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@Cogamedia 20 November 2021

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@Cogamedia 19 November 2021

Lonely days **Lonely days**  Why do I always feel lonely? Why am I always left alone? I tried to get along with everyone I came across, but in the end, I am still lonely, why is my life this way? I never asked for this kind of life of feeling alone and not able to do anything about it, when I was a kid, loneliness was my only dwelling place, I find it hard to be around people, I never knew I will grow up with it, now I don’t need it anymore but loneliness don’t want to leave me.  Feels like sickness and it has just one cure, though the cure won’t fully cure it, at least it can look like it’s cured but it will still be inside me, I have met many girls in my days and still meeting some, we will get along for a while and they will stop giving me attention, I know the reason and it’s not their fault, I am the one that is broke (I don't have money), sometimes when they ask for my help on something (that is not too relevant, just like send me money for this or that) I will say I don't have and they will say it's fine, less than a week they will start giving me less attention and snubbing my messages, maybe they might think that I have the money and don't want to give them, but the truth it's that they always ask when I don't have any money with me, wrong timing, I know you might think that I am stingy, but I'm not, I give when I have and I won't downgrade myself by borrowing money to give to another person, I know what I can do and what I can't do for people. It's kind of hard for me, being alone in my room, my head on my phone, no one to call, no one to chat with, my phone barely rings, and if it rings. It's either my Mom or my boss calling, or maybe sometimes my siblings or Dad (when they want to send me an errand via phone) I am kind of used to keeping things to myself because there's no one to talk to, a lot of thoughts in my head, some special people in my mind, but are they thinking about me too? No, they are just enjoying their time, while I am here doing the thinking alone, I'm slowly losing interest in people, one little excuse from them, I will cut them off, unknowing to them, because I don't want to think that I'm being patience on someone, while the truth is that, I'm actually wasting my time on them, I hate it when I realized that my time and efforts are being wasted, I might end up hating the person (which I don't normally do), I easily walk away, when I feel unwelcome because I don't want it to look like I am forcing myself on you, I rather live my days lonely than move around people that barely have time for me.  I know that someday, I will have most of the things I desired (if not all) and I know that the process might be slow but if I keep going, I will look back and see that the small steps that I took also counts, it will be a good motivation to keep going. ***A Wiseman once said, even if you are crying, cry forward and don't go back, because if there was something in the back, you won't decided to go forward.***  I still want to appreciate @kushyzee for introducing read.cash to me, not all angels live in heaven. Some stay in benin city,edo state, Nigeria, lol. I had a lot in my head that I needed to let out, I put most of them in my music lyrics, while the ones that couldn't fit in was in my head for a long period of time until I started letting it out here, before I use to call people (not people, just few girls) with my credit when I was bored, so I won't feel so alone. But right now, I rather use my money on data so I will be active on read and noise, than for me to call them and guess what? Ever since I stop calling first, I didn't even receive any call from them, well such is life though.  Another article done for the day.  **Lead image source** 19/11/2021

@Cogamedia 19 November 2021

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@Cogamedia 19 November 2021

A Promise made This article is based on a true-life event, before I begin, the inspiration came from @FarmGirl article, you can check it **here**, after reading the article, I remembered this event that transpired years back.  https://read.cash/@FarmGirl/i-wanna-be-rich-first-39c81d5a There was this guy that was doing a mechanical job in my street back then, everyone knew him, not only because he's a mechanic, but also a friendly person, though most times he likes owing the nearby store some change, there was this young girl that was selling food with a wheelbarrow, sometimes when the guy buy food from her, she will add extra meat for him, the day the guy won't have money to buy food, the girl will give him free food, this continued for a long while until both of them started dating, the girl will be visiting him at work to bring lunch for him and also give him dinner before he closes for the day, the guy was 4 years older than the lady, anytime we see the girl coming to our street, we always know it’s because of her boyfriend, sometimes the girl will go to the guy’s house and watch some clothes for him, both of them was happy in the relationship, until one day we were no longer see the guy again, we asked the boss and he told us that the guy said he was traveling to his hometown, we said okay, at least he will be back very soon, months past and he wasn’t back, the was still selling food and she wasn’t worried about his whereabouts. We knew something was up but we don't know what it was, people that are friends with him on Facebook started seeing his post, they were happy that the guy was in Europe, hustling for money, the news started spreading like a wildfire, people were requesting his Facebook so they can reach him, after 6years, the guy came back to Nigeria and reunite with his family and friends when he and his friend went to have some good time together, then one of them rose a topic and asked him if he had been talking with her, he said yes and he will like to marry her, the friends were shocked and ask him if he didn't date any white girl there in Europe and why he still have this girl at heart, the guy told his friends that, when I was looking for money to travel out, I came to all of you one after the other and only a few supported me, which I understand because we all have our responsibilities and things we need money for, few of my family members also support with little that they have, but you see that girl, she half of the money that I needed, she said that she borrowed it and she will pay back later, I just have to go to Europe, she believed in me, when no one did, she was there when no one was, and before I left, I made a promise to her that when I come back, I will take her with me and we will build our family there, that's the main reason I am here in Nigeria (to take her along with me). That month they did the introduction and the following month, they did the wedding, after the wedding, the guy process his wife papers, and they both moved to Europe together as a family, the last time I check, they have two lovely kids together, it wasn't easy for both of them to stay faithful to each other for more than five years, but they did anyway. **Conclusion**  Although the girl must have given her half of the money, that doesn't guarantee that he will come and marry her, I have also seen some who travel to Europe and decide to start a family there, forgetting the promise they made to their partners.  I can't think about a title for it, that’s why I title it “a promise made” lol. **Lead image source** 19/11/2021

@Cogamedia 17 November 2021

Reading perspective Okay, I don't know how to put it, but I guess as I proceed with the topic, you will get to understand what I mean. Everyone must have fallen victim to “writing perspective” (I don't know how to put it) like when you send a friend or family or even your partner a text and the partner read it and didn't reply, you will now be asking yourself if what you sent offended him, for example, you wrote “Why are you not home yet” maybe you thought that you were showing caring when you wrote it, but the way your partner read it is different, your partner might read it like you are ordering him or monitoring his or her movement, then their mood will change towards, you might try to explain, but onto no avail, they are not at fault and you are not at all either, it's just the reading perspective. Something happen this today that birthed this topic, I and my Whatsapp friend were chatting and I asked her a question and she sent a speechless emoji, I was kind of confused because the question needs simple Yes or No, so I asked her why did she send a speechless emoji, her reply was a total turn off for me and I really felt like I was disturbing her, she now explains that she didn't mean it like that, she forward explained and apologize, which I just overlook cause someone has also mistaken my message to be something else. There was this girl back then (we went to the same school, but I don't know her back then in school, I got to know her in a Whatsapp group created by one of our old schoolmates,  so we can all chat with each other) I met her on Whatsapp last year and we were chatting very well, there was not a day that passed by that I won't chat her if she wasn't online for like two days, I will call her and check on her if she's alright, I was developing visual feelings for her, which I kind of confuse for love, lol. The way we chat sometimes when we want to write so certain text as a reply or opinion given, we usually add emoji to it, so the other person will read it from the same perspective.  **Why did we start using emojis in our text?**  There was this time that I was feeling not too motivated and she's wasn't giving me much energy, she wrote something and I cautioned her, she then said that she didn't write it the way I read it, that's when I now told her to be attaching emoji to her text so I will sometimes know her mood or how she wrote it, this continued for some while before we stop chatting with each other, I won't write the reason we stop chatting though, but one thing I can tell you for sure it's anyone I mean anyone can disappoint you at any time, doesn't matter if the person is your mother, father, siblings, partner, pastor or friends, just know that anyone can disappoint you, though, she didn't disappoint me, I was the one expecting too much. **Closing thoughts**  Like I said at the beginning of the article, every one of us must have encountered it one way or the other, that we now start to explain that we didn't mean it the way they read it, in other ways you can avoid it by adding emoji to it, that is if you know that your text has two perspectives, so you won't start explaining to the person that it isn't as they thought **Lead image source .** 17/11/2021

@Cogamedia 17 November 2021

Heroes don't always get good rewards. Good morning to you. How did your night go? Mine wasn't that bad, but it was stressful and I am tired right now, it all started when I when I was writing this article last night and I dozed off while writing the article, because of a very stressful day, I even forgot to eat before sleeping last night, It's hustle it's not easy out here. Heroes don't always get good rewards. This evening I was trying to think about a topic to write, unto no avail, I even spent more time on social media, thinking that I will see a topic to write on, that's when I came across a post on Facebook that got my attention, it was short and easy to understand the post, I will write it as it was written on Facebook, I want to get your opinion in the case. ***Illegal Immigrant, Jubril Deported, Banned After ‘Heroic’ Act in Spain 😭*** ***“This african man called Jibril is an immigrant in Valencia, Spain. Jibril picked an envelope containing €4,250 (Over N2.5m) on one of the streets in Valencia few days ago.*** ***Jibril then chose to play a hero and decided to take the envelope containing the money to the police and handed it over to police officers.*** ***The officers and everyone around were surprised.*** ***The police officer in charge then asked Jibril who is also an illegal immigrant to make a statement and its at that moment that they asked him to present his personal papers (ID)*** ***The police officer then discovered that Jibril did not have a residence card (ID) to prove that he was legally living in Spain. He was then immediately detained.*** ***Sadly, Jibril was last week deported back to his home country in Africa and banned for years without ever stepping a foot in Spain!”*** I kind of think that this is not a fair judgment at all, this might be because he is black though, because for him to return that big sum of money to the police, Some of the police know that it is the wrong way to treat the man, but they sent him back to his country in Africa and told him never to step foot in Spain again. I have seen a lot of heroes who got rewarded by something unexpected, trust me when I say it’s not really worth the strength, people that returns items or goods taken are rare, here, I have read a case on Facebook, when a young man saw a huge amount of money on his tricycle, he drive back to the last person he carried as passenger and returned the money, the owner of the money thanked him and rewarded him with airtime, like, what the F*#k, as huge as that money, you can’t be generous enough to reward him handsomely, well, maybe next if the young man come across such money again in his tricycle, he won’t bother to return it, because one lesson is enough. closing thoughts It’s true that good deeds can’t favor everyone, some people get lucky when they do something good and get rewarded handsomely, while some end up regretting it, either ways both of them did good in the sight of God, most times before we decide to do good or do something like “returning what we found” let’s try to double think it, we are not double thinking about to return it or not, let’s double think it that we might not be rewarded as expected, because doing good things don’t always make way for handsome reward, it’s all about being true to yourself and God, forget about the reward of man, for it doesn’t last long, only the reward of God last longer. Thanks for reading and have a blessed day ahead. 17/11/2021

@Cogamedia 16 November 2021

Money is everything **It's Monday night guys, I hope today weren't that stressful, mine was kind of stressful for the moment I woke up, something happened to a colleague of mine yesterday and I kind of see it like it's my fault, though it isn't my fault, I was so weak to get up, but I have to get ready for work as early as I can, when I got to the office, I realize that my colleague is already waiting for me (my colleague in the office though, the one that had a terrible experience yesterday, is my colleague in music).** She quickly came downstairs to meet me, I thought she wanted to welcome me, a lot of thought was running through my mind, by the time she was coming, I thought she wanted to give me a warm welcome, lol. I never knew that she come to block me because of a promise I made to her, last week I told her that if I ever come late to the office again, I will buy her Hollandia yogurt, which I forgot, but women can never forget a promise made to them, lol. Well, I told her that I forgot about it and maybe if I come late to work tomorrow, I will fulfill the promise, which I don't plan on going late tomorrow. **Money is everything** Yeah, you read it right, money is everything before you think that I don't know what I am saying, let me remind you that, money can buy life (not all life though) but at least it can buy life, I and my friend was going home while discussing yesterday, I asked him, why do you love doing music and he said that music is his life, I smiled and ask him to explain further, he told me that, music has become part of him and he won't feel alive without music, I then said a tricky word to him, I said that, I know it's because of the money involve in music that makes you love music, he said on that he's not doing music because of money. I laughed very hard and told him to repeat what he just said, he now said that, yes I'm also doing it for the money, but it was not the money that drove his passion towards music.  Just like some of us right here, when we first start writing an articles here, we were driven by the passion for writing at first, we don’t care about the money involved then, though we wanted to get paid, that was least of what we wanted, as time goes and you started earning, then your earnings were getting less, you started losing interesting because we are becoming addicted to the earning, I explained to my friend that money is everything in life, don’t allow anyone to deceive you, this music we are doing it’s more like sowing a mango seed and we will be watering it every day for it to grow when it grows and bearing fruits, we shall enjoy it forever (the seed is our career, the water is money for promotion when we continue promoting our music, it will grow) though most times, it depends on God and the soil (the area) we planted the seed. When we plant it in a wrong area (more like a wrong place) it will weed away and we might end up blaming God, in everything we do in life, we need money, it even costs money for the word of God to be spread around the world, because the church will have to pay radio stations, tv stations, bloggers and social media ads for a good promotion, we haven't talked about the church music sounds and good singers and instrumentalists. Nothing works perfectly without money here, because you can't expect favors from people always. when Christ came to earth, he was asked to pay taxes, we all know Christ is a miracle worker, and he can turn anything into money easily, but he sent his apostle to go get a certain fish and open the mouth of the fish, he will see the money that will be enough for all of their taxes. **Closing thoughts**  If it isn't making money, it isn't making sense, we are humans, we need money every single day, we have responsibilities, I know we most things for the passion, but we should get the money to involve, so we won't end up being used, be most humans will make you feel worthless if you only do it for the passion, that your job, or business or what so ever you are doing, needs more money to grow and the place you can find money is by start making money from it, even if you start little by little, just keep pushing on and keep watering your mango tree for it to bear good fruits. When there's money, there is confidence in your all doings, you won't be shaken. When the bills come because you have what will cover it, in less than seconds.  I dose off when writing this article yesterday Monday, I just woke up at 2 am to complete the article, I am still feeling sleepy now.  Lead image source  **17/11/2021**

@Cogamedia 14 November 2021

Helping hands Hello readers, it's Sunday again and I know that the day it's almost over, and I'm just wishing you a happy Sunday now, lol. I went to church today again, though I was kind of late and they have already taken an offering, well, "better late than never" I met my pastor preaching, the topic he preached, was what birthed this topic, I was happy that I met in preaching because what he preached about touched me, after service, we went home and I had to go to work, not because we are working on Sunday, but I just have to go because it's a free day for me in the office.  What do I mean by helping hands, there are a lot of people who still find it hard to offer help, not because they are not capable or because they don't want to, but because of some things they have encountered in the past, my pastor used Moses in the Bible as a typical example, I guess we all know the story of Moses right? Well, I am not sure some of them know what happen to him after he escaped Egypt from the hands of Pharaoh, cause I'm not just hearing it from the first time, yes, I'm guilty of not studying my bible always, lol. In the beginning, before the birth of Moses, the Israelites were suffering at the hands of Pharaoh and the Egyptians (that was after the death of Joseph the dreamer) the Israelites decided to cry to the Lord for help and God promised them a savior that I'll lead them out of Egypt, pharaoh heard of it and decided to kill every child, born in that period, the Egyptians army paraded the entire house of the Israelites to kill all the children under the age of five years old to a day old child, Moses still a baby then and the family hid him until they can no longer hide him anymore, they decided to send it to pharaoh daughter, by putting baby Moses in the basket and pushing him to the place that pharaoh daughter usually takes her bath, when she saw baby Moses adorable smile, she falls in love with immediately and decided to keep him. She raised as his son and also gave him a crown to be Prince that will take after the pharaoh, when he passed on, one day, Moses was walking around the yard, when he saw one of the Egyptians army beating up an Israelite man. Moses felt that what the Egyptian army was doing was wrong, he decided to step in and fight for the Israelite man, which eventually turn into something else that lead him to kill the Egyptian army, he quickly dogged a grave and burial him. Days later Moses was walking around the yard again, and this time he saw two Israelites fighting, he went to ask what caused the fight, which lead to one of them asking if he wants to kill him the same way, he killed the Egyptians army, news spread like a wide fire Moses couldn't help himself anymore, he flew from Egypt for his life. Moses was in the wilderness for days, with no water to drink, two ladies went to the well to fetch water, they saw Moses and Moses rendered to help them fetch the water, after helping them to draw water from the well, he drank from the well also, the girls got home early and the father was surprised, he asked why they are back so earlier than expected, they explained that a man helped them to draw the water from the well and put it on their head, the father was amazed and told the girls to go fetch the man, so they can also offer him help, Moses accepted the invitation and went.  **Moral lesson** Never let what people did to you in the past, affect you, like Moses right here, he never gave up on helping people after his people turned on him.  When he was in the wilderness and saw the that has the strength to pull out water from the well. The help you give today can be your helping hand tomorrow. Lead image source https://www.freepik.com/photos/business **14/11/2021**

@Cogamedia 13 November 2021

Saturday Traffic Happy weekend my dear writers/readers, how did your weekend go? Well mine was okay, I woke up by His grace and I went to cut the grass in the compound I am staying, my Dad told me to do it and my Mom reminded me last night, so there's no excuse I would have to give for not doing it, I did clear the weed in my compound for over 2hours, when I was done, I went to clean my room, it's been like a year since I cleaned my room properly, I actually did it, because of my missing Sim that I kept careless, I talked about it in this article, I made sure I swept every corner of the room and even have to take out some stuff I am not using again because it was just there occupying space. I cleared the back of my wardrobe, swept under my carpet, cleaned the far, remove cobwebs from the walls and also take out the trash, while I was doing it, I was also using one eye to look for my Sim card after I was done cleaning my room, then I brought the rest of my stuff inside my room and realized that my room it's almost empty, so that trash was making it look like I have a lot of things, lol. Well now I know that my room it's empty, I can start adding what to buy in my 2022 budget, oh I forgot, I didn't clean the room myself, my kid sister also leans a helping hand, which I have to tip her for her good work and so she can still help me another day, when I call on her, after all, I search, I still didn't find the Sim card, the worst part it's that I have called the number several things and some have to hang off the call twice, after handing off the call, the number won't be going through again. I went to work at 2 pm because we don't usually work on Saturdays, a client booked today because she might not be around next week, when I got there, my boss and the Lady as already started working, she was recording a cover for some gospel songs, we recorded about two songs before the power went off, we would have recorded more than two songs though, but she was just changing key, which can be really stressful because we will have to play the piano all over again and she will also record it again, it was 3 pm when the power went off, we had to close the session because my boss has a church rehearsal, I helped him carry office gadgets (laptop and soundcard) to his church, from there I went friend shop and he gave me a free haircut. There's always traffic on that road every Saturday, which I forgot, what usually causes the traffic there it's events done in that around, there are a lot of event centers there, and each one of them is always occupied every Saturday, when they close from the events, cars will be block road, oh, I mean commercial buses, they are usually the ones causing the traffic, when they see that the traffic doesn't move, one will follow one way and the others will follow him, like it's a convoy, lol. Then the entire road will be blocked, sometimes the police station close to the road, usually help, not usually though, because they close at 6 pm, after closing, they will organize themselves and be extracting money from commercial buses, they are also the cause of the traffic too, after collecting money from commercial buses for about an hour, they will leave the traffic as it is, without controlling them so they will be a way for the cars or buses to pass. The traffic usually last for about eight hours plus, before all cars will start moving, today I waited for a commercial bus so I can go home, I was still waiting for over two hours, then I remembered that I need to buy my body cream, I went to the supermarket close by and bought it 550 naira (1$ plus) it was cheaper there because it's a supermarket, I went back again to wait for a bus, I waited for about 30 minutes, but I didn't see any bus, so I decided to walk home, I started walking home, that's when I saw the long traffic, it was so long that, I passed some commercial buses that passed me over 3 hours ago, when I was a bit close to my destination, I saw one commercial bus heading to my direction, I wanted to enter, since the transport will be a bit cheaper now, something told me to keep walking, which I obeyed, I walked and saw another traffic in front, ah, I was really happy that I didn't enter the bus when I thought the traffic was over, it was other buses that followed one way that are causing the traffic on the other side. Thank God I got home safely, I know that some people with private cars might still be in the traffic now, thinking about their life, lol. I saw one man buying suya in traffic, while another one was buying food from a vendor in the traffic, I guess both of them are familiar with the Saturday traffic, they are just flowing with time was enjoying themselves, because they might reach their destination at midnight and they don't want to be hungry in the car, lol. ***That's it today people, I kind of resting now, because I trekked for over an hour plus and my body needs rest so I can save up more energy for tomorrow Sunday, have a great night, and don't forget to drop your comments below, it's more like encouragement for me.*** **Lead Image source** https://www.freepik.com/vectors/car 13/11/2021

@Cogamedia 12 November 2021

Life is like a spoon I know the title of my article sound really funny right now, lol. And you might be asking yourself "what's the connection between life and spoon" well that's what I'm going to explain to you, listen and be blessed. In my days, I have come to realize that life is like a spoon, this isn't a joke at all, I have come across a lot of people in my days, some became close friends, while some were passerby, in everything we do in life, let's remember to be grateful for life because it's only the living that can enjoy the things of the world (I don't mean sinful things, though all it's actually among the things of the world) there are a lot of people passing through a phase of life right now and some have already their decision to let go of life (by committing suicide) while some are in the hospital praying to survive their illness so they can live life again. Why is life a spoon? My explanation might sound funny, but if you get to look at it from this angle, you will understand. I don't really know how things are in the Philippines but in this economy (in my country) spoons usually disappear overnight, we don't know how and where the spoon usually go, but just disappeared overnight, every African home must have experienced this, the same thing goes with life too, some people we see years back, months back, weeks back, days back or even hours back, some are no more, just like a spoon, they lost their lives without planning for it (I will explain further). ***My Mom bought 50 spoons (stainless spoons) we were using it, less than a week 10 spoons went missing, we didn't notice it because it was still many 3 months later it was remaining only 5 spoons at all, Mom was asking what happened to the spoons she bought, well, I don't know, maybe they left overnight though.*** Just like the way we lose spoon at home, that's how most people lose their lives, the unexpected happens, and trust me when I say we aren't prepared for it, but it just happened, we overlooked a lot of things we should be grateful for because we see it as a routine for us and we being alive it's actually because our alarm woke us very early, or we are traveling from one place to another it's because we know the road very well, even some of us that don't usually use transportation to go to work our daily work still have to be grateful more than those that use transportation because "Na the same road weh we cross, motor kill person" (People has died in the same road we pass every day) it's not because we know the road too well, it's just by the Grace of God. An accident happened it claims about four lives today, among the four that died, two it's a Youth Corper (NYSC), they never planned for it, it just happened, just like a spoon, you can lose it in two seconds, all the money they spent, all the money the parents and other people spent on them to be a Corper just disappear with them, I know that they must have planned life after service, how they are going to do this and that, when they are done with service, but life has a different plan for them 💔 I pray they find eternal rest because it's not easy to survive this economy, though death it's inevitable, I still believe that it can get lesser daily, if roads are good, an accident won't be happening always. Closing thoughts When spoons disappear from the house, we don't know where the spoons go to, same goes with life, when people die, we don't know where they go to, we just hope they are in a better place that has no pain or sorrow, a place that is full of happiness and joy, we don't have control over everything in life, but the Little the have to control over, let's do it with caution and always remember that, **The Life You Live Can Be Taken In Two Seconds**. Thanks for reading, I hope you understand my explanation, and if you do, don't forget to upvote, like, and drop a comment below, on your own understanding. **Lead Image source** https://www.freepik.com/vectors/background 12/11/2021

@Cogamedia 11 November 2021

Why I don't believe in Charity foundation Today it's kind of a day for me (I won't call it a bad day) it started when I was looking for one of my SIM cards, I needed the Sim because I use it to open my business WhatsApp and most of my clients prefers chatting me in that sim, I know it's my careless that caused it though because I haven't seen it till now, I tried calling the number last night and it rang and nobody answered, I tried it again and it wasn't going through till now, I don't know if someone took it from my room or it was the network provider that played a trick on me, I just tired and exhausted now, because I have been looking for it over 3hours now, unto no avail, I had to ask my sister if she took it or gave someone to use, she said no, I searched the possible place it could be in my room and the Sim card wasn't there. My greatest fear now it's that, someone should not use it to open WhatsApp, cause it definitely affects mine and wipes all my chats off, sorry for bugging you with my carelessness, I hope I find it though. After three hours of searching, I felt hungry (I don't know if I'm the only one that always gets hungry when I'm sad, angry, or even overthinking) no matter what you are going through, always remember to eat because of problem or dey finish (the struggles of life never end) after eating I opened my Instagram and check my feed when I came across a post, that's what birthed this topic. For the sake of time, I won't explain what charity means, because everyone here knows it already, I will just go straight to the point to the topic and my reasons, firstly, the video I saw was posted by Instablog (one of the biggest blog in Nigeria) the blogger posted a video of a group of blind students in a particular state in Nigeria (I won't mention the state for some reasons) the students there was lamenting about the food they have been feeding them for a very long time, they asked the teachers why are they being served this kind food and the teachers said that it the government of the state that told them to serve them the food (I won't post a screenshot of the food because it's really disgusting and you might throw up while looking at it). In my own opinion, I know that a lot of people must have been donating to the school through a charity foundation or the school authorities, the people in charge will share it among themselves and give little to the students, I know you might think that how do I know they share it among themselves, well, I don't know how things are done in other countries, but in my country, especially 70 prevents of the so-called Charity foundation, they will share what donators brought and give little to the less privilege, I remember back then in my secondary school days, the government brought free books for the entire school, they also printed "this book it's not for sale" on the back of the book, to cut the story short, the principals (junior school and senior school principals) conspired and gave all the books to a book shop that is inside our school to sell it to us the students, you can imagine the mentality of a human being. There was this church that I used to attend anytime I visit my grand aunty (my grandmother sister) I would have mentioned the name of the church, but a lot of people will definitely know the name because it's a very popular church, the pastor there always gather foods stuff people brought for end of year Thanksgiving and give it to the less privilege (an orphanage home) the pastor has been doing it for years, the people in charge of the orphanage home will gather the children anytime they visit and the children will give them a warm welcome and thanked the church for the foods and clothes they brought for them. One day the pastor decided to send one of his members to investigate how the people use the donations they bought for their orphanage home, only for the member to come to tell the pastor that the people in charge don't give it the orphanage children, instead they share it among themselves and give little to the children, the pastor was disappointed that, how can humans be so heartless. The pastor stopped sending donations to the orphanage home and he started sharing the foods and clothes with the members of the church, at least no one will rig the good he does. Conclusion As I said, I don't believe in donations unless I will be among the people sharing it, because a lot of people are using it for their selfish reasons, it's not fair, this is disheartening, and discouraging, bad re-reviews in so many orphanage homes and physical challenges home, I think these people should be tagged as criminal too because they are aren't only committing an offends, they are also sinning against God. You can check the post on **Instagram here** https://www.instagram.com/p/CWI92g-MoEl/?utm_medium=copy_link These are my thoughts towards charity foundation, don't get wrong, I don't say that charity foundations are bad or cheaters, I'm just saying that most people use it for their advantage and you should know where your donations are going to, so another person won't eat what you sweat for. Thanks to @Greatwolfman for renewing his sponsorship, it's not easy to be a sponsor. 11/11/2021

@Cogamedia 10 November 2021

Jumia Good evening to you my dear writer, trust me you aren't seeing this by the incident, how did your day go? Hope it wasn't bad or perhaps bored, I recently read an article by @Kushyzee when he wrote about jumia black Friday, you can check it here, Jumia it's the biggest online shopping mall in my country (just like shopee in the Philippines) they will do black Friday (flash sale) throughout the whole of number (only Fridays) every year, I do participate in the sales every year, I and my colleagues will save up money for black Friday to get what we want, even if we have to wait for 7 months before the sales Begin, but I guess this year I won't be a participant, because of financial issues now. I am one out of few people that prefers online shopping to visit a shop near me if you can get what you ordered for at the conform of your home, why not do it, those some people give a bad preview on online shopping, you will hear them saying that they don't get what they ordered for, the delivery is poor, they sell fake products and so on, the truth is that if you starts listening or reading people reviews on online shopping, you will be a distraction to even try it, cause you don't want to get a bad product (as they said) I started shopping online years back and I can tell you that, online shopping is the best and the digital way of shopping, years from now, they won't be an analog store (physical shop) that you will just walk in to buy a product, everything will be done digitally (online shopping) someone like @Ruffa (sorry for the tag) that don't like leaving the house, can just get everything she wants at the conform of her home with her credit card or maybe with bitcoin cash and the packages will be delivered to her in less than 48 hours (depending on what she ordered), there won't be any need for her to stand in a queue of people waiting for the cashier to attend to them. I have realized that those people that give online shopping a bad review, are the ones that didn't bother to read the product description (the specification of the product) they just see a product online and cart it, without checking the specification, I remember years back when a man goes viral on Twitter about a product he purchased on jumia, according to him, he came across a bag on Jumia and the price got his eyes, he purchased it immediately and when the bag got delivered to him, he opened the packaged and saw a toy bag, lol, funny right, the man started posting it as a bad review that people should not a product online, someone asked him to send the Jumia link that he used to purchase the bag, which he did, the person checked the description of the product and saw that it was indeed a toy, which the man is at fault for not checking the specification before purchasing it Like ate Jane and @FarmGirl (sorry for the tag) will always say "DYOR" (Do your own research) though this isn't trading you still have to do your own research so you won't start blaming it on the online mall, people always call me lucky that, the products I buy on JUMIA are good and also Strong, what they don't know its that before I purchased any product online, I check the specification and check the product on Google too (especially if it's a new brand in the market) I bought my power bank (Oriamo 10k mah) for 4k (8$) early last year, my friend told me that I should have just bought it from a street vendor. After all, that is where he used to buy his own, to cut the story short, he has bought more than two power bank in less than a year because they keep giving him issues, while mine is still very strong and hasn't given any issue. My brother sent me money to buy a home theater for him on JUMIA, that was early last year after buying my power bank, he's a very busy guy because of his work and I am kind of the home alone guy, I will just be alone all day with my phone searching through the internet for an alternative to making money, while some people think of it as laziness, I call it smartness, I searched and searched and searched, but I always end up a scam site, well that's a story for another day though. Closing thoughts I know sometimes we come across some particular products and he just wants to get it immediately before it becomes out of stock, in as much as you are desperate to get it (sorry for using the world desperate) you just have to take a slow and make sure that you know what you are about to purchase so you won't start telling people story that touches, 5 months ago I saw Royce Rolls on Wish for 2 million naira (4,871$) I was surprised and I decided to check it out, not that I wanted to buy it though when I went the description, I realized that it was a toy car, a toy car for 2 Million naira (4,871$) I jejely (slow and comfortable) close the window and continued with what I was doing, if it was some greedy people that saw it and they have the money, maybe they won't have bothered to read the description, they will purchase it and be expecting a real Royce Rolls, lol. 10/11/2021

@Cogamedia 9 November 2021

Lost in the world VI I sat down the whole day and start thinking about my life and how much I have been able to save so far, I checked my savings account and the money stent even enough to buy a bag of rice in my country, my friend just walked in and she shown me the check she cash out for only last night and I was amaze, you don't mean it, that's about my whole savings in 4 months and you got it for a day, she said this is even small compared to other days, my mouth was still open wide, she advised me for the second time that, she know I what accept money if she volunteer to complete the money for my law school, you have enough for me, i will look for a way to complete it, why not join me in this business, ah, you know its against my faith and I promised my mother I will not sleep with men till I get marry, too bad your uncle has already give you the father figure you have been resisting,oh sorry I never mean to say that, no need to apologize, it's the truth, but I will only follow you this ones so I will be able complete the money I'm looking my law school money, yes just this one "she said". That evening, as I was able to head to my friend's car, I received a call from Mom and she told me that, she feel like praying for me, so I won't go astray, well too late though, I have already gone astray (I said it in my mind) she prayed for me and I said amen to her prayers and told my friend to drive that my mind is made up already when we got to the hotel, we went to the VIP bar straight without anyone stopping us, I guess my friend is well known in the five-star hotel, when we got there, my friend thought that I was going to shy and act like a newbie to the business, to her surprise, I role with the flow and some of the politicians there started booking me for the night, I had to follow one to his hotel room, while my friends and some other girls that came too was at the bar. In the morning after we were done and I was ready to go, the politician asked for my account number which I gave him, instead of him to transfer me 10 million naira (24,356$) he transfered 25 million (60,890$) and told me that I really did well last night, no one has ever handled him like the way I did, I thanked him and he asked if I have a car, I said no that I will use a taxi because my friend has already drove home, he told his driver to drove me time that I am too special to be using taxi, when I got home I saw my friend waiting for me, Hey baby girl (with an happy face) we hugged then she asked me how did my night went, I explained everything to her and also told her that the politician gave me 25 million naira (60,890$) instead of 10 million naira (24,356$)that we agreed own, he also complimented, eh ehn, babe I know that my money is complete now for the law school, but I still get over it that I got the whole money in one night, and I was planning that at least it will take me about 10 months for me to get it, well such is life, making money is the plan "my friend said", you are right babe, you are absolutely right. The following night I followed her and I continued following her, I started hooking up with many politicians and I was getting paid, I sent Mom some money monthly (not a huge amount though, so she won't start asking what kind of work I was doing). It was about five months plus and I decided to let her that I will be moving out of her house, she has really tried for me in the past few months, she was very happy for me and she told me that, you know I won't be around to watch you everything, always remember to use protection, so you won't get pregnant or catch any infection, I said yes that I will take her advice, meanwhile, I have been doing it raw all along and I have terminated so many pregnancies with she knowing, I was getting more clients more than her and every other girl in Abuja, they started calling me " Queen Runs Girls" because others girls can't compete with me, I was giving all the politicians tension and they loved it. The doctor that was removing my pregnancy secretly, told me that I shouldn't be going it raw that I can catch the infection, I didn't listen to him, this church was preaching to me, that I should stop this prostitution I am doing before it becomes too late for me, I paid a deft hear to all the warmings and advises people gave me, I went really deep in the business and I was getting paid more and more, my hunger for more grew daily, I am not ready to let go of this business here, I must have more than enough so I won't lack a thing that involves money in my life, I started attending to five clients a day to show my capacity that I am capable and strong. One day, I started feeling sick and I went to the doctor to check if I were pregnant again and he said no, I went home and I thought that it was a minor illness, but the illness grew bigger every day, I went to the doctor again and explained to him, he requested I should run all kinds of test, which we did and still we didn't know what kind of sickness is this, he told me to run HIV test, I hesitated, but after some conversation, I decided to go for the test, the following day when I went to check the test results, he told me to seat first and he started explaining to me that, before he shows me the result, I should know that it's not the end of the world, he gave me the result and I was HIV positive, I started crying, like where will in start from, I left the hospital and drove home with tears on my eyes, I stopped at the Abuja bridge and walked the edge of the bridge. All that was running through my mind was to jump from the Abuja bridge to the river, so it will all end, I stood at the edge for over 60 minutes, still thinking about how to jump, then something just hit my mind and I quickly went to my car and realize that as long as I am still alive, I can still find redemption, that night I decided to go back home to Mom after a year plus and I explained everything to her, Mom cried and she prayed for me, I confessed my sins to God and started attending church as a born again Christian, I told people about the virus, I also told them my story, so it inspired them not to go astray, don't be a victim of your circumstance, don't get deeper with material things so won't be "**Lost in the world**". ***The End...*** **Like I said in the first part of the article that it was getting from a song.** **Song title: Child of the world** **Artiste: Falz (De Bahd Guy)** https://youtu.be/YZ8ezXKCwZc Thanks for coming with me this far, here are the previous episodes. **Lost in the world** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-a2518d57 **Lost in the world II** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-ii-41c8c86b **Lost in the world III** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-iii-9e574d81 **Lost in the world IV**  https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-iv-db5c3c8e **Lost in the world V** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-v-83d809ee 9/11/2021

@Cogamedia 8 November 2021

Do you have friends? Good evening my beautiful writers, how did your day go? Well, mine didn't go as planned, but I still have to thank God that some things went well for me. Straight to the topic of today, before I start, if you haven't read "**lost in the world**" episodes and you want to read it, you can click the upper link, I dropped a new episode yesterday. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-v-83d809ee Yesterday as I was going through articles in my notification, I was touched by an article sir @Fexodine1 wrote about a young female (14years old) TikTok celebrity that committed suicide in January, it was so touching that I have to drop a comment on it, which almost turn into an article under his article, not my fault though, I just get carried away. Which I will be emphasizing on it **Do you have friends?** In sir @Fexodine1 article, he wrote that the girl has over 14million followers on TikTok, which is huge, but the question is, does she has friends? I know this question might sound confusing to you that how can I say someone has 14 million followers and she doesn't have friends, it is very possible to have fans and not friends. `Check out my wonderful sponsors` Fans are people who hype you (most people confuse hype for love) fans love you from your craft or perhaps fame, they love what you do and not the real you, though few fans can become a friend to the celebrity (that is if the celebrity is someone that easily open up to few) Friends are people who love you for you, they understand when you are sad, they know how to make you happy, they defend you in public and talk to you in Private if you did something wrong, friends are always there to tell you the truth, even if you don't want to hear it from them, friends don't love you for your craft but they're ready to support your craft and vision, cause your happiness is also their happiness. **Note**: you don't need to be a world-class celebrity before you have fans, there are some people that we call friends, but they behave like fans, they don't care about the real you, they just care about what they will benefit from you always. A popular musician in my country ones sang a song years back and people are still playing the music to date, though I don't know if the musician is still alive or he has kicked the bucket, the song goes like this, ***When money dey, friends go dey, when money nor dey, friends go*** (When there's Money, you will have a lot of friends, but when you go broke, all the friends you thought you had will disappear) that's how fans usually are, one moment that you are at the top, you will see people doing a rally for you, wearing a polo shirt that has your name written on it or your picture printed on it, showing fake love, but ones you are no longer at the top, you will see the same people talking bad about your downfall and even saying you caused it yourself. Most celebrities we see on red carpets or media, are always smiling when the camera is on them and we will be thinking that they are having the best life right now, which might give us anxiety because we will be feeling like we aren't trying enough, the truth its that most of these celebrities are feeling lonely from deep inside, they have this void (an empty placed for true friendships) that hasn't been filled yet, everyone they come across always want to know the celebrity and not the person, they feel like the person it's the celebrity but the person it's never the celebrity. A celebrity is like two persons sharing one body, the celebrity is always in need of new fans and heaters too, but the person needs a true friend that will love her for herself, she just wants to be normal around her friends without anyone bringing out the phone to snap a picture or take an autograph of her. Just like Justin Bieber track titled Lonely, I put the track on repeat, because he said it all, I will write a bit of the lyrics here and drop the track YouTube link, in case you want to check it out *What if you had it all* *But nobody to call?* *Maybe then you'd know me* *'Cause I've had everything* *But no one's listening* *And that's just lonely* *I'm so lonely* *Lonely* https://youtu.be/xQOO2xGQ1Pc Once you have everything, 99 percent of people around you are just there like fans looking for benefits, they don't care about your personal life or mental health, all they know is that you need to capture the spotlight of the show, so you will have more fans and there will be more money. I think I will end it here, the article won't be getting boring. Thanks for reading, I still remain your humble writer and reader. **Lead Image source** https://www.instagram.com/p/B_Awnb4n9LY/?utm_medium=copy_link 8/11/2021

@Cogamedia 7 November 2021

Lost in the world V I arrived at my uncle's house in Abuja at night and I was really exhausted, luckily he has already prepared dinner for two because he was expecting me, my uncle lives alone in his house in Abuja, after eating, I took the dishes to the kitchen and washed it before going to sleep in my room, time was 1 am, when I felt someone was touching my legs, first I thought it was a dream, but the hands were moving up to my undies, I quickly got up and to my surprise, it was my uncle touching me, ah, uncle what is the meaning of this, he wasn't acting normal, he was coming closer to me, uncle please stop, uncle please stop, shii be silent, uncle didn't stop, till he broke my virginity that night. I sat on the bed, the whole night crying very hard, oh my God, how could you allow this to happen to me, Lord why, I was faithful, I couldn't call my Mom to tell her what happened, because I don't want to add to her worries and I have told her that, it was her brother that raped me, I'm not sure she could have handled it, the following morning, I went to take my bath and realize that he already left for work and left a note at the table, that I should leave his house before he comes back, well, I never had any intentions of staying with a rapist anyway, luckily for me, one of my coursemates back then in Unilag (University of Lagos State) I called her and told her I needed a place to stay for the time being, before getting a job here in Abuja, she generously offered to accommodate me. I was amazed when I saw where she was saying, I couldn't help myself but to ask her what she does for a living with curiosity, well I had always known her back then at our university level as the hottest girl on campus, she was coming with different rides from different men, she told me, she told me, she's an entrepreneur and she gets paid in large amount when she offers services to people, I was speechless for some minutes because I know that, in this economy that we are, some people are making big money for just offering service a day to someone, I told her to teach me the line of business and she laughed out loud, I was really confused if she was laughing at me asking her for help or what? She said sorry that she didn't mean to, she further explained how the service she renders works, God forbid it "I said" she laughed again and called me virgin Mary, immediately tears start falling from my eyes, she started apologizing and saying that, hope I didn't say anything that offends you, I said no and told her what my uncle did to me. She didn't look surprised, though she console me as a friend and told me that, Abuja isn't like Lagos, here it's hard for a girl to make her way to the top without using her body to get there, I told her that, I'm going to change that and I won't allow what my uncle did to me, break me, she said Okay, two months later, I was working in good establishment and was getting paid per month, though the money wasn't that huge, one day the manager called me to his office and started promising me heaven and earth together, I told him that I wasn't interested and he fired me without paying the salary I worked for the month, I was devastated and I went home feeling disappointed, Mom called me that night to ask of my well being and I told her that, everything is fine, I'm working now and few months, for now, I will be able to attend law school. She was very happy and she prayed for me and asked if I'm still relevant in the house of God and I told her, yes, meanwhile I haven't entered a church for over 2 months plus, I started crying after we hang-up the call, I cried for lying to my beloved mother, I also cried for how life is treating me, it's not fair at all, I am a good person, I don't deserve all these maltreatment from life, as my friend drove into the compound (I started calling her my friend last month because she has shown more love to me than so many people and she didn't even care about our differences) I quickly wipe the tears of my eyes and turned on the TV. We greeted and she noticed my eyes were kind of red, she asked if I was crying and I told her that, it was the movie that made me cry hard, she said and went to her room, that week I went for a different job interview because I don't have enough money to get into law school yet and I can't ask my friend for money, the accommodation and feeding she's giving me, it's enough, every office I went to, the manager there always wanted an affair with me and they are all married, I tried and tried and I got tired of looking for a job. The more I'm writing, the more the story is getting longer, I will try to end it in chapter VI, thanks for reading. Meanwhile, if you care to read it from chapter 1 to 4, I will be dropping the link below **Lost in the world** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-a2518d57 **Lost in the world II** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-ii-41c8c86b **Lost in the world III** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-iii-9e574d81 **Lost in the world IV**  https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-iv-db5c3c8e Thanks, ma'am @Theblackdoll for your sponsorship, I really appreciate it. 7/11/2021

@Cogamedia 7 November 2021

I just woke up to one of best news that gives me joy, ma'am @theblackdoll thanks for your sponsorship ma'am. If you missed my previous article. You can check it here https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/high-praise-75425455

@Cogamedia 6 November 2021

High praise Wonderful Saturday my fellow readers, how did your Saturday go, well mine was really awesome and I can testify that I feel the effect already (positive effect) My Dad started as a normal day, I woke up by His Grace, check my notifications on read cash, because I slept while reading articles last night and my data was on all night, I didn't go to work today, because it is a big day, not my day though, well you remember the article I wrote days back "**Thank God I didn't miss today**" all the rehearsing we have been rehearsing in the live studio session, was put to use today. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/thank-god-i-didnt-miss-today-207884c6 Today Saturday happens to be the deal day of the program titled "High Praise" when I started working under my boss (last year) I never knew much about his church activities and all, I was always at the studio trying to learn what I came to learn, it was later I found out that, he's the MD (Music Director) of the church he attends, the pastor of the church he attends, happens to be the Godfather of my pastor, wow what a coincidence, it feels like destiny brought out to meet each other, lol. What is High Praise High Praise is one of the biggest programs that is being celebrated every year in Life Renewal Ministries (LRM is one of the biggest churches in Benin City) the program it's sponsored by the pastor and some other people, it's a program made for music (more like a music festival in the church) The pastor "Apostle Godwin Ojuh is the founder and G.O of Life Renewal Ministries" (I won't go into his biography) will only use 5 minutes to preach the word of God, before the praises begin, it was praised upon praises upon praises, I attended last year own as a member and I just seated on the back seat, watching everything going on, but this year, I had an upgrade, I was seating at the place, all the instrumentalists were seated, Church people will surely know how this feels (watching the congratulations from the alter view). The program was supposed to begin at 1 pm, but due to some delays and stuff (I won't mention it), the program began at 2 pm, most of the preparation they did during rehearsals didn't push through due to time and there was a lot of guest artist in the house (gospel artists) and they also have a lot of activities too, the time didn't work out for our favor today, we kick start the program with worship for God's presence to flow in the arena, followed by a guy that did a hype (He was calling God different names, just like the Yorubas like to hype their king) everyone was jumping for joy and I'm people were moved, the MC was really funny and he made a lot of people laugh so hard. It was time for the pastor to share the word of God before the praising begin, after sharing the word of God, the choirs took the stage and did their first ministration with a wonderful performance that I really wished, they should be doing the performance every Sunday, cause I really love it, after the performance, they called the ballet dancers, to be honest, I never expected the performance, they also did great and we were clapping for them all through. The MC started calling the guest artist one after another, the first Artiste that was called to the stage is Phemmy and the wind, they started with worship and end it in praise, a lot of people was feeling it already, the second Artiste called on the stage is Rev Pee, He also started with worship and end it with praise, people were sweating and dancing, the third Artiste called is Godwin (A.k.a Winner Man) a lot of people will know his hit track "When you see me dance, I dance like a winner man oh" He came all the way from South Africa to Nigeria for the wonderful program, I'm sure if they were to award the Artiste that moved the arena the most, the award would be given to Godwin (A.k.a Winner Man) After he was through, the next Artiste that took over the stage is Evang. Bright (He is a tribal gospel artiste) started with worship and end it in praise. David and the WCC took the stage (David is the name of my boss, but I don't call him by his name though) They weren't given much time to move the arena, because it was already getting late and people never expected to stay that long, they did few songs and I'm sure they were supposed to do something bigger, but time wasn't on our side after they were done performance, it was time for the pastor to perform when he got on stage, the instrumentalists gave a sound and my boss took over the praise, people were dancing to the altar and there was this man that was moved to sing too. After the praises, the closing prayers were said and everyone was going home, the choirs didn't perform all the songs they rehearse all night, so they decided to postpone it to tomorrow Sunday, which happens to be the church's end-year Thanksgiving. I left there at 7 pm and I spent a bit of time on the way back home due to traffic, well, not that I'm surprised about the traffic, but I will surely write about what causes traffic on Saturday nights, next Saturday, I am really tired and I just said I should write about it and Publish it before taking my bath and going through your articles. If you want to watch the live video of the program, I will drop the Facebook link **right here**, it was Livestream on Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/liferenewalministries/videos/4877434935622783/?app=fbl That's it for today. 6/11/2021

@Cogamedia 5 November 2021

Cheating it's a choice Hi, good evening, I hope your day went really well, cause mine was very bored and lonely, I wish I have a girlfriend right, maybe I would have FaceTime her and she will be able to keep me company, well, due to my financial status now, I don't think I'm hand-sum (sum of money) for any girl now, though I am a full-time spec and most of them don't really know that yet, they just want to see me spend lots of money before they can come close to me, I could be having 20BCH now and another guy will be having 1k$, most of the girls will run after the one with 1k$, that's a story for another day though. Back to my topic, yeah. Cheating it's a choice I was supposed to Publish the final episode of my series ***"******Lost in the world***" today, though this wasn't the first episode article I wrote, cause I have written one before "***Start Over: I'm tired***" and I haven't continued it since then, because it was a mixed story of three people story becoming one character (my story, a story of a well know act and also a fiction) I don't know how to continue with it, because I haven't really made it to the top that the character it's supposed to go, but I can use the success of the big story to describe the ending of the article, well I'm still thinking about it before I can continue it. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-iv-db5c3c8e https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/start-over-im-tired-af32c862 Oh sorry, back to the topic ***of Cheating*** ***it's a choice.***  In my days on Earth, I have come to learn so many lessons in life, things I never knew decades back, years back, months back, weeks back, and even days back, well like the saying goes, we learn every day, have seen some movies and some videos online when the partner was cheating on his/her spouse and if they get caught, they will be like, I didn't have a choice, he forced me or she seduced to do it. Then I thought about it very thoroughly like it's my job to find out what transpired, I had to call for a board meeting with my selves so we can find the mystery behind cheating and those that said that they don't have a choice, that they were forced, so I will start with the men first (judgment will start from men as the head of the house) a man that feeds very well and it's well gallant strong and healthy, can just fall down on a bed if a lady pushes her with one finger, how possible it's that? Very possible I guess, maybe after hours in bed, then the wife of the man just walk in and caught them red-handed, then the man will start to explain that the lady forced her and seduced her to sleeping with her and he didn't have a choice blah blah blah. Some men will go extra extent by saying the lady drug them and he was helpless to the situation, which might be true (men, I'm covering for us now o, hope you will be proud of me, lol) my question is it's that if mad woman forced herself on you as a man, will you say you don't have the strength to push her away? The same goes for women too, if a mad man tries to sleep with you, won't you fight him and run away, then why lie that you didn't have a choice? Everyone has a choice in situations like this, you just choose to be selfish and cheat on your partner. Conclusion In everything you decide to do in life, please always prioritize your life first, I saw a video of a guy being beaten by some group of people, I actually saw it on one of my contact WhatsApp status and in the caption, she wrote "the beat it's not enough, they should beat him to coma" it got my attention and I ask her what did the guy do, she said that he stabs her girlfriend for cheating on him, ah, girlfriend nii? How can you stab someone's daughter that you haven't married, even if you have married her self, must you stab her? Well sometimes I blame the girls too, they prefer a toxic relationship that will give them money than a relationship that will give them peace of mind, ones you as a lady has your own source of income and you don't rely on your boyfriend or anybody, everyone will be giving you respect, cause it's rare to see an independent lady these days. Thanks for reading. Lead Image source https://www.freepik.com/photos/people 5/11/2021

@Cogamedia 5 November 2021

Lost in the world IV The first day at the University of Lagos (Unilag) was kind of hell because I was busy running around the school to buy books and also searching for my hostel before I left for school, Mom and I did a morning devotion and she prayed for me and I got dressed, pack the stuff that I need and took off to school, I left early the morning, to be able to beat Lagos traffic, but I guess the traffic was waiting for me that day, I and the taxi driver was in the car for over 4hours in the traffic, thank God it wasn't so long compared to other days in Lagos traffic. A few days after settling down in Unilag, I became focused on my studies and I started to attend church fellowship in school, so I won't be ***"Lost in the world"***  On my first day in the fellowship meeting, I met some sisters and brothers, I was so happy because it was my roommate that took me to the fellowship and the people there gave me a warm welcome, I became a full-time member of the university and sometimes, we go out and preach to people in the campus, I was so confidence sharing the word of the Lord with people and I converted few people to Christ our Lord. I was in 400 level and I was also strong in faith and my academics, I don't know how I'm doing it, all I can say is God all the way, sometimes Mom will call me on the phone to check on me if I am doing alright, I will tell her, yes and she will say okay, I know that something it's telling her to come and be monitoring me in school, so I won't follow the same step she took back in her University days, well I guess she trusts me that I won't do it, I promise not to break her trust, no matter what. There was this guy in the fellowship, he was very nice to me, one of the sisters in fellowship told me that, he's the fellowship leader and is hard for him to be close to people, maybe he likes you "the sister said" well for me, I'm just here to focus on my studies and serve God. One day, this brother approach me in the fellowship and told me to wait for him, after the fellowship, which I did because I don't want to disrespect him being the fellowship leader, after everyone was gone, he called me and started a conversation, he said that he likes me and he wants us to be close, close as how brother? 'i asked' don't act like you don't understand what I'm saying, you definitely understand what I mean, sir I don't understand what you mean, explain further 'i asked' he said that the first time he saw me, he felt this connection between us and that kind of connection only comes ones in a lifetime in every human life, I wanted to laugh but I hold myself because I have heard something more than this, maybe he's just a learner (I said in my mind). I gave him an answer he never expected and he didn't take it likely with me, from that day, he started avoiding me, though so many of the sisters in the fellowship really like him because he's cute and also intelligent too, ***well I'm not looking for a daddy figure***, I love my life as it is, there he forgot something in the fellowship ground and I was told to take it to his hostel, when I got there, I was knocking and no answers, I decided to wait since I don't have any class to attend at that hour, few minutes later he arrived and gave me a warm welcome, he offered me drink and I will to drink it, he said why I refuse his drink that I'm suppose to feel at home, I told him that this is not my home and my Mom called me to join her on fasting and prayers, which I'm doing now, he smiled and said he knows that I'm living, he further said that there are a lot of sisters in the fellowship that wants him, but he doesn't like them, he likes only me, sorry to burst your bubbles bro, I'm not interested in anyone now, I'm just here to face my studies and serve God. It was my final year at the University of Lagos and I was so happy, because I made it this far, though I was tempted so many times and I nearly fell for some, God saw me through and I was strong in my faith, I remember when a lecturer took me to his hostel room and told me that if he sleeps with me, he will give me a great score in his subject and I told him that I'm not interested in, that I will work my way to the top, as a law student, I managed to defend some cases in the school court, and I lost some due to not being able to lie in some cases, well I still thank God that I wasn't broken throughout my years in Unilag (University of Lagos). After the celebration of final year students in school, I did my clearance and pack my bags, and left, when I got home I never knew Mom have organized another home party for me at home, wasn't a big party though, it's just my Mom and some uncles and aunties that came, they prayed for me and was very proud of me, after that night, I told my Mom that I will be leaving for Abuja soon, I will be working there to hustle some money to further my education to law school. Mom told me that I will need to stay with my uncle there in Abuja before I can get an apartment for myself, to which I agreed. If missed the previous episodes, you can read it here **Lost in the world** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-a2518d57 **Lost in the world II** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-ii-41c8c86b **Lost in the world III** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-iii-9e574d81 5/11/2021

@Cogamedia 4 November 2021

Lost in the world III My time of coming into this world, I could hear the breath of my Mom breathing heavily, the doctor saying is a baby girl, the nurses are smiling at me, they carried me and showed me to Mom, that was the first time I saw her crying tears of joy, one of the nurses took me to the baby ward while grandpa and grandma came to visit me there, she looks just like you "grandpa to grandma" grandma being the blushing type just hit grandpa that he jokes a lot, both of them started laughing like a newly wedded couple, lol***. I didn't know if any of these happen though, I just Envisioned it in my head and I was too young to remember if any of this happens when I was born too,*** so were we? 10 years later I was the most brilliant kid in my class and all the teachers loves me very well, not all though, most of them love me, while some hate me for being born by mistakes, though they didn't tell me to my face, they always show it their actions towards me, sometimes I felt like a monster because some the kids don't play with me, well I don't blame them, because the teachers have told them not to associate me, that I'm bad luck and I will easily influence every one of them negatively and take their glory away. I always cry home to Mom and ask her, where's Dad and why isn't he picking me from school like other kids Dad does, she will tell me that, Dad travel far away to work for us and he will come back very soon, we just have to wait for him to be through with the work over there, Mom will also use something else to take away my attention from the topic, she will ask me how was school and hope I pass my homework, I told her yes and shows her my book, most times she always treats me by cooking my favorite food for being a brilliant girl or buying me ice cream for being an obedient girl. ***Mom graduated from University years back when I was still very young and she's working in a bank as an accountant, she's leaving the home very early in the morning and taking me along, she drops me in school or if the school gates aren't open by that time, she usually takes me to her friend's house.*** I wasn't only the most brilliant student in the school, I was also the cleanest and also the of the two that comes to the school early. When I got to senior secondary school 1 (high school) at the age of 15, my body started developing and I was growing as any girl would at that age, boys started eyeing me and was showing interest in me, most of them often offer to help me write my homework, there was this guy that volunteers to be buying me lunch in school and I felt like a queen in the school. One day, Mom called me and said he wanted to tell me something serious, I went to her bedroom and seated on her bed, the first thing she said it's I'm sorry, ah Mom, sorry for what? Your Dad it's not coming and he is not working in a distant state, you see when I was in the university, I met this guy and he was so loving and caring, he asked me out and I resisted and said no to him, that didn't stop him for chasing me, he came and try again and again, till one day that I accepted the proposal, we started dating he was kind of the patient type before we started dating, I told him I'm a Virgin and want to keep it for my husband, he said okay, two years when dating, he started acting weird and I asked him what's the problem, he said, how can we be dating and he hasn't seen me, I try to explain to him but he won't listen, until one day I let him to dis-flowered me because I don't want to lose him, though I promise my parents that I won't allow any man touch me, I let my parents down for him, I was pregnant with you after that night. I told him that I was pregnant and he wanted to me abort the pregnancy that hasn't yet ready to be a father, he begged me and I resisted, he had no other choice than to allow me to keep the baby, he told me that he wants to travel home to inform his parents about it, and I was happy, only for me to realize that he ran off and that was the last time I saw him. I'm sorry I kept this from you ever since my daughter, the reason I'm telling you now, it's because you are growing and I know that a lot of boys it's coming your way, some will show you love and others will be the nicest person you have ever seen, but some of all these are lies, you don't need any boy to love before you feel important, I'm here for you my child, let me be your first love so you will focus on your studies and do what I couldn't do, hope you are listening, tears were rolling down my eyes as I said yes, that night I promise Mom that I will stay away from boys and focus on my studies because I want to be a lawyer someday. The next day in school I started avoiding those boys and focused on my studies, I was getting good grades again and my teachers was so proud of me, the boys thought that I was acting up because they like me and the girls were heaving me because the boys like me, but everyone with his or her problem, I focus on my studies, WAEC (West Africa Examination Council) was fast approaching and I have to study extra hard so I will pass the exam and attend the university of my choice (Unlag) nights I was studying and making research at the same time. When the results came out I was very happy because I passed with flying colors and Mom was very proud of me, that was when she bought me my first and I was very happy, she took me on a treat to ShopRite and I had a nice time, my first choice was Unilag and they were happy to accept me in the university, my dreams coming through, I'm so happy. ***To be continued...***  If you haven't read the chapter 1 and 2. You can check both here **Lost in the world** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-a2518d57 **Lost in the world II** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-ii-41c8c86b 4/11/2021

@Cogamedia 2 November 2021

Lost in the world II When Mom got home, her parents were very happy to see her, because it's been almost 6 months and they only speak phone without seeing her and giving her a warm welcome hug, Mom went to her room to drop her stuff and went to take a bath, Grandma has already prepared a meal for Mom to eat because it was a long-distance journey. That evening after Mom and her parents have finished eating dinner, Mom decided to break the news to them, but she first told them that she's here for a reason and she must tell them, I know that grandpa and grandma weren't expecting the big blow that is going to land on their face, Mom broke the news to them that she's pregnant and the one that is responsible ran away, grandma burst into tears, while grandpa was speechless, what happened to you dear, you know that your Virginity it's your dignity and you didn't keep it for the right man, Mom was crying and saying that she thought Dad was the right man, but all of a sudden she now know that she thought wrong, grandpa still haven't said a word after hearing the news, Mom went and knee before grandpa and started begging her that, she know that she has disappointed him and she's very ashamed of herself for the disappointments. Grandpa love Mom very much, because she's one of her favorite and Mom hasn't disappointed her Dad since birth, from her chores to her academics, Mom always make her Dad proud always, then grandma joined Mom and they started begging grandpa that he shouldn't disown mom, grandpa stood up and raise Mom, he looked into mom's eyes and told her that, she's not going to abort the baby, I know that a lot of people are going to laugh at you that you were always acting like the saint that knows no man and so, but you shouldn't let it get into your head, remember that most great people you see today, some of them came through an unwanted pregnancy, who knows, maybe you can be carrying the future great leader or a terrorist in your belle, we never can tell until the child comes (grandpa words to Mom) Thanks, Palle, thanks Palle (palle is what grandpa children call him) Mom stayed with her parents for a month before returning to school again, when we resume school, her friend who she has been chatting from home, welcomed her and they continue their friendship (the pregnancy was between Mom and her friend in school, nobody else knows about the pregnancy) when people saw that Mom was now single since the disappearances of Dad, guys wanted to get close to Mom, but Mom who had learned her lesson didn't let anyone come to her, not even as "just friends" she started focusing on her studies more because she knows that there will come a time when she won't be more focus again. It's been 5 months and the stomach started developing, people started to notice her stomach, some thought that she ate a lot that's why her stomach is big, while others started getting suspicious and went into investigation before Mom left to resume school 5 months ago, Dad told her that, people will surely laugh at your big stomach, but don't let it discouraged you from your academics, Mom took that word of motivation and wore it on her head like a cap always, some was trying to ask her friend why is Mom belle big like that, Mom friend being a good friend, she ignored them totally and always find a way to protect the home from any sort of abuse. It was the 7month and the belle became bigger and everyone now knew she's pregnant and they also knew that it was because of the pregnancy that made Dad run away, some were mocking her while some were feeling sorry for her, as the days passed, the stomach was getting bigger and she wasn't able to attend class always, she now decided to travel back home, because her parents want her to be completely healthy before she goes into the maternity ward, it was the ninth month and Mom it's already at home with her parents. One when grandma went to the market and Grandpa weren't around either, Mom went to the refrigerator to get some water when her water broke, ah ah-hah, somebody help, my water broke, Mom was screaming and screaming, luckily she came to visit her when she heard the screams, she quickly ran to Mom and her rise, they were carrying themselves and grandma arrive, has the water broke, yes ma oh, yes ma (Mom Said in another time) grandma quick open her car for them to get him, grandma drove of them to the hospital and when they got there, they called the nurse to bring a wheelchair for them to carry her, which the nurses did and they carried her to the maternity ward, grandma quickly call Grandpa that their daughter it's in the labor ward. Grandpa came as quick as he could. To be continued If you haven't read the first part, click **here** to do so now. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-a2518d57 2/11/2021

@Cogamedia 1 November 2021

First day of November First day of November Feels great to be among the privilege that is alive to witness this awesome day, I woke up by His grace, not mine, and I did my daily routine before heading to work today when I go there, I saw my neighbor and kid at their shop, I greeted her and open my office, my colleague has not arrived yet, so I decided to do the sweeping and cleaning before she came, time was almost 9 am, I asked what happened and why are you coming this kind time, she said she went elsewhere before, okay o, she finished the sweeping and decided to relax. A few minutes later, NEPA took the power, the generator it's not on the ground yet, so we didn't turn it out, my colleague was getting bored and she asked for my laptop, which I gave to her and she was watching a movie, the next moment when I walk into the main studio, my neighbor came and tell my colleague that she has carried the waste bin (our office person waste bin) from the side that we kept it (we kept it at a corner) and she has added it close to her own, I was like "early this morning, wetin concern this woman and our dirty again, if nor be trouble she dey fine so (this woman it's looking for trouble this morning)" my colleague not being able to talk to her, just said okay. I was like "Sarah you go dey make mouth for back, small thing you nor fit tell that woman say na your madam say may nobody remove ah there (Sarah is always making mouth behind her back and she can't even tell the woman that, her boss lady or perhaps madam told her on no account should the waste bin be removed there) I laughed at her very loud and she said she's just waiting for her madam to come (madam means female boss). Before today, something happened a few days ago, which I thought I posted here. But I didn't, what happened it's that, our waste bin is usually recycled by a private company, one day this government company came and pack the waste bin, they demand we pay for the month, pay for what ? Why did you people even pack the waste bin without our permission, we have a private company that does that, so don't both come for our waste bin again, they went and a few weeks later they brought a letter that they will drag us to court for not paying our waste bin fee, then we decided to move the waste bin to corner close to the other neighbor shop (you guys remember none smiling couple right?) One we were dropping waste we recycled in the office everyday inside the bag every evening before going home, and one day I don't know what happen, but most of the diet was a on the floor, this woman asked my colleague who left the diet on the floor instead of putting it in the bag, my colleague said it wasn't her and the woman told my colleague to call me, I told my colleague to tell her that I was busy, which she told her, the next thing, this woman bounce into the office without knocking (well I don't blame her for not knocking though, because my boss has gave her leg to wall in anytime) wait even if my boss gave her leg, does that mean she should lost her manners, can't she use her head and knock first before coming in, the next thing she did was just screaming at me, ah madam (madam can also be use as woman) when this one start (what did this start) I got angry immediately because firstly she didn't only walk in without knocking, she also start shouting like she's paying me abi, I kept my cool, that was what lead to us removing our waste bin from her waste bin bag.. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/none-smiling-couple-4cf40bcd Closing thoughts You can choose to be anything in this life, but never be nice, nice people tolerate rubbish and still smile, which I was doing before, I was being nice to everyone in the complex, but they see it as an opportunity to start doing rubbish, well now I'm just being Good to all because good people do good things and don't tolerate rubbish, Christ was good, not nice, if Christ was nice, he would have just ignored those people that turned the church to a market, but he didn't he destroy their goods before it was the right thing to do. I wasn't able to finish my yesterday article that's why I didn't post it today. I will do it tomorrow https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/lost-in-the-world-a2518d57 1/11/2021

@Cogamedia 31 October 2021

Lost in the world I'm the only child of my parents, actually, I mean my mom, my dad ran off when she heard that my mom was pregnant, Mom was just in her early 20s when she met Dad and they both fall in love, they were Dad and Mom was so in love with each other and everyone in the environment can testify about them, Mom promised to keep her Virginity till she gets married, but Dad was pressuring her that if she truly loves him as she claims, she won't be keeping her Virginity away from him, Mom stood by her ground and told Dad that, if he truly loves him, he will wait till they get married and Dad understood and never bothered Mom about it again. One faithful day, Mom was coming back from class (Mom and Dad were in the university then) when Mom saw Dad with another girl kissing, Mom wanted to approach them with anger, but she just left in tears and Dad didn't see her, Mom went home and was crying because she thought that it was her fault like if she has agreed to sleep with Dad, this won't have happened, so she made up her mind and was ready to give up her Virginity to Dad, so Dad won't look at other girls again, Dad came back home, when he saw Mom dressed for the night, Mom told Dad that he saw him and one other girl kissing, Dad defended his self that it was because of Mom that's why he went to meet another girl, Dad further said that he's a man and all he wanted is to spend his life with Mom, no matter what life throws at both of them, he will always be her night in shining armor. It was night and a lot things happen, Dad dis-flowered Mom that night and they were both happy after the long night, they became more closer than they were before, Mom will be smiling for no reason and Dad will cover her face with his lips on her lips in campus, they became the love birds of Unilag (University of Lagos, Nigeria) the love continued till the day Mom started vomiting and feeling dizzy, Dad was doing her best to take care of her, they tried how they could but still the illness didn't go, one of Mom friend suggested she go for pregnancy test, ah pregnancy, why, I and my boyfriend are using careful and we usually use protection while having sex, Mom friend still insisted she should take the test so they can be sure, Mom being a confident that she's not pregnant, agreed to take the test, it was on Monday morning, when Mom and her friend went to the hospital, they waited for the nurse to call them because it's a general hospital and there were a lot of people on ground also waiting, they waited for about 2hours before a nurse attended to Mom, they run some test on her and told her to come the next day. The next day, Mom went to the hospital alone, because her friend was writing exam that morning, when Mom got there, the nurse directed her the doctor office, young lady are you doing today "doctor said" I'm fine sir and you "Mom replied" good good, your test results it's out and I personally told the nurse to direct you to my office, because I want to hand it over to you myself, Mom began to panic inside of her, the doctor handed the test results to Mom and when Mom opened it and check, she was shocked to found out that she was indeed pregnant, she break down in tears, the doctor tried to calm her down and told her that, I know abortion might be running through your mind now, but let me tell you that, abortion it's 50/50% you might die at the process if your body can't take it, most of the great men and women you see today, most of them was given birth to out wedlock, I know it's not going to easy, but I advise you to talk to your boyfriend so you can both keep the child and build a family together, Mom who has heard stories about so many female that has died during abort and some that lost their womb, she told the doctor, that she will talk to her boyfriend about it and she left. When she got home that afternoon, and she called Dad to know his whereabouts, which Dad answered and told her that he's close to the house now, a few moments later dad arrived home, they had dinner, and later in the night, Mom brought out the test results and gave to Dad, Dad not knowing what it is, opened the paper, because he didn't know that Mom went to do a pregnancy test, he was shocked when he saw that Mom was pregnant, how? When? How did it happen, but did we use protection or did you sleep with someone else behind my back? God forbid I share my body with anyone else "Mom replied" so what's this result, cause I know that I used protection on you that night, Dad was screaming at her, Mom started crying and Dad started telling her sorry that he didn't mean to yell at her, Dad told her that he still loves her and he doesn't think he's ready to start a family yet, because they both are still in school and the only option right now is for her to abort the baby, Mom knew he was going to say that and she told him that, she's afraid and her faith won't allow her to hurt an innocent child, Dad gave her more reasons for her to abort the pregnancy but Mom stood by her word and Dad couldn't convince her anymore, he agreed too. Dad told Mom that he was traveling to tell his parents and he will return very soon so they can all go and meet her parents, Mom said okay and was very happy after Dad left, 2months Dad hasn't come back, he's number were not going, his friends have heard nothing from him since he left, no one could reach him, until one day that news was spreading around the campus that, Dad already transfer from the University to another one without informing anyone and the worst part is that, nobody knew the one he's attending now, Mom was so disappointed and was crying heavily, her friends was consoling her and they advised her to go home and let her parents know that she's pregnant, oh my God, how I'm going to do it, how I'm going to tell my parents that I'm pregnant when they sent me to school, Mom thought about it and crossed her mind, she packed some of her stuff and went home. ***To be continued.*** @Ruffa wrote another article using a song, **you can check it here**, which motivated me to try it out too, and I will post the song at the end of the second chapter of the article because if I post it now, a lot or my country people will know the song I'm writing this article from. https://read.cash/@Ruffa/i-started-a-joke-b18641be *PS: I didn't forget anyone article, I'm coming for all today. One love.* **100% written by Cogamedia, no plagiarism** **Lead Image source** https://www.freepik.com/photos/woman 31/10/2021

@Cogamedia 30 October 2021

My Saturday movement Before I begin my article for today. How did you spend your Saturday, did you remember to smile today or you are just feeling disappointed about some things you missed, well life can be very disappointingly sometimes and you might feel like you aren't doing things right, don't give up just yet though, keep pushing on till you get what you need and don't settle there too, keep grinding for more to come. My Saturday went unplanned, I woke up by His grace and promised myself that I won't go anywhere today, due to my health issue, a few hours later, big bro called me that he wants to send money to my account and I should withdraw it and come to give him the money, I tried to explain to him that I don't want to leave my today throughout today, but seems like he needed the money today, so I just quickly wash my clothes, have a bath and got dressed, I went to the ATM when I got there, I saw people standing and waiting for the machine to start paying, I went and tried one of the machines with faith, but seems like my faith wasn't strong enough. I started walking to the place my office was located, because my big bro also leave in the area, on my way there, I got a call from my boss and he was asking if I was with the key to office, I said yes and he said he misplaced his key and he wanted to run a quick job, I told him I'm on my way to the office anyway, I got there and I saw him, his wife and also my colleague waiting for me outside, I opened the office and they went in, his wife started making for some changes for a design he did for a client, I had to wait for them to be through before leaving, because I can't leave my key for anyone so I won't have to wait for someone to come before entering the office on Monday, as she was designing and making the changes, I went to a POS nearby to withdraw the money big bro sent for me, I called he that I have withdrew the money, and he should start coming, after some few hours, he came and I gave him the money and he left, I went back into the office again, my battery was running down and I didn't bring my charger (oh my God, I never planned to leave the house today, that's why I never bothered to bring my charger when I was leaving) I went busy on read cash and red few articles before my battery went down, I looked around and saw that everyone was making use of their charger, chai (***lesson 1:*** *in everything you do in this life, always remember to carry your charger anywhere you are going, even if it's the next house you are going to, you never can tell what will happen there, they might decide to hold you down there till further notice*) I didn't know what to do, since my phone is down and there's actually nothing I was doing in the office, except waiting for my boss wife to be through so I can lock the office. I shifted all the bag that was on the couch I was sitting and decided to sleep, I slept for about 2 hours and when I woke up, I realized that I only slept for 30 minutes, I checked again and saw that my colleague was no longer using her charger, then I decided to plug my phone so it won't look like I'm just lost, after plugging my phone, thank God I had some money with me ***(lesson 2****: Always remember to carry cash with you, wherever you are going, even if you are going to the next house behind house, cause you never can tell what will happen*) I went to buy some snacks and drink after I was done with it in the shop I brought it from, I went back to the office. When I got to the office, my boss and his wife already set to leave and I was happy, immediately they left, I locked the office and went back home, I did a little sleeping before turning on my data again, I know most people did **flexing Friday** and didn't invite me, well next Saturday we will see where it gets us to. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/flexing-friday-68187c6f Thanks for reading and do have a blessed life. **Lead Image source** https://www.freepik.com/photos/woman 30/10/2021 .2

@Cogamedia 30 October 2021

Flexing Friday Good morning and I trust your night went well, mine as well though I forgot to publish an article yesterday due to a stressful day and also flexing Friday, well I know that only a few will understand what I mean by flexing Friday though, and I'm going to explain to it here in this article so everyone can at least understand what I mean by flexing Friday. Before I begin, I just want to say that, what I'm about to write might sound wrong, though we are not proud to say it but is a normal thing in my country and no one is to blame. I don't really know much in other countries, but in West Africa (Nigeria in general) Fridays are usually for burials in my country, I have seen countless Americans and Philippines movies and I just see them wear all black and pay their last respect to the dead person, after that, they will console the family of the person being buried for an hour or two and go home to rest. That's how it is done in my country, I know it might sound funny, but in my country, we usually throw a party before the final rest of the dead person (burial ceremony) each try has their way of laying to rest their loved ones, though some tribes don't throw a party for the dead, because they believe that the real party is up there and they do it here is a disrespect to the person, while in most tribes (about 90 percent tribe) when a loved one dies (especially when the person is old enough) we don't lay to rest the person quickly, firstly the body will be kept in the mortuary for maintenance, while the family of the person will call a meeting to know how will be able to throw a big party for the dead ( not that they are happy that the person is dead though, they just believe that for the good life the person lived, the dead person deserves a good and befitting burial so the soul will have eternal rest) this plan usually takes months if the family of the dead person is not that wealthy. After they have all agreed on the amount each person will bring to support the burial of their beloved, they will all go home and work towards the money (they will buy materials to sow clothes for just the family members and they also buy more materials and sell to other people like friends and colleagues) it might sound like a business, right? Well, it's not the end yet, in Benin City/Edo State where I live, most of the children can be in a contribution meeting when the meeting members hear that one of their members, lost the beloved, they will prefer towards the burial to support her financially and physical on the burial ceremony (you have to be an active member in the meeting before they can show you love). After they have set the date of the burial, they will make sure that a day to the burial bags of rice will arrive, vegetable oil will be there, cows will come in, tomatoes, tin tomatoes, and so many other foodstuffs, they will call caterers to do the cooking (the caterers that usually cooks in burials are advanced women that has long experience in cook) On the day of the burial, musician's will be on the ground (most tribal musicians) they will be canopy and chairs for everyone to come and eat with them, they will preserve some canopies for families, meeting members, and some other group (the name of the group will be written in the canopy to stop others for seating with them) though most families prefer doing burial ceremony in an event center so it will be strictly by invitation, others that can't afford an event center, they will do it in the street and a lot of people will attend the burial, though most of them are an uninvited guest. Why did I title this article Flexing Friday? There's this playmate of mine back then when we were kids, the guy will be dressing up every Friday to attend any nearby burial ceremony, and most times if his luck shines, he will attend 3 burials a day and bring food home to eat later after eating to satisfaction in the burial ceremony, he was doing it regularly and most of my playmates decided to join him in his quest, lol. Even I too was considering joining them though, but I know the family that brought me up, ones they found out that I was going to burial ceremony without invitation, I will collect a lot of beating from my father and my elder siblings, so I decided to keep my cool and stay strong. **Lead Image source** https://www.freepik.com/photos/food **30/10/2021**

@Cogamedia 28 October 2021

Avoid breakfast twice a day It's Thursday day already and I didn't go to work today because of my health issue, which I posted yesterday "you can check the article here" though I am feeling a bit better now, I still have to take a day off so I can fully recover from this illness, I message my friend that is a nurse and told her about my illness, she said I need to run some test so they can know the name of the illness, which I asked how much and she said is 2,000 naira (4$), I thought it was 20,000 (40$) though, she replied with a funny reaction. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/thank-god-i-didnt-miss-today-207884c6 To my topic of the day, a few days ago I posted on how I ate breakfast at night, (breakfast mean heartbreak in my country), I was going through my feeds on Instagram and I saw two people that ate breakfast, which is not really funny because they were really heartbroken, which I will be discussing here today. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/i-ate-breakfast-this-night-19f30020 The first is a guy that was crying seriously because of his girlfriend that broke his heart, I actually don't know what cause the break up between them, but I know that the guy is not at all though, not because am a guy too, but because the guy was crying seriously and its eyes were kind of swollen, his friends had to come and console him like a baby that lost his toy, I have seen a guy cry so emotional like this and it makes me imagine the kind of pain he was going through at that moment, he was crying and mentioning the girl's name at the same time, this is the reason most guys can never give in their all to love, to avoid crying over a girl that never loves them, well I pray he Well, I pray he recovers from it very soon, though it won't be easy for him, he has to do it. The second guy got rejected after proposing to his girlfriend on their passing out, I hate to say this but I think the guy is at fault here, one thing I have discovered over the years is that, no matter how a girl loves you, even if they are mad over you (obsessed with you) that doesn't mean she's going to accept your marriage proposal, it's better to propose to her in a quiet place where both of you are there alone, so when she rejects your proposal, you will have to deal with it on a low, instead of you turning the topic of the town, oh I mean social media in general just as this guy here, proposing to your girlfriend (I use girlfriend because is rare for a girl to propose to her boyfriend) in public is 50/50, 50 percent chances of she accepting your marriage proposal and 50 percent of her rejecting you in front of the crowd, though most guys prefer to proposed in publishing so everyone that bear witness of the most beautiful day of his life. **There are different reasons that make some ladies reject a guy's in public places, some includes** Most ladies have Invision where their man should pump the question in their head, they want it to be really romantic, by taking her to a hotel that is decorated with a lot of flowers, candle lights, chocolate cakes, and balloons, maybe she has been telling her friends about it and when the guy didn't meet up to her expectations, she will reject his proposal Without thinking twice about it, I have to realize that most ladies value their ego than any other thing in life, just because they songbirds want to be called low class. **Closing thoughts** There was this guy last year that did the funniest and proposal that I can't seem to get to get over it, he dropped a ring on his bed and message his girlfriend on WhatsApp that he left a proposal Ring on his bed and she accepts his proposal she should wear the ring, if she doesn't want to accept his proposal, she should pack any of her stuff that is on his house immediately. Before proposing to a girl, try to know more about her, I know you might be thinking that what more do you want to know about since you two have been saying for over 5 years, the truth is that you need to know her future plans with you before pumping the question and also try to communicate with her friends too, girls usually tells their friends everything, maybe you will be able to know her idea place of the proposal also, girls loves romantic guys. My advice to guys out there In other to not eat breakfast twice in the morning or at noon or in the night, try to know your partner's future plans with you, the earlier you talk to her about it, the better for you. Lead Image source https://www.freepik.com/photos/food 28/10/2021

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@Cogamedia 27 October 2021

Thank God I didn't miss today Welcome you to the midweek as most people may call it, I woke up this morning by His Grace and I'm thankful, I started getting signs of God from inside of me and my body was kind of hot a bit, I ignored it and get ready for work. When I got to work, the signal increases, and water start dropping from my nose ( sorry if it sounds disgusting) first I thought that it was a minor thing because of the weather, I turned on my data and check my read cash account, which is making good use of my time, read some articles on my top notification, then my boss came in and said that I should follow them to another studio few miles away form ourselves, at first I wanted to say that I'm not feeling too well and I won't be able to go with them, but when I heard the place that they are going to (a live Studio where there are all instruments) I immediately said okay and pack up the laptop and sound card that we want to use for stem-loop (recorded instrumental/voice). My boss's wife books a taxi for us to move to. Today I saw many places I never thought they are in Benin city (not that I'm underrating the city I live though, but I'm just happy to see them) we arrived at the studio quite early and there was another band rehearsing in the studio already, we have to wait for them to be through. We waited for a couple of hours before our session started, when I entered the studio and saw a lot of musical instruments, I was amazed and wanted to take some photos but my phone don't have good camera quality, so I just chilled and enjoy the AC (air conditioner) inside the studio. A few moments they were getting ready to rehearse too (my boss and his musical crew) the band weren't complete because some of them have exams in school (University) while some weren't around, but the singers came, except for two though, one is a woman she's nursing her baby and the other is a guy that always comes up with a lot of excuses, lol. There are three singers here, two are married and one is engaged, one of the women is my boss life (she's a very good singer) and the other woman has a baby at hand (I don't know his husband though) After rehearsing for over 3hours (the studio is usually 4$ per hour) after we were through with the rehearsals, I went to get something to eat, my body became extra hot, my body could boil yam at the moment, after eating we booked another ride and I went straight to the office to get my stuff and also gave my colleague the key to office cause I'm not sure if I will be able to go office, all of my body is very hot now and my eyes are dropping hot tears too, I will ask a friend who's a nurse on what medicine to buy because I don't like self-medication at all. Conclusion Though I took a big risk by overlooking my health all because I want to go big musical studio today, I still believe it was worth the risk and I'm not trying it again, I will try much as possible to have a nap, when I'm done with this article and I pray I will be fine by the time I wake, cause I'm afraid of injections and medicines, it makes me want to throw up sometimes, but if medication is what that can make me well now, I'm going to take the medications. That's all for now and I will check all articles in my notification when I'm feeling much better. Thanks for reading. Lead Image source https://www.freepik.com/photos/hand 27/10/2021

@Cogamedia 26 October 2021

Who left the gate of hell open ? I have never seen any day as hot as today since this month, man almost fainted this afternoon, looks like the last person that went to hell forgot to lock the gate, now we are facing the consequences in my area. I was supposed to write on a particular topic today but the kind of hot that heated my head today, I know it has burnt some articles in my head now, we were in the office the generator didn't rest today, still, there was much heat in the office. I went to buy very cold water with an ice block in it and I placed it on my head to be calm down, a few moments later, some clients walk into the studio and everywhere became extra hot, they came to give my boss feed on the song one of them recorded in our studio, when they started talking and saying that the song is not well balanced and so, I quickly stood up and went to catch some air outside (I didn't go outside because of fresh air though, I went outside because I was the one that mixed the song, lol.) My boss opened the project and discovered that I used a lot of plugins (music editing plugins) and he took some of them off and balance the song his self, the clients were happy with what they were hearing after he balanced it. It's not my fault that the song was not well balanced though, it's just that I was trying to make it more lively, I never knew I was giving the song lively overdose and it was sounding bad, but I never noticed it, because I was too focused adding effects instead of listening to it, that's why its good for us to take a break while working sometimes, so we can catch up the fresh way and open our minds for more ideas to flow into our brain. After they were through with the first song, they opened another song, thank God I wasn't the one that did that one, there wasn't much of a fourth inside, the only thing the client said was that he wants more effects on his voice so it will sound very sweet in the hears of all, which I boss did in less than 30 minutes, another client came walked into the office and everywhere was much hotter than before, I couldn't bear it any longer cause my body was giving me signs of illness, I went outside to relax for some minutes before going back inside. The client wanted to do a video for an audition he recently applied for, he has to wait for my boss to be through with the first clients (like the saying goes, first come first half). After he has waited for quite a while, it was finally his turn to make use of the studio, he and his brother that is a videographer/photographer took the stage, he started with an interview and what he can play (instruments he is good at) then he started doing one after another, he told us that the audition will be held online due to Covid 19 outbreak, there will be a zoom meeting for the judges at the comfort of their homes, while the contestant's video will be shown on the projector for everyone to see it. What he said wouldn't take them up to 30 minutes to be through with the video recording, the client was doing it over an hour, because he wants it to be very perfect, we were for over 1hour and my boss decided to leave the studio for him, lol. Actually, he left and told me to lock the office once they are through with the videos, I was waiting for them to be through with the video while reading articles in my notification, after hours, they were through with the videos, so they packed out the video gadgets that they brought to the studio. The client tipped me 50cent and the previous client that came before him also tipped me 50cent, adding both together equals 1$, I'm grateful for it because I didn't ask for it, they just gave me it from their kind gesture. When I was going home, I met a friend of mine (a female) and it was already dark here 8 pm, I volunteered to escort her home first before going to my house, we were talking as we were going, we got to her house and we said our goodbyes, she told me to get home safe. Well I'm at home now, very tired and stressed out, but that won't stop me from publishing articles every day, I guess you must have noticed it by now. **Better late than never** ***Hey you, yes you! Go check out my previous articles or else, I won't smile again.*** Lead Image source https://www.freepik.com/photos/man 26/10/2021

@Cogamedia 25 October 2021

I ate breakfast this night I'm in pained but it's alright, a very deep and touching pain, I just got served **breakfast** this night and I don't think I can take it any longer. I know you must be wondering what I mean by breakfast. In my country, we have a lot of slang that we use to either make fun of someone or cheer the person, when someone says "last last breakfast go reach everybody hand" they actually meant everyone is going to have a heartbreak sooner or later, sound funny right, well that's just one of many slangs we use in my country, some will say "forget that your seriousy, before you chop breakfast soon (don't take love seriously, if you don't want heartbreak) In my previous article I posted late night yesterday, when I wrote do what you love, I talked about my career and how I love the job to the extent that I slept at work last night with my friend, we worked all night till 2 am before we slept on a couch, you remember I wrote about a girl I like but I'm afraid to come straight to tell her because of one or two ejections I must have encountered in the past. Then I remembered @HappyBoy article he posted days back, about letting a girl know that you like her, so I won't be in the brother zone of her friends, well who would have thought that I will be got motivated by it. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/do-what-you-love-cad5f4d8 So I decided to come straight with her, because she was kind of confused about where the conversation was leading and she wanted to know, for minutes I wanted to beat around the bush again, but I told myself not this time around, I have to make my intentions or perhaps feelings know to her so she won't have it in mind to call bro, cause that's one thing I hate when a girl that we are related start calling me bro, it's a total turn off for me. There are girls I use to like back then, but when they started calling me bro, I was slowly drifting away from them, cause I nor get joy o, lol. When she asked where the conversation was leading to, I told her that I really like her that, the very first time I set my eyes on her, I lost my body controller, I went forward and told her, how I have been getting sleepless nights thinking about her and I may not have enough money to be able to buy her fancy stuffs and other expensive gifts and gadgets, but I won't let her lack anything, even if I have to sell my fathers land for her, I will do it, I told her that, I may not be sure about some certain things in my life, but one thing that I know for sure, is that my love for you is genuine, she sent a smile emoji and also a wow emoji and said that she really liked me too, I told her that I don't mean the normal like, I mean I'm attracted to you, I love you, she said she loved me too and she was waiting for me to say it, what took me so long "she asked" I told her that I was kind of afraid and she said are you not afraid anymore, I told her that, now I realize that she's the one that conquers my fears. Hehehe, that's not actually how it went, lol. What really happened is that, when she asked, where is the conversation leading to, I hard to type it with my full chest that I like her, she said oh then I told her that is not normal like She sent an emoji then I told her that I'm attracted to her and she said that she's not attracted to me. Conclusion It hurts me, but to be honest, I never wanted her to say she's interested in me immediately though, I just wanted her to know that I really like her so she won't put me in the brother zone, that's why I told her that I'm willing to wait for her to be interested in me, I know when we get to know each other better, she might me too cause it's not been long we met in person, though we sometimes chat on WhatsApp back then, I can understand she doesn't want to rush into a relationship. Either way, I still got served breakfast this night. Though she has nice curves and a very beautiful voice I still believe that I love her heart and I do see past the physical body sometimes. Thanks for reading and do hit that subscribes button. Lead Image source https://www.freepik.com/photos/background 25/10/2021

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@Cogamedia 24 October 2021

Do what you love I had a long day and very stressful one, oh my day isn't over yet, I will explain later, my day started like every other normal day, though I woke up not that early and I was running late for church, I had to dress early and move to church, on our way back, we saw an accident that occurred yesterday (Saturday) someone in the bus said that, there was no survival. *Let's be prayerful in our going out and coming in, nobody knows what will happen next or how things are going to be the next moment.* Do what you love In all your doings, be sure you do what you love, right now I'm going to sleep in the studio (music studio) I never planned to sleep in the studio today, things can of happened you know, I went to church rehearsal, after the rehearsal, I went straight to the studio where I work, I have unfinished business with my friends and Sunday is the only day that I can be able to do it when I got to the studio, they were waiting for me, I apologize for not coming early, immediately we began with the business for the day. **I have been admiring music producers, I always wished to become one someday, well I'm actually on the right path to my dreams now, though I'm still kind of learning music production, with time I know will become a pro and I really love the career/work.**  I started making a beat for a friend (female) she and her sister are very good singers, I really admire their voice and it's kind of giving me goosebumps every time they sing when I'm done making the beat to my power or perhaps my level of knowledge in music production, we started arranging it and when we were done, two of my friends walk in (both male) we started making another beat for a collaboration between us, we put our heads together (two heads is better than one) we went to the deepest part of our brain and brought out what we could and we did the beat and record a demo, so we will be able to play it and rewrite our lyrics to be perfect, the girls that I was making a beat for, did backup in the song I and my guys are about to drop and I can say it again that, they are really good, maybe I will marry one of the girls in the future, lol. But I truly like one of the girls, though I have been beating around the bush in her DM, she must have gotten the scope though, I am kind of afraid to come out straight to her, base on one or two rejections I must have encountered in the past and I don't think I can take another rejection now, it's really hard me to start confessing my feelings to another lady again, I still trying to think about how to tell her I really like her, I don't know how you people do it, but I think I very tired or anything that concerns love or confessing my feelings anymore, maybe till when I have made it in life, cause true love in my country is mostly about finances and that's mostly the reason I am still single or should I say lonely, sorry I started disturbing you with my emotional problem, lol. Time is almost 12 am-midnight now, and I'm still at the studio recording for my friend and doing my thing here too. Always remember to do what you love and love what you do too, if you don't like your job, there's still time to quit and go after your passion just like as I'm doing now. I going to sleep in the music today and I really love it, maybe I should be doing it more often. One loves people. 24/10/2021