June 24, 2022

Why we love to keep secrets? Are there alot of benefits of keeping secrets from everyone, even it will affect our humanities?

If you are in noise you know this topic already, but I will share it here.

I have my neighbor who is already 7months pregnant now, and her mother-in-law knew this thing a while ago lang, and since I am not interested with her so I am not bother also if she was just fat or preggy, but other people are already speculating about her that she mightbe pregnant.

So the confirmation was came from her mother-in-law, she opened it up to me the other day, its the reason pala why ndi na ito naglalaba, so I was shock to hear that it was already 7months akala ko mga 2-3months lng. So I asked the mother-in-law if she had undergo a series of check up coz its the first thing we need to do if we are pregnant,to check the babies inside our tummy if they are fine and doing well inside,and to think that she is already 7months pregnant,she must undergo ultrasound. But the mother-in-law can't answer me about the check ups and other activity a pregnant woman need to do kasi nga lately nya lng din nalaman.

So out of curiosity, I have a friend who work in the center, so I call her attention one time and ask her if my neighbor have a record in the center about her pregnancy, and she said no daw, ndi daw ito naliligaw sa center, so sabi nya bakit ndi sya nagpapacheck up, sabi ko ndi ko din alam bka nahihiya sya ipaalam na buntis sya kasi kahit dito sa neighbor eh lately lng nalaman na buntis sya at 7months. Bakit daw mahihiya eh ginawa nila un at may asawa naman, yes she have a point there, but she was advice not get pregnant kasi nga hirap sila sa buhay and ung hsband is somewhat inaabot ng sakit(depression na minsan parang nasisira ang ulo) thats the main reason, pero andyan na so accept the reality na dapat diba.

But since I am not that type of makikialam so I just inform the mother-in-law na dapat nagpapacheck-up sya, even sa center lng dahil there are alot of cases na giving birth at 7months amd to think na tagtag sya sa biyahe at nakamotor lng 5 times a week. And I also informed the mother-in-law that tuesday and wednesday theres a on-duty nurse at the center and inform her manugang to have her check up, even just for the sake of the baby.

Ang hirap kaya na mmya bigla sya manganak na walang karecord record, and we still have the covid restrictions kaya its not that easy to give birth nowadays.

After sharing my ideas to the mother-in-law I stop asking coz its not my problem anymore if what move she will be doing, dahil ndi naman un first baby eh its 5th baby already so she already knew what to do with her case.

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Why is it that during our pregnancy we keep it a secret at first ba? I myself keep my pregnancy a secret from my mother but not that long, I think month only coz after I got delayed for a month then nagpacheck up ako and it was confirmed that I was pregnant, I started telling my family already, and also nasa sobra na nga ako sa edad 37 na ako kaya bakit pa itatago diba. Then thats it. Even my youngest sister did the same after yhe confirmation that she was pregnant she inform us immediately.

Sometimes, we are afraid of what people or family will tell us but we did it eventhough we knew the consequence of our actions, so why need to keep it a secret for a very long time diba. Sabi nga ginawa mo yan kaya panindigan mo.