Spare the rod,spoil the child

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Sparing the rod doesn't really mean we parents show beat up our child with the rod,we just need to caution them whenever they are doing the wrong thing.

There was a story of a man who beat up his female child all of the sake of the girl was merely talking to a boy, there's nothing wrong with a girl talking to a boy but in the modern era,parents tend to have some opposite thinking/mentality that if they let their female child have any conversation with the male figure it might later lead to pregnancy or something related to that,they are thinking the way round and having a different mentality which doesn't seems that way they should look at things,we just create a mentality of thinking they would get pregnant just by talking or hugging each other,we need to stop that thinking.

We should at least let our children express theirselves with peer groups and opposite sex,but we should also watch them if they are going the wrong way either,most parents in the world today thinks beating up a child is the only way to keep our children disciplined and well trained, it's contrary.

I've researched something about beating children,I have a cousin who lives with us and does things that you won't believe most times but beating him wouldn't make him change so the best way for me is to caution him anytime i find out he is doing something bad and gradually he is changing his act, beating up a child would only cause them injury and some scars but wouldn't change what's in their mind to do,we just need to caution them always to stop doing that and whenever they come to think of it that you've been repeating those words often, they'll change and be disciplined that's how to train a child.

Harsh treatment started in high schools where teachers beat student to discipline them for any wrong act they committed, following the rules and regulations guiding the school authority, it's so silly where the teachers expect all students to pass the exams they are been given and spare the rod on those that failed the exams,teachers need to focus on the weakness of a child rather than beating up a child for not doing well in exams whereas some teachers don't attend classes.

It's insensitive to spare the rod on a child at all times, let's try to build a strong relationship within our kids and ourselves,by doing so the children would be well cultured and trained in a good manner.

Now take for instance the man who beat up his female child with 30 strokes of Cain without even asking them several questions about what they were discussing about,they might be discussing about nature of class work which they did,the girl was reasonable enough to talk with the boy in public not in some dark room but still she got beaten by her dad.

That's not a way to handle situations,if i was the father I'll have love to throw questions to the girl and hear her say about what they were discussing then also call the boy to ask questions,then after comparing the two stories and they are the same, I'll just let them continue their discussion.

Most good children nowadays are been spoiled when parents spare the rod on them,they become rebellious,most times whenever a child is been beaten they become intransigent whenever they look at themselves and know that what they are doing isn't bad.

Some parents might be surprised how can a child get beaten for doing nothing,well it happens almost everytime whenever the parents aren't listening to their child's story and perspective.

I've said a story once where i explained it more better,let me share it again so you would understand what am trying to say.

There was a certain boy who was fond of stealing people's writing material in school,he started with pencil to pen and advanced to books,the mother didn't say any work whenever the child was coming home with different writing materials,after primary school the boy became an armed robber stealing people's car and precious things,on a certain day,he was caught red handed trying to steal but that day was his last day he didn't go scot-free,he was brought to the court and was about to be hung so they asked him if he wanted to talk to any of his family members and he said they should help him call his mom and they did so,when the mother of the child was brought he called his mom to come forward and yank off his mother ear with his teeth and when the judge asked him why he did so he told them that when he was stealing petty things his mom never told him it was wrong but just kept quiet so he was thinking she was encouraging him more,he was later hung and the mother regretted her actions.

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