Insecure

Date: 9th of March, 2022.

Happy Wednesday y'all! It's already the middle of the week! The sun is burning as hot as ever over here and having us feeling dehydrated and reaching for cold water every now and then.

Apart from that, I'm really happy to ere the green lines in the crypto market today. I hope the rise continues this way.

Yesterday I read @fantagira post about an online personality test. I have always enjoyed taking those tests for fun even though I know they are not always accurate. (the results sometimes make me look like I'm a saint haha). Well, yesterday after reading her post, I decided to try the test for myself and guess what my result was? I got "Thinker" and that makes so much sense. As much as I claim to be adventurous, my adventures are hardly ever spontaneous. I question every situation, every single detail of everything. Even when life seems to be happening around me, I sometimes seem to get lost in the imaginary world in my head. I come up with scenarios, theories that may or may never occur. So yeah, I am a thinker or "a philosopher" as the site says. Your can take the test here

Today, I'll be talking about insecurities. This has to do with the feeling when you think yourself as too small. The feeling of lack of confidence, like you are not good enough. This feeling creeps up every once in a while and makes us doubt ourselves, or relationships with others, our abilities etc. It brings about self doubt and has you second-guessing everything you do.

Areas where one can feel insecure include relationships (the feeling that your partner could be with someone better or that they don't really love you), in professional settings (the feeling that you are a fraud and your skills are not good enough or as good as other's. Check out my previous article on Imposter Syndrome), in you personal life (the feeling that you don't look good, act good, talk good etc especially compared to others)

These insecurities can affect our daily lives and personal outlook about ourselves. To overcome this feeling, we have to improve our confidence levels and believe in ourselves and here are some ways to do it:

1. Admit It

It us one thing to feel insecure and another thing to lie to yourself that we do or that it is a problem. It is not something we can ignore in hopes that it will go away, we have to be intentional about getting over it.

1. Stop Trying

Stop. Trying. To. Be. Perfect. I say this to you and to myself, we can't please everyone, we can't be good at everything, we can't look like everyone and everyone makes mistakes. Ni matter what we do, as long as we're putting in our best, that's good enough. If we make mistakes, we can learn from it and be better, that's how we grow. So stop trying to be good everything in one day, cut yourself some slack and even if you're not good at a particular thing, there will be something else you will be good at, stick to it and learn others.

1. Note Them Down

Like I mentioned above, there will definitely be something you are good at. No matter how small you think they are, note them down. Take note of the things you're actually doing well, the good decisions you've made and the acts you've done right. This will help build your confidence rather than dwell on what you didn’t do right

1. Fight Back

The negative thoughts will try to creep in sometimes and it is up to you to fight back. You can distract yourself from it by going through the notes in the above point or by doing the 5 to 1 method where for every 1 negative thoughts, you are to think of 5 positive thoughts. This will help you keep yourself in a positive mindspace

1. Surround Yourself With Positivity

Amidst all these, you have to surround yourself with positivity. Be with people who genuinely love and appreciate you, people who bring out the best in you and people who make you happy. Also, do things that bring you joy.

1. Baby Steps

You have to understand that things will not change in a day. Sometimes, you may find yourself backsliding but don't despair, just correct your mistakes and move on and with time, you will overcome your insecurities.

Thank you for reading and have a wonderful day!