Revenge ? Who have time for that?

Hello my amazing friends. I hope you all are enjoying a an equally amazing Friday. So, yesterday I couldn't put up an article. It wasn't because I was I'll or had a busy day, I actually didn't know what to write about. As matter of fact, I would have missed writing, today as well.

But thank God for a talkative neighbor who came to my rescue this morning. She kept talking about this n that and other insignificant matters for like ten minutes. I only managed to listen to her as I was already bored. I kept thinking about what I would write about today.

Then suddenly, she came up with a very interesting gossip. She told me about a young woman who almost killed her ex who broke her heart. I became very alert at this moment as I adjusted my sitting position and mentally thanked her for giving me a potential idea for f what today's article would be.

What I heard shocked me to the bones and I don't think I have ever heard or would ever hear a more heartbreaking story.

The woman almost killed her ex lover by trying to hit him with her car. She had been on a sick bed fighting for her life after an abortion gone wrong. She had to go through all these pains because the "love of her life" was not yet ready for a baby. In summary, after narrowly escaping death, she also lost her natural ability to reproduce.

All the while she was battling with death, her husband had been having an illicit affair with a mutual friend.

I could only imagined the exceeding pains and emotional trauma that tortured her soul through when she learnt about this betrayal. I don't know if anyone else has ever suffered a greater heartbreak before.

Surprisingly, her ex survived the accident and she couldn't have her "deserved revenge". Even some of the police officers that apprehended her felt sorry for her . But it doesn't change the fact that the young lady would be arraigned in court and charged with attempted murder, and according to the law, she would so sometime behind bars. Vengeance was hers to take but she couldn't get it.

I couldn't stop my self from thinking that in the nearest future, the man that have destroyed her life would find love again and eventually get married to another woman who would bear him as many children as he wanted. At one point or the other, he'd upload a photo of his beautiful family for the whole world to see, including his ex.

This is not the first time I have heard or even seen where bad people tend to have all the lucks in the world while good people suffer.

We have all heard stories or even experienced devastating heartbreaks in the past. It could happen the other way too l, when a young woman decides to dump a young man who had put his life and dreams on hold because of her. Who had chose her over his parents and friends. She starts a new life with another man (probably richer) and lives happily ever after.

Sometimes, the pains becomes unbearable and the betrayed would keep feeling like the "biggest fool" on Earth. Suddenly all the sorrows and agony might transform into a burning and thirsty desire for REVENGE! and one might go to any length just to have one's pound of flesh.

In the moment of seethe and bitterness, one should pause and ask oneself; what if I had ended up with such a venomous soul in a marriage that would later turn out to be my worst nightmare. Isn't it more preferable that we had gone out separate ways now?

I'd definitely use the lessons learnt from such bitter experience to be more careful next time and ofcourse become a better version of my former self. Believe me, with such a train of thought, you'd get over that unworthy fellow sooner than you thought possible. Life is short you know, trust me you don't want to spend valuable time feeling wretched or miserable.

By the way, seeking revenge simply mean that one had accepted that the other man or woman your ex settled for was better than you. And that's the worst thing that can ever happen to one's self-esteem. Even after one might have accomplished the revenge, one would continue to feel inferior and insecure for most parts of one's life. One would later realized, in retrospect that revenge never made things better, neither would it make you feel better.

I believe that there's no wrong action that is too great to forgive or let go. There's an African saying, " No matter how hard the eyes have cried, they will never cry blood".

Its understandable to feel hurt over and over again and you might just decide to go on the offensive so that others would learn how to respect you. The satisfaction one might get at the end is normally false and ephemeral . Sooner than later, one might regret such actions and become more unhappy, because that's not the kind of person you are. Allow karma to handle the situation and they would definitely meet their Waterloo in no distant time.

It's always advisable to forget about them no matter how difficult it may seem. Someone else whom they had crossed in the past or would definitely cross in the future could be used to get a revenge on your behalf. There would absolutely be no need to get your good hands dirty.

Some years ago when I was still a school girl, I had two older girls who were always breathing down on my neck. They gave me alot off heartaches and they never failed to sieze every little opportunity to bully me wether in the class, in the field and even in the hood. There was absolutely nothing I could do to them since they were bigger than I am. I was so bitter that sometimes before I sleep, I would silently pray they fail the most important exam which was the high School leaving examination .( the West African examination council). Yes, I hated them as much as they hated me.

And to my delight, they both failed core subjects in the exams. In my little mind, I felt happy and satisfied. But as I grew older , I thought about the situation all over again. What if they had performed excellently and got good results? This was very possible you know. I realized that their vendetta towards me was entirely independent of their performance in the examination. If they had studied hard enough, they would definitely had passed wether they were my enemies or not.

Had it been I heard they were successful in the exam, it would mean that I'd felt more miserable and bitter, which ofcourse wasn't quite necessary, atleast, not after all the initial humiliation and pains I have been through in their hands.

Afterall, "resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the next person to die"

So, for your own peace if mind and wellbeing. Try not to overwhelm your heart too much by being too upset. Believe me there are tons of things that you ought to be grateful for.

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