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We live in a really messed up world. A world where promises and commitments mean nada, the one where vows are just said for saying sake rather than put into action.

Commitment: a word known by many but only a few put it into action. Gone are the days where for better for worse actually meant for better for worse. Forever seems like a fallacy, something laughed at by people.

We laugh when people mention breakfast, 'Las las, everybody go chop breakfast' is the common saying. It's embedded in us to think that relationships won't work out, it's subconscious. I do it too. A few days ago, I saw a video of two youths displaying their love on Tiktok, the first thing I thought of was 'Breakfast na national cake oo'. Why does it have to be so?

I'm careful of the way I love couples, especially celebrities, I remember the way I loved Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez when they were together, I'm sure I was almost as hurt as Selena when they broke up, I was so invested in the couple's relationship and it never worked out and it's like a defense mechanism now to think all celebrity relationship will go south even though it might not.

It's hard for people to let go and love due to all these. I wrote a fictional story titled you and I on this platform, you should read it.

You and I part 1

You and I part 2

In the second part, two comments got my attention.

@Kacy01 said

What a romantic display of affection there! Love is real though but the disadvantages it comes with these days is far bigger than its advantages.

@MichaelBCH commented that

This is interesting actually, I loved every inch of it. Kudos to you. But sorry to disappoint you, I am a Philophobic and sometimes Aromantic person, I dunnot believe anything like love does exist in this 21st century. Marriage..?. To hell with whatever that means. Lol

I asked him why and he said

Lies, and betrayal you know, believe me have seen enough. Girls are just****

These days being in a relationship is transactional. Ladies date men for money and men date ladies for different reasons including steadily getting laid. No one really wants to put in the work. It's more of like a 'thank you, next' situation.

Why proves the whole 'relationship is scam' thing?

There are several factors but these two are the main ones.

• Unfaithfulness

Discovering an unfaithful partner has to be the most common deal-breaker in relationships. That kind of trust break is very difficult to recover from. Most men are scum, women are scum advocates do so due to unfaithfulness.

Apart from even getting cheated on, cheating with people also does things to an individual's brain.

I saw those threads on Twitter about how the majority of supposed best friends were open to having a sexual relationship with their best friend that is in a relationship.

If I was sexually involved with someone who was supposed to be my bestie who had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend who had a bestie, I would definitely be suspicious and would definitely think they were sexually involved.

• Lies

Lies and unfaithfulness go hand in hand. My grandma tells me something since I was a kid. She says it in my language but it means 'If you lie, you'll steal, and if you steal, you'll definitely cheat.

Imagine being with someone you'll have to confirm the time when he or she says Goodnight. Tough.

The relationship won't work if you keep second-guessing everything he or she tells you.

Despite all these, is it weird that I still believe in love?

I believe that everything will work out well and you should too.

I remember when one of my friends messaged me a few days before Valentine's day to tell me he has a girlfriend. This was someone who had sworn off women because of a previous heartbreak. I know how badly he was hurt but I encouraged his healing process and his learning to love again.

He's happy now and you can be happy too.

So, would you give love a second chance?

They're the best

Thank you for reading🤗

May 23, 2022.

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