A woman shouldn't go out when it's just few days to her wedding

Yesterday, I spent my day with a friend who'se wedding would be coming up next Saturday. I and other friends had raised over a sum of $400 for her wedding. This didn't includes the money and gifts from some of her friends like me who reach out to her personally. I have known her for over 10 years, by the way.

Indeed, She had been very grateful and considered herself lucky for having such an amazing circle. But I didn't see this gesture as a big deal since it had always been what we always did for anyone of us who was getting married. She wouldn't be the first neither would she be the last to enjoy such support. She had also supported others too in the past.

We were about going to a mall to get some stuffs for her wedding when her phone rang. It was her mother and she was worried that she had left home for more than two hours. She told her mom that she was at my place and since her the woman knows me very well, she relaxed. Nevertheless, she ordered her daughter to return home in the next 30 minutes.

According to the older lady, a young lady whose marriage is just a few days away should always curtail her movements and outings, that's if she would be allowed by her parents to go out.

This wasn't the first time I would hearing this. Traditionally speaking, it is believed that a bride-to-be is most vulnerable at this stage of her life and the chances of her mixing with negative people who possess negative energy is quite high. Also, an evil eye might see her on the way and might decide to spoil the good that is coming her way by influenceing her marital life spiritually.

This is the more reason why in my parts of the country, a birde's family starts announcing the wedding of their daughter to the public just a week or two to the event. That's when everything have been organised and fixed up, both physically, financially and spiritually. When everyone is sure that nothing could go wrong.

Also, it is expected for the bride to shed tears on her wedding day and this is very popular in many cultures in the country. Naturally, one might think that the reason of her tears was because she would miss her father's home, her family and friends to start a new life somewhere else and with someone else.

But in out tradition, this has a deeper meaning. A bride should cry because it is believed that this would be the last time she would cry or be sad again. There would be absolutely no reason to cry again when she start living with her husband. Another way of saying that she would forever be happy with her husband as there wouldn't be any reason to cry again in her new home since she had cried enough on her wedding and in her father's house.

But we all know this is not always true 😆😆

In fact, some brides take this tradition so seriously that they don't mind ruining their makeup with tears . They wouldn't stop crying no matter how much they are consoled until they are sure that nothing would ever make them shed a tear again in the marriage. 😁

Well, I think it's quite ridiculous how some families still take these mundane issues so serious, for an event that wouldn't last up to 10 hours at most while they overlook more important and meaningful matters like building and maintaining a happy marriage and family life.

Thanks for reading 💝💖