Unwanted Guardians and their advice

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By guardian, we usually mean the parents of the children. But do you know that the number of our Guardians increases a lot due to some special conditions? Well, let me explain a little more clearly - when the parents of a family are unable to fulfill their proper responsibilities towards the child or they turn to a relative class or a wise person for some specialist advice, then they all become guardians of that person. That is, the opinion of these learned people is then kept above all.

These situations are usually seen in the case of marriage or if you want to enroll your child in a good university or which hospital you want to go to for the delivery of your baby.

Well first of all I start with marriage because I have some personal experience with this topic that I need to share. There is a sad and many may find funny incident during my wedding - the day relatives from the groom's house come to see me or (whatever I say to put on the ring) my father suddenly fell ill. Immediately my father was taken to the doctor and the doctor after measuring his blood pressure said that my father's blood pressure had dropped. In that case, he gave some medicine to my father.

Among those medications were vitamins and sleeping pills. However, my father accidentally took two sleeping pills at the same time. Later, when the relatives came, my father was in a deep sleep, as he was not in any state of consciousness after taking the sleeping pills. Dad was woken up by loud shouting, although we did not know that he had accidentally taken two sleeping pills together. But he was speaking in front of relatives in such a way that he seemed drunk. The situation was quite shameful. And speaking of my father, it was a very dangerous situation because any accident could have happened since none of us knew about it.

That day I saw that all my relatives had different opinions because as the head of our family was my father and he was not in a position to speak well, other relatives each became the head of our house and showed their opinion. Seeing their condition, it seemed that I should get married on that day and go to the groom's house with the groom. However, later my father did not accept any plan of my relatives and my father said that later they (the groom's relatives) will be informed about our decision and plan.

When I first went to my in-law's house after marriage, I saw many of my guardians. Everyone gave me advice on how to speak and how to go in front of anyone, even the housekeeper gave me advice just like my guardian. I won't say giving free advice is bad but at least you should give a little chance to the one you are advising, if he/she makes a mistake then you have the responsibility to correct him/her but being overly patronizing or advising like a parent is not acceptable.

This is the state of our society. This is just one example I wrote. There are thousands of such examples in our life. But I want to know if this kind of guardian has ever appeared in the life of any of you!

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It's good to acknowledge our honest mistakes. however, Proper advice and guardian must be given

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1 year ago

I don't have any problems about getting an advice from different people that can be considered as guardians unless they will cross the line and just want to control my life. It will be frustrating in my part.

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1 year ago

Indeed, there's limitations when giving advices and as for your situations it's not advice anymore it's more like they're bossing you around and it's suffocating.

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1 year ago

I agree, since kids, all our family members older than us are already considered our guardians, all our grandmothers, and grandfather, godmother, godfathers are considered guardians, and all our teachers and advisers are our guardians, they look after us, give advice, guide us.

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1 year ago

This is so sad. If I were in your shoes I would feel like im being bossed around. Do you plan on living apart from your in laws?

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