Be a Woman Who Pays Her Own Bills

Recently, the Philippines had just celebrated its Independence Day which indicates the country's freedom from foreign governments. Thru the bravery and patriotism of our ancestors that we were able to run our country as a Democratic nation. Kudos to them.

However in a third world country like ours, women have been fighting for their freedom or might as well say their right to be equal with men. Women don't have the freedom or privilege like men do. They were deprived of higher education, not allowed to take some college courses (for those who can afford to enter college way back) which were intended for men, they can't partake in politics. They were merely seen as a weakling or one designed for the house only, do certain jobs which were for women only.

Fortunately, peoples mindset gradually changed over time but was seen unlady like by men before. Women gained their right of equality with men that they were able to do things like men do that includes engineering, law, women in uniform, politics and many more.

(Pls note that I was speaking my mind according to my observation of the past, what I read and some experiences. And because we are talking about bills, literally we are speaking money or financial aspects).

But then some were not fortunate enough to be able to step in college and that was because of lack of financial needed for tertiary education, some married early because of the thought that marrying would free them from their current situation. Well, who should we blame? The society, us. We were brought up with the wrong mindset or notion by our elders and their elders before them. Even in school, we were only taught that to achieve success is thru education and that is of course finishing a degree. Society had also instilled in a girl's mind to get a husband if she can't pursue higher education so that someone would feed her and not become a burden to her parents anymore.(This basically was in the past, right or is it still happening now)? We were seldomly taught that we can still be successful even without proper education and that is thru entrepreneurship, skills and talents we have. So that still places education as the dominating factor for a bright future.

Thankfully we have women who were brave enough to voice their beliefs, opinions, and thoughts regarding gender equality. This empowered other women to act also. Because who would like to be treated as a weakling when in fact women also excell in the fields where most men do? Women were also paid less which is one thing women have been figting also. If men can, so do we! That's women empowering women. Women are encouraged to stand and be courageous enough and not be a total submissive, lower counterpart of men. Well, women are expected to be submissive especially to their husband but not to the point of getting abused.

Gladly, I can see lots of ladies nowadays especially single mothers out there who were juggling their time to finish a degree, to their child, and being an entrepreneur most especially online selling. And with COVID-19 that requires modular and online classes, some were able to bring out the best of their skills and talents which made them money to support them. Some single mothers chose to be one because of instances that happened along the way and others were merely dumped by their no balls boyfriend after learning about their pregnancy. And they even chose to be strong and independent in raising their child which some really didn't look forward for financial support from their child's father.

Importance of being financially stable especially before marrying

1. Dont depend solely on husbands money. Yes, the man should be the provider but ladies, we are women who needs extra care for our hygiene and toiletries. I can remember when I was still selling online I was able to buy me things like facial and skin care, my kids needs and wants, do groceries and pay electric bills with my own money, and especially started to pay random kids for sand and gravel from the river. Sadly, I've got a not-so-supportive of a hubby who wouldn't appreciate my effort and little accomplishment.

Thankfully, I stumbled across readcash which I am now busy at and I do purchases online with my earnings from time to time and no need to ask money from my hubs.

Bottom line: there's no need to be dependent.

2. Won't be afraid to take actions. Honestly speaking, there were only a few good men out there. Some would even be shameless to tell their partners/ wife they were just "palamunin" or someone they were just feeding when in fact the wife has a child to care for. An independent woman without any hint of martyrdom would walk out of the house bravely and tell the world with her little one by her arms she could stand on her own like she did before.

Women, on the course of time have became the same with her men counterpart but with grace and ladylike manner. Though sometimes, still underestimated.

So as parents who are now the main teacher to their kids, we need to educate our children about the importance of skills learned and acquired, nurture their gifts by trying to let them feel confident of what they have. As for me, I am trying to encourage my two kids to bring out what they can and not focus mainly on their modules. But I have observed they were not interested to do things unlike in traditional face to face schooling wherein they are challenged by their classmates. I keep adding that with skills and talents plus a touch of confidence could make one successful. My daughter who is only four doesn't understand much but I try to boost her confidence because she was the shy type. I want her to grow to be an independent woman someday. Someone who isn't afraid to spread her wings and explore the world, not one who is afraid to leave the nest and fears she might fall when she tries to fly. In short, confident enough to leave her comfort zone so that she may learn more things that is beneficial for her growth as a person and a woman.

I know there are still lots to mention of benefits of being a woman who pays her own bills but my mind reached its capacity of thinking. You may add them in the comment section.

It was supposed to be publish on the 14th or 15th but the network connection was very poor.

05-18-21

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