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As I was saying, @ARTicLEE raises two interesting questions at the end of his article. I will be addressing aspects related only to the last question.
Many of us have seen an image where a small cat is standing in front of a big mirror and the image reflected is of a big lion, with beautiful hair. Or an ugly duck while a beautiful swan is reflected.
Why do we see in the mirror an image different from what we really are? Well, it all depends on the self-perception we have of ourselves. What we think of ourselves in terms of our image is what we see.
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The mirror is the best way of critical self-judgment. When we see ourselves in the mirror, not only do we see our image, but thoughts and emotions immediately come to us in relation to the image we have in front of us.
When you look in the mirror, my friend reader, what do you see, where do you direct your thoughts, towards your defects or on the contrary towards your attributes? When you look in the mirror, do you have positive or negative feelings?
When we take for granted that we have good attributes, or beauty because of some part of our body, we immediately focus on what we don't like about ourselves. For example. We know we have nice eyes, beautiful hair, but we focus on the mouth, too big. We become negative critics in relation to our mouths. It is an example.
The society, the culture of the country where you live, the fashion, the artificial beauty implanted by the society of consumerism, are many factors that have made us use the mirror to evaluate ourselves. And many times we become our own enemies. We are very cruel to ourselves in front of a mirror. Has this happened to you?
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Dear reader, how you feel emotionally will depend on the image you will see in front of a mirror. If we have low self-esteem we evaluate what makes us feel bad, we see our greasy face, if we are fat, the scar on our neck, the big nose. We will overevaluate and keep looking for more defects without mercy, how cruel we are, aren't we? What if the neck with wrinkles, what if acne, what if the wrinkles in the eyes, what if the spots on the skin, what if with these glasses I look horrible. And I stopped counting. If we hate that we are fat, we run away from a mirror. We hate our body. We don't want to see it in a mirror. All because of the self-esteem we have at that moment of our life. Be careful here with captotrophilia, yes, captotrophilia, which has nothing to do with cryptocurrencies, I am reading many posts about cryptocurrency.. hahaha... captotrophilia is a disorder that reaffirms low self-esteem, it drives us to constantly see our defects in front of the mirror, defects increased precisely by low self-esteem.
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On the contrary, if we have high self-esteem, we will see ourselves more satisfied, we will see ourselves beautiful, precious, healthy, with good appearance, we will be happy with the image we see. We will be like the cat and the duck in front of the mirror, a great lion or a beautiful swan.
I tell you something, a short time ago I went out for a while to visit a great friend, whom I had not seen for a long time because she was confined at home. When I arrived at her house, she invited me to enter her living room. As I passed in front of a large mirror, when I saw my reflection I blew a kiss to the image in front of me and said: Hello beautiful. I have had this habit for years, I can't see a mirror that I blow a kiss, even the one in my bathroom, when I get up in the morning! My friend laughs and immediately tells me that why don't I paint my hair so that I look younger, and I can find a boyfriend.
For those who don't know me in person, I will tell you that I stopped painting my hair years ago, I used to be blonde, now I am white grey... hahaha.... I love my hair, I am fashionable, how many young girls have I seen with white hair! I have a lot of volume in my hair, I look like Mafalda. For those who don't know Mafalda, I will tell you that she is a very famous Argentinean cartoon created by Joaquín Lavado, better known as Quino.
Well, in the mornings, when I wake up, I'm like Mafalda but with gray hair... hahaha.... I try to use products that reduce the volume of my hair, but I do it to tame the untameable, not to feel bad or ugly because of it.
Going back to my friend, she tells me to color my hair and I say no, I feel good like this. Then, a man who is there in my friend's house, looking at me, tells me in a very calm way: I don't like women with white hair. And then he goes on to say: "Have you resigned yourself to having it like that?
I stare at him and notice that he has thinning hair, almost bald. I answer him: it is not that I have resigned myself to having my hair unpainted, but quite the contrary, I accept my white hair, with gray hair, I accept my body with the age that is showing it to me. I accept it, that's how I love myself, I love and respect myself. The important thing is how I feel, not how I have to please others, so that others feel good about me. And then I said to him, looking at the few hairs he had: when your hair falls out and you are completely bald, what will you do, will you accept it or will you wear a toupee so that other people will appreciate you with hair? If I were like you, I would tell you that I don't like bald men. My friend couldn't stop laughing at what happened and agreed with me.
What I want to convey with this story to you, my reader friends, is not to let other people's opinions change the way you see yourself in the mirror. See yourself in a positive way. Look beyond the physical. Accept your body and love it as age presents it to you. Do not accept for any reason that the physical changes your happiness, your life, your way of being. Be you, live a healthy life, surround yourself with positive people is important, always keep a smile on your face and when you see yourself in a mirror, throw yourself a kiss, even if they call you crazy!
My fellow readers, here is the promised link. Thanks for reading. It was great to be with you again. I look forward to your comments.
https://read.cash/@ARTicLEE/mirror-mirror-on-the-wall-cbdbced7
I do that too - saying 'hello beautiful' when I look at myself in the mirror :) It is a learned habit for me, as I used to be very self critical in my youth.
That man at your friend's place was not very nice. What a thing to say to a woman, especially one you've just met. Wow! Happy to hear you put him back to his corner ;)