What Should She Do?
A friend is in a dilemma right now and I want you to please say something about this. It is a very serious issue that is making me furious. If it were to be me, I won't be in any form of dilemma because I know how to let go of things very fast. It may not be easy but I will make sure that I derive joy from somewhere else so that I will be able to do what I'm supposed to do. No matter what happens and no matter how much I love you, I can say goodbye to you at any time. I respect myself a lot. Once someone tells me that he doesn't want me again, I'll shift. Also, there are times when they won't tell you that they don't want you again. You can tell from their reactions. Action speaks louder than words. The moment when a man or a woman starts to act like you're not wanted around him or her, just shift. It means that you are not wanted. I've learned this since I was very little and it has helped me a lot.
So what happened in my friend's relationship? She has a boyfriend and they have been dating for over three years. The guy has a female best friend. You know how close best friends could be. I once had a male best friend too but I had to move away from him the moment he had a serious relationship. Inviting friends into your relationship is just like you trying to invite the whole world to know what is happening in your relationship. Now, the guy and his best friend are still close to the point that they have no regard for my friend who is the girlfriend. There's nothing that happens in the relationship that the guy won't tell the best friend. It's so annoying. There was a time that the guy had an accommodation issue. Instead of living with his girlfriend, he chose to live with his best friend.
Does that make sense? How do they want the girlfriend to feel? I've stopped complaining about the guy because whenever I ask my friend to leave the guy, she will feel reluctant to do so. What happened two days ago baffled me and that's why I'm writing the article. The female best friend came to the girlfriend's house. She came to make her hair around that area. Since I was less busy, I had to follow her because the girlfriend had already gone to her guy's place. She already planned to sleep at the guy's place so that the other lady will feel convenient if she wants to sleep over at our place. Suddenly, the friend said she already called the guy and that she was sleeping over at his place. I expected my friend to do something crazy but she didn't. It's normal but because I was very angry.
My friend didn't say a word and she let her go to her boyfriend's place. My friend had to help her with a money transfer at the salon. Yesterday, we called the lady to send back the money and she said that the guy will help her send it. My friend had to call her boyfriend to confirm if it is true. The guy admitted that he will send the money. That's about $10 and my friend previously asked the guy for money to make her hair and he said he will help her with $5. It means that the guy is choosing the other lady which he called his friend over my friend. I expected her to get angry for the whole day. After a few hours, the guy came to our place, and they continued their sweet love life. Does that make sense? She even had to cook for him. God knows that I was very angry.
How can one be so gullible? This lady is 25 years old and she's letting someone treat her less. Who does that? Her mother and other family members have advised her to leave this so-called guy but she's adamant. At times, you may not get beaten in a relationship but a lot of things there will make you depressed and it will affect your mental health. Whenever I advise her to leave, she will say all the Pastors and Imams she knows said that their future is bright together. Do those people even know what she's going through in the relationship?
I'm sad because she's stubborn. I had to call her cousin yesterday and explained to him. He said I should leave her because if you advise someone in a relationship, they wouldn't listen.
Most relationships suffer because of friends, treating the opposite gender same like your girlfriend/boyfriend, sometimes if you want to complain they see you like an insecure person, I once pass through this, I have to tell the boy to choose between me or her..if not we end