Think before you talk

Hello readers, how did your Wednesday go, mine wasn't that stressful as my Monday was, though I went to the office late and my colleague and a client was already waiting for me outside the office because I'm the one that has the key to the office, aside from my boss, on my way to the office, I was trying to think about a perfect excuse to tell my colleague why I came late, I couldn't think of anyone that will fit, so I just decided to tell her we a helicopter landed at the wrong spot so the pilot told us to help push the helicopter to a better spot before he too, off, she started to laugh because she knew that I lied on purpose, lol. Without taking much of your time, let's get right on to the topic.

Thinking before saying a word can save us from a lot of drama or perhaps troubles, there some people that are just out to cause trouble, we won't know their motive towards us because it doesn't display in their forehead, they can act nice and earn your trust in less than a week, you can be open to them and they can even be the ones to give you advice and tell you not to give up that there's light at the end of the tunnel, I have come across so many of them and I don't think I have learnt my lesson yet, lol.

I'm kind of and open who's ready to talk as long as you're ready to listen, I feel like we can't carry the burden of life alone, they might be in the right position to help me or uplift me rather but me telling them is a relief for me, it's like sharing a bit of your load for stranger to carry for a short time, due to a lot of issues I have faced in the past for telling someone about my insecurity and they shove it on my face in public, I'm considering back to how I were when I used to keep it to myself and its kind of better that way, people can't spoil what they don't know, its when you open up to them, they will use it against you.

What came about this topic and how is it related to what I am writing?, its related because telling someone about your insecurities it's like a big blow when they decide to throw it in your face, think before you tell someone about your insecurities, when you start thinking before you say any word, you will start avoiding a lot of unnecessary stress from Friends, family or neighbors.

Something happened to me few days ago and that's what birthed this topic, I won't will drop the details in a more simpler way so everyone can understand.

Imagine you went to a therapist, at first you don't want to open up to the therapist because a lot of people you have opened up to backstab you, then after some long talk you now decided to open up to the therapist because a problem shared is a problem solve, the therapist that is supposed to keep what you him/her as a classified file that no one should know about it from them, then in a gathering the therapist just brought out what you told him/her in front of everyone and they all burst into laughter, it might sound funny to the people because they are not the victim but it will hurt you really bad, not because people was laughing though, but because you never expected the therapist will just bring a classified case to the table, maybe he/she might not mention your name though, but a trust broken can't be fixed, a problem shared becomes your headache.

Closing thoughts

Everyone can't be the same and there's a saying that goes like this "we will meet alot of wrong people before meeting the right ones" that doesn't mean that we should keep searching for the right people though, when it the comes, the right people will definitely come. Let's think before we talk, so we won't tell the wrong people about ourselves.

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14/12/2021