Loving Is Not Enough
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"There is no such thing as love in peace. It is always accompanied by agonies, ecstasies, intense joys and deep sorrows". - Paulo Coelho
In these advanced times, it seems that love has lost its strength, its strength, today it is easier to have a relationship without commitment, where it is only sex and passion, to build a love from scratch, where both people put their effort, dedication and have a solid, stable, beautiful and unique relationship. Unfortunately for some people it is better to blame love for their love failures, than to understand that love is not just an I love you, it is not just a hug or a few kisses, it goes beyond that.
Loving Each Other Is Not Enough In A Relationship...
When we have a relationship, at the beginning everything is beautiful, those butterflies in the stomach, that emotion to see each other, to listen to each other, to dedicate beautiful songs, that smile of joy, those bright eyes, that look like a star, but... Time passes, and the problems begin, I feel bored, I need my space, the discussions because the differences come out, there is no mutual agreement or any way to understand each other, and because of this, is when a third or even a fourth enters the relationship. Unfortunately we forget something, no matter how much love there is in a relationship, this is not enough to sustain it, to grow, to strengthen it, because love must be accompanied by good communication, trust, mutual support, understanding, we all have differences, but we are not going to argue, and say thousands of barbarities, on the contrary, we have to find a way to understand each other, to respect what each one thinks, and move forward, understanding that each one has different perceptions but still love and love each other.
The Keys to a Healthy Relationship
If there is something that many of us have heard or read, is that over time love dies, love passes, it may be true, but obviously this happens by ourselves, we must understand that in a relationship, there are factors that complement what they are feeling, that love that is expressed, because it is not only about saying it, but also to demonstrate it, I can say I love Read.Cash, and yet I have to ask, ¿am I demonstrating it?. We should always talk less and do more. The Keys Are:
Communicate everything - Many of the failures in a relationship, where love is intense, is that both parties keep things to themselves, hoping that someone guesses them, they think they have a partner with psychic powers, then the mood swings, bad faces, add up, and disconcert, because questions arise: "¿What will happen to him/her?, ¿did I do something wrong?, ¿did I say something wrong?", please, if you have a partner, tell him/her everything, honestly and directly, avoid the mind to formulate scenarios and questions that can cause severe problems, please, if you have a partner, tell him/her everything, in a sincere and direct way, avoid that the mind is the one that formulates scenarios and questions that can cause severe problems, they say that truths hurt, but they are necessary, so speak, express what happens to you, what you feel, what you have, and do not keep quiet waiting for your girlfriend or boyfriend, to generate the gift of being a fortune teller.
Never Trust - A very common practice that we humans have, is that when we have something already in our possession or near us, we feel that we should no longer long for it, desire it or care for it, because as it is with us, it will always be so, and therein lies the error, you can have 80 years of relationship with that person, but it doesn't matter, keep falling in love with her like the first time, keep giving her that attention she needs, talk, have some free time, watch a movie, listen to music or go out to contemplate your surroundings, don't let routine, your work or anything else get in the way of your relationship, don't use the excuse of: "I already have her in love", it is very difficult to conquer a person, but it is very easy to lose her.
Reinvent yourself - This term is widely used professionally, but it also applies in love, get out of the routine, fall in love in a different way, seduce that person, always make her smile, surprise her, show her in different ways what you feel for him or her, do not limit yourself, do not just stay hooked to an I love you, on the contrary, complement that word, with actions that seduce, as our title says, for a relationship to work, loving each other is not enough.
Don't Become a Barrier
Relationships must have an air of freedom, where both minds complement each other, and can move forward together, but each one keeping their own space, then the most important thing is never to become a barrier that prevents that person who loves us, progress, advance, grow, friends, let's not be selfish, We have to be the waves of the sea, they do not move alone, on the contrary, they move everything that accompanies them, so we have to do in a relationship, help, support, do not criticize please, advise, and above all, trust, there is nothing more important than to give security and confidence. I hope this article is to your liking, and I would love to know your opinion on this subject.
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Hola saludos cordiales, soy nueva por acá, leyendo un poco su artículo, comparto la idea y la práctico, el amor debe ser libre, sin persecuciones, sin ataduras, respetando espacios, cada quien tiene una vida, proyectos y metas. No debemos ser egoístas y creer que esa persona nos pertenece, al contrario cuando hay amor verdadero no prevalece el egoísmo. El amor hay que regarlo todos los días como se riega una flor, conquistarlo y no dejarlo ser. Es hermoso estar enamorado pero es un gran reto. Aprendamos a cuidar el amor. Saludos y excelente post.