Religion and Marriage

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It would seem I am on a marriage row. This is another of my marriage talk series. As I was engaging with the community earlier today, particularly on @Bilqees article. Something made me think about an hypothetical situation. I am not going to share the details about that, but I will be talking about the epiphany it gave me.

Surely you know marriage is the theme of this article. Today, I will be talking about the reaching a compromise in differences in belief. Surely, two people who want to commit to each other will be different in more ways than one. One of those differences can be in culture or native language. Here in my country, even though there many different ethnic groups and culture, marriages are often between people from the same ethnic group.

Well, today’s article is not particularly about cultural differences, but religious one. With my country as the reference, there are two major religions in my country; Christianity and Islam. It is uncommon to see two people from different religious background get married, at least in my part of the country. When it does happen, you hear one of couple either converts to their partner’s religion or each of them continue with their respective faiths. I think the call for same religion is to make it easier to bring up their offspring in one faith.

I am not a religious person, some may even say that I am not religious at all, but I grew up in a Christian home. I had often think that we are faithfuls of religion we were born into. That is why this religious difference can pose a problem to the children. Also, it is why I think one person changes to the other person’s religion. Most often, it is the woman who converts.

I think the first question I’ll ask my readers, which is an important one is whether you can marry someone who is not of the same religious background as you? People look at that too as a criteria. I have heard Christians say that they cannot marry someone who is a Muslim and I have also heard Muslims say that they can marry someone who is a Christian. For one, the two religions does not the same forms of marriage. As far as I know, Islam isn’t against polygamy but Christianity on the other hand is. What I don’t know is if Islam supports polyandry (my readers can help me out with this).

Personally, I can marry from either of the two religious background, as long as there is a mutual understanding between us. I cannot think that love can or should be bounded by religious (for the lack of better word) bigotry. Also, I wouldn’t compel my wife to go against what she believes and follow my belief, but I guess it is necessary for smooth operation of the family, especially the children.

Growing up, I can say that religion was forced on many people, you are forced to go to church and forced to go to the mosque not. Children don’t really have much say in that aspect of their life, at least not until they become adults. A lot of people may not agree with this, but it is the harsh truth. If we were not forced to churches or mosques, we may not have grown up to be Christians or Muslims respectively. Maybe pagans or agnostics or atheists. There is a fine line between all.

So that I am not bounded in perception to just Islam and Christianity, it is worthy to note that there are thousands of religions in the world and each of them have their specific doctrines and what they believe is true. Marriage is a common institution across the world and it is mostly a union between two people who are different from each other and from other people in the world.

In conclusion, the question I want to leave with you all is:

CAN YOU MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS FROM A DIFFERENT RELIGIOUS BACKGROUND?

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I think the issues with marrying from different religion is usually made into a mess by the families involved. If you ever ask the two parties in love, they don't mind going ahead with it but it's the families that always create an issue where there shouldn't. I can marry a Muslim as long as our attitude complements each other. It's all about who the person is to me.

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Yes, you are absolutely right. Oftentimes, the family of the bride and groom may not want to accept the marriage because of the religious difference, thus, making it difficult for the couple.

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Yes... All the ones I've noticed, the parents are the ones making it difficult.

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Islam give permission to marry Christian because Christianity and Islam religions are holy religions |I am living in Pakistan and Muslim and I have found many christian and Muslims marrying each other ❤️✨respect

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Oh. That is refreshing to hear. It is not so here in my country.

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Same here, it's uncommon to see christian and Muslim getting married and the only possible case is if one of them convert to another religion

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You are right about that.

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I am already married and I marry a person with the same religion as me. I prefer to choose someone with the same beliefs as we all know that faith in our God is one among the many foundation of a family. If both husband and wife don't have the same belief, what will happen to the children? children will wonder what and who to follow bringing a lot of questions. Though love is the very first thing needed, also religion or belief plays an important role too.

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You are right that it can affect the children when it comes to which religion to go with.

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At the outset, I will tell you that Islam allows polygamy, meaning that a man has the right to marry 4 women at the same time. As for the other question, I am a person who does not look at others based on their religion because I believe that it is something that they did not choose. As I said, you are a Christian because you were born into a Christian family. If you were born in another place, you would be of a different religion. I have no problem marrying someone of a different religion, it doesn't really matter to me, what matters to me is his being as a human. by the way my parents are from two different religions and their lives are a wonderful mixture of love and respect

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Beautiful! I am curious, does the fact that both your parents are not of the same religion affect you in any way when it comes to choosing a religion?

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Not at all, it is really nice to be able to learn about different religions while you are in the same house, then I am not biased to any denomination, I believe in God and that is what matter the most

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That is good to hear. But do you subscribe to your dad's or your mom's religion.

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Dad's not because he forced me or something, but this is the state system .. but in real life I have freedom to believe in whatever I want

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That is true. So what is your religion, Christian, Muslim or?

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Islam does not support polyandry. A man can have up to 4 wives, but a woman can only have 1 husband.

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Oh great. I wonder why it gives a man that privilege and not a woman.

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Seen in a historical perspective, male polygamy (officially or unofficially) has been the norm in almost all major civilisations. The ancient Greeks broke this, but that is likely to have been a reluctant adaption to circumstances; they had a deficiency of women. Then the Romans inherited monogamy from the Greeks, and Christianity (and Judaism) did so as well. (Old Judaism permitted male polygamy, compare people of the old Testament of the Bible.)

Biologically, mammals where the male is bigger than the female, normally practise male "polygamy" (compare gorillas).

Then we have the fact that a man can produce a child every day (or more), a woman only once a year (or longer). We don't find it desirable to get that many children, but when we developed as a species, it might have been favourable for the species that men who were strong reproduced as much as possible. Thus it settled in our genes. So, male polygamy might very well be the biologically natural for humans. When culture dictates differently, there will be a clash between culture and nature.

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This is actually amazing, and I like how you explained it from different perspective. Aptly done and my curiosity was satisfied. Thanks so much for this.

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I don't think so If I can marry to a someone that is different from my religion. I don't know how does things will going maybe it can change the perspective if you really love the person.

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I suppose you are right. Love can be a reason one would.

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