The great Aretha Franklin said in one of the most famous songs in the world:
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Find out what it means to me
R-E-S-P-E-C-TA little respect
(Just a little bit) I get tired
(Just a little bit) keep on tryin'
(Just a little bit) you're runnin' out of fools
(Just a little bit) and I ain't lyin'
(Just a little bit)
Today I quit my job. I have spent about four days 12 hours a day preparing all the material I have to submit to the Board of Directors: instructions for payment systems, payroll, academic and administrative planning, bank balance to date, etc etc etc. Yesterday I sent a text message to them asking for a meeting today in the morning; since the quarantine over here is still established in a 7+7 scheme, meaning that 1 week is open for all and 1 week is curfew for everyone, something that nobody abides by, but I respect the guidelines and had to ask if we could meet today. I got no answer.
So this morning, after I ran some institutional errands, I came home and call them to give the information received and at the end told them about my decision to submit my resignation letter, which I already had send to their emails. Their answer was trully surprising to say the least, they both said that they "RESPECTED" my decision to put my health first and to try to live a more peaceful life style.
This afternoon, I got a message from Planning and Budget Secretaryship, the money dudes, summoning all the institutions to a meeting tomorrow morning to discuss some things about general budget and other stuff. Naturally, I called my "ex bosses" to communicate this and ask if it would be pertinent to anounce to the money dudes that they will be attending that meeting and that I'm not going to be dealing with that stuff anymore as of September First. Immediately I got a call from the Principal, not the President, the Principal, saying all kinds of stuff to me in a very agressive tone; she said that I couldn't leave them alone to deal with those people because they don't know shit (pardon my french) about what I do, about budget, about payroll, about management or anything. What the hell! There is no respect in that attitude!
First:
I never told her that I wouldn't leave them alone to do all that I do.
Second:
All I did was ask if I should participate to those people the fact that the institution will have new management. She said to me that I didn't work for them and that I don't owe them even the courtesy of notifying anything.
Thirth:
Where the hell do you work that you don't even know the basics of the workings of the foundation for which you are partly responsible. I mean, are you trying to say to me that in all this time I've been the boss and I didn't knew it, but all this time you have been treating me like I'm just a pawn you can move around when it pleases you?
Then she said that even if anyone didn't notice what she does, she does work even from home, searching for resources to improve the work conditions of the foundation. We don't have computers (they were stolen), we don't have air conditioner (they were stolen), we don't have paper and toner to print (the budget we get is only for the payroll) WE DON'T HAVE ELECTRICITY BECAUSE THE CABLES WERE STOLEN! It's been almost a year since we don't have electricity, I'm going to sing Happy Birthday on september 12 on the one year aniversary! And she always says that she is angry with the goverment, with their policies, and that she won't beg for money to them, and that her health is seriously affected and she can't be exposed to the virus etc etc. So at the end it is always me who has to go out and get the basics means to function. No more!
I truly do believe that I made the best decision ever, for myself and even for my family, because neither of us have to put up with this shit anymore (pardon my frech again), I don't need to be dealing with other peoples egos and insecurities, I don't have to keep sacrificing myself in order that others have their 5 minutes in the spotlight, I don't have to keep humiliating myself for scraps, and for them to diminish my efforts to keep alive a institution that in almost 28 years has been a staple of our town and that is worth saving. My work ethics is so great that I will do the transition as peaceful as I can, and because I won't give them the satisfaction of see my crumble in anger and dispair.
Tomorrow is a new day and even though I know I'm being truthful to myself and I'm not a religious person, I pray to God to grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
With all that you have said here in mind, I think you are making the right decision, and I hope it does all work out for you in the end. Sure, it will be tough at first. It always is. But as I said in a previous comment, so long as you have a plan and you stick to it, you should be well on your way to be a better time and a better experience.
Keep us posted and meanwhile I will keep my fingers crossed for you.