Harsh words huh?
Truthful words nevertheless. Sometimes, out of love and appreciation for someone we tend to make their problems our own, which to my view is not a good thing to do.
On the surface it may seem like there's nothing wrong with it, we all have to be emphatic towards humanity in general, but( yes, there's is a but)...
What happens when you get too deep and the troubles and pain of someone else becomes your own?
It's different for everyone depending on how it's handled From my experience I can tell you this, you end up carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, only to finally hear this words:
Nobody asked you...
And sadly, most of the times it's true, I mean, as good citizen's and good human beings, it's in our nature the need to help others, to share the burden, to be of use.
The thing is, and here's where it gets tricky, nine out of ten times you do it you won't end up well, you'll be overwhelmed with things that aren't your own. It's like when you're on the side road walking and then a car drives through a pond of dirty water and splash you from top to bottom.
You end up dirty and wet and cold because the driver didn't care that you were walking on that road, it's your fault, you chose to walk over it so take the consequences, a metaphor that applies in many cases.
You can't help it though, at least I can't, I have to help, I have to be of use, I have to be there when I'm needed. For me the change has been that in my case of a life with Chronic Pain, it's my pain, it's my burden.
I try not to be a burden for anyone else, I try to be active and alive, because I don't want anyone to feel like they have to carry me or carry any of my problems. If I need help I ask for it, but I hate that sense of overprotection, and fear, which is worse for me, it gives me more stress which results in more pain.
I need to be able to handle it on my own, I need to be able to push through without the extra burden that someone else is down with me or maybe feels I'm taking advantage of them just because I'm sick. Don't get me wrong, I'm forever grateful to those who have been and still are there for me, but this is mine to bear.
That's why I feel that we must as always, take responsibility for our own baggage. It is about, and it has something to do with who we are and maybe what we will be in the future. We are the masters of our own destiny, every decision takes us there, so take the front seat of you ride and be useful to yourself before being useful to anyone else.
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December 17th, 2021.
Hay personas que les gusta ser una carga, depender de otros siempre, a veces veo eso y me molesto un poco, que fácil ven la vida, intento siempre no depender de los demás, quizás de vez en cuando necesito una ayuda, pero no soy una carga, devuelvo los favores o eso intento, no quiero molestar a nadie, solo ser feliz, de verdad que no me gusta molestar a los demás