it here. Haha.

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6 months ago

marami ka naman talagang pinagdaanan kuya lalo na ang mag nagap noong panahong diniscuss sa family kung ano ka ba talaga. hehe. masaya naman ang lahat para sayo.

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6 months ago

I believe that being a man had huge responsibility on this society, its already part of the culture that man should be masculine and do hard jobs but this society didnt consider the pain and status a man have.

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6 months ago

i noticed that when a man is in pain, they will think you are weak, pathetic and uncapable. that's why men are hiding tons of emotions inside.

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