The Trophy Wife

Two years before I got admitted into a University in northern Nigeria, there was this very intelligent lady who had graduated from a mathematics department with first class honors. This accomplishment was jointly held with another guy from the department. But from what I have heard, the lady's performance was more outstanding. Both students were offered a scholarship to go further their studies abroad. But unfortunately, the lady couldn't accept the scholarship.

Why? Her parents had already betrothed her to w big trader in a popular market in the city. The arrangement was that she would immediately get married to this wealthy man as soon as she's done with her education. No need to mention that it was this men that had been sponsoring her education all this while as well as providing for her family's upkeep. No doubt, her husband would be very proud of the spectacular academic performance of his young wife.

I just pray he finds a place in his heart in assisting the young girl achieve her life ambition of becoming a mathematics professor.

There's absolutely no way he wouldn't want to show her off to his friends and tell everyone who cares to listen that he married a genius!

What you would call a ideal trophy wife!

The term trophy wife was birthed centuries ago when Kings and highlords would give out their female children in marriage to an equally or more important figure in order to forge stringer political alliance or to cement the relationship between the houses.

Well, as you already know, a trophy is decorative object given out to someone as a price. The term "trophy wife " was coined in the 20th century in describing a young and very beautiful woman who is married to a wealthy husband that is a decade or two older than she is. And ofcourse, the husband wouldn't waste time in making use of any opportunity to "display his trophy" either at a business meeting, a conference or at a dinner just so as to court as much attention possible to himself both online and offline.

Well, overtime the phrase "trophy wife " have become popular among folks. I believe calling a woman a trophy wife is derogatory. The term is likely to be accompanied by a barrage of more unpleasant names by malicious people. People who never considers seeing the woman behind all the glamour. No one cares to know about her true character, her virtue, intelligence and power for good. She's often judged by her marriage.

It's so hurting when a woman vis judged simply because she's married to a richer or older man. No doubt there are men who had to married older and richer Ladies, even out of genuine love. But they are seldomly criticised niether did anyone verbally burn them to the stakes for the choice they have made.

The term "trophy wife" promotes objectification of a female and shouldn't be tolerated.

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