It's not easy to be a man

Hello Readers, I hope you had a wonderful and stress less day, it's me again and with another brand new one, haha, I just feel happy right now for being alive and also being healthy, it's all by the grace of God, not by my strength, I don't remember the last time I was sick and I don't want to even remember either, came a long way and I have the strength to keep moving on, cause when there's live, there’s hope and we should keep our hopes alive.

Without taking much of your time, I will head straight to the topic, but firstly I want to ask the married couples in the house, when you and your partner have a misunderstanding, how do you people settle the issue, do you settle with together or call a third party to judge it before settlement, third party like the parents or a friend or even your pastor, I will appreciate your response in the comment section, at least I can learn it now for future purposes.

Some women believe that any man that calls the parents to settle them is not man enough to be married, some will even call him a small boy for involving the parents in it, some men are suffering in their home and they are afraid to speak out, it's aren't easy being a man.

And this set of women will rather report the issue to their pastor than call in a family member, yeah, I know that some pastors have good intentions towards some marriages and they can bring peace to the family, but that doesn't mean all pastors has the same heart, because the person is a pastor doesn't mean they are trustworthy, remember no one was born a pastor, pastors do make mistakes as the the average person does.

Seeing how some women respect their pastors more than their husbands is disheartened, you can see a woman backing up their pastors and fighting for them that they aren’t what people think of them, even if someone are guilty of the crime, they will still want to protect their pastor because they are blinded by trust they have for their pastors and there’s nothing you will tell them that will open their eyes.

So the the third party they rather prefer to settle their issues is the pastor, the husband might try to kick against it, but we all know how women are right? They aren't giving up on convincing men to follow their way, haha. A man used to be the head of the home but the woman being the neck can bend them to their will, believe when I say women have the upper hands in a marriage home.

Still trying to understand why some women don't like the mother's law but they do want their husbands to welcome their family with open hands, I think I have written about a girl that lost her fiancee to her junior sister because she insists she doesn't want to marry a man that still has a mother, like what kind of talk is that, how will she feel when all her struggles in bring up a child just end in one day all because one lady told her son she doesn't want a mother-in-law.

The way some pastors preach against mother inlaws is bad, maybe because they have a lot of women in the church and they want to preach what is pleasant to their hears, some pastors will go the extra mile and say that any man that still does things that he hasn't done for his wife is not good.

I read of a story a few days about a lady that is planning to divorce the husband, the marriage isn't up to one year self, the lady messaged a popular internet marriage chancellor and told her side of the story.

• She said her husband doesn't want to include her name in his wealth and every time she brings up the the issue, the husband will cover it up with other things, and the husband added his mother name in his wealth instead of her, she's tired that her husband doesn't trust her and there's no reason to continue with the marriage anymore since marriage is built on trust and their marriage doesn't have it.

The marriage chancellor being a wise person reached out to the husband and told him what her wife said, the husband had to explain to the chancellor what happens.

• The man said that, the mother is the main reason he is where he is today and she had sacrificed a lot for him, he further said that he has a heart problem and he will be traveling to the US for surgery, he overheard his wife brother telling her that what if he didn't survive it, that means none of his wealth will be willed to her, ever since then the wife has been disturbing him to add her name to his will and the worst part is that she even aborted their few months old baby and she said she don't want to bring a child of this world when the husband refuses to trust her with his wealth.

If it were some pastor that was going to judge the issue, they won’t have bothered to hear the man side of the story, they will just concluded that the man is being controlled by the mother and the wife should come and buy oil and water to deliver the husband from what the mother is using to control them. Haha

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18-02-2022