Take time to be alone

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1 year ago

Being alone is not being sad or lonely so there is no harm if you take time to be by yourself and think about things.

Take time to be alone because that is how you find peace and time for yourself.

I came across this video online where a guy approached a lady all alone. The guy then asked the lady if she could hold the flowers he was holding, to which the lady readily did, so that the guy can tie his shoelaces. When he was done, he said to the lady to have a nice day and left leaving the flowers behind.

I thought was cute and heartwarming.

A couple of days later, I saw clip which featured that video. In it the lady in the video said that she saw a lot of posts and comments online about that video of hers and most assumed that she was lonely and sad old lady.

To her that was not right for she was neither sad nor lonely. She felt that the video was not about her but rather it was for the content creator who posted the video online without her consent even.

She had become another victim of content creators.

This reminded me of a post by @Ruffa about being alone but not lonely.

Let us normalize being alone.

Another post online is about a guy who was sitting by himself and the author of the post captioned it as "the lonely guy" and the author wanted to keep the guy company but he/she was shy. The guy doesn't seem lonely. He looks like someone who was enjoying his meal while busy on his phone.

When did "me time" become not normal?

For the past couple of days, I was not that in a great mental and emotional state. I haven't been that active in blogging platforms because I was just not feeling it. Yes, I do go about some of my routines and still go on with life but I still need my own time to think and process why I feel what I feel and that's normal.

We still spend some time together with my partner in the same room but I still like to go to the other room to be alone and, again, that's normal.

A lot of content creators these days are just for that - content. They don't even have the decency to ask permission for those people in their videos if they are willing to be videoed or photographed. If you want to do good deeds, like really help people, then do it willingly and wholeheartedly without having to record it and showing it to the world. I mean that is not that bad but to make it more about yourself, that's what makes it bad.

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I'm one of those that find it hard to concentrate when disturbed while working on a plan that needs deep reasoning. I ponder more on findings whenever I'm a lone.

The issue of a Camera behind a giving hand is a major issue in our world today and it's not looking to end soon

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1 year ago

Indeed. We need all energy and concentration for some important things.

That's a sad reality.

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1 year ago

Sometimes I feel like going out alone too, because it is when I feel more peaceful. And I think people should normalize it.

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1 year ago

And that's a good thing. We can't always have someone to accompany us.

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1 year ago

We can make our alone and free time productive by doing activities like thinking, evaluating past and building roadmap.

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1 year ago

Absolutely! That's one thing that others don't realize.

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1 year ago

Actually yong topic ko is dun ko din nakita sa "Lonely Guy" kuno na di naman mukhang lonely dahil he looks like enjoying his self alone with his air pods. Ang dami lang nag assume talaga. Yan ang nakakainis ee. Kunyare sincere yong concern nong iba but deep inside it is just for their "content." Like seriously haha. Leave them alone sana , di nga ata nila al yong salitang "me time."

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1 year ago

Di ba? Natawa na lang ako dun sa post na yan e na naawa sa taong ganun mag isip. Lagi ka na lang magdedepend sa iba para sumaya? Ganun naisip ko.

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1 year ago

Hahaha ambot nalang talaga sa kanila

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1 year ago

Lol!

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1 year ago

We need to normalize being alone. Being alone doesn't mean someone is sad. It's a weird narrative that people have. We all need time alone and apart to stay in touch with our inner self...it's a time to refuel and re-energize. We heal differently and that's her way of healing and reflecting...it doesn't mean she's lonely and I love how you said we should normalize being alone.

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1 year ago

Good to know we are on the same page on this :)

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1 year ago

Absolutely.

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1 year ago

I love this piece, it's not everyone that is alone that is lonely. Some just enjoy their time being alone. Like me now, I enjoy it when I am alone sometimes cos I have time to reminisce on some things about my life and all.

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1 year ago

Another evidence that we need time alone :)

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1 year ago

Sometimes, it is normal to be alone when you just want to have your privacy and to allow you reminisce and reflect on life but it is so different from being lonely.

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1 year ago

Alone time with ourselves is about having some reflections in our life. You must understand why people tend to have alone time because they want some peace, after all it's what matter the most now, to have peace.

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1 year ago

Right on! :)

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1 year ago

I agree we all need alone time. Yes we need time to reflect how we feel and why we feel a certain way. It allows us to sometimes make adjustments and be in a better place.

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1 year ago

Absolutely! At the end of the day, we need downtime to process what happened throughout our day.

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1 year ago

Giving yourself time is very important. Some time alone is necessary and it is important to give yourself time.

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1 year ago

I hope you have had time for yourself today :)

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1 year ago

That's where content creators fail. Labelling and failing to ask permission. They are making money without asking permission from the people they film. Too bad some people don't value alone time. It's liberating and addicting. They should try it some time.

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1 year ago

Mapapailing ka na lang talaga kung anong mga contents meron online.

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1 year ago

Ako sir lee. Sanay na ako mag isa simula nung nag work ako. Dami akong na learn pag mag isa. Minsan nakakalungkot din kasi gusto mo may makausap wala kang makausap.

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1 year ago

Un lang din. Minsan need natin may kausap.

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1 year ago

Oo sir aabot talaga yung time na gusto mo may kausap ka.

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1 year ago

I admit, isa ako sa mga tao na parang ang lonely kapag magisa lang parang ako pero it doesn't mean na I don't enjoy my alone time. Di lang talaga ako nagttravel ng magisa hahaha

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1 year ago

Understandable naman un pagtravel pero ung taking a break lang nagmu-muni-muni lang di ibig sabihin lonely na agad hehe.

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1 year ago

Nagsubli ka met ditoy? hehe. Being alone doesn't necessarily mean you are lonely and vice versa. You could be lonely in a family of 10ppl by not appreciating you in so many ways. English dayta hehe

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1 year ago

Wen haha! Mas kayat ko ngay ditoy hehe.

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1 year ago

I think when we understand out our internal potential that day we admire the task of sitting alone.

I have seen many people this time they are Doing good deed just for sake of fame. Also Photographing helps folks to motivate themselves and to be a part of this chain. But the true Intentions is only known by Almighty.

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1 year ago

You are right. We will never know the true intention of others until it is revealed in the end.

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