If parents drink

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A father drove into a school.
He wasn't satisfied with the school, argued with the teachers. He went home and after some drinks, he no longer hesitated to get his right, he would teach the school of his child a lesson. He didn't care about the fact children, parents and teachers were present or what hos child would think about him. He ended up on the schoolyard flat on his face handcuffed and taken away by the police.

A child lives for years in a closet because the drunk stepfather doesn't want to see it and the mother "forgets" about her child most of the time. This child is not the only one who has a life worse than an animal.

Children watch their father beating up their mother because drinking gives him a bad mood and he can't help it. There's no way they can help their mom. They live in fear of what will happen next. In fear and silence is taught how "a real man" behaves.

The neighbor is always drunk. She scolds at each person. Drunk beggars make it hard to pass by or enter a shop. If you give them they will not buy bread but you support their behavior.


My parents didn't drink.
They had a cupboard filled with different drinks but this was part of what we call "hospitality". If you offer a drink you ask what a person likes and you have it available. I doubt one bottle was ever emptied.
The only day in the year we celebrated with alcohol was New Year's Eve. One bottle of champagne for the whole family which included grandmother, aunt, and uncle.
The only alcohol my grandmother consumed on rare occasions was egg liquor. She poured a bit in a very small glass (enough for one tablespoon), added some whipped cream to it, and ate it with the tiniest spoon I ever saw. A spoon specially made for this yellow treat. One bottle was good for many years.

In my country, regular beer is seen as alcohol for the low working class and jobless people. Those who drink without being thirsty, drink to forget and out of habit. People who do not care about their increasing beer bellies.

If you watch soap series on tv you see what and how the rich and famous drink.
Does a moody wealthy guy with a whiskey glass in his hand look better than the plumber with his crate with 24 bottles of beer next to his sofa? Is being drunk by drinking Johnny Walker less dangerous than being drunk from beer? What makes one an alcoholic? Out of experiences I know it's not always easy to tell or recognize.

An alcoholic is someone who can not say no to a drink offered, someone who drinks out of habit, someone who always finds excuses why to finish the last or open the next bottle, buy more. A drinker is sneaky. Alcoholics act smart and can still be charming, attentive, go to their job, and function well.

Alcohol is not a magic drink and it should not be used for an excuse to relax, find the courage to talk to someone or be used to be jolly.

If you need alcohol to "be good company" this means you do not like yourself. In reality, drinkers make rarely good companies. They are annoying, sweat and smell terrible, they cannot control their voice and rarely show their best qualities.
Alcohol does change the view you have on life and it does more.
You might be a good company for your fellow drinking mates but if you like it or not it eats your brains. Excessive abuse doesn't make you smarter, it affects the fertility and the people around you, your (unborn) children as well.

No child will ever state it's fun being raised by parents who show more interest in a bottle of beer, in partying and drinking.

Children can be loyal for a very long time but it doesn't mean they don't feel embarrassed about their parent's behavior, they like that "jolly" parent who "easily connects" to someone.

Consuming alcohol affects, just like smoking, eating too much and drugs, the health of others, and harm them as well.
You can ignore it if you live alone on an island. If this is not the case your acting has consequences. Consequences for those who have to be around you. Children are one of them.
Believe me, children are smart. From a very young age on they can tell if a parent acts weird. They recognize the smell and a drinking person makes them feel insecure. If you need your daily drink to make it through the day you are labile and better ask yourself what makes you believe alcohol is the solution to your problems. Why don't you eat chocolate to boost yourself and give you that happy feeling? Happiness makes feel confident too.

There are many ways to improve your social skills, ways which you can practice. A bottle is not a friend and it will not resolve your problems you only create more by your behavior. If you can no longer think with a clear mind it will be harder to find a solution or help.


Parents who drink harm their children and make a bad example.
No one should teach a child to drink. For years alcohol was given to babies (brandy with sugar) to keep them quiet and put them asleep. Beer was drunk by little children (although it wasn't seen as alcohol during these days). We know better by now. At least the educated people among us do. We know what the effects of alcohol are, we know it poisons the mind and body and we know most donor organs needed are the liver and kidney.

Being young, the need to have fun is no excuse for drinking and harming others with your behavior.
The amount of drunken drivers increases and so are those killed by drinkers.
The amount of children raised by a parent who drinks is extremely high and does have consequences. Consequences for its development, it's attitude if it comes to life and its challenges and how to deal with problems. Behavior or misbehavior a whole society has to deal with has to pay for and will be a victim of.
Aggression and violence will extremely expand if a drinker can no longer think straight, loses all control over hos thoughts and deeds.

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I love drinking nice so good

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4 years ago

It is clear you didn't read what I wrote. What a pity.

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4 years ago

This concluded everything that I have seen. Some to be respected, mostly to be avoided.

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4 years ago

It's better and safer to avoid and no environment to raise children in. CPS told me once if the father was a drunk it was the children their natural environment. I asked the stupid... what she would do if the mother was an alcoholic. I think you can figure out the answer yourself.

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4 years ago

I agree and that is why we ran away from all of it. The only problem is that we ran way too far from my workplace 😅😅

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4 years ago

Thank you for this. Now I remember some of the effects of it. Soon will publish and enter the contest too.

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4 years ago

You are welcome. I am sure while writing you will remember more. All good to write about. What happens in real life is what keeps people's minds busy and these are the questions they search answers for.

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4 years ago

Thats true.

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4 years ago

Alcohol is not good for health. It is also not good for family, society and country. We all should avoid alcohol.

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4 years ago

It cost the society a lot of money. People need to learn to to drink and see it as a solution of their problems... The problems will not be solved once sober again.

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4 years ago

Yes. You are absolutely right.

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4 years ago

I agree with you. There are times that am occasion calls for a drink. It does help us relax and have fun. However, we should be a responsible drinker. Drink mdoerately. Not too much. Drinking too much can affect a lot of things which I will give details on my entry for you contest. Your article convinced me. My mind is like "there are a lot of things we have to talk about" hahaha

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4 years ago

There are a lot of things we can talk about indeed and the same topic is good for other communities as well. This is written for parenting but there's Share Your Thoughts - values and Columnist too. 👍

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4 years ago

Drinking alcohol is not that bad. It's just alcohol has a chemical composition that alters the mind and body awareness. It also makes someone dizzy or give them drowsiness. It also make someone aggressive explaining the harming behavior said in this article. It is true, there's no doubt about it. When someone is in the midst of something painful, stress and problems most likely alcohol is the solution they see. Why? Because for them it also releases or relieve the pain and they think it lighten the weight of problems in their mind. Resulting in dizziness and drowsiness as I said earlier. But for me, I prefer instead of drinking alcohol why you just seek advice from your parents. Or let your family cheer you up. Don't rely on alcohol for it has been proven that it has many negative affects in your mind as well as your body and also may break the bonds between you and your family & friends. Also the best way to eliminate stress and problems is talk to God.

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4 years ago

It is not most likely to grab a bottle of whiskey if you are in pain. If this is normal to you it means you have been raised by a family or community which finds it acceptable. They told you this is the way to deal with pain, frustration, etc.

In the world where I live it's not acceptable. We talk, try to find solutions, deal with pain and loss because it's part of life. We cry out eyes off and some bang their head against the wall, another jog for hours or eat ice cream and we ask for help. We face what is going on and the first thought isn't "let's drink".

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4 years ago

The effects of excessive drinking can not be overemphasize. Imagine having to use money meant for family upkeep to drink and therefore plunging the family more into financial constraints. I hope this posts goes viral and gets to the people it's meant for

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4 years ago

I hope so too but I think the real drinker will not read it. It's the same with our government's campaign. You see two little children play with a kite and a drunk driver approaches them. Next, you hear a loud bang and see the kite fly free. Quiet shocking but not for the alcoholic... My brother in law is one of them, drinks while driving and has a child...

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4 years ago

Children are the most vulnerable, it is sad that they have to live in a family where there is an alcoholic, they have to face many things alone, responsibilities that correspond to the parents, care for other children, they are frequently abused and have a high probability of be alcoholics they too ...

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4 years ago

It is indeed. There's no safe place to be and no one you can share your problems with. Shame is part of it and not knowing if being loyal helps.

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