Our biggest enemy is not the other people, not the one who tries to bring us down nor the one who tend to make our lives messy.

Do you know what is our biggest enemy ? OURSELF

here's some reason why we are doubting ourselves.

Resisting changes

People who usually become down is the one who do not embrace change. Everyday is there changes happening, you are not the person of yesterday. you learn things from the past and those things can make you better. Resisting change in certain aspects of life can lead to stagnation. Change can be beneficial and should be pursued to make life more meaningful.

As they say " Go out of you comfort zone. " meaning you need not stay on your comfort. You will not grow if you keep on doing things that you used to do. The best teacher is our experience and by that our experience changes our mind, it changes our capability to think critically and more creative.

Changes occur everytime and we need to adapt changes for us to grow.

Depending yourself on the others

knowing that someone beside is a positive thing. It can give more secure of things that they will guide you when the problem arise But the idea of depending youself on someone is a dangerous thing. sometimes we become more independent to that person thinking that they will never leave us but we need to remember the saying

" Even your shadow leaves you in the dark "

If someone leaves it will end up hurting ourself, we tend to find that comfort to someone gave us. Worst case it will end up losing ourselves and trying to find it back.

Depending on someone is not that bad because we need someone to lift us up. But expecting too much to that person is bad. They grow overly reliant to the point of forgetting how to solve difficulties on their own. Too much reliance is unhealthy since it might cause you to forget how to look after yourself.

As a result, people who become overly reliant on others may regard life to be boring as a result of a lack of challenge. They have delegated tasks to others rather than completing them on their own.

Projecting Negativity

Negativity is everywhere, sometime our mind creates a scenario and thinking of the possibility of what to happen next. It's not bad to think advance but the thing is when you create a negative scenario in your mind and ended up questioning ourself if we can do it. Too much negativity can begin to dislike our actions and starts doubting ourselves.

"When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It's all a matter of perspective." -Harvey Mackay

Negativity is only in our mind and turning it positives look will make us more productive. It helps us to do more things if we will believe in ourselves. Nothing can defeat a striving man.

Putting yourself down

It is one of the major factor why we don't succeed in life because we are puting ourself inside the box. There are many people nowadays tend to put theirselves down thinking that they are not enough, and we can't blame them maybe because of their past experiences that makes them to think that way.

The kind of person who will tell them self that they can’t do something and it is impossible might be their own enemy. This person can start to feel down about them self because they don’t want to try before telling themselves that they have already not succeeded.

We need to remember that we live here in purpose, the only way to see that purpose is to seek GOD and asking for guidance to whatever we do. In that He will remind us of what the right things to do. Also by exploring we can discover to ourself that we can do more.

We are not validating the others feeling by giving advice of what to, but we are giving advice for them to think and to motivate them because many says that we need to try put ourself in other's shoes. The thing is we are giving advice for them, and the best thing to do first is to pray for them.

Trusting others more than ourselves

another problem is we trust others more than ourself. The capability to think and decide to ourself are become void. Others can give advice and can guide us but the final decision is into us.

Following on what the others say can lower ourself esteem. We can end up questioning ourself what we are capable of because we trust other more that ours.

Worrying too much

Worrying too much is bad for ourselves. It can end up to anxiety, thinking that the things we use to imagine will not happen. Also the ability to think positive become lessen. Constant worrying makes life unhappy for themselves and others around them. If we worry about situations or events to much it can lead to depression and be reinforcing. Anxiety can cause unhappiness and be in this state can make you question life decisions.

But we need to remember that GOD will not put us to that situation if we know that we can't do it.

in Isaiah 40:31 it says "but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." meaning if we rely on ourself to the LORD those anxiety will not exist long. He will make us more peaceful and not to worry too much.

Reminder to all us,

use the past as a lesson, not a weapon

You have the option to use the past as a destructive weapon or a resourceful teacher. Focusing on hurts and wounds will only overwhelm you with sorrow and lead you down the wrong path. Allow every lesson to become an investment for the future. Let it be your servant, not your master.

Become your own Best Friend

Recognizing the enemy within us and befriending ourselves is simply a matter of when we decide to do it. If you are spending time focusing on misery, letting others determine your life course, and playing the victim, I want to remind you –

You are here to stand out. You are here to leave your own footprints. Walk your own path and let go of being a prisoner of the past. Invest time in becoming your own very best friend and you will be the greatest ally in times of need. This is your best self.