Rush hour
**Christmas/New year Rush**
**I’m in a hurry, you are in a hurry, rush hour**
It's just a few days to Christmas and we usually call it rush hour because everyone will be trying to clear their desk, especially the tailors or as most of them prefer to be called fashion designers, that doesn’t concern me anyway because I will still call them to tailor, lol, this is usually the time clients will have stay with their tailors all day for they can finish working of their clothes, some of the clients usually carry cutlass to their tailor shops, so the tailor will know how serious they are, if you don't disturb your tailor to work on your clothes, you won't wear it this December and some of them will tell the clients that they have lost the material, which might result to the client carrying police to pick the tailor from his or her shop to the police station. Some usually celebrate their Christmas and New year in police custody, it's more like a tradition.
Another work that is booming now is bathing, though is not yet booming because a lot of people prefers to barb their hair on the 23/24 before Christmas, so it won't grow rough before the new year if you are familiar with my country, you will know that a lot of guys are now tinting their to gold color, it's also a tradition here in my country, some will tint the whole of their hair, while others will just tint half of it, on the 23rd and 24th is usually the rush hour for barbers, everyone will be at their neck to work on their hair fast, if the barber doesn't have much experience in bathing, he might end up giving a client bad haircut, which will definitely turn it fight.
Commercial bus drivers are not left out, this is usually their season of increase, lol, they usually add money to their usual price, while on the 24th, 25th, 31st, and 1st of the new year, they will double the price they use to carry people, this is also the time commercial bus will be making shakara (acting like they have made it in life) ones they tell you the price you try to complain about it, they will tell you to leave the bus and enter another one because they don't want bad energy this period.
The marketplace will be crowded by both traders and none traders, they will be buying and selling, the people that have poultry farming will bring their fattest chickens to the market to sell, the price of the chicken will be three times the normal price in an ordinary day, the ones that can't afford the price of the live chicken will have to buy-in kilo, while some will just go for goat meat, either way, meat is meat, the clothes sellers will also be available, the shoe sellers and many more.
So many businesses and companies will still be in a hurry to clear their desk before the new year and some will have to skip the Christmas celebration because of work, this reminded me of a movie, where the father was never around to celebrate Christmas with the daughter and all he does is to send her a video of him wishing her merry Christmas with a lot of gifts, this daughter wasn't so happy with her father because all she wants is for him to be around to celebrate with her, the daughter hated her father but as she grew older, she got to understand the reasons why her father was not always available for her, she apologizes to the father and thanked him for doing what he did so she can be well educated and live a happy life.
I haven't even cleared my desk yet, I don’t how I will be able to do it before the year-end, well, all I can do is hope for now and watch how things go, while I sip a bottle of soft drink.
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18/12/2021
your marriage is invalid
**Your marriage is invalid**
What will you do if you wake up one morning and you heard the news that the company you went to register your marriage wasn't approved by the government, How will you react to it ?
A few days ago, there was a trend about a marriage registry office, According to the news source, they said that the popular marriage registry office wasn't approved by the government, which means they are illegal, this office has been registering marriages for more than 10 years and a lot of people have their marriage certificate from them, how can the government not know that they were unregistered under the government, the government organization said that all marriage registered under the company is hereby invalid, that means all the couples that did their marriage registration there will have to register it again elsewhere.
A lot of people was commenting about the issue and how funny it sounds to them, how can someone that has been married for 10 years plus just wake up and discover that his/her marriage certificate it's invalid, so they have been fornicating for more than 10 years, lol.
My favorite author (Reno Omokri) commented on it and as usual, he got a point, he said that no government or religion has the right to declare a marriage invalid, according to him, marriage is valid when both families bless the marriage, all other organizations or religions are not relevant in making a marriage valid, most people believe that without marriage certificate or blessing of marriage in a religious gathering, the marriage won’t be complete, you won't blame us though, it's what we were thought from childhood and it's kind of hard to just admit it's a lie, even if the picture it's clear.
He said that there's no verse in the Bible written that a church or a government should bless a marriage before it becomes valid, he also added some Bible verse to back up his claim, one thing I like about the man is that before he starts writing about anything, he always has a backup to it, he wrote few verses to back up his claims, but I will only talk about one, Christ went to a marriage ceremony as a guess, yes, he turned water into wine in the marriage, but he didn't bless the marriage because he knows that he's not in his power to do so, there's no place in the Bible that said couples should seek for the pastor approval before they get married because marriage is more like a family thing and only the family blessings are important, religions blessings or marriage registration center are optional, depends on what the couple wants.
Closing thought
I know that most couples will be looking for another government approve marriage registration center to register their marriage again because they believe that is very much valid, which is true due to the digital age that we are in now, a lot of things has changed and there has been advancement on how marriage can be considered legal now, family blessings its no enough, in most countries, before your marriage is considered valid, you will have to bring a government proved company that will validate your marriage, a court marriage certificate, religions marriage certificate, etc. The reason is best known as some people will just forge a marriage certificate and say that they are legally married and also just in case something rise (good or bad) and they want a paperwork of their marriage, that’s when the marriage certificate comes in to save the day.
*Had a really stressful day, from the studio to church for rehearsals because my boss and his band are working on an online worship program next year, they did one this year and you can check it here.*
https://youtu.be/ymP3rSymItE
*The title of the program is Solace and I will like to use this medium to get ready for it because it’s going to be a beautiful ride on the 23rd of January 2022*
*then from the church back to the studio again, now I am exhausted and tired, I won’t be able to visit your article this night, maybe by the grace of God I will be active tomorrow, though I have some recording to do, I will try my best to make it work.*
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17/12/2021
I'm too young for this
**I'm too young for this**
Have you been stressed out by something important to you and then you will just start saying you are too young for this stress, in as much as you like the gain that is coming from it, you still consider the stress from it as too much. Not that I'm about to complain, lol, but I just want to iron some things out in this article and I know it's common among us here.
First its data, I have been getting this feeling that I'm spending too much on data these days, so I checked one of my recent sim data histories and I was shocked at what I saw, I never expected to see such an amount of data that I have spent like I know that I consume data a lot because this is where I earn my living, I render service to clients that's why I need to be online always, so I won't miss a client in need of my services, not most clients can't be patient for you to come online though, but the true ones that value my work will always try to reach me via phone call if I am online, that's why I need to be active always, you hardly see me offline for 5 hours unless if there's no power supply, talking about the power supply, I can't believe I still have to rely on them for now, lol, when I saw the amount of data I have consumed in less than a year, I said to myself “I am too young to be spending this much on data, nor be data I come buy for this life, lol”.
I remember some time ago when going through Facebook and I saw a post an admin of one group posted, she talked about so many things that I can't remember, she now asked the members, how much they budget on data every month, as a guy that loves to read comments before commenting on any post, I went to read their comment, some was saying they budget 25k naira (50$) per month, some were saying 50k (100$) and so on, the admin posted the amount of money she spent on data every month and it was about 100k (200$) I was like wow, though she's a very talented and hardworking lady when it comes to designs, I still think that amount was too much, now I see the reason most contacts on Whatsapp have become data vendors, they are gaining it big in the data business and I think I will be considering joining the business next year, lol.
There's indeed a lot of ways of making money in this generation, especially in the digital world and the ready people are the ones making use of the opportunities, while some still focus on the analog world, not that is bad though, but most of them are paying deaf ears to the digital world, the digital world has made things a lot easy and some of us are getting lazier, lol, you can start a business online with the little money you have, the good news it's that you won't pay rent, you can also make by rendering services to people in need like me, acquire a skill and so much more.
I think I have shared a story of how I became a graphic designer, it wasn't a funny moment for me, though the story was kind of funny, for the sake of my new subscribers, I will have to brief it again.
**It was years back when I stopped going to work, I was at home all day, watching videos and chatting with other people, things weren't going well for me at all, I had a smart that has a cracked screen and a laptop, I wanted to change the phone so bad because sometimes it was difficult to use, I went looking for a job but didn't find one, the ones I found, I couldn't go because it was far from me when the signal because stronger, I had to check myself very well and I remember that I had a laptop with me and all I was using it for was to watch movies, ah, so I've treasure with me ever since and I was still eating leftovers, I went youtube and started learning graphic designs, I didn't even bother to know more about it before I started to look for clients, I know that a lot of people needs a graphic designer but how can I find them, I was thinking while learning from youtube videos, I did a lot of free jobs as part of my learning experience, I was thinking on a way to attract clients, so I decided to go into something illegal, lol, I know you must be thinking that I want to say fraud, but no, the illegal thing I did was spamming, yeah I know it wasn't right though, but I needed the money as long as I don't defraud anyone, pix mix a few jobs that I did for free, I started posting it in every Facebook group comment section and also attaching a direct link to my Whatsapp to it, I also share it in the most celebrities comments section, since they have a lot of engagements, my design was about 2$ and a lot of people started reaching out to me, though I got warming from Facebook so many times and I was restricted from commenting on posts, some admins also banned me from commenting in the groups, the reason my account wasn't blocked by Facebook was by the grace of God and also because I was a good citizen of Facebook, lol.**
I did what I did though as my favorite author always say (**Reno Omokri**) “you can’t have a smartphone and still complain that you are broke” ate **@jane** posted an article this morning about the power of the mind and how things work according to our beliefs, which I can relate because things are working better for me, sir @Fexonice1 also talked about people that postpone what they could have done today for tomorrow, which I'm guilty of it too, lol, thank God I had to choose to not postpone some certain things that are making my life better now. Think I will end here so the article won't be too long, meanwhile, I still think that I am spending too much on data than myself, I can have 1$ with me and I will spend it on data and endure hunger, lol. There's a saying that we usually say in my country “no matter broke you are, you will still be able to find the money for data” and that has happened to me a lot.
Christmas is a few days from now and a lot of people on read has shared virtual gifts with everyone except me, for this reason, I told Santa Claus to return every other gift I wanted to share, lol, I have only one left which I want to give to @Ruffa I know that ate @Eybyoung has gifted you a virtual boyfriend while sharing virtual gifts and I don't mind to gift you another one, which will make it two boyfriends in a month.
You can see that I also have beautiful blue eyes and a good body shape, I have been working out lately, accept this wonderful gift from me to you.
I decided to change my profile picture and design a new one, Hope you like it.
**Contact me Via WhatsApp** if you are in need of graphic designer or you know someone that needs my services. **I accept BCH as payment** http://wa.me/+2348030584717
16/12/2021
Think before you talk
Hello readers, how did your Wednesday go, mine wasn't that stressful as my Monday was, though I went to the office late and my colleague and a client was already waiting for me outside the office because I'm the one that has the key to the office, aside from my boss, on my way to the office, I was trying to think about a perfect excuse to tell my colleague why I came late, I couldn't think of anyone that will fit, so I just decided to tell her we a helicopter landed at the wrong spot so the pilot told us to help push the helicopter to a better spot before he too, off, she started to laugh because she knew that I lied on purpose, lol. Without taking much of your time, let's get right on to the topic.
Thinking before saying a word can save us from a lot of drama or perhaps troubles, there some people that are just out to cause trouble, we won't know their motive towards us because it doesn't display in their forehead, they can act nice and earn your trust in less than a week, you can be open to them and they can even be the ones to give you advice and tell you not to give up that there's light at the end of the tunnel, I have come across so many of them and I don't think I have learnt my lesson yet, lol.
I'm kind of and open who's ready to talk as long as you're ready to listen, I feel like we can't carry the burden of life alone, they might be in the right position to help me or uplift me rather but me telling them is a relief for me, it's like sharing a bit of your load for stranger to carry for a short time, due to a lot of issues I have faced in the past for telling someone about my insecurity and they shove it on my face in public, I'm considering back to how I were when I used to keep it to myself and its kind of better that way, people can't spoil what they don't know, its when you open up to them, they will use it against you.
What came about this topic and how is it related to what I am writing?, its related because telling someone about your insecurities it's like a big blow when they decide to throw it in your face, think before you tell someone about your insecurities, when you start thinking before you say any word, you will start avoiding a lot of unnecessary stress from Friends, family or neighbors.
Something happened to me few days ago and that's what birthed this topic, I won't will drop the details in a more simpler way so everyone can understand.
Imagine you went to a therapist, at first you don't want to open up to the therapist because a lot of people you have opened up to backstab you, then after some long talk you now decided to open up to the therapist because a problem shared is a problem solve, the therapist that is supposed to keep what you him/her as a classified file that no one should know about it from them, then in a gathering the therapist just brought out what you told him/her in front of everyone and they all burst into laughter, it might sound funny to the people because they are not the victim but it will hurt you really bad, not because people was laughing though, but because you never expected the therapist will just bring a classified case to the table, maybe he/she might not mention your name though, but a trust broken can't be fixed, a problem shared becomes your headache.
Closing thoughts
Everyone can't be the same and there's a saying that goes like this "we will meet alot of wrong people before meeting the right ones" that doesn't mean that we should keep searching for the right people though, when it the comes, the right people will definitely come. Let's think before we talk, so we won't tell the wrong people about ourselves.
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14/12/2021
He wasn't suppose to die like this
**He wasn't supposed to die like this**
Happy Tuesday night readers and happy Wednesday morning to you too, without wasting much of your time, I will like to address news I came across today on the Internet and I would like to know your opinion about it too,
This morning I came across news and it was very shocking to me because someone died and the parent had the opportunity to save their child but they choose not to, according to the blogger that posted it.
***Nigerian Man Sends His Wife Packing,After Finding N3.6m In Her Account And Their Son Died Because Of N25,000 (50$) Hospital Bills.***
***A family lost their son because both parents refused to pay for the child’s medical bills. Both the husband and the wife had money in their accounts but were arguing about who exactly would go ahead and pay for the hospital bill. Eventually their disagreement went on for too long and their son unfortunately died.***
***The wife speaking out and trying to give her own side of the argument.***
***According to the story as reported by TVC, the wife said that up until the point when their son died, she had carried most of the financial burden of the household and claimed that her husband was irresponsible towards those burdens. She wanted the man to take accountability for his actions and finally provide for the health and wellness of their child and family.***
***She honestly thought her husband would rise to the occasion and never thought the child would eventually die. She maintained that the money in her account is her hard-earned money and that the man had no right to get angry and walk away from the marriage because she did not bring it out.***
***It is worthy of note to know that the medical bill in question was only N25,000 (50$).***
***The man eventually found out about the N3.6 million in the wife’s account when one day he went to pick up her phone to take a call and unfortunately for the woman, there on the phone was a bank alert notification that showed the amount of money in the woman’s account – over N3.6 Million (8k+$).***
***So the child died because of N25,000 (50$) when there in the household was over N3.6 Million (8k+$). Sad.***
How can a mother carry a child for a whole nine months and train the child for years, only to let him die because of 25k naira (50$), money that is not supposed to be the issue for the sake of the child, I have seen mothers that don't have much money go out to borrow from people and even sell their clothes all to save the life of their child and there is this woman that can't even save her child from death because she believes that is the husband responsibility to save the child, now the boy is gone and they will be planning on how to bury him, the mother will withdraw more than that 25k naira that is supposed to save the son from her account and she will use it to bury the son, some people don't even deserve to be called a mother at all.
Conclusion
We should appreciate our parents that have sacrificed a lot for us to be here today because now I realized that not all parents can do that, I do watch it on movies when some parents will decide to save money instead of there but I never thought people can do it in reality, well not until today, no amount of tears or money will be able to bring the son back, maybe the couple might reconcile in the future, but the damage has already be done and the child is gone. May he rest well away from this wicked and greedy world.
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14/12/2021
Disappointment as a blessing
**Disappointment as a blessing**
I won't lie, today Monday is really stressful and I never signed up for this stress, lol, I woke up like everyone else by His grace and I couldn't leave my bed because I was so weak to do so, I just opened my eyes and started to calculate the gadgets I need and the money that will be enough to buy it, even though I don't have the money yet, I have to make use of my time by doing some calculations, after doing the addition, I got up from the bed and went to take my bath since the money I need to buy it won't just fall from heaven as it uses to in the Bible days.
I had a long day in the office and thank God I am at home now, it wasn't easy but we made it through Monday, some people say is only Monday that 32hours, lol, like it's just too long and I agree now, enough of my day talk, from the topic you will get where I'm coming from and after you are done reading it you will get where I am going to, so without wasting your time, let's go.
Have you ever been disappointed by someone or something, you felt down because you never expected it from the person that disappointed you, then later you got to realize that the disappointment it’s a Blessing when you looked at it from another angle or perhaps perspective, well, I'm kind of used to getting disappointed by others that’s the most reason I’m working to look up to myself for anything not only money because I hate putting my hope on one person.
A few months back, I wrote a song, it's kind of a sad song though and I have been planning to record it, I forwarded the beat to my friend to write a verse on it so the both of us will be in the song, he wrote his verse and sent me a sample, I like it, I have already written my verse and the chorus of the song, but I was looking for a female vocalist that will sing the chorus, not that I can't sing it myself though, but based on the story that the song tells, a female vocal should be in the chorus.
I have this neighbor that loves to sing, every time I always see her with earpiece singing and I decided to approach her, I asked her if she's into music and she said yes though she hasn't recorded any studio work yet, I asked her for her Whatsapp number so we can talk more and she gave me, we were chatting and I asked her the kind of song she loves and she said America songs, I said okay, luckily for me the song that I wanted a female vocal on is like an America song too, I told her about the song, forwarded the beat and the chorus I wrote to her, she said she can’t fit it in that I should sing it with voice note, which I did, but she still didn’t get it so she told me that she will write her own chorus, which I was even happy though. Days went by and months passed by, but she didn’t give me feedback, I chatted with her and she said she was busy with work, I waited, she said I should forward the beat to her again which I did, I wanted for months again and asked her but she was still saying the same thing, I decided not to ask her again, remember that angel I told you guys that **she visited the studio**, I played the beat for her and show her the lyrics if she can do it, she is not much of a writer though, she's only a singer that loves to do cover for songs, when I played the beat for her she said she likes it that I should call her when I'm ready, I called her two weeks back and she said she was busy, I called again and she came after the power went off, I just relaxed and told her that maybe next time I will call her when I'm chanced, I chatted her on Whatsapp if she has reheard the chorus because she was kind of finding it too difficult before, she said no that she's busy with some things, I said okay (because I nor get the money that's why you dey do me like this) just yesterday Sunday when I got a call from some special people as I wrote on the **article**, they are sisters that sings together and they also write their songs, I was recording a song for them as a token for showing up when one of my friends call them for backup and they came without giving excuses like I am busy, lol, after they were done recording the song, I quickly played the beat of my song that I needed a female vocalist and I asked the elder one to quickly voice it before they leave, which she agreed, she voiced the first chorus that is at the intro but she couldn't voice the middle chorus because its kinda high pitch thing and she doesn't like to go high in pitch, she told her other sister to do it which she did perfectly and TBH (To Be Honest) they did it more than what I expected, they used my lyrics but made it to sound better than what I was hoping for, I am so happy that those previous two I told about the song before disappointed, because I know they won't have done it like this. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/an-angel-visited-the-studio-4877c07b https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/cant-control-the-taste-c75dfea5
Conclusion
Sometimes we keep looking back on how things would have turned out and we didn't bother to look front on how God wants it to be, disappointment becomes a blessing when we look at it from the bright side instead of feeling sad for ourselves on what didn't work out and we end up losing the better days ahead, humans always disappoint and it's one thing everyone should have to understand, that's why I don't like inputting my hope in people, I do disappoint people too, lol, but my kind of disappointment it's not keeping up to time as I will you that I will do it and deliver it today, but if you don't keep reminding me about it, I will just leave it there and do it anytime I feel like to do something, lol, not that I love disappointing it though, but I like taking my time I'm everything I do so my head will be open for more ideas to come in.
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13/12/2021
Can't control the taste
**Can't control the taste**
Happy Sunday readers, how did your Sunday go, mine is really awesome and I would have liked to talk about it though, but I have another topic to write about, either way, I will just drop a brief on how it went before I begin my topic, I got a call some special people and I went to the studio, did some recording for the special people and now I'm at home, though the was kind of stressful and it was worth the stress.
Just this afternoon as I was engaging on articles, I came across @Kushyzee article when he wrote about a topic he saw on naira land, passion or money which will you choose, he wrote some points on why he will go for money before chasing his passion and I get where's he's coming from, you have to secure the bag so you will have a lot of money to chase the passion you have. https://read.cash/@Kushyzee/follow-your-passion-or-follow-the-money-c915f8eb
As I said, I agree with him, but when we the bag as our number one priority instead of our passion, we can easily let go of our passion, before you start saying that it's a lie and you can control your hunger for money, let me just give you a quick example or explanation rather on why you can easily lose your passion for something if you become too focused on the bag.
Can't control the taste for more
I guess we all have watched one or more vampire movies and we know that vampires rely on blood to survive, when a vampire sees a human that hasn't been infected by another vampire, they will want to suck from the human blood, those that can't control the taste for more, will eventually suck all the blood that is inside the human dried, these are mostly done by the newly converted vampire who can't control their taste and due to their inability to control their taste for blood, there will be body bag everywhere and people attending will be drawn towards it, some will start searching for the vampires in the city, which the old vampires hate to see people attention draw towards them.
For months now, I have been trying to save up money to purchase a laptop that I need for my passion, the price it's no joke and I don't know how long it's going to take me to get it, but due to my needs of money, I found a platform that pays for me my time in it, I decided to join the platform for a short term at least I will be able to purchase a laptop in less than a year, the platform it's paying me 5$ per day for my time and I calculated it believes that I will be getting 150$ a month, everything was going fine, but I start showing less interest in my passion and I now focus on the bag, I purchase the laptop in less than 3 months, now I set a goal to buy a new phone or camera after I bought them too, I just start shifting away from the passion and I started to focus more on the bag, I might say I am still going to chase the passion after getting securing the bag, but no amount of money is going to be enough for us, we just have to learn how to stop so we won't end up neglecting the passion forever, as long as the passion is going to bring money while chasing it though.
Conclusion
When you decide to chase your passion at all cause it becomes your only option just as sir @Fexonice1 wrote one of of his article a few days ago, some people believe that as long as you have passion for it, you don't have to make missions from it for you to be focus more on it, don't just do something for the love or passion for it, do it because you also have to earn big from it, if you decide to do it for just the love and passion, a lot of people it's going to use you for their benefit and still step on you, don't just do it for the love alone.
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12/12/2021
Relationship is not an empowerment program
It's already Sunday guys and I hope you had a wonderful night, we have to be thankful in any situation we found ourselves in and work for the best while praying, I was supposed to write this article yesterday but I just dose off, lol, when u woke up is already 1 am, I had to write it anyway.
Yesterday which was Saturday, I planned on staying home all day and for that reason, I was just chilling without taking my bath, lol, that's when I got a message from my boss and he sent me on an errand, I had to quickly take my bath and went on the errand, I delivered what he sent me to him and I decided to visit my friend's shop close by since my hair is rough anyway, he gave me a haircut and we started talking.
We started talking about relationship stuff and how difficult it is to see a girl that genuinely loves and wants to support you, he have this image of his dream girlfriend that she should be ready to support him in his music career, it doesn't have to be financial support, he just needs a motivator that can be there for when everyone else turns their back for him and I kind of like his dream girlfriend, unlike me that just need a girl with good curve even if she's not that supportive, as long as it's just dating and not marriage, lol.
We started to talk about the mentality of 89 percent of girls that always find a guy that has money and will be able to spend on them in a relationship, he said a word that has been ringing in my ears, he said if he's to be financially able now, he can take care of the girl and he will make sure he provides her needs so she won't look else for another guy, I started laughing, not because of him not being financially able but him saying He's going to take the girl responsibility, he asked me why I'm laughing that is it not the right thing to do? I told him that it's not a wrong thing though but for me if she needs money she will have to look for a job or use her brain to acquire a skill that can be giving her money cause I am not taking her responsibility, he was like what if he starts to look outside, I told him a short story I read on Twitter, about a man who traveled to Canada from Nigeria, he wrote that when he started dating his girlfriend (a girl he met at Canada) he got to enjoy a true relationship, how did he describe the true relationship? He said that when he buys or Cook breakfast, the girlfriend will buy lunch, sometimes the girl will come him some nice clothes she comes across in a mall, he will also buy for her too, the girl will make herself beautiful with her money and he was just thinking like is this girl for real, one day he asked her like why aren't you asking me money for your hair or nails? Why aren't you asking me money at all and she said she has no right to ask him money because they are only dating not that they are married yet, both of them are building and it's not right for one to be putting bills on other just because they are dating.
Oh Lord bless me with a woman like this as long as she has curved, lol, the man used to see it like a tradition that every guy must spend on his girlfriend and handle her bills, but when he got to Canada he discovered that relationship is not an empowerment program for girls.
Some girls never get to understand what true love feels like because they are jumping from one car to another looking for a guy to do transfer, they just want to have the latest in town, as a wise man once said and I quote. **Date a loving and caring guy, but marry a financially stable, loving, caring, and understandable man, in case you are wondering the Wiseman that wrote it, well is me.**
The reason I said date a loving and caring guy is because the girl has the a genuine love at least once in a lifetime, she should be blinded by the love and not the pocket of the guy, lol.
The reason I said date a financially stable man that is also loving and caring is because love alone won't be able to keep the couples together, they will need money to handle bills, there will get to a time that busy schedule will want to tear them apart but an understandable partner will surely see reasons with you, the kids will come in at some point and both of them will have to join hands to raise the kids, etc.
If you ask a Nigeria girl what is her dream relationship like, 99 percent of them will start to explain how they want the guy to give them the world, lol, but tell them to help the guy grow so he can be able to give them the world, they will disappear.
Dropped the mic.
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12/12/2021
My hard earn money
**My hard earn money**
TGIF (Thank God it's Friday) happy weekend loved ones and how did your Friday go, mine wasn't that sweet though, I went to the office and my boss didn't show up today, which is supposed to be good for me to work on my unfinished projects, but the power supply company was just playing with the electricity, I had to just relax and finally they took the light, the generator was outside already but I will have to take it downstairs before I can turn it on, I wasn't ready for that though, so I just let the generator to take an off day, lol, I turned on my data and started getting engagements, forgotten that I no longer have power bank as life support to my phone, after hours of using my phone, big bro messaged me on Whatsapp and told me to run an errand for him, which I did and as God did it, I met him at home there was food, I ate and drank cold water because the sun was too much, lol. I think I should just begin my topic so I won't bore you with how my day went
**If you woke up one morning to see that a huge amount of money has been debited from your account without you making any transaction, what will you do?**
This morning I came across a video on Instagram, posted by instablog9ja, some people were causing a scene in the bank and according to instablog9ja, these people received a debit alert from the bank and when they went to the bank to report the issue, the bank told them that there's nothing they can do about it (the bank is a handicap to the issue) money I worked for? You are telling me to just let go of it, that was how the scene started, the people weren’t smiling at all, at this time of year when they are supposed to be enjoying their money, then they will just get debited by the bank.
I don’t want to blame the bank though because I might not know the full story behind it, but you just can’t tell someone that there’s nothing you can do about it, that is their hard earn money, heaven knows how long it took them to save to that amount that got debited overnight when I checked the comment section, I saw that a lot of people had faced a similar issue with the bank before and they just let it go, though the money still hurt them because they know what they did to get such money.
A bank that is supposed to be the safest place to save money and other valuables becomes the opposite of it, I think if the bankers there was in the shoes of the victims they won’t have said “there’s nothing we can do about it” those words could have lead to homicide at that very moment but thank God it didn’t when someone entrusts their valuables to you, it’s right to just say those words to them because it doesn’t sound pleasant to the ears, this is an issue that could have been settled quietly without making a scene by telling them to keep calm and they will resolve the issue in less than 48 hours.
Even the Bible said in **Proverbs 15:1 -- “A soft word turns away wrath, but** **a harsh word stirs up anger**
There’s a way you talked to an angry man and he will be calm to listen to what you have to say, even if he intended to cause a scene in the first place, he will leave the bank gently after much discussion, but if you decided to just open your waaah and started talking while he’s still talking, he will cause a big scene and at the end of the day, you will be the one that will lose customers.
That’s one thing I like about my boss when he’s talking, he always talks calmly to everyone, be it clients, neighbors or we the workers there, ever since I started working there (a year plus) I saw his anger just ones, he wasn’t that calm that day and a neighbor provoked him due to our generator noise, if his wife wasn’t around to calm him down, he would have taken it to the next level, lol, but he just let it slide, the next day he and the neighbors were talking and laughing as nothing happened.
Closing thoughts
I believe that learning how to talk to clients should be added as a requirement for a bank job because I have seen some bankers who only talk to the rich politely and talk to the poor roughly, there was a story of an old woman who went to withdraw 100$ from her bank, she could have used the ATM though, but she chooses to go inside to withdraw the money when she got there, she told the cashier that she wants to withdraw 100$ and the cashier told her that ma’am you should use the ATM that is only when someone wants to withdraw 1000$ he or should enter the bank, this woman pleaded with her and she started giving her attitudes, so the old woman told her to withdraw 10,000$ then, the lady was surprised because she didn’t expect such an amount of money can be in her account, the lady withdraws the 10k$ to the woman, the woman took 100$ from it and told her to pay in the remaining 9,9k$ back into her account, lol.
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10/12/2021
Everyone needs someone
**Everyone needs someone**
Hello, readers, how did your day go, mine was okay thanks for asking, oh did I say okay? Yesterday which was Wednesday, in the article I posted, I also wrote about how my charger and power bank got damaged, I used the power bank the night before the morning and the changer I used that morning before going to work, I still have to thank God that it wasn't my phone that got damaged, lol, like what would I have done? That same Wednesday evening, when I got back from work, I decided to turn on the laptop, the charging port was shaking before, the next thing I saw is that the port just pulled off and it was inside the laptop, a lot of things just ran through my mind like is this Wednesday black for me? Why me, who's trying to frustrate me today, but I didn't panic though, because I have an extra laptop charger that got damaged by electricity a few months back, so I just cut off the port that connects to the laptop port and that's it, lol. The laptop is charging fine and I have got a new charger for my phone, the market is red and I don't think I will be able to sell my BCH again, though I really need the power bank badly, I will just rely on power supply company now.
Sorry to disturb you about my troubles. Lol, let's just get right to the topic without wasting much time.
Just this evening, as I was engaging today, I came across @Gaftekloriginal **article** and he talked about how important it is to have someone you can call, he said a word that touched me “forget those people that said, we don't need nobody to survive, we came to this world alone and we can live it alone” in as much as I wanted to disagree with him, I had a second thought about it and look at it from a different perspective, that reminded me of a story that someone told me years back (I can't remember who told me the story though) before I tell you the story, I want to state the reason I wanted to disagree with him, I have heard some stories of some celebrities that always say they did it alone, they did it tired and they still did it anyway, that was a great motivation for me, but the truth is that they never did it alone, what they met is that they didn't get mentored by someone who was already at the top, they did it with few support from family and friends, so that doesn't fully count. https://read.cash/@Gaftekloriginal/you-need-me-to-survive-dc910bcb
*The story I want to tell you is about a young lady that didn't have friends, she had friends though but she didn't roll with them because most of them are in distant places and when some come to check on her in her place she usually ignores them, she will go to work, do her job well, come back home turn on the tv and dose off, that was her daily routine and she continued it for years, friends and family gave up on her because she wasn't responding to their calls, she doesn't even know her neighbors, not to talk about communicating with them, her rent, light bills and every other bill were being paid directly from her insurance or bank I guess, so that made her be indoors always aside from going to work, there was a time she stopped going to work, her TV was on all night and day, no one had heard from her for more than 2 years or so, one of her friends was in the neighborhood and decided to check on her since it has been two years and no one has heard from her, the friend knocked a knocked and knocked for over an hour, no one was responding, but her tv was still on, the friend asked the neighbors about her and all they could say is that the tv is always on, the friend and the neighbors decided to break the door in, when they got in they discovered the lady skeleton was seating on the chair facing the tv while the remote was still in her hand, she has been dead for over two years but due to her always being indoor and don't communicate with friends and family, nobody knew she was dead, her bills were still being paid that was why her power never went off and her tv was still on for more than two years.*
I might not know the reason she decided to shut everyone away for her life but I'm guessing she believes she can survive without anyone, she never knew she was making things hard for herself, I'm not saying you should start gossiping with your neighbors in other for them to be checking on you, just be in good terms with everyone and mind your business always, sometimes just talk with them and don't get too comfortable around them to be talking about your life issues.
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9/12/2021
Be Observant
**Be observant**
This is a continuation of the recent article I posted yesterday, If you haven't checked it, you can check it ***here*** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/theres-no-manual-in-raising-a-child-8c594511
Being observant and also letting your child know that they can trust and tell you anything is one of the responsibilities of parents, I have seen or perhaps heard some stories on how some parents will leave the responsibility of their child to a neighbor, I don't know how people can easily entrust your child to a stranger, just because the stranger is good to you doesn't mean their intentions towards your kids are good.
**This is based on a true-life event, I read it on a blog months ago, I can't remember the particle blog**
There was this woman that was selling close to a market, she has a three-year-old daughter, ones she opens her shop, she will tell her daughter to go and meet this baba close to her shop (we usually an old man “baba” in my country) the baba will buy something for the daughter and the mother will be thanking him, sometimes when the woman wants to go to the market to buy some goods to stock up her shop, she will leave her daughter in the care of the Baba, the daughter will be crying that she doesn’t want to go, but the mother will just overlook the cry as a minor cry for kids and will push the daughter to her, this fateful day, the mother will bathing her daughter and she realized that her private part has been tampered with, she quick raises an alarm, and people gathered, they later discovered that is the baba that has been molesting the three-year-old girl, the mother was speechless because she knew that it her 1 fault, she sees the man as a father, though they are not related, she just entrusts her child to him.
Maybe if the mother was observant and she notice that her child was always crying anytime she wants to take her to the baba, all these couldn't have happened, these things still happen though, you will see your kids no longer want to go to a place he or she usually love to go before and you will still be forcing them to go.
Aside from what they are being taught in school, let's try to make sure we teach our children the things of life, reading books just to get good grades in school every term can be boring sometimes, we no longer live in that age that every child should become a medical doctor, engineer, lawyer, etc, that was in the old days, I read an article of @Theblackdoll and she wrote about how she enrolled her daughter to a martial art school because she doesn't want her to live a life of reading and reading and reading about books while the the real-world lesson is here, according to her, she said she know how she felt when she was young and how she does was reading to get a good grade, which is very boring, I remember in my secondary days in school when our computer teacher brought laptops to the class and he wanted to teach us about Microsoft, but firstly he told us to turn on the laptop and turn it off, 99% of the whole class couldn't turn off the laptop, I and one other guy are the 1% that know about the laptop, the rest of the class was just there like they haven't seen a laptop before, including those that have good grades than me in class, but they weren't able to operate the laptop because all they know how to do is read and get good grades.
**There are some reasons kids join cult these days and I will mention few.**
One of the reasons the poor kids join a cult is to be the oppressors, I remember in my junior year in secondary school days when some cult boys took the money I was supposed to eat lunch, I cried but those guys don't have any mercy in them, they just want to make money from people to eat lunch.
One of the reasons the rich kids join a cult is because they get too many material things from their parents and the parents are not always around to show parents care for them, so they just make up a gang in school to oppress other kids so they won't be happy as they are not happy.
All these are lessons we should learn from so we won't make the same mistake in the future when we the singles have kids of our own, I just heard the police has invited the three suspects that were involved in the death of young Sylvester to the station, the parents was trying to fly them out of the country, but thank God that they weren't able to fly them out before they were invited to the station, I pray that Sylvester gets the Justice he deserves.
***I posted a short post early, in case you didn't read it, my power bank and charger clashed this morning, that's why I wasn't able to engage on your article today, I'm planning to buy a new one soon though. Thanks for understanding***
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8/12/2021
Good day readers, please I might not be able to engage on your article today. My charger and my power bank clashed (spoiled) this morning, I still don't know the reason, but it hurts me now because I am going to spend on what I never budgeted for, my battery it's not that stronger and I will have to look for someone charger to power my phone so I will be able to publish the article on my daft. Maybe tomorrow I will be able to sell some BCH to buy a new charger and also accumulate more BCH to buy a new power bank soon. Thanks for understanding 🙇🏾♂️
There's no manual in raising a child
**There’s no manual in raising a child**
Hello readers, How did your Tuesday go, hope it wasn't so stressful and tiring, lol, well, i hope you are relaxing while reading my article, so you can be able to understand every bit of it, without wasting much time, let’s get started.
***PS: This article is based on personal thoughts and what I have observe, this article aren’t about mocking anyone on how they raise their kids, lines might be crossed but I think i have already apologize in advanced.***
The death of late Sylvester, a 12 years old boy who was bullied, beaten, and given a chemical to drink in boarding school is still shaking everywhere, a recent interview of his father was trending a few days ago, the father stated that the owner of the school hasn’t reached out to him yet and the last time the principal of the school reach out to him, was not to console him but to asked him why he posted a video of the boy when he was in the hospital with swollen lips, that the boy was fine and he posted a video like that is very bad, I started to wonder that how can someone be in mourning and all the principal could say is that the father shouldn’t have posted that video.
**Link to the video interview** https://www.instagram.com/p/CXHLVLALemC/?utm_medium=copy_link
The boy is gone now and no amount of tears can bring him back, but all they can do now is to seek justice for young Sylvester and make sure that the perpetrators are brought to justice, even if they are still kids, according to @Olasquare **article** on this issue, he talked about how rich people always get away with things like this and my country people easily forgets and their mind can be taken away from it in few weeks or months for now and everyone will just forget that things like this ever happened, which is good if everyone involves in Sylvester death aren’t brought to justice, they are going to continue bullying other kids and something worst than this might occur in the future if time is not taken. https://read.cash/@Olasquare/justice-should-be-served-63915315
A few days ago @Princessbusayo wrote an **article** on the same boy and how parents should be observant of their kids, on her article, she mentions how her Dad use to check on her and her siblings in school and they will always feel that their Dad is being overprotective, her dad also checks on her elder sister who stays with her grandparents from time to time, though they are felt that their dad still see them as kids, they love it because its rare to see parents checking on their kids from time to time. https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/watch-out-for-your-kids-eaed76e6
@HappyBoy also wrote a **short post** on noise about it and there was something that caught my attention about an actress condemning those that was protesting for justice to be served, I still can't believe that someone will want to use this opportunity to gain followers on social media, like WTF, if he was to be her kid, would she be talking that trash, of course, there are two possibilities to this though, either the parents of children that committed the crime paid her to discourage the public and turn their face from the matter because she's a celebrity and when she says a thing, bloggers will carry it on their blogs or she's just said it to draw people attention towards her so she can join the trend. https://noise.cash/post/0n4znzktgjp5p
This afternoon when I checked my Instagram to know more updates about the crime and how it was going, I saw a post, **when one celebrity was condemning boarding school and she said that all her children went to school from home (day to day class)**
**Then another celebrity replied to her comment and said that there's no manual in raising a child**
which is absolutely true, there's no manual in raising a child to become a good child, there are some children that only attend day to day school and they are still in the cult, doing all kinds of things that they are not supposed to be doing.
Let's be observant of our kids, especially when they start saying they don't want to go to a place they usually go to before, young Sylvester was trying to tell the parents that they should change his school but the parents paid deaf ears to him, the parents also said that Sylvester used to be playful and jovial, but when he returned home for holiday they notice he wasn't as before, but I believed they never bothered to investigate on the matter or they might have called the teacher to ask why did Sylvester change all of a sudden and the teacher might have told the parents one or two things that are normal for a kid to start keeping things to his or her self (this conversation is just my thoughts).
Some parents have left their duty as a parent to the teachers, due to them being occupied by work always, I don't have any boarding school experience because I attended a public school, but one thing I can say that all schools have in common is parents living the responsibility of their kids to a teacher, most teachers only look after your kids when you put them on payroll, but if you aren't paying them for looking after your child, they will just be telling you that the child is fine but they won't look after the child, now imagine 50 parent’s handling their children to a single teacher to look after them, how do you think the teacher is going to save anyone of them for being bullied by the rest?.
***I think will have to share this article in two because it’s getting too long and I don’t want it to be boring.***
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7/12/2021
If memories were deletable
**If memories were deletable**
After posting my recent article of yesterday, if you haven't checked it, you can read it here and if you have read it before, you can read it again and drop a comment, Seriously, I still don't know how you all can just forget about someone so easily like they never existed, it's kind of hard for me, to the topic of the day.
Can you imagine yourself deleting some sad or bad memories that are giving you sleepless nights or hard times as you will just connect your head with a USB to your PC (personal computer) then you start playing all your memories from the day you open your eyes as a baby to the very day you are holding a mouse in your hands looking at it, I guess that it would have been great to access it and watch some good old memories of ours when we feel lonely and bored or you just need to be motivated, maybe you are trying to forget about some that have been a good memory of your past but suddenly stopped talking to you or they made you look like a fool for loving them, you can just access the memory data from your computer and delete it permanently from your head.
***Though there might be some disadvantages to it, I believe that it might bring more good than har***m.
The case of suicide will be less, the reason most people commit suicide it's because they are not able to live with the memory of losing a loved one, especially their partner, imagine dating someone for more than four years and everything was just going fine between the both of you, you and your partner had planned the name you will give to your kids and where your wedding will be and so on, then all of a sudden your partner just give you a big blow in your face by breaking heart, chai, that kind of thing can make someone run bad, you will just be there like you were never, lol.
I remember my first breakfast, it wasn’t so funny at all, I remember I sat like who a vegetable, just there looking like things without actually looking at them, I cried at nights and in my bathroom, I will be walking in the raining and hoping for it to wash my pains away, because it was just too much for me to handle, I couldn’t tell anyone because I feel like they are going to laugh at me, the breakfast she served me lasted for more than a week, before I started to recover from it.
If there was a way to delete the memories from my head, I don't think that I would be feeding the same breakfast for over a week plus, maybe immediately she breaks it to me that she can't continue again, I will just say okay, and then go home, connect my head to my personal computer or laptop and search for the memories I had with her, then delete it like she never even existed in my life.
Just like Men In Black, for those of us that haven't watched it, MIB (Men In Black) is a secret agent company that deals with aliens affairs, they control the activities on earth and make sure they are not seen by humans if eventually, someone suspects their activities and notices that aliens are living among us, they will bring out their Neuralyzer (ones you stare at the light, it will wipe your memory in a flash and you won't be able to remember anything at that moment.
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6/12/2021
Am I that easy to forget?
**Am I that easy to forget ?**
Let me first welcome you to the first Sunday of the month, though it's almost Monday here and other countries are already on Mondays, lol, either way, it's never too late to say welcome.
Have you ever wanted a bond between you and someone to last forever, but all of a sudden, both of you become strangers to each other, well, it has happened to me like always, more like a routine though, we meet, we vibe like we are meant to be with each other forever, then something happens and the all thing will just wash an away like writing on the beach, I'm not going to blame anyone like they are always at fault, no no, if I always blame them for broken friendships, that alone is going to tell you that I'm the broken one here who thinks he's perfect while the others are always at fault.
A saying goes like this, ***10 friends can not be friends for 10 consistent years***, which is true, everyone has what they are facing, and blaming someone for not checking on you is wrong, if the person doesn't check on you, while don't you check on them, you never can tell what a call means to others, but if your calls are taken for granted then is better for you to distance your self a bit, so you won't be too affected when the friendship clash.
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To the topic of the day “Am I that easy to forget?” lately, I just sat down and have a flashback on some chats or perhaps a conversation with some people I used to call friends (not that they are enemies now, lol) when I read the chats and I feel the energy that I used to put in, we will always chat every day and when I don't see them online, I call them to check if they are alright, the ones that are not on Whatsapp, I usually call them like 5 times a week to have a conversation with them and so on, but when I stop calling and putting in energy, I found out that things are drifting from what I thought it was, I know that I might be at fault at some point, but is genuine friendship suppose to break like that? Unless if its china made friendship, lol, pardon me, China products last long though, it's just that a lot of people replicate it and spoil the name of the company.
Sometimes when I think about them, I wonder if they think about me too, then I stop thinking about them because I know that they don't think about me at all, but how can some people forget everything in minutes and move on like we never met before? How can we chat for six consistent months and then you just started ignoring my message with no valid reason, I thought there was a bond between us, I thought the plans we made together will come through as soon as you are back from travel? I thought you meant what you said to me, I thought if nothing lasts forever, ours is going to be till eternity, but I guess I thought.
But am I that easy to be forgotten like I never existed in your life before, like I was just a temporary memory that can be erased in a minute, when I look at the sky at night, it reminds me of your face, but why hasn't anything remain you of mine? When must I be the one put in all the energy and still be forgotten like I never existed, why must I be the one to always think about us while you think about whatsoever you think about.
I know I am tired of feeling this way, I am tired of being the strong one, I am a human and I usually get hurt by my emotions, I don't know how to control the feelings, I just want to go to a large stadium with no one there and cry out loud for this pain to go away, I will need to let it out to God openly, not always secretly in my room, I just want to, I just want to let it all out.
5/12/2021
Truth can't be buried for long
*Truth can't be buried for long*
This Saturday evening, I read an article of @Princessbusayo and she talked about Truth in her article and how it can never be hidden for long, you can **check it here**, I was writing a comment in the comment back and it was kind of turning into an article, then I decided to just write on it, since I am still thinking on a topic to write on. https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/the-whole-truth-f17c446e
This just reminds me of a story my pastor wife told us in church, base on a true-life event.
*There was these set of siblings that only the female in the family was able to buy a car and build a house, the male children can strive and strive and strive, but no way, even when the sisters planned and bought a car the elder brother, immediately he enters the car, he drove it against the wall, they started looking for what was worrying them, before the event happen, a mad man went to the compound and told them that he can't ride the car or else he will die, they try to stop the mad man from leaving but he left and no one saw him again. They decided to look for solutions and they went to a church, when they got to the church, the pastor told them that they should travel to the village and ask their uncle what is happening to them, they went straight to the village from the church and approach their uncle about it, the uncle resisted and didn't want to tell them, but after some talks, he decided to open up to them.*
*Long time ago, before your father got married to your mother, he ran over a girl with his car at night in a lonely road, he didn’t go back to help her and rush her to the hospital because he know that no would have been able to survive that, he was shaking that night and he couldn’t keep it to his self, because it was too heavy for him to carry alone, he told me about it and made me promise him that I will not tell anyone about it, which I kept for more than 50 years, until now.*
The pastor now told them that the girl didn't die instantly, she was bleeding to death and if their father went back to check on her, she would have survived it but he didn't, the girl swore that no male child in the family will be able to buy and drive their car, which has been affecting the male children in the family, they wanted to look for the girl family so they can apologize to them, but unfortunately she was an orphan, they went to different orphanage and did charity there, after some weeks, things started working for the whole family, especially the male children. The truth can’t be buried for long.
This other story was from a movie
*There was a big pastor, well know in the state, and everyone that goes to him always receive miracles, the pastor was a true man of God, after years of marriage, he wasn't able to have a child, he would pray for others to have the fruit of the womb, including women without a womb, they receive it and come to testify in his church, he prayed and prayed for years, until no avail, the wife faith began to shake, she traveled to the village to visit her mother, the mother took to a herbalist or river goddess (I can't seem to remember because it's been long I watched it) they told her to do some certain things, which she did because her mother was putting pressure on her, after all that, she became pregnant and the pastor was happy that her wife was pregnant, he didn't know what the wife and had done behind him, when the wife put to bed, immediately the pastor saw the saw baby, he became very sick and he was turning into a vegetable, the church went into prayers for him, to no avail, so they decided to call another pastor, who happen to be a rival to this pastor, they don't get along the way, immediately the pastor steps into the compound of the other pastor, he saw what was wrong, he respectfully asked the sick pastor to tell them what happened 20 years ago, even before he was a pastor, the sick pastor has forgotten because he thought that his sins as been long forgiven, the pastor narrated the story that, long before he was a pastor, he was driving on the road when he hit a young boy, he couldn't stop because he was afraid that people will hold him, so he drove off, the elder sister of the boy ran to him with tears and was telling him not to die (both of them were hulking before he was hit) after he narrated the story, the pastor told him that was the reason God divided to not give you a child, he told the pastor and the few people that were around that the sister of the boy is here, he point out a lady in among the crowd, the lady started crying because his brother was hit by a runaway driver years back and the spirit of the boy as been trying to talk to him for years, the sick pastor apologize to him and the lady accepted and told him that she has forgiven him, the pastor now turned to the sick pastor wife and told her that, he knows this baby is not from God that the baby was from the river, everyone went into prayers, immediately the baby disappeared, the pastor became well. The secret he kept to himself and he thought that no one will ever hear the truth.*
Truth might be hidden for 50 years and above, but one day, it will surely come out and everyone will know about it.
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4/12/2021
Don’t be rude to workers
Don't be rude to workers
Hello Readers or should I say Readees, lol, I know it's not that funny though, but what I'm about to write is really funny and you going to crack your ribs, but before I begin, how did your day go or perhaps how's your day going, today was another sunny day in my country and the heat was something else, well thank God the day is over and we at night now, everywhere its kind of cold now.
This afternoon while I was trying to arrange my head and search for a topic but to no avail, then I decided to visit Instagram and check my favorite blog (instablog9ja) and I came across a post that got my attention.
***A lady called out a hospital and said that they need justice for their baby, according to her, she said her friend went to a particular hospital while she was in labor, and just because she was rude to the doctor, they didn't attend to her for hours, then she had to go to another hospital while her baby head was out already, unfortunately, she lost the child, and all the hospital could say is “we are sorry” for what exactly, all we need is justice for the baby.***
***A doctor saw the post and backup his colleagues, according to him, the doctor has the legal right to stop attending to anyone that abuses them, he even shared the copy of the where it was written in the healthcare rule.***
When I was done reading it, I don't think that the doctor did wrong and I'm not blaming the woman either for losing her baby, rules are meant to be followed, some people have this attitude of looking down at another that is offering service to them, for example, waitress, doctors, room service, cook, gateman, etc...
They believe that the money they pay for the service is enough to abuse someone, I have seen some cases when a client will just slap a waitress for delaying her order, and some managers that care about their workers will apologize to the client and blame the worker for being slow, while the good manager that believes that everyone is equal, will condemn the act displayed by the client and work her out of his restaurant, some people has this bad character in them because they came from a rich home, they see the poor like, they are not supposed to be breathing the same air as them.
Humility is diamond and most people still don't get it, just because you can provide any material things for yourself doesn't mean you should be rude to all, life is not always white, black and grey, they are other colors like butterfly blue, cockroach brown, lol, just joking, but the fact is that looking down on your workers or someone attending to you in a restaurant, hotel or any other place, is bad, nothing lasts forever, you can lose everything that is sponsoring your ego in two seconds, life is always ones rich, always rich.
God didn't create the rich or poor, God created everyone equally, even if some has physical challenges, that doesn't make them any less of a being, the way you treat people matters, be it outsider, family, friends, employees, or colleagues, you don't know who's going to save you tomorrow.
A quick story
A long time ago in a certain kingdom, the king had a beautiful who's uncle his the gateman, only a few people in the kingdom believed in God while the rest worshiped idols, the queen and the gateman were few of the people that believes in God, though the king didn't believe in God, he was a good man.
On a faithful day, the gateman was at the gate as usual then he decided to take a walk around when he overhead some guards planning to assassinate the king and take over the kingdom, he was shocked because some of the guards planning on how to kill the king were the king right hand men, the gateman quickly run to the king and inform him about it, luckily for the king, he listened and was able to arrest them.(from the book of Esther)
The king a rude and arrogant king, maybe the gateman won’t have informed him about what he heard. Let’s not be rude to people.
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3/12/2021
One side of a story is dangerous
**One side of a story is dangerous**
It's a long and hot day for me today, it has been like this for days. While some countries are enjoying the sweet winter, here we are enjoying the wrath of sun, lol, the sun has become so hot to the extent that everyone is complaining about it, I posted it on noise cash, some of the people in the same economy as me feels the same thing, maybe Christ was born in sunny day, lol, well that’s not my topic for the day though, let’s get right to business.
Yesterday after I finished publishing’s my article, another article just flashed into my head, I wanted to write it yesterday and daft it, but I got too busy on both read and noise, this evening as I was trying to search for a topic to write on, I remembered that I had a topic yesterday, but I couldn't remember the exact topic, after few minutes of cracking my brain, I remembered the topic, which I'm going to write on now.
**Before I get started, this might offend certain people, but I wrote it from my perspective and observation things, so without wasting much time again, let's begin.**
Yesterday, I was going through Instagram and I saw a post by Instablog, they posted how a lady was living her dream relationship until it becomes a nightmare, in the pictures was disturbing, that's why I decided not to share it here, according to her, her partner beat her up, though she didn't state the reason for it, she just posted a picture of her with a disfigured face.
Now, I know that maybe people will be calling the man evil names like the monster, devil, or even stupid, I'm not saying what he did was fight though, all I'm saying is that before judging him, try to know his side of the story because one side of a story is dangerous and some women like to always play the victim, even if they are the one that threw the first blow, they just want to be the pitted one and paint some men evil.
There's this Instagram comedian in my country (I won't mention the name, but most people would have come across his story) he has a wife and a son who's like five years old, this man was being abused by his wife, sometimes his wife will beat him up and give him scars, but he won't tell people, maybe family and friends must have noticed it though, so this man came to social to say he wants to divorce his wife, a lot of people was commenting on it, including feminist, they started attacking the man that how can he divorce his wife, after five years of marriage, this and that, he told the people that he has been suffering in the hands of his wife and he also accused her of cheating, that made a lot of people to attack him more than he's just looking for a way to dump his wife and move in with another woman.
Until one day that the woman was chasing him with a belt, he ran to the bathroom and locked himself there, he was recording the video, showing the new injuring he got from his wife, while his wife was banging the door so hard, he also runs a DNA test for himself and his son to see if he’s indeed the father, but unfortunately he wasn’t the father of the boy, after calling him Son for five years, when those people that attacked him before, saw the video, they became calm and they couldn't say a word, because they looked at foolish for running into judgment without thinking twice.
That's how some of us look sometimes when we rush to a conclusion without hearing both sides of the story, I feel for the woman that had disfigured face, but we didn't hear from her partner, maybe he might be in the coma fighting for his life, well, I don't know though, all I can say is that one side of a story is dangerous.
***I apologize for not being active these days, but it's kind of busy in the studio these days, and I have a project I'm working on, I believe I will through with it, so I can be more active here. One love Readers.***
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2/12/2021
Nor be juju be that?
December is here already and I can smell the good aroma of Christmas, today has been hot all through and I feel like collapsing already, I posted it on noise a few hours again and I also talked about how I have been feeling lazy lately, I just slept for an hour plus in the office and I know that I haven't done any heavy work that should make I feel weak, maybe it's the sleep I neglected in the past, they are the ones coming to get me now, lol.
**Link to the post on noise** https://noise.cash/post/gwj53n6hkwg7g
While complaining about the sun and how hot it was, my boss just left and he's done for the day, I and my colleague was in the office, I was trying to record a TikTok video as my daily posting for TikTok and the words I said in the video, she couldn't hold it to herself, she then reacts to it and gave me a reply.
***In to TikTok video, I said, If your boyfriend gives you 50 thousand naira (100$) you will say awwn baby, you are the best, but if your brother gives his girlfriend the same amount of money, you will say the girl used juju (voodoo) on your brother.***
She said yes that how can his brother give that kind of money to a girl that hasn't married, when he has not finished settling the family, I couldn't hold my laughter, I had to let it out because she was really funny, I then ask her that, when your boyfriend gives you the same amount of money, why didn't tell him to use it to settle his family because he has not gotten married to you, she said that she needs the money now, so you need money and your brother girlfriend don't need the money, she was speechless because I got her, lol.
Funny as this seems, it has broken so many families and women are usually the cause of it (not all though) some don't want their brothers to give out money to their wives not to talk about their girlfriends, but they will openly request money from their boyfriends and if he doesn't give her money, she will start acting like ogbanje (a mermaid) they can even go to the existent of accusing their boyfriend that he's cheating and spending money on other girls that's why he doesn't give her money anymore.
The guy might just be under pressure at that moment and not all guys know how to control their anger, some might just end up beating her or just walk away.
Some girls will open tell their boyfriends that they can't marry a guy that has a mother who is alive, according them, they say that they don't want to have a mother-in-law that will be coming to their matrimonial home to spend sometimes, or having a daughter in law to mother in-law fight, but when these set of girls become a mother too and the children have gotten married, they will be the ones to put pressure on their daughter in law or son in law, this isn't fair at all, how can you pray for your boyfriend mother to die before you marry him.
A short story
**My pastor wife told us this story in church, it's base on a true life event.**
*There was this girl that has a rich and successful boyfriend, they have been dating for more than a year, every time the girl will be telling her boyfriend that she can't marry a guy that has a mother, because she can't keep up with the daughter in law and mother-in-law drama, what was her reason for saying that? Just because her friends are saying the same thing, she just picks up from them and be telling her boyfriend, without knowing the pain the boy mother went through in bringing him up, the mother is still very much alive and he didn't want anyone to harm her mother, so he broke up with the girl and married her younger sister, the girl got married to a street businessman and after few years of marriage, fire entered the businessman shop and his goods got burnt, the man is currently doing any job him can to survive for him and his family, while her younger sister is enjoying her marriage and also enjoying her mother in law too, the girl might be regretting every day of her life and I know that some of her friends that rose the anthem for her, will probably marry a man that has a mother.*
Two successful people that I know who always take their mother with them while attending any event or shows is **Ronaldo** the footballer and **Burna Boy** the music artist, only a mother knows the pains she took to raise her child, it's not good for a girl to just wish her dead because she wants to have a marriage without mother in law if the man wished her father in law or mother-in-law death, will she be happy, may we not marry these set of girls in Christ name. Amen.
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1/12/2021
An Angel visited the studio
**An angel visited the studio**
If you had read my previous article, you will know that I haven't fully recovered yet, lol, if you missed the article, you can check it *here*, December is here and I hope you archived your November goals, if not, you can try again this December and see where it gets you, you never can tell. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/she-took-advantage-of-my-feelings-for-her-against-me-341602cf
My day was going fine today at the studio,
When my boss colleague called him that he wanted to do a job in our studio, luckily for him, my boss was about to leave anyway, when he came, his client wasn't at the studio yet, a few minutes later, he got a call and he directed them to the studio when they both walk into the studio, I felt her presence, she came with her sister (actually her friend) it was her first time in the studio and she was going to record a cover(she's not the original writer of the song) she was asking too many questions repeatedly and the producer was kind tired of answering her questions, after some time of negotiating price with the producer, they began to record, my boss and I was in charge of the studio.
I posted half of what happened on noise and I said I will complete it here, you can check the article on **noise here** https://noise.cash/post/xmk8pqrtqn5p5
I adjusted the microphone to her height because she wasn't that tall, she's fair in the skin and she has good curves too, but due to my recent encounter with girls with curves, I decided not to look at any girl till further notice, cause I can't put my health on stake for curves.
When she started recording, when she sang, I had goosebumps in my stomach, her vocal was so unique and good, I had to focus on my phone more so I won’t catch feelings, lol, after she was done recording, the producer began to mix the song, but firstly he had to fine the key of the beat,so he can know how to put in the auto tune, if the vocal and the beat don’t fall in the same key, the entire song will be useless, after the producer was done with mixing the song, he asked me if I can master it, which I said yes, so he told me to master the song myself, I went to seat on the chair and began to master the song, for the sake of some people don’t know how much production works, let me explain it to you like the way the producer explained it to the girl that came to record today.
***When it comes producing of beat, mixing and mastering, the production it’s like you going to the market to buy foodstuffs and ingredients, after that you will cook it together right? the mixing it’s the cooking of the song, to get a better mix, you have to cook it carefully and make sure that everything is in other and there’s no much errors in it, when you are cooking, all the ingredients will be blended together right? You will blend the beat and the vocal together, after you are done with the mix, you will go into mastering, mastering is the final process that will bring out the uniqueness of the song, that’s when you need to make sure that your mix is good before mastering it, the master is like serving the food you cooked in a grand style, the mastering will bring balance to the entire song.***
Like my boss always say, to be a producer, your ears needs to be working, the first day he told me, I was like,is my ear not working, lol, but as times goes i get to understand what he meant by that word, which I have been apply when mixing a song, i have to listen to the song very well.
Before she left, we exchanged contracts, like I said she kind of new to recording, but I will have to put her through on how to upload her songs on free music store for now, in till she’s ready for paid music store and promote her Songs.
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30/11/2021
She took advantage of my feelings for her against me
**She took advantage of my feelings for her against me**
Hope it's not too late to say happy Monday and I hope your day went well, mine was fine though, I'm here to file a complaint, and it's not fair for a guy to be treated like this if I was the one that did it to her, a lot of people will call me heartless and so on, I won't be giving the details in full though but I will surely state the major places.
You all know my love for curve girls right and I usually fall in love with them at first sight, unless @Kushyzee that don't believe in love at first sight, so I met this girl and we were chatting, I didn't tell her I like her though, I just asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said yes, so I didn't tell her that I like, we have been chatting for like over a week now, her house is at the area of my office where I do music production, so I do see her sometimes.
A few weeks back she asked me to borrow her money to make her hair, first of all, I thought about it and asked her if I don't give you, will you be angry, she said no, that is my money, so I told her that I won't give her, she said okay (not that I don't want to give her though, but I wasn't having money with me at all, only God knows my condition at that time) she started delaying my message before she answers and sometimes she won't bother to reply at all, I will be the one to message her again, so recently we have been chatting fine and as normally friends.
She updated her status and she posted a picture of her backside, my head was blown then I told her that I want to cuddle her, lol, she said I can't, she said it's only her boyfriend that is cuddling her, I pushed and pushed and pushed, unto no avail, she kind of notice that I like her, so she told me that I should buy her ice cream, I told her when, she said on Friday, Friday I was at work and it didn't push through so we put it on Saturday, before the Saturday, I asked her if her boyfriend will be okay for me to buy her ice cream, she said her boyfriend is not around, then I told her that we should be a couple for a day, she said okay, I try to talk into the cuddling again and we should watch movies together at my place, I never knew this girl has been calculating all my message and be looking for a loophole to play me.
Then Saturday came and I was very happy, so we chatted and I gave her my location, which is not far from her side, she told me that I should send her transport for a cab, Omo, I just know say this girl get a plan, I told her that the place it's not far and it's walkable, she said she isn't walking to my place, okay, enter the cab and come, I will pay the Cabman myself, she resisted and told me to do transfer so she will be able to enter the cab, I lied and lied that my network is bad, this and that, she told me that it should be another day then, Omo, another day is too far and nobody knows tomorrow, so I decided to transfer the money to her, which it's no big deal, she called me and told me that she's very close and I should come out, I waited 30 minutes outside before I saw her trekking under the sun, Omo this girl nor enter the cab come, I just keep calm as if it wasn't an issue, we were going and she passed my house, I told her that she should come inside at least, she said no that this not the location I told her, but is the location I told you now, we argued and argued and she was already walking home already, I was following her and trying to reason with her, she said that the only way she's going to follow me home is if I give her money, no much money on hand because I was hoping to withdraw or use my debit car at the place we want to buy ice cream, so I brought the cash in my hand and give her one, then she drag the other one from me and put it in her bag.
I told her to give me one, she said aren't giving me anything, okay, let's go to my place, she said it will cost me extra money, money gini? Shey you be olosho nii? (I said it in my mind) she asked where's the money I wanted to use to take her out and I told her that the money in her bag, she was misbehaving and threatening me that she will shout if I come close to her and people were already looking at us, I don't want to make a scene, so I was just following her and trying to reason with her until she got to her house, she made me follow her to her house, I asked her why she did this to me, I thought we were friends, she told me that I was the one that started it, that the day she asked me to borrow her money to make hair, I told her that I don’t have, I now told her that if I had borrowed her the money self, she won't have given it back to me and me now, I don’t like to draw person my money, I will be feeling guilty somehow, she said yes na, she forward said that, if a girl asks you to borrow her money, she means she I should dash her the money, she said that I don't have money to borrow her but I have money to take her out, but I sent you to card a few weeks ago when you asked me and she said that is because I have feelings for her, that's why I sent the card (God knows I sent the card as a helping hand and not because I have feelings for her).
Okay, you used my feelings for you against me, she said she use it as payback, madam payback for what? Did I wrong you before? She said the same thing about her hair and how I refuse to help her then, she forward said that for my information, she won't have a boyfriend, then I know she's full of lies and it's not about her innocent face, she's a snake, she just frustrated me last Saturday and the money she took from me wasn't my pain at all, my pain is that she used my feelings against me, that shit hot very deep, I told big bro about what happened and he told me what reliefs me that night, as I said, the money isn't my issue at all, she should use it to buy whatever she wants but one thing is that she has broken my trust for her and I can never trust her again.
***I think the signs are enough now, I should just stay away from girls now, till further notice, cause I can't keep taking this scars in my heart, I have only one heart and I sworn to protect it, but feels like I have been letting the wrong people in.***
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29/11/2021
The pain didn't change you
There's a saying that goes like this: A pain can change a person or the pain change me, I can't remember the savings but it's definitely about pain changing a person, lol.
The truth is that pain can never change a good person or struggle to change a person, nothing can change a person, the person decided to change, you can't blame it on pain or struggle for changing (I don't know if you are getting me right now) a lot of people has been blaming the hard time they passed through and be saying that the struggle changed me.
Some people have been through the worst and they still decided to stay true to themselves and didn't allow the pain or struggle to break them, it takes a lot to be unbreakable and words aren’t enough at all, you need to be physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally and all the ally, to be able to stay true and living in Nigeria it's really tempting to my faith, I remember some of my old school mates I knew back then, some of them were fellowship leaders and they were acting like assistant Jesus, lol.
They will always hold fellowship in the afternoon and if you didn't attend their fellowships when they invited you, they will see you as the assistant devil, I still can't believe that so many of them have changed and many of them have gone into fraud, because they want the quick money so they won't feel left out when their mate is balling, I have seen some young people that are still in high planning to buy car, like how, aren't your parents watching you? The worst part is that some parents know that their kids are into fraud and they will decide to keep calm and some will even encourage their kids by going from church to church or prophet to prophet, seeking a way that will make the victim pay their kids money because they see fraud as the latest career just because a lot of people are into it, most churches also push some of their members into fraud by comparing them to fraudsters that attend the church, anxiety will kick in.
If you ask some of them, why are they into fraud, they will all say that “every pain change a person, they have been through a lot and they have suffered in the hands of people (especially their ex-girlfriends) so that became their motive to go into it, some say that they defraud the rich and to feed the poor when they now successful scam their victim, some of them will still scam the poor join.
Most girls are the main reason some guys go into fraud too, they will be putting pressure on young boys that are trying to have a decent future, just because they see their friends are sleeping in hotels, going swimming, doing lomotif or TikTok videos with their boyfriend, then the young boy that is trying to have a decent future will now that thinking like he's fourth already, how can someone that is in his early twenty being seeing himself as a failure just because he's not using the latest phone or going to climbing and being getting hyped by the hype man or driving a car.
I don't know if this fraud of things will be able to stop, but because more people are already getting into it, they are recruiting young boys into their HK, lol I don't mean Hong Kong, I have been seeing ate Jane sometimes using the word HK in her article, which stands for Hong Kong, but in my county, HK stands for Hustle Kingdom, usually used by fraudsters, just like a week here, I was running an errand for my boss and I saw home junior high student coming back from school, they were discussing and I overheard one saying that he bought Instagram account 3k (5$) and he's keeping it for a short while before I can use it to bomb (look for people to defraud).
**PS**: *I don't write this article to discriminate against anyone or how they earn their money, I just feel like writing it to let it out of my chest because a lot of things has been pushing me to give this fraud a second thought lately, I don't know how long I'm going to hold up to being true to myself, but I know that I won't let go anytime soon, even if it seems I'm going to be alone forever, I still believe that doing the right thing alone is better than doing the wrong thing with a a lot of people.*
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28/11/2021
Saturdays are for weddings
**Saturday's are for weddings**
Happy New weekend Read stars, how did your Saturday went, well I didn't attend any wedding though, but I feel like writing on this because it's the thing I can think off now, so hold on to your belt as I take you on a ride.
There was this article I wrote weeks back “Saturday Traffic” which is sometimes caused by a wedding reception and all, private and public vehicles will be dragging who will pay first then it will start causing traffic, bit by bit, well, that's not what I'm here to talk about though, some people say it's because Saturdays are resting day for workers and students, that's why they prefer doing a wedding on Saturday, so people will be able to attend. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/saturday-traffic-062acc8e
Weddings are one the biggest in Nigeria (depending on your pocket) and people are making huge money from it, especially when you want your wedding to be remarkable and also luxury type, that means a lot of money is going to go down for such a wedding.
There are two types of wedding, which is the wedding and the luxury wedding (I really don’t know what to name them, lol.)
The wedding is more like a normal wedding in which there wouldn’t be too many expenses, what they usually use is a canopy, bring DJ and photographers, foods and drinks will be available, etc.
while is luxury wedding is more expensive (everything called luxury is actually expensive, lol) the luxury wedding is done in a hall or perhaps event center, in my state now, there are some event centers that collect bigger price than the others, base on the location, the packaging (like the what is Inside) the also the 24hours power supply, then followed by the photographers, the bouncers (people that will guard the entrance from uninvited guess and they also maintain peace and order in the event) the ushers, yeah you heard it right, ushering are one of the leading businesses in my country and a lot of are getting into it daily, they will be the ones to serve food and make sure that everything is kept in order, the lighters, haha, I call them the lighters because they bring the fancy lights to the event and they also bring what we called, digital smoke (that smoke that doesn’t have any side effects and they usually use it for events), followed by the Dj that will be dropping vibes on vibes, there will also be a live band to spice up the event, MC will be on the ground to do the talking as MCs does, videographers will also be available to video the beautiful event and caterers will also be available, they are actually the most important persons in the event because people need to eat before they can spray money, lol.
There will be Aso Ebi women and men and they normally dress in native attires, they usually pay huge money to buy the material and also sow the same style if Agbada, there will also be the men in the suite, sometimes these two people are the same, they will be the ones on suite with the groom, while for the females, they also have the Aso Ebi gang and they have the bridesmaids that will be close to the bride.
Most ladies prefer luxury wedding and they can go any extent to get it, even if I means for the husband to borrow loan, they don’t mind, they just want to impress their friends and people that will come around, they believe that it will increase their standards in the society and people will look them like goddess and gods, lol.
***Mhen it’s like I’m passing through too much these days, I just feel lost. But I believe that things will be clear for me soon because these past few days have been bad for my mental health.***
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27/11/2021
A false result
**Laboratory Mistake**
This was supposed to be my topic yesterday but I had to keep it for today being the last Friday of the month, yesterday, my boss did post-recording for the band, the backup singers came to stem their voice in the song, my boss life is among the backup singers after they were done recording it, they started discussing and one talked about a pregnancy test she did before getting married.
***In my country, when a girl wants to wed in a church, the marriage committee will first ask her if she's pregnant if she said yes, they will ask her to go and take a pregnancy test for confirmation, and she will submit the result to the marriage committee in the church to see, in some bigger churches, they have their doctor that takes all test, so no one will bring a false result, if she's pregnant, the church won't agree to wed her.***
So this lady went to one hospital close by to do the test, it was on Thursday and the marriage is going to be on Saturday after the laboratory guy took her sample and run the test, he gave her the result in an envelope, she took the result without checking it, she has hope that she can't be pregnant because she saw her period a few days ago, while she was on the commercial bus going to the church, something told her to check the result, first she resisted but the signal was getting stronger and she decided to check it.
When she opened it, she saw that her test result came out positive, she was confused at first, (have you ever be caught done founded in moment and you don't know your left or right again, lol) that was how she explained she was, she didn’t understand if positive mean that she’s not pregnant or she’s pregnant, she asked someone and they told her that it meant, she’s pregnant, she quickly stop the bus and come out, because this can’t be possible, she went back to the hospital where she took the test and told the doctor that she’s not understanding what she’s seeing, the doctor told her that she’s two weeks pregnant, ah two weeks? When I saw my period 2 days ago, the doctor decided to conduct another test, the same result came out, she said that’s not her result, she went to another hospital, they did the test and she wasn’t pregnant, she very happy and quickly went to the church committee and submitted it, a laboratory mistake that almost cost her her wedding, just because the machine wasn't functioning well and they didn't even bother to fix it before using it run the test for people.
There was this Nollywood movie I watched years ago, it was also a laboratory mistake, but this one wasn't caused by a faulty machine, it was the person in charger that caused it because he was getting laid with one of the nurses in the laboratory room, what really happened ?
***This man was a businessman, well, not just an ordinary businessman though, he was a professional assassin, who always does a clean job, and big men always hire him to take care of their enemies with no trace of anyone thinking that the disease was assassinated, something happened and the last job wasn't that clean, though he has already executed his target, though he had to kill the target daughter too, because she saw him and the guy he told to keep watch if anyone is coming, was toasting a girl and he didn't know when the target daughter got into the compound, the girl manages to hit him with a shovel before she was killed, so the man had to go to the hospital to stitch it, on his way there, he dropped the guy that was keeping watched and shot in because he had just one job and he didn't get it right, he wasn't familiar with the area, he saw a lady on the way and asked her if she knows any hospital around, the lady volunteer to take him there, when they got there, after the nurses where done stitching his head, he was about to leave when the doctor approached and start calling him names, he was confused because he didn't know what was going on, the doctor told him that how can he impregnated her and won't take responsibility for it, the guy was still confused because he picked her on the way because she volunteered to show him a nearby hospital, the doctor now insisted they do DNA test on the pregnancy, they took his sample and after the test, the doctor started to apologise to him that he's not him because he can't bear a child, the man was shocked again, because he has two kids and a wife at home, so are you telling me that my kids are not mine, he left in anger and when he got home, he tied his wife and kids, he brought out poison and some other deadly stuff, told his wife to choose from, the wife was trying to tell him that she did cheat on him, but the man refused to listen because the doctor told him that he’s impotent, then who now own these two kids, the doctor was calling his number but he wasn’t picking up, after the man had poisoned his wife and kids, he picked the call and the doctor told him that the result wasn’t his, the man turned and looked at his wife and children already lying dead, he hang up the call and left to for the hospitality, he closed the hospital and started killing the staffs, all because of laboratory mistake.***
These things happen daily in the world, and there aren’t doing anything about it, just one false result can collapse anything, they should be extra careful and when running test and also double check it again to make sure you aren’t writing rubbish.
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26/11/2021
Secret sin
**Secret sin**
It's been a long day, thank God the day is coming to an end and I just came back from now feeling tired, I had a different topic in mind today, but after reading @Princessbusayo post on noise cash, about two couples that were quarreling in secret and cheering each other in public, the fight continued for long and something terrible happened, you can read it **here** if you aren't following her. https://noise.cash/post/q40j3vvt59pgp
Things like this happen daily, husband and wife will be keeping malice, under the same roof, cooking with different pots and they won't be sleeping in the same bed, they can keep the malice for over a year and no one will know about it, maybe until God intervenes in the case, that's when they will settle the case.
Sometimes when we see two happy couples getting divorced, we can't help but imagine what is the cause of it, like we look up to them as the best couples and we think that their relationship is flawless and they both understands each other, one thing we should keep in mind is that all that glitters is not gold, some na iron weh dem use shini shini spray (some are fake) we don’t know what some people go through in their relationship secretly, all we see is the matching clothes they both wear, the invincible kiss they both give each other from afar, the lovely names they call themselves but deep inside they are suffocating in the relationship.
I know of a couple that has fought so many times, sometimes the husband will threaten the wife that he will kill her, people will intervene and calm both of them down, the upper week, both of them will just be happy with each other as if they never fought before, sometimes I wondered how possible it is for them to just forget about their fight and started to be happy with one another again, then something flashed into my mind, which you can guess from the title.
What is secret sin
Okay, I won't explain the meaning of secret sin, because we all must have known it by now and we are also guilty of it in one way or the other, the difference between public sin and secret sin is that, when someone gets caught in public, the person might decide to repent and become a good person, though most of the people that judged him/her does the same sin but in private, just because they haven’t gotten caught yet.
***I don’t want to quote the Bible, but during Christ staying on earth in the New Testament, a group of people holding stones, brought a woman to him that she has sin and according to their law, she shall be stoned to death, Christ was writing on the floor, then Christ said to them, if anyone of you aren’t guilty of the same sin she committed, be the first to cast the stone, Before Christ rose up his head, everyone was gone except for the woman, he asked her, where are the people that wanted to stone you and she replied they all ran away.***
She woman must have repented and become a follower of Christ, but not all of those people that wanted to stone her, will repent too, secret sin is like a drug, the more you do it, the more you say you want to stop it, the more you get in more, you will be postponing the date you wanted to stop it before it destroys you, sometimes it takes God to bring you out of it, everyone has his or her secret sins and we should not judge that’s for a sin that we also do in private.
Just like the couples that are always fighting in public, other women in the environment will be coming and be saying all kinds of words that the man is evil, if they were the woman, they would have shown the man pepper, he won't forget in his lifetime, some also said that no their husbands has not laid a finger them, which the truth is that, few of them might be suffering in private, but they ashamed go tell someone because they have become a public figure and people look up to them, that's the reasons most of them decided to remain in the bondage.
**Closing Thoughts**
Actually, there are no closing thoughts, but I hope you understand it, enduring toxic relationship is also a secret sin, secret sins kill slowly, the earlier you stop it, the better for you, meanwhile, I'm not exempted.
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25/11/2021
The idea
**The idea**
**Ideas don't come out fully formed- Mark Zuckerberg**
Hello, my dear writers and readers, I guess your day wasn't that bad, I don't know what to name the topic, but that's what pop into my mind, I know this must have happened to you, or perhaps someone must have accused you of it, relax it's not an evil thing, so no need to scream “I'm not guilty of the crime” without wasting your time, let's go straight to the topic.
Have you thought about how someone got your idea and used it for his or her benefit, I'm not talking about people close to you though, I'm talking about people you haven't met like celebrities, there's this artiste (he's a rapper) that my friends and people always say I sound like, his name is erigga and most of my country people will know him, maybe it's because I love to listen to his songs more than any other artiste, then I started sounding like him in most of my songs (some I haven't released yet) just this year, he dropped his EP (extended playlist) I rushed to listen to the songs as a sign of support for him, in one of his tracks in the song, there was a line in the lyrics that I heard and it baffles me because I wrote that line on my song 2years ago (I wouldn't mention the name of the track here, but you can check the EP and **stream his songs**) the worst part it's that I haven't even recorded the song in the studio yet (though I have recorded it on my phone and no one has ever listened to it because I save it differently, so there's no way he could have heard it) I told my friend about it and he thought that I was joking until I played the one that was on my phone for him, good thing the date I recorded it on my phone was still there, but the coco (the fact) is that he must have gotten the same inspiration I got to write the lyrics, and pardon me it's just two lines though. https://audiomack.com/erigganewmoney/album/before-the-chaos
If I am to release the one I wrote 2 years ago, everyone will say I copied it from him, which I can't defend myself because he sang it first, this wasn’t the first time though, another artiste had sung some of my lines in his song, and I was surprised, I am saying they stole my song though, what I am saying is that, same ideas can’t hit three people but in different ways, but the first one among the three that makes use of the idea before the others, becomes the original while the rest will be the copy of it, not that they copied it from the first one though, but they weren’t fast enough to make use of the ideas.
Most people do copy ideas and claim them for themselves, I don’t know if you have heard the story of “**The Goat and The Sheep**” I have forgotten the author that wrote it, but I still remember the story, because it has a big lesson to be learned, which I applied to my everyday life and make sure to keep in mind, it will be of help to you too.
***A long time ago there lived a goat and a sheep (both females) they were best of friends, even knows them very well because they always fight for each other and they don’t backstab themselves, both of them lived in the same house, that’s how close their friendship was, both of them became pregnant and the same time, so they were always indoor enjoying the company of each other, the goat decided to tell the sheep that, she has already gotten a name for her unborn baby and she will name the baby lamb, sheep told her congrats, the goat asked if she hasn’t gotten any name for her unborn baby yet, the sheep told the goat that, she wants to give birth first, before naming her baby, the sheep gave birth before the goat and animals started paying a visit to them and they asked what is the name of the baby, the sheep boldly called her baby lamb, the goat was shocked because that was the name she kept for her unborn baby, but her best friend has told everyone that her baby name is lamb, the goat was so sad about what the sheep did to her when the goat gave birth, animals visited them and asked the name of the baby, the goat couldn't name her baby “lamb” because it's going to be a big case that she won't win, so she named her baby “kid” the goat and the sheep weren't friends again.***
Just like what happened to the goat, it can happen to anybody, telling your friends, family, or colleagues your plans for a brighter future when you don't have the resources to build the plans into reality is a big risk, they can steal it and use it for their benefits, there's nothing you can do about it than to keep your distance for them, but the damage has been done already, someone can have the same plan as you, but it can never be the naming process like yours, there must be a difference if there's no difference in the way they execute their plans, just know that your plans have been compromised, let's learn to keep sometimes to ourselves, especially if it doesn't concern anybody, so we wouldn't start to regret opening our mouth to people about our plans, always resist the huge to fall for that and watch how things will work out for you.
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24/11/2021
Living in a rented apartment
***Living in a rented apartment***
*Being a tenant in my country can be frustrating, even if the landlord or landlady (owners of the house) are kind enough to not give you issues, the neighbors will take it upon themselves and bring out issues, in this part of Nigeria where I live (Benin City, Edo State) it's common to see landlord (landlord will represent both landladies) and talents living in the same compound and majority of these landlords inherited the house, not that is a bad thing though, but some of them can be so heartless sometimes and keep giving their tenants issues, which is not right.*
*I and my siblings were brought up in one room, that was what my Dad could afford from his salary, the eldest of my siblings was taken to another state to complete his high school there, while the second eldest went to stay with my grand aunty (my grandmother sister) from my basic to junior high, we were still in one room, the landlady was an old woman (she has passed on now) she was very friendly, though she wasn't a Christian then, she was good to all her tenants, my mom will sometimes go to the market and sell melons she broke with her hand when she's away in the market, she will live us in the care of our landlady, who will gladly look after us like we were her grandchildren, things started getting better for my two eldest siblings, they told my parents to look for a two rooms apartment, the landlady was so emotional when she heard we want to pack out.*
*When we got to the two rooms apartment, at least there was a bit of space and we no long tight ourselves before sleeping, lol, when looking for a house, my dad always like prefer the one that has a side door to outside than face me, I face you (neighbors door facing each other) we stay them for some couple of years, though our door was by the side of the house, some neighbors still won't mind their business, well, we stayed in the house for some years, faced some issues for both landlord and neighbors, but we didn't allow it to break us, things became more better for both my eldest siblings and we move to a 3 bed room flat, with two bathrooms , one kitchen and one dinner table, at least, the stressing of waking up in the morning just to bath early so your neighbors wouldn’t delay you or you are pressed and one of your neighbors is reading new papers in the toilet won’t affect you again, lol.*
***Why did I write this ?***
*Even in this flat we are living in now, I still don’t feel like we are free of neighbors and landlord issues, though it will become less now, because no one it’s going to come from his or her own apartment and be following you to drag the bathroom, but it still feels like we are moving from a small cell to a bigger cell, until we move in to our own house, I won’t be comfortable with rented apartment, especially the one that the landlord lives in the same compound with you.*
*This wasn’t the topic I planned on writing today, but it just came all of a sudden, when I came back from work about 8:23 pm, I was very exhausted and I saw that my street power is on, I was motivated to get home quick so I can charger my phone (even if it’s fully charger, because, in my country, no one can tell when the light is going off and it might not come again) when I got home, I discover that our apartment didn’t have light, I asked why we didn’t have light, my elder sister told me that the landlord came to remove our fuse, ah, when did all these starts now, just because the water in the tank was full and it was pouring away, my elder sister was sleeping in her room, one of my junior sisters wasn’t feeling well and the youngest one can’t turn it off, so he now came to remove our fuse after turning it off himself, I didn’t get it, because we weren’t the only tenant in the compound, there are other tenants two, just because our apartment is closer to the tank, does it makes a must that we should be the ones that always turn off the tank when it is full? I wasn't happy at all, because the landlord added to my stress and even killed my time that I would use to rest, he thought that I was around and I didn't off the water, I explained to him that I am just entering the house now, after few minutes of arguments and all, he gave me the fuse back.*
*That's why I said, living in a rented apartment is liking a prison cell, especially when the landlord lives in compound too.*
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23/11/2021
Depression or Anxiety
**Depression or Anxiety**
I haven't been myself for about a week now, and I still don't know what is wrong with me, I look at myself and it feels like I am doing enough like all my efforts are just me playing around.
I started with my lifestyle first, I told myself that I will change the way I dress and stop doing a lot of things, eg: stop laughing around like I use to, put value in myself, and don't allow anyone to take my simplicity for granted of foolishness, which I have managed to keep this far and I have been seeing life from a different perspective ever since, but I still feel like something is missing and I can't seem to get the thoughts off my mind.
Another one is my music career, I don't know how to put this, but it's my I'm slowly drifting away from my music career because of the low engagements I get, I know that I am trying, but just like read, I need more engagements, thinking about the amount of money and work I need put in, it's not going to easy at all, but I never wanted to be easy anyway, I just want it to be worth it, worth the efforts, worth the sleepless nights, worth the money I put in, even if it's 1$, I just want my efforts and hard/smart work to pay me because an effort doesn't produce good results that are pleasant to the ear, always feel like a waste of time, energy and money, when I think about all these things, I try to do more than the previous to see if I am going to get better engagements on Instagram.
My love life it's the most complicated, anytime I think that the reason I am still single is that I am not wealthy yet, I feel so down, though it might not be the reason, I feel like 80 percent it's because of my current financial status.
My graphic design job, graphic design has been my source of income since early last year, when I decided to go into graphic design because I had a laptop and an Android phone, but I was damn broke, I was always at home watching movies and doing nothing when it was too much for me to bear, my phone was giving me issues back then, the screen wasn't functioning well and I had a target of being few gadgets, I took my time went into graphic designs, I bought a new phone and few gadgets in less than two months, I decided to learn more about graphic designs, but I haven't been concentrating on it lately, I am slowly listing it, I know it and I can't do anything about it because of what I have been feeling ever since just yesterday here, I lost a graphic job that I was supposed to do for one of my favorite clients, just because my mind is else where and I couldn't concentrate on the job, though I needed the money very badly because right now, I am seeing my period and it's not white at all, when he told me that I wasn't creative in the design and he will do it his self, I just said okay, I know I should have told him to give me a little time to redo it again, but I am myself right now, and I don’t think that I would have do it any better than it was.
***Conclusion***
I don’t know if I am depressed or having anxiety, I just know that I haven’t been myself lately and it’s affecting me both physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially, I don’t know if I am going through a lot or a lot it’s going through me, I pray this feeling pass away so I can be myself again, cause I can’t afford to lose another job, just because I am not myself, and I need to keep motivating myself in my music career because I know that if it was easy, everyone would have done it, that's what should make me keep going, to be different and excel more than others, not that it's a competition, but I got to be better than I was yesterday.
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22/11/2021
Speak from your heart, I'm listening
It was a very cold Monday morning, there was no power, my battery’s was getting and my power bank is already down, my neighbor generator is on and I should go and charge my phone there, but the time is 3 am, I can't just go and be knocking on someone's door all because I want to power my phone before it shut down, Hmmm, maybe I should give it a second thought, well I thought about it and the answer it's still no, even if they are awake already, I still won't want you to go and meet them to charge your phone, why? Is there something or someone you are afraid of, of course not, why will I be afraid of anybody, when I know that I did not wrong anyone, common bro, my battery is 6 percent and I don’t think we are going to get power supply soon, you have to manage the percent for now till there’s power, but you know that I’m on read and i still writing, yeah, you need to get some rest and sleep, you have a day ahead of you, remember that Monday it’s kind of stressful and you need to gather strength to start your monday, well, I have made up my mind to go upstairs to our neighbors and charge my phone, but, but, decision made already, see you.
I opened my door and I can still see that is dark, luckily for me, our compound has a fence and a gate, so I don't need to be afraid about being kidnapped, haha! I went upstairs and knocked on my neighbor's door, who's there? It me your neighbor from downstairs, I wanted to charge my phone before the battery shut down, alright, I will be right there give me a few minutes, (door opened) hi, good morning, goo, good morning to you too, you said you want to charge your phone right? Ye, yeah, I handed the phone over to her, my hands was kind of shaking, slow down tiger, why are you acting weird, she asks, I will be back for the phone, thanks, I went back to my apartment and my heart was still beating very fast like I saw a ghost, what just happened, why was I acting strange, this is not the first time I have seen her and talked to her, though we didn't talk much, it just greets and passes, we normally do.
You charged it yet, yeah, it's still charging, why are you beating this fast like someone who saw a ghost? What do you mean? How do I breath, that I have been breathing before she came to open the door for me, just few minutes my heart stopped and I was struggling to give her a reply, hmm, my guy has found his missing rib, me counting my ribs to check if anyone is missing, lol, that usually happens when you meet someone you like.
Time was 5am and I heard a knock on my door, I went straight to open, it was her, hi, sorry we just turn of the generator and I came to return your phone, I think it will be able to carry you till 6 am when there’s power supply, thanks a mission, she smiled and asked why did I freeze earlier, I should say a word, because I froze again, she hold my hands and said “**Speak from your heart, I’m listening**” I smiled and took my her hand and place it in my beating heart and told her that, if only you can hear my heart beating your name again and again.
***This is just a imagination, I had the first time I saw my neighbor beautiful daughter, she’s light skin and very pretty, I have planned talking to her several times but I just freeze out and won’t be able to say a word to her, she’s not usually around anyway, because she’s in the university, I know most guys must have shoot their shot on her and I don’t think I will be able to stand a chance with her, not that I’m looking down on myself though, but I feel like, I need to be more to be able to win her heart, maybe when she come home this December I will gathered my mind and approach her, then speak from my heart, She might listen.***
Have a blessed Monday guys. Yesterday was so stressful for me, that was why I wasn’t able to publish any article.
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22/11/2021
The oasis
**The oasis**
***Reality it's the only thing that is real - James Halliday***
I guess from the title, you might think that I wanted to write about oasis on smartbch, but it's not it if you are family with the above state, then you will know the movie they said those words if you don't know it, don't worry much, you will understand it as I proceed with the article.
The name of the movie is “Ready player one” it's not actually a new movie though, if you haven't watched it, I will recommend you watch it because it jas a lot of lessons, especially now that Mark Zuckerberg it's about to launch metaverse, in the movie, a man created the oasis (a visual reality) you can go anywhere without going nowhere, it was his greatest invention and everyone loves to visit the oasis to the extent that, they no longer care about the real world, in the oasis, you can earn coins and buy a lot of cool stuff, you can get married in the oasis and still won't know the person you are married to in reality.
It got to the part that the man that invented the oasis died, he had no kids and no wife because he's an introvert, he thinks that there is no place for him in reality, that's why he created the oasis in the first place, so he can spend most of his time there when he died, he dropped a message through his avatar that he has left an easter egg, to get to it you must find three keys which he has placed in the oasis, it took a lot of time before they could discover where to find the first key, to win the first key, too have to race to the finish line, which they started doing, there was this boy (the main character in the movie) name parzival (that's actually his avatar name in the oasis) he got the first key by studying the Halliday Journal, a company name IOI wants to take over the oasis, so they created an army in the visual world to look for the keys by any means necessary, to cut the story short, Parzival met a girl in the oasis name Optimus (her avatar name) we teamed up with three other avatars to bring down IOI operations, I think I will stop here.
The movie has a lot of lessons. Especially now that mark it's about to introduce a new invention, a lot of people won't care about reality anymore and they will be too busy living in the metaverse, some of us now prefer visual life (social media life) to reality, because we find more comfort in a visual world, there's no one to bully us or do any wrong thing to us and we are free to do as we please, nobody can say this or that, one thing we should know about this visual world is that this isn't real, reality its the only place you can have a decent meal, lol, well, reality is the only real place to be, I remember when Facebook, Instagram, and Whatsapp were down, the world was shaken because most of us only live in the visual world. Especially someone like me that always got clients online, I felt it, now imagine if the Internet decided to shut down for a day, can you survive a day without the internet, even I don't have an answer for this because I won't be happy the whole day until the internet it's restored.
**Conclusion**
We can't hide in the visual world forever, because reality will be waiting for us and we can't skip it, even if we ran away, we will still have to face reality face off, living in the visual world its good, but we should not forget about reality.
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20/11/2021
@Cogamedia
