Marriage and divorce are not the solution to all problems 🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♂️

A while ago I talked to a friend on the phone. I would call her my girlfriend, even though she was my neighbor, but I had a very close relationship with her. That's why I called her girlfriend. Anyway, she was married before but she was not getting along with her husband. Due to various family disturbances, she decided to get a divorce after three years of marriage and according to the decision, she got divorced from her husband. She remarried within a year of the divorce. There is a twist in this marriage too. That is, the man she married had known her before. This guy gave her a lot of emotional support when my friend was breaking up with her family and she made her decision and even after my friend's divorce he kept in touch with my friend and gave a lot of emotional support which made my friend have a soft mindset towards this guy. That's why she thought that if she stayed with this man for the rest of her life, she would spend the rest of her life happily and this man was the perfect man who could make her life happy.

So she decided to remarry soon after the divorce.

The problem now is that the man she's married to is a good person, but my girlfriend can't fit in with her new relationship. Her problem is she can't forget her past, although at first she tried hard to make her new marriage better, but she told me on the phone a little while ago that she was mentally disturbed. Her current husband is well behaved and her husband is honest in character but he is not as sincere as my girlfriend thought the man was before marriage. After marriage, she feels that it is a compromise and an identity to survive. The love she had hoped for was truly a mirage.

I don't know what to say to her. But I just say that there is no point in ruining the present by thinking of the past.

I don't think every human being is self-sufficient. Every human being has some faults. Some people make more mistakes and some people make less mistakes. Some people are better and some people have less good and more bad.

Marriage is a very important decision in life. It is not right to hurry make a decision as important as marriage. There are so many things to think about. One person can support me emotionally. A man can be my best friend. But there are many things to think about before choosing his/her as your life partner. What is his/her family status, his/her mentality, his/her personality? All these things have to be explored.

In our country from an early age, family and society teach girls that after marriage, the permanent place for girls to live is their husband's house. But when a husband cannot be his wife's perfect life partner, where will that wife's permanent home be?

We can easily give advice to others. It is heard to adapt to the other. If you want to keep the marriage alive, you have to know how to forgive. Mistakes have to be accepted. However, no one can say how long this acceptance and adaptation will last.

Did you know that there are many girls who are abandoned by their husbands but there is no place for them in their father's house and they do not get any kind of comfort or shelter from their family. Girls are mostly responsible for this helpless condition of girls. Growing up in a society with such awkward legal system and so much chaos, we cannot learn to love ourselves. We can't think of ourselves as self-sufficient. Dependence on father before marriage and dependence on husband after marriage is our life. Honestly, we can't rely on ourselves and we can't create ourselves, we can't face any problem, we feel helpless, we feel weak.

The same thing happened with my friend. Despite being an educated girl, she feels it is her own fault that her family breaks up and she re-engages in another marriage without making herself self-sufficient after the divorce. People make mistakes in life but making mistakes again and again cannot be termed as wrong then it becomes a crime. Marriage is not the solution to any problem and divorce is not the solution to get rid of worldly problems after marriage. It is easy to break up a relationship but it should not be forgotten that there are two families involved in this relationship.

Many divorces show that children are deprived of parental care, they grow up in a broken family and are harassed in various ways in society. Children grow up with a mental disorder from childhood and many misconceptions about family are formed. Many lose respect for their families. These factors can also prevent a child from becoming an ideal human being. Society can lose an ideal man and an ideal leader. The family may lose an ideal child and children can lose an ideal parents.

Marriage is not only a union of two people but also a social bond. Special emphasis has also been placed on marriage from a religious point of view. It is a valid and sacred bond. We need a life partner in our life. But every human being should prepare himself mentally and be self-reliant before committing himself to a lifelong bond like marriage so that he/she can control any problem with strong mentality and lead his family to a healthy environment. Otherwise marriage and divorce will remain as a wrong decision in life and our next generation will get misconceptions about marriage from the present and will run away from marriage.