Why keeping it a Secret?

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2 years ago

June 24, 2022

Why we love to keep secrets? Are there alot of benefits of keeping secrets from everyone, even it will affect our humanities?

If you are in noise you know this topic already, but I will share it here.

I have my neighbor who is already 7months pregnant now, and her mother-in-law knew this thing a while ago lang, and since I am not interested with her so I am not bother also if she was just fat or preggy, but other people are already speculating about her that she mightbe pregnant.

So the confirmation was came from her mother-in-law, she opened it up to me the other day, its the reason pala why ndi na ito naglalaba, so I was shock to hear that it was already 7months akala ko mga 2-3months lng. So I asked the mother-in-law if she had undergo a series of check up coz its the first thing we need to do if we are pregnant,to check the babies inside our tummy if they are fine and doing well inside,and to think that she is already 7months pregnant,she must undergo ultrasound. But the mother-in-law can't answer me about the check ups and other activity a pregnant woman need to do kasi nga lately nya lng din nalaman.

So out of curiosity, I have a friend who work in the center, so I call her attention one time and ask her if my neighbor have a record in the center about her pregnancy, and she said no daw, ndi daw ito naliligaw sa center, so sabi nya bakit ndi sya nagpapacheck up, sabi ko ndi ko din alam bka nahihiya sya ipaalam na buntis sya kasi kahit dito sa neighbor eh lately lng nalaman na buntis sya at 7months. Bakit daw mahihiya eh ginawa nila un at may asawa naman, yes she have a point there, but she was advice not get pregnant kasi nga hirap sila sa buhay and ung hsband is somewhat inaabot ng sakit(depression na minsan parang nasisira ang ulo) thats the main reason, pero andyan na so accept the reality na dapat diba.

But since I am not that type of makikialam so I just inform the mother-in-law na dapat nagpapacheck-up sya, even sa center lng dahil there are alot of cases na giving birth at 7months amd to think na tagtag sya sa biyahe at nakamotor lng 5 times a week. And I also informed the mother-in-law that tuesday and wednesday theres a on-duty nurse at the center and inform her manugang to have her check up, even just for the sake of the baby.

Ang hirap kaya na mmya bigla sya manganak na walang karecord record, and we still have the covid restrictions kaya its not that easy to give birth nowadays.

After sharing my ideas to the mother-in-law I stop asking coz its not my problem anymore if what move she will be doing, dahil ndi naman un first baby eh its 5th baby already so she already knew what to do with her case.

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Why is it that during our pregnancy we keep it a secret at first ba? I myself keep my pregnancy a secret from my mother but not that long, I think month only coz after I got delayed for a month then nagpacheck up ako and it was confirmed that I was pregnant, I started telling my family already, and also nasa sobra na nga ako sa edad 37 na ako kaya bakit pa itatago diba. Then thats it. Even my youngest sister did the same after yhe confirmation that she was pregnant she inform us immediately.

Sometimes, we are afraid of what people or family will tell us but we did it eventhough we knew the consequence of our actions, so why need to keep it a secret for a very long time diba. Sabi nga ginawa mo yan kaya panindigan mo.

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Takot kase sa reaction ng tao madam pero ang importante namn is pinanindigan yung bata so carry lang. 💯

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2 years ago

Ganyan po yung aunt ko dati its dangerous po sa kanya and lalo na para sa bata kaya ayuj buti namn po at naamin agad at naayos na sa mga check ups bakit kasi need itago maybe they are fear or di talaga nia ginusto pero we don't know, ang alam lang naten is may rason sila pero it's not that right to hide it when sila mismo ang maapektuhan pati na ang bata.

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2 years ago

Tama! Tapos kawawa ang baby sis ksi need ng vitamins while nasa tiyan pa ang bta.

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2 years ago

Kya nga,ewan ba bakit need pa itago for 7months

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2 years ago

Ui Ang laki Ng 7 months. Asan kya mga utak nila at di mn lng naawa sa baby.

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2 years ago

Ewan ba sis, bahala nga sya ndi na naman sya bata

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2 years ago

Maybe because of the side comments ate kaya madalas kini-keep as secrets. Lalo mga Pinoy ang daming say palagi.

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2 years ago

Yes andun na tayo pero 7months? Buti if nagsecret check up ka din, paano if wala? Then tagtag pa sya sa biyahe dahil nakamotor lng back and forth then malayo ung work

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2 years ago

Ang tagal nun ate. Pero may case din, pinsan ng jowa ko na minor pa. 8 months na tiyan nya bago nagsabi sa magulang. Chubby kasi kaya hindi nahalata, grabe ang galing magtago non.

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2 years ago

For surr nahihiya yan talaga. Kaso 7months ang tagal naman nyang natago gsno kaliit ang tiyan noon. Baka iniipit ano, kawawa naman if ever aguyy.

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2 years ago

Tumaba sya pero akala ng iba taba lng, ngaun lng umamin sa biyenan na buntis uli

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2 years ago

Siguro ayaw niya lang ma-misjudge siya nang mga tao ate pero I believe dapat ipinaalam din niya po sa family niya. Umabot pa nang 7 months

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2 years ago

Kya nga kawawa din kya ang bata na pilit na tinatago

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2 years ago

I guess people are just afraid of judgement that's why they keep secrets. For instance, in pregnancy, one will surely hide pregnancy because of being scared that people might throw something bad words towards them that they can't embrace.

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2 years ago

True but you did it so we must accept the consequneces and keeping for 7months is not healthy anymore

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2 years ago

For sure she have her own reason why she keep it as a secret. In my part, matagal kasi ako nabuntis after kasal namin almost 2 years pa.. kaya nung delayed pa lang ako sinabi ko na sa asawa at sister in law ako, she advised mag PT at yun positive nga.. excited na ang lahat.. Walang secret na nagyari hehehe.

Okay din sis na you give some advise

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2 years ago

Un nga kaya lng sis to keep it for 7months, eh diba may mga anti-tetanus na dapat iturok sa atin at mga vitamins na need inumin

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2 years ago

Ou sis need nya din yun

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2 years ago

37 kana nagkababy momsh? Sakin walang secret secret hehe pinaalam ko kagad sa mga officemate ko after ko mag pt haha

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2 years ago

Oo mommy hehe

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2 years ago

I think most people believe that others do not wish them well so that is why they keep the pregnancy a secret. I think it is very common in various parts of the world. And I don't think there's anything bad in hiding your pregnancy until it is very obvious. If I get pregnant tomorrow, I'll do the same

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2 years ago

But to keep it for 7months, and without check ups? Do you think it is healthy? We knew that we need some vitamins and extra care for oursleves and the baby

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2 years ago

No, I can't do that She should have gone to the hospital earlier

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2 years ago

Siguro nahihiya siya dahil hindi siya open sa mother in law niya. Kawawa naman po siya. Need niya maging honest para sa ikakabuti ng baby niya.

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2 years ago

Close sya sa mother in law nya, pero ndi namin alam bakit nilihim nya pa eh 7months na, ndi tuloy alam if nakapagpacheck up na sya

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2 years ago