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A Relationship Advice: Maybe You Need, Maybe You Don't
Being in a relationship can be challenging. Well, it is! And love is not everything. You cannot keep the love alive just by the feeling both of you feels. And believe me, when I say, it is never smooth sailing. Waves of problems will batter you and your relationship, and most of the time it sinks and you're drowned. **LOVE.** Love feels so good. The feeling of being in love is so overwhelming that it put a smile on your face up to your cheek. But as time goes by the love is being tested. Will you be able to let go or hold on? This is very important, make sure you are with the right person. Trust your instinct, trust his action more than his words and don't be blinded by love to believe that everything is like a Fairy Tale with a happy ending. Sometimes and most of the time it is not. My honest advice In a relationship, to stay happy and in love, everything must be balanced. And even everything is balance it's not guaranteed that it will be perfect. And the relationship is really shouldn't be perfect. The flaws must be worked out. The understanding of two people must be in sync. Aside from emotional, there are physical, sexual and financial needs that have to be met. Well, you can't just live with love alone. Communication This will always be my number one. We all have our needs to be met. If you are complaining about your relationship then you are not communicating with your partner. If you are feeling frustrated, disappointed or your needs are not met, you are not talking to your partner. Communication is very important. I used to be full of frustrations and disappointments, unmet needs but it all changes when I voice out exactly what I want, what I need. And my partner did the same and so we satisfy each other's needs and wants. When I hear a story of cheating, they always say, it's because the other one can provide the needs that the partner can't. And I was like, maybe he/she didn't say or ask what he wants. Let's admit it, we all have this mentality and telling ourselves, **"he should know by now!"** We think and we guess that our partners should always know what we want when in real life, **they don't have a clue.** Stop the guessing game. And stop that giving a hint. That don't work. Say what you want, how you want it and so your partner can satisfy that. And both of you are happy. And never think that he might get mad or he will leave you by doing so. And if your partner doesn't pay attention or doesn't care. Then I don't think you are with the right person. The right partner would love to keep you happy and you as a partner is the same. **And together with good communication are love and devotion, time, respect, trust in no particular orders. What you want to receive from your partner, give it and it will be reciprocated.** Don't hold on when you know you have to let go Don't be a martyr. If you did everything you can for your relationship and chances has been given for the Nth time but was taken for granted, let go. If your relationship not making you happy, and if you already discuss the matter and nothing has changed, then think of moving on. There's always this self-respect. And this love is worth the pain and giving second chances can be worth it. I believe in second chances. I believe in forgiving someone's mistakes wholeheartedly. This is if you believe in him and that giving him a second chance would be a whole lot of story. But the real thing is. Everyone has a different story. Every love story has a different plot. Deal with your relationship, any advice is not needed. You work it out yourself. No one knows better than you. Because believe me, you know what to do, you know what is right. You know what is best. You don't need any advice. Because you know already what to do. You just don't want to do it and you just don't want to face it. And if you are not going to face it your relationship will be in turmoil. Communicate. Talk. Deal with it. That's how you keep a relationship a healthy one. A healthy relationship is full of laughter, full of happy smiles, with hugs and kisses. And when a problem struck, you are just both calm and deal with it together. And whenever there are arguments, you both know how to patch things up. Waves of problems will batter you and your relationship, but you are on an unsinkable ship and with hands that securely hold yours tight, you have nothing to fear. Thank you for reading.
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Thank you for sharing this one Ma'am.. Well, I need this one..☺️ Hmmm.. Sa ngayon, okay naman kami ni MGD, wala pa naman nagiging problema. Sino ba naman kasi may gusto na magka.problema..😅 Malaking tulong din talaga sa isang relasyon yung good communication. You listened to each other's side to maintain better understanding na din. Wala namang masama kung i.widen niyo pa ang understanding niyo sa isa't-isa through communicating db? At tyaka, may mga bagay din talaga na kung hindi na kayang isalba ay dapat mo nang bitawan. I've been there.. Mahirap pero I accepted. Now, hindi naman ako nagsisisi, because God had given me my MGD.❤️ God bless you po!😇🙏
Ms Ren sorry huh what is MGD? 😅
hihi.. That's the initials of my boyfriend's name Ma'am.😅
Ah, haha pasensya na huh andami kasing new acronym na hindi ko alam.
ako nga rin po, some acronyms ngayon hindi ko alam kung ano ibig sabihin.😅
God bless you with your MGD Ms Ren! :)
Thank you Ma'am..🤗❤️
Communication and trust are vital, but humor, and attraction spice the relationship :)
I don't have the trust at first that's why I can't talk about it 😅 But surely it is! And it's so boring if there's no misunderstanding and issue arise.
Same, sis. Kaya ang interview questions ko din nun eh 100 pages hehe.
Wow this is really nice .. Relationships can be really hard and finding the real thing is even harder but sometimes it’s worth it . Thank you for this ma.. i enjoyed it
That's really the hard task finding the one or how to find you. :)
And even when you find them keeping them is another ball game entirely
Kya naman inlove si hubby syo eh. Expert 😁 After reading about do's and don'ts sa dating by madam @Eylz2021. Ito naman about sa relationship. Ano next kya mababasa ko? Bout parenting? 😅🤣🤣
Hahaha, wala kasi akong masulat madam, sa totoo lang. Pero magjowa ka na para alam mo na pasikot sikot hahaha
Wala tlga madam 🤣 ito na ata tadhana ko 🤣
Relationships are not easy. But if there is love, understanding between the two is achieved with a better coexistence. I think these are very good recommendations. May you stay happy.
That's very true Gertu. Thank you for adding that up!
The precious things you can give to your partner are Time and Respect.
I love to hear this from people who are already in a working marriage and you are one of them. I have always believed that every relationship has its downs and uptrend. It is not a fairy tale that should end in happiness rather we should work together to achieve the goal of loving each other forever. Thank you for this great reminder.
Thanks for this tips, it's easier to say I love you. But to keep the love going become difficult, mostly when there is a communication gap between the two it leads to misunderstanding and regular fighting.
It serves as a very good advice for me, Thank you for this very informative article miss tired_momma. 😊
Awee. I agree with communication. Natamaan ako sa guessing game na yan sis ahh. And, reading this made me realize na dapat pala talaga sabihin natin or itanong natin sa partner natin ang mga bagay bagay. Isa ako sa mga taong "he should know by now". Hahahaha 😂
Jane, I was like that too. When I'm mad I look at him and I want him to know why I'm mad. And I assume that he knows but the truth is He really don't have a clue until I told him so. So lesson learned. Next time magsasalita ka na.
Ay, talaga sis? Haha 😂 Kaya nga eh. Wag tayo mag assume ika nga , "Never assume unless otherwise stated." 😂
Being in a beautiful Relationship with peace and not a toxic one is the best feeling ever. We need communication and most importantly trust to keep a relationship boom and flourish. Thanks for this advice. We all should understand that love isn't enough in a relationship but all these tips would work out well only if we want such.
That's true Princess. Any advice is useless if only one and not both are into taking their relationship into a better spectrum. Let's admit it sometimes love is one sided until you found the right one everything falls in its place perfectly. And keeping it is another thing. So the relationship is a never-ending journey. Is that make sense?
Hello, my beautiful friend, another great article and great advice, which is really necessary to know and read. I totally agree with what you mention and that is that for a relationship to work, loving each other is not enough, you need good communication, empathy, sensitivity, we are human beings, we will make mistakes, but we should not justify ourselves, we can not do what we want without thinking about the consequences, we need to understand that a relationship requires commitment, maturity, if we no longer feel what we felt at the beginning, then let's talk, let's comment, let's say what happens to us, what we feel, what we think, the other person is not a fortune teller, let's not take for granted that he or she knows us perfectly and will discover what happens to us just by looking into our eyes. Everything is solved by talking, greetings my dear friend, thank you for this article.
My dear friend, thank you for stopping by and leaving me a valuable comment. That is exactly what people in relationship should do. Like I've been there done that, so I'm sharing what I've been. It doesn't always apply to all but good to think that somehow it makes sense. Thanks a lot dear! More blessings to you!
I enjoyed this so much, Momma. You couldn't have said it any better. Detailed and truthful. Balance doesn't mean perfect as you have rightly said and balance is needed. A lot of people assume in a relationship thinking "he should know" "she ought to know". They hold on to what they believe forgetting the channel of openness and communication. Every relationship is different this is why what worked in the last failed one might not work in the new one. The ability to understand your partner and communicate effectively would always go a long.
You could have explained this better. Your use of words is something I wish I can. How I admire how you can write what you mean. And simply love your words Olasquare! You're awesome!
I feel so honoured, Momma. You did absolute justice to the topic and I thoroughly enjoyed it 🤗🤗🤗
That's a great advice from you tired momma, I'm just starting my relationship with my partner and I'll use this advice for us. I knew that communication is the most important and so I kept on contacting her from time to time but not the point I'll going to take all her time. Trust comes from open communication and so the loyalty and everything.
Yes, I didn't emphasise trust as I don't have it at the start. It's not easy to talk about something you didn't experience. But communication leads me to trust and everything else. That's why I emphasize that. And always have a good laugh with your partner. :)
You spoke well. Communication, trust and attention are really key in relationship. The right person won't stress you in your relationship but there are always up and down also in it. Thanks for sharing ma.
Always. There's always something that will come up. But as long the two of you deal with it, it's a lot easier.
Yes, so true.
Being in a relationship sometimes can be hard but if you can get the flavor of your relationship ..The outcome is to expect.. .Not only communication is needed but the trust also..Coz once you enter in a relationship . the trust between you and your partner must be strong enough and can't be severed by any circumstances
Good communication build trust. And yes I point out trust together with time respect and others. I only emphasize communication as that's base on my own experience. Thank you for your valuable comment.
Very informative, I must say. You are absolutely right about communication, love, trust ,respect etc forming the basis of a healthy relationship. Yeah, relationship sometimes isn't always easy to build and relationships lacking those key principles are definitely toxic and doomed to fail. Also, like you said, everyone has a different story and I guess to each is own but that doesn't still change the fact that a healthy relationship is built on those principles. Everyone is deserving of a healthy relationship.
Togetherness in all maam, as the blessed married line goes for, for better or for worst, in sickness and in health, tell death do us part. Your right on that one, problems are meant to be dealt by both of you, keep loving and god bless.,!!
Husband and I have been together for 21 hears and yes, you're right, it will always not be smooth sailing. For me, di porke mag asawa na kayo at matagal na eh magiging kampante ka na, it is always a working progress. Kailangan pagtrabahuan ang healthy but not perfect relationship kasi wala nun.
Totoo Momshie, tuluy tuloy na journey nang mag asawa yan hindi pwedeng sa una lang. Kaya araw araw na dilig ng pagmamahal at lagi yang my problema, away pero you just have to deal with it and bounce back to normal.
Totoo and communication is always the key
nasa relationship ako ngayon ma, walang saklaang nagaganap kundi super chill lang tas same vibes pa. kung maghanap man to ng iba sige ang, ieenjoy ko nalang buhayko kesa magsayang ng luha saganong tao ahehe
Okay yan pat chill chill lang. Haha naku iyakin ako iiyakan ko yan 🤣
I agree. Communication is the key to a harmonious relationship. If you want to br understood, communicate.
There's no perfect relationship at all, both should work on it to stay in love and the marriage life will be more productive.Let love and respect grow.
Wehehe, wala ako ma say madam if it's about relationship. May experience naman na ako kaso, ahaha immature ako pag datinf sa relasyon ee. Isip bata, toxic masyado. Ahaha, alam ko naman dapat ang gagawin pero oag andun na diko na alam. Ay ambot talaga. Pero base on experience, communication talaga is the key
Communication is indeed play an important role in a relationship po.. I'm not in a relationship now and I just learned a lessson in this one . Goodevening po.😊
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