Moving Forward
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Moving yourself forward with the experiences of your yesterday..... That is growth!!!
Anything that has life in it will always grow. As individuals with life in us, we tend to grow on every side, that most of the time we don't notice it. Growth is inevitable, we can never avoid it because as long as we are going through life we will always grow into a different person, and the most important aspect of growth is where we should be concerned about is the kind of person we want to grow to become.
It is always surprising to some of us because the things we were never able to do when we were still very much younger, we are doing them now with struggle. While i was still a young child, i couldn't lift a gallon of water past my waist level, it was so difficult as at then but the story is differnt today.
To you my beautiful reader, at this very stage of your life, you are doing the things you could never do few years back, those things you saw as impossible,but now the story have changed. Growth has placed you on the platform were you are now able to speak up in a public gathering without fear of doing mistakes, fight fear, and even do the very things that normally scare you back then. I know you are always happy and proud of yourself when you come to the knowledge of the change that has happened within you.
Sometimes we are too busy that we forget to be grateful for how far we have gone in life in terms of growth. That moment where we sit down to reflect back on our past life and be proud of our humble selves for the process of growth we have gone through is missing. Sometimes we are not to be blamed for this because most at times we as individuals seek for shortcuts to get quick solutions to our problems.
Our dreams would never skip our thoughts as we imagine how beautiful they will turn out to be if they come to reality the same way we thought about. Dreams will always take some time before they become reality, and since we are not patient enough to wait for that time to come, we get discouraged and abandon the dream.
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This is so wrong, even if the journey in pursuing our dreams seems slow, at least we should have the heart of being grateful for even having the vision, and we even neglect ourselves the celebration of those little victories we have been having in the process of growing.
Friends lets just be true to ourselves acknowledging the fact that we have a goal which is already running, by this we can be grateful for our growth, even when it seems like it is not running at the speed we expected it to run. But as long as the growth is there, don't be frustrated that it is slow and it is not allowing you to reach your goals at the time you set for it.
Within you, pause for a moment and be proud of your humble self for reaching that point in life where you can do the things that seemed unrealistic and impossible to you few months back. Be grateful for this growth because you are better than who you were yesterday.
Every of the experience we have had in the past have contribute in shaping us to who we are today. That is growth...... We should never dream of stopping to grow, if we do then we are dead. Imperfection and mistakes will always set in while in the process of growth, but we should have this mindset that we are more wiser, competent, and good enough today than we have ever been in the past.
We have gone far in the process of growth, and if we find ourselves stucked in the mess of today, we should just smile because we have all what it takes to scale through every obstacle along the way. Those experiences you had in the past are good enough to help move you forward in life, and without those experiences your mind will never be opened to the ideas and solutions you have today.
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Just know this, no matter how slow the journey to your dreams may seem, those experiences will build you up to be more patient enough to wait for your dreams to fully mature and ready for actualization. Lastly, always be grateful for your present position in life, it matters alot.
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What a beautiful destination: Keep going
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Seriously i am not sure of where to start from, but i will always start from somewhere. During my childhood days, i was taught transportation in school and the various means of transportation that we have; the road, water, and air means of transportation. I was so curious to know more about the means of transportation by air, i was 11 years old then so i needed to know what it is like to travel by air. I got better explanation from the few books i read joined with what the teacher taught in class, but something was missing. None of them even talked about the turbulence that normally occur when the plane is flying up there.
Not until one of my aunties shared her first experience with us. It was her first time traveling by air. According to her that faithful day she was to travel, she woked up early feeling happy about the journey. Since it is her first time, she did not want to hear stories that she missed her flight, so she got to the airport 4 hour to the departure time. Her destination was the United States Of America, what a beautiful destination, but she never knew that she will have tough journey. The plane had taken off, 13 hours in the journey, the most hated thing happened, turbulence.
Since it was her first time the journey already became so frustrating and difficult for her despite the announcement made by the pilot that everything is under control. She regretted why she ever started that journey, but after a long while in the air she arrived at her destination. According to her, she was so happy and thankful that she has arrived her beautiful destination safely. Such journey is nothing different from the journey life,so difficult but has a beautiful end if you keep moving.
In the journey of life you will meet a lot of things both the good and the bad. Anything can happen as we journey through life, lots of opportunities will pass us by because we were masqueraded by the difficult times we experience. Most at times our thoughts will point to us that we are doing the right thing or even taking the right decision, but alone the line we discover that we have been. following the wrong bearing all this while. It could be so frustrating that it makes you loose you mind, you don't think straight that very moment.
All of this will happen because we are only human and not some programmed robot, we are bound to fail or make mistakes along the journey of life because the difficulties we face. As humans we are far from being perfect, mistakes will always happen, but those mistakes are there to make us stronger, wiser, help us grow, and even teach us patience.
Never get angry or hard on yourself because of the mistakes you made, let me surprise you, there are a lot of great lessons to learn from those mistakes and failures. Give yourself this confident assurance that even if you fail today or even in the future, that those lessons learned from the failures will be of great advantage to you. It will help build your self-confidence, you get to understand who you really are and your needs.
Friends you will always find great wisdom and understanding in every lesson learned. Now you have learned from you mistakes and failures, and maybe you decide to continue in the journey of life, the next time you find yourself making that same mistakes again, you shouldn't bother or even shy away from it. Just accept your mistakes and keep going. Mistakes, difficult times, frustration, bad days in the journey of life are inevitable. It's now your place to choose whether to give way to the ups and downs of life to weigh you down or you keep going ahead.
Friends, the journey of life might seem hard, difficult, impossible, but let me remind you that you have what it takes to end well. When i say end well, i mean you get to that beautiful destination safely.
Everything about life is unpredictable, never forget that not everyday that comes will be colorful, never mind, continue the journey with great faith that there is a beautiful end waiting for you. No one will ever wish for a bad day, but when it comes, accept it because you will see the reason to be grateful for the good days when it finally comes.
When you finally arrive at that beautiful destination, then will you know that all your efforts were worth it.
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A better life on the other side of fear
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If you want something, then you must always walk your way through to get it, same thing with our lives, if you desire a better life then you need to fight that fear in you. You know, fear is just like a thick cloth covering you, stopping you from doing the things that would've added something spectacular or brought change into your life.
Most of the time you jubilate over it that you were able to stop yourself from taking that risk to get what you want, you don't want to discomfort yourself in any way. At this point you are not the one incharge of you but fear is the one stopping you from stepping out of your comfort zone, and if you still remain in that position for a longer period of time, there will be no change in you as you will be stagnated.
Fear has the power to hold back your happiness and even growth, you will stop growing both in knowledge and otherwise if you are so comfortable in a particular spot in life. How can you get better, more wiser, more competent, and more stronger if you don't try to do new things, it is impossible. Those lessons you learn in the process of trying out new things, taking challenges is what build you into a better version of you. We all have our own fears and not excluding myself, but what makes the difference between me and some persons is that i am always able to fight those fears each time they show up, i can't allow it to masquerade me from seeing the other side of life.
It took me years to master this and you too can do it in few months if you are so determined to leave that supposed safe space you are dwelling in now. Dear friend reading this, i desire a better life for you and from the little points i have made and will make in this article i hope you will see the need to step out of your comfort zone, trust me you will never regret you took that step.
Outside your comfort zone is enough space for growth. Somebody will ask how? Let me use a seed of corn to explain this. A seed of corn can never grow and bear fruits inside a container where it was kept, it is so comfortable in that container that nothing disturbs it and if you ask me, that seed wants to remain there forever. No growth is happening around that seed lying in that container, but the moment the farmer takes it out of its comfort zone which was the container into the uncomfort zone which is the earth, growth is bound to set in. Growth does not just happen immediately, that seed will go through some processes, that if you are able to track each of this processes, at some point that beautiful seed you once knew now turns into something that brings out a bad odor, but even in all of this that same seed will make the farmer smile one day.
There is nothing so different about this when compare to we humans. It's in the discomfort where growth lies. The one problem that we have is that sometimes we are always afraid to take any challenge just for the fear of failing. Know this, at every point of failure, that is the starting point of success. More lessons are learned when a person fails on a particular thing, and it us even more better than when no attempt was made on that same thing. Try doing something different today, no pain no gain. The road to success is not always easy, take those chances now because it will always contribute to your growth in the future.
You have all it takes to fight fear and take control of your life, move from your comfort zone into the uncomfort, freedom is awaiting you there. I know very well that the starting point is not that easy, i mean that first step always seems hard, but i assure you that the moment you take that step, you will never regret it. Time waits for nobody, so don't waste in dwelling in your comfort zone, go out ther let and make a difference cos the world is waiting to see what you've got in you.
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Be the good parent to your kids
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I guess we have more than 100 parents here on this platform, and i believe they are doing what's right for their kids, being the best mum and dad any child will ever wish for. Does your kid see you as a good parent or a bad one?
As a good parent, most of the time you put your child's needs first, give them the necessary attention they need as they are growing up. As a good parent it is not everything you do infront of your child as they are watching you, children nowadays learn from what they see. They try to mimic what they see their parents do, so a good parent should always try to be the best of themselves when they are around their child, know the kind of clothes you wear, the kind of words that comes out of your mouth.
A good parent will always love their child no matter how they look. There is this family living in my neighborhood, both the husband and the wife are still living together with four kids. Out of this four kids, one of the child is deformed and she is a pretty girl. The same love and care the parents gives to the other three, it is the same they give to the deformed girl. Each time i see this i am always broken emotionally. I have read about how parents abandon their newly born babies in the hospital because of deformity they were born with. This kind of people can never be a good parent, and i am not praying for such to happen to anyone of us here, giving birth to a deformed child, but no matter how your child is, try to be good to that soul, love and care for them.
Like i said before, children of nowadays learn from what they see, what they see you do, immediately they try to do the same thing. The first teacher to a child is the parents before any other person, they first thing they will ever learn is always from the parent. So if you are a kind of parent that talks anyhow, behaves anyhow, just know that someone is learning all of those things from you. I hear some parents say that their child is just a baby that knows or have any idea of what is happening around them. I laugh sometimes to this, a child starts learning from when they turn 1, before now he/she was watching everything you do. From your lifestyle, character, the way you talk, i mean everything....and when they get to this age, they start doing those things they have been seeing you doing.
I am still single with no kid of my own, but i have seen and learn a lot about good parenting. My humble piece of advice to our parents here and the ones that are about becoming a parent.....please live a life that is worth emulating by your children. If through your kind of life you raise a baby child then you have raised a bad society...but a good child raised by a good parent will become a good society.
There is no exact age a child gets to before you can start teaching them some good manners. God so blessed little kids with smartness, they are so smart that sometimes you marvel at were they learned it from. I just remembered a family of ours, each time i visit them their house is always tidied and clean, things still remains in the position were it was kept...but they had a 2 years old child in the house then, he's grown up now. One day i had to ask the mom who i was very much free with how they made their boy behave so calm and not the type that turns the whole house upside down. She laughed and told me that's the way they brought him up, from his 9months they were already teaching him some good manners. The boy knows his limit in the house, he knows the things to play with and the ones he would never dare to touch. Good manners have been taught to this child, if we have this kind of kids in our society, discipline kids, the world will be a better place.
To every parent out there, you have a great responsibility which is being a good parent to your kids. Don't bring kids into this world and make them a burden to the society, but do all you can to be that good dad and mum....teach them what they need to know early, don't wait untill they turn five, grow them in discipline and love. They will give you some tough times, but you will never regret any of your effort you put in raising a good child. There's this adage that says " You can only bend a stick while it is still fresh, but when it dries up you can never bend that same stick as before". Same thing applies to parents, while your kids are still young, teach them the right things they need to know that when they grow up they will never forget or depart from it.
Choose which one you want to be to your children " A good parent, OR A bad parent"
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Why Not Me?
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It's a beautiful moment today and it's been a while i have not shared new articles here due to the fact that i was so busy throughout the week. I hope everybody is doing fine and great here. 8 know i have missed a lot of great articles, wow!! I have a lot of articles to read in my notification box.
This morning i got the inspiration to write on the talked topics ever, OUR GOALS. We are so worthy of every of the goals we would ever think of and each and everyone here has goals in life, we have dreams that we wish to see them come true, we deserve a kind of life that has no stress in it. Right now i want you to reflect back on those goals that you have, those dreams and aspirations that keeps you alive, and active each time yoi think about them. We have a lot of goals in life, those ones that will scare you, goals that will make you to think of doing crazy and extraordinary things, its always fun. Some people go for adventures that looks so impossible and scary, oh yeah this are goals too, and this people are always determined to make sure they achieve those goals.
As long as you have this goals, as long as you have this aspirations, nothing should stop you from achieving them, not even fear, not even what negative people will say to you. Because if you want to listen to what this toxic people will say, you will never achieve your goals in life, you will never get better at anything, you will never gain knowledge. Your has the ability to open you up to gain more knowledge about a lot of things, about your life, who you really are, and your abilities. So if you consider what people will say to you, the response and feedbacks you get from negative people, the might limit you, you won't ever get to know who you really are, why you were created and for what purpose.
But if you so believe in yourself and pursue your goals with all of your heart, your mind, your soul, and with total focus, you will always get a better you. I mean it, the result you will get will marvel you. Sometimes our goals in life will always look big that instills in us this fear that we will never achieve them. Personally i do imaging seeing myself trying to do things that are so extraordinary, and since i so beliein myself in my imagination, i will achieve those things. A lot of things will cause us not to pursue our goals, sometimes it's the fear of the competition that we that is around us, we are so frustrated when we see other people achieve their goals with ease and no too much sweating and struggling, it just came to them just like that. Seeing this will always get us frustrated making us feel inferior, that we are not strong enough, not even competent to pursue those goals of ours.
I wouldn't say i have not experience this before, i have been there several times and i know exactly what it feels like seeing your peers make it in life while you are still struggling to fight fear. Tou watch other people achieve their goals and you ask yourself, Why can't i get to this point in life like this other person?. Friends let me tell you with all amount of boldness that you have all what it takes to reach your goals, what is limiting you is your mindset. Everyone of us were created with special abilities, the other person might have the abilities you don't have, but you are good at something compare to the other person. If you have an 100% focus on how you can fight you way through to achieving your goals, friends let me tell you it's so possible, no matter how big the dream is, it's so possible that you can get the kind of life you have been desiring to get.
Reading up to this point, you will be telling yourself that you are not worthy, strong, and competent enough of reaching your goals. But i want to tell you that you are so worthy, so good enough for anything. You have no reason to say that you can't achieve your goals, and if your dreams fuels your passion, you see yourself getting to the point of bringing those dreams to reality, you should have this confident assurance that those goals are achievable. Just change your mindset to see how great you, and how gifted you are. Sometimes i imagine myself accomplishing great tasks, if you can see this about yourself then success is guaranteed.
What you see is what you will become. What are you seeing friends? Begin yo see yourself achieve those goals, don't ever look down on yourself, you can always create impacts even in the midst if great minds. Don't speak negative about you like ' I am not worthy, don't ask yourself why not me', just be truthful to yourself, never allow other peoples successes intidate you.
Those goals that you have might look big and scary, but the risks involved in it is what makes the journey interesting, and it is challenging us to put more effort in pursuing those goals. Don't even have this fear of failing. Yes along the way you will always fail, but when this happens grow above it and learn from it. Every failure has a great lesson in it to teach you, what you learn from it will make you get better and more wiser than before. The mistakes you make on your way to achieving your goals act as a stepping stone that will take you closer to achieving your goals. I am challenging you this very moment to begin to see that you are so deserving of those goals of yours, your are strong, competent, and even worthy of everything good. Speak positive about yourself, grow above fear of making mistakes, have a positive mindset that yes you can always do it. And believe that truly yes you can do it.
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Just Have A Peep
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Of all the interesting, educative topics we have in this world, why should i choose laziness to make an article about it? Someone will ask.
It's not everytime we talk about things that will interest us or put a smile on our faces, but we need to also look at those things that are affecting our growth, successes in life too. I will focus on laziness today, laziness has really eaten deep into the lives of 75% of the people living in my locality. So many good life changing opportunities have pass a lot of persons by just because of laziness.
It could be from past failures that we had that brings the lack of appetite which is laziness to do the things that is best for us, we have lost total hope on ourselves that nothing good can ever happen or change the situation we are in making us to slack and not pursue our dreams. The worst thing we would ever do to ourselves is allowing laziness to rule over us. People who use to believe in us will loose hope that we can never be serious with our lives.
Laziness is never a good kind of habit to keep. It gradually kills our self-confidence, it makes us not to see the best in us. So today i will discuss some of the things we need to do to free ourselves from the shackles of laziness. As we look into each of the tips hope you also put them into practice for a better result.
Get enough rest
Discipline yourself
Say positive things to yourself always
Find something interesting and start doing it
Learn everyday
Get enough rest
You can't be busy all day without rest and expect to be active as when you wake up in the morning. Give your body and mind enough rest to get back its full strength, without this you won't be able to function the way you suppose to as laziness will set in.
Discipline yourself
Laziness will always settle in a place where seriousness and lack of self-discipline is lacking. Most people are so good in making plans on how they will run the day, week, or even month. But they fail to stick to the plan, maybe following it for the first 2-3 days then the rest is story. The commitment in sticking to the plan is zero. We are all human and we have our own weaknesses, but with self-discipline we will be able to stick to our plans no matter what. Without self-discipline, procrastination will set in. You will continue to postpone whatever you wanted to do untill you see no need in doing them anymore.
Say positive things to yourself always
Always speaking positive things to yourself can help push out every form of laziness in you that will hinder you from being productive. You need to encourage yourself that no matter how small the things you have, you can always make a difference with it. Positive words will always keep you motivated and active to do the things that means a lot to you. Opportunities will never pass you if you stay active and not slack. Don't let laziness kill the productive you, but use positive words to build yourself into a more productive person.
Find something interesting and start doing it
Doing things that interest you will help get you out of that lazy mood each time you stay at one place. Doing things like singing, taking a walk down the street, or even trying out new recipes can go a long way in increasing your productive mood. You gradually dlhave the will to complete every goal that was before you. Doing the things that interest you will also bring excitement, you will always stay active when you are excited. If you are not excited in any way, you will end up being lazy and not productive in any way.
Learn everyday
One of the best way to send laziness parking out of our life is by learning me things everyday. If we say we know all, then that enthusiasm in us will die gradually. Keep on learning even outside your field of study, ifyou do so you will be well filled with different ideas which will always make you stay active.
Lastly, to help yourself kill laziness, set targets for yourself. Start from small then the bigger one.
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Good to feel sad, but don't be sad forever
It is so normal for we humans to be sad, nothing bad about it. Sometimes we try to hide our sad mood because of the feedback we will get from the kind of people we surround ourselves with. Their feedback will always make use look useless and little. It is so okay to feel sad, but because of the negative feedbacks we will get from people, it will seem like we have committed the worst sin for just being sad.
We have seven days in a week, and in any of this days we will always slip into sad moods. I just want to tell you that feeling sad is not a bad thing as it is completely okay, but don't stay sad for a longer period of time. Anyone that says he/she can stay happy for a whole week is joking. As long as you are meeting people everyday, doing new things, something will always make you sad. Just be real when you find yourself in such a moment, even if you pretend to be happy with a smile on your face, it will only give an impression to whosoever that is with you that you are happy, but right inside you are in darkness.
I was talking with a friend this morning and she was telling me that for some time now she has been feeling sad. While she was still talking, i had to stop her and encourage her that feeling sad isn't a bad thing as it is so okay to feel that way. I went on to tell her that i do feel the same way too, everyone else feels the same way.
It is good to feel sad, but don't be sad forever. If you have friends around that feel sad, remind them that they won't always stay happy and strong all the time as sad moments will always come. We are humans with emotions and we have blood flowing through our veins. Sad moods are part of our emotions, we shouldn't overlook it but find a way to take ourselves out from it.
I am so happy and proud of my friend for opening up to me on how she feel, not everyone will do that. But for her boldness and trust she has on me really gave her the courage to speak to me about this things. I told her that as she wakes up every morning, she should remind herself that whatever she does that day that eventually makes her feel sad, she shouldn't be troubled as it is completely okay, but find a way to heal fast.
It is a short article, but having read and maybe get to know that feeling sad is completely okay, you can help your friends and other persons who find themselves in such mood. Encourage them to always share whatsoever is bothering them with the right people so they can get the help they need.
Whatever it may be that you are feeling now, just tell this to yourself that everything is okay, there is always room for you to get the light to shine in every same mood for faster healing. Make sure to be in the circle of positive minded people who will always feed you with the right words. Don't be angry with yourself, but show more love and support when you are in a time of despair.
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Love Yourself
No matter what you do, who you are, and where you come from, don't expect everyone to like you. It's so weird that i am beginning my article by saying such unkind but true words. Don't stop reading, continue as i know that you will learn something from it. It is not always so pleasant to hear that not everyone likes you no matter how you go extra miles to please them. It is something that everyone needs, that attention from people, we do all our best to be right in everything that we do so that people will like us. Sometimes we neglect ourselves that comfort and happiness just to ensure people liked us.
If we live our lives this way, it will cause a lot of damage to us. We will end up giving less attention to our own personal needs, just to make sure we do all we can to make people love us. And also this could make us take wrong decisions in life, choosing the wrong kind of people because we need someone to love us.
**You can do without the love of everyone. You are so unique and special, so don't let people decide if you stay happy or not.**
You are so unique to let this mentality of "If people don't like me for who i am, that means i am not doing my best". Until you clear your mind of this wrong and negative thought, you will never get to know how special you are, the kind of potentials you are loaded with. Stop showing up for people who don't need and respect you and start showing up for yourself.
If you have had the thought of always pleasing others so that they will love you for a long time now, and you have seen the need to clear your mind of such thoughts. It may not be easy, but with patience, time, and growth, you can deliver yourself. This is when you will see the need to put all your strength in loving yourself. When you start giving yourself that love you've depriving it of just to please other people, your imaginary eyes will be opened for you to see that doing what makes you happy, and being your true self is what adds value to you and the world as a whole.
The moment you start loving yourself, it will be so clear to you that not everyone will love you. Be the source of your own happiness, don't let people decide this for you. Some people will always want to frustrate us to make sure that we see ourselves as not good enough, this kind of people were not meant for us. And we should do our best to minus ourselves from the midst of their kind.
You might walk into people discussing bad about, giving wrong feedback about you. If you can, just smile and walk away, don't let their negative discussion sink into your mind that will make you forget the thousands of positive things other people who truly loves and respect you have said about you. I know very well that such negative feedbacks about you will make you feel bad giving the impression that you are not good enough at anything.
Don't let the negative feedbacks you hear about yourself weaken you from pursuing your goals in life. Be patient with yourself, show yourself some love, brace up, see those negative feedbacks as motivation, and continue to surround yourself with the right people. People who are positive minded. Even in those negative feedbacks, you have great lessons to draw from it. Whatsoever they say you are not good at, develop yourself more in that area and proof to then that they can't stop your shine. Keep pursuing your dreams and stop counting the number of people that loves you for what you are doing. Do what makes you feel happy and not the other way round.
Everyday as you wake up, just have this at the back of your mind that it's not everyone that is going to love you. No matter how good a person is in a particular career, there is that one person that will always criticize any contribution they make. This kind of people are everywhere, so expect some critics from them also. Its our place to know that there is no one person like us out there, no other person has the potentials we have and this makes us unique. The world see us as great fellows because of how unique and gifted we are. So we shouldn't waste our time and energy in doing things that will displease us just to please the wrong people. Don't wait for everyone to love you, give yourself that love because you are that one person who truly loves you for who you are.
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Feeling Uninspired
Inspiration is all around us
Some days we might wake up feeling uninspired, the feeling is inevitable. You shouldn't worry yourself, just few questions and the right answer to those questions will take you out of such moment. Coming down to here, most of us set targets for ourselves that we will be dropping new articles everyday, but sometimes we feel uninspired to write or keep to the plan. This can be so frustrating.
Some days back i didn't feel likewriting, before the month of february ended, i had promised myself that as a new month is beginning i will be writing article everyday. But funny enough this is my third article on day seven, i wasn't there mentally fit to write, creativity, and topics all ran away from me. Most of the time i will put the blame on my phone because it was faulty and i needed to fix it. After fixing the phone i still find it difficult to write, it was so frustrating that i had to do all i can to get the inspiration to write but it didn't work.
Yours might not be a faulty phone, it could be that people don't read your articles, or maybe the randomrewarder does not visit you article. This shouldn't frustrate you, it shouldn't kill the inspiration that's around you, keep writing. What you should focus more is on how many lives you have touched through your articles, and if it's only one person you have been able to help with your article, that should be enough to inspire you to write the more.
Reminding yourself about this will help let you loose from every grip of uninspired moments. I have been is such situation before where i lack what to write, and i know most of us here have had such experience also where you lack the inspiration to even think of a topic to write about. Know this, it is not everytime you will be filled with ideas of what to write. Those days that nothing seem to drop in our mind is always so frustrating, and there are days you will have too many ideas about what to write. In every disappointment there's always a blessing, so i think the same joy we have from the days we have lots of ideas to explore, we also be joyful on the days where we don't have anything to write about because there is always a lesson to learn from those days too.
You should never worry if you don't get any idea of what what to write about, it is not everytime we will be burning like fire as we are human. If you feel uninspired the next moment, don't be angry about it, just get some rest, or you start doing the things you love doing to help free you from the stress. If you hate yourself when you are in such moments, you will only be doing yourself more harm than good. There's always a next time to try, if you are not getting the inspiration now, it will definitely come later.
It is a short article, but it will be a thing of joy if it helps someone out there. For you reading this till this point, just know that i love you from the bottom of my heart. I am still here because of you, just reading my articles inspires me a thousand times to keep on writing. On the day you don't get the inspiration to write, don't worry because another day is coming full of the inspiration you will need to write great articles. And if you have what it takes to turn every uninspired you to a you full of inspiration you can go ahead and do it. I will be proud of you for doing that cos your are a genius.
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Good Books
*Whenever you read a good book, somewhere in the world a door opens to allow in more light.*
–Vera Nazarian
The quote above gave me the inspiration to come up with this topic. If there is anything that can teach you is books, 'good books'. Books are like path ways to accessing experience and knowledge, your mind is being opened up to great mysteries which sometimes you can't find them on the internet.
I have a friend who depends solely on books for advice and ideas, when i say books i mean good books. She has a mini library in her room and there are lots of books there, still buying more. She hardly talk to people about her problems, what she does is just get a book that talks about whatsoever is bothering her and reads it. She has never been disappointed, she gets the answers to her problem just by reading a good book.
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Good books are always loaded with answers to diverse questions like; how to choose the right partner, pathway to success, and many more. Someone reading this might be doubting how possible books will have answers to every of our problems. Haha, that tells that you don't love reading, but if you can make up your mind to try reading good books, you will never regret it.
Reading on its own has the ability to shape your thoughts. I will love to share some of the benefits attached to reading good books.
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Spending time to read good books will help you to build your illusory power. The books we read will never limit us to a particular level, but it will open up our minds to imagine extraordinary things. Reading helps to expand our minds and mental sight to see beyond what we have just read. There are moments we read about something and before you know we are already having a mental picture of what that thing really look like. Spending time to read good books will help build our imaginary power.
If you want to speak well in the public, then reading good books will help you achieve that. You are being exposed to different kinds of words when you spend more time in reading good books, your verbal abilities will improve and communication won't be a problem to you. Most people are always so shy to speak in public gathering why because they lack the skills and right words to use. Some of the problems we have today in our society are as a result of poor communication, people don't know the right words to use, and even if you know what you are saying, the next person may misunderstand your words for an abuse. So reading good books will open you up to different words thus improving your communication abilities.
As the saying goes "Knowledge is power", reading good books will help equip you with knowledge. And not just reading good books, but doing it the right way, having a good reading habit. When you have knowledge about a thing, you automatically have power over that thing. You become more wiser as you get more knowledge form reading good books, your way of thinking will change, you are well informed about the things happening around, and above all you become the kind of person the world needs.
Reading good books has the ability to take you out from a depressed state which you were in. Everyday of our lives we are faced with numerous problems, in our workplace, school, home etc, reading a good book at this time will help relief you of every stress. At your free time, get a good book and read, you will be overwhelmed by the kind of magical feeling you will get.
Reading a good book does not only endowed you with knowledge, improve your communication skills, but it also takes you into a pleasurable state. If you want to add more meaning to your life and stay happy then start reading good books. It won be a bad idea if you spend some of your earnings here to buy good books.
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Speak Your Truth
Good to be back here after a long while. My phone gave me some issues so i needed to fix it as soon as possible, just got it back from the phone engineer this morning and the first place i wanted to checkout was here. I really missed a lot i guess, lots of notifications waiting for me to open. I pray i get enough time today to visit every unread article. Ah!! Before i forget, Happy New Month to everyone, i love you all.
Today i will be focusing on speaking your truth, the topic just dropped in my mind this morning and i saw it as a great opportunity to write something about it. Most of us here are always afraid to tell the truth just to avoid being laughed at, or seen as a weak fellow. Sometimes we seek approval from people before we can say the truth, and then this will make us feel little afterwards. There is always this boldness in speaking out the truth, but we find it too difficult to speak it out.
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The truth is always there in our minds, but we find it too difficult to confess it with our mouth. This happpens because of the fear of what people will say, like will they criticize you for the truth you are speaking. Living like this won't help you in any way, you deserve a better life than such.
When i see people go extra mile just to speak the truth, it amazes me. The kind of feeling you will get when you speak the truth is always amazing, it's always like a heavy rock has been lifted off your chest. I encourage us today to always speak the truth when necessary, you will be so proud of yourself that you did.
Very few people like it when you are truthful to them, so if you have the privilege of speaking the truth, with all amount of confidence speak it out. You will do yourself a great favor by removing some things off your mind. Don't let the actions or response of people stop you from speaking your truth. Even when it seems like their actions will win over you, never allow it to happen, stand your grounds and speak your truth even louder than before.
Random Thoughts: Stop comparing yourself with others
It is something i have been doing especially when i started this journey at the read.cash platform. Almost everyone here has done it too, comparing ourselves with other. We should stop it now!!!
You will notice that whenever we compare ourselves with others, it makes us feel small, it limits us from pursuing our dreams and aspirations. It is so normal that someone out there will always be better than us in somethings, that shouldn't bother us as we all have our own special abilities and this tells that no one else out there can do the great things we are capable of doing.
The very first day i began writing here, i was somehow doubting the possibility that people will visit my articles. I saw that other people were already making it big both in their earnings and the engagements they get on every article they drop, my fears started from there. Somehow i talked myself out of such mentality, i was lucky i did. No matter how many people are doing the same thing as you, you have special qualities that will make you stand out amongst others. You shouldn't be afraid or jealous of other peoples successes, they have their own unique qualities which they are making use of it, it's in your place to discover yours and make use of it.
They only person you can always compare yourself with is you. Don't look down on yourself because you percieve that someone else is better than you. Everyone of us is endowed with special abilities that makes us different from others.You may see other people doing better but trust me they can never do what you are capable of doing.
Make use of your God given talents and do great things that will inspire you to pursue your dreams. You are unique, no one is like you. So know your worth today.
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New Life Begins At The End Of Your Comfort Zone
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My first article here on the read.cash platform was about what lies on the outside of our comfort zones. I won't really go back to outline what i shared in the article, but if you are so interested to read what i have there you can check it out here. Today i want to focus more on the things we would do to strp out of our comfort zones. https://read.cash/@pejudear/the-uncomfort-zone-where-the-magic-happens-6f1971b5
A new life begins the moment we step out of our comfort zones, and before you can experience this new life, there are some things you will need to do. You must be so determined for it. Some of us do dream of having the best kids, driving the latest cars, living in the best structure around, and enjoying other luxurious things life has to offer. You can't achieve any of this if you are a lazy type who sleeps for 20 hours everyday. They luxury you so desire needs an extra step to be taken by you before it can come.
If magic do happens, it can't happen in this case, don't be limited by the mindset that manner will fall from above one day. Break yourself loose by stepping out of your comfort zones and begin doing things that looks extraordinary. That is what i came up with this topic today to guide you in taking that bold step that will change your life for good.
How you can do it
First of all challenge yourself. Nothing will spark you up like challenge would do. Stepping out of your comfort zones, you need to challenge yourself to do things that scares you. A seed of corn that has been buried under the earth won't just start growing, it will pass through tough and ugly moments before it will grow into what we have been seeing around. Same thing applied to we humans, if we must grow past the level we use to be before then we must be ready to face some ups and downs. We must be ready to accept challenges that will be a stepping stone to our growth.
Draft out better ways to face every fear that limits you. You know exactly what brings on you each time you think of stepping out of your comfort zone. If you know what scares you, then trust me you will definitely know how to play around it and win. You can't fight what you don't know, get to know what you need, draft out ways to fight every fear that limits you from achieving that thing. Read books that focuses on how to conquer fear, or you talk to trusted people about it. This actions will help you a lot as more knowledge and ideas will be embedded in you. This knowledge and ideas is what will help you step out of your comfort zones.
Get a mentor if necessary. Sometimes the journey of stepping out if your comfort zone might look so boring, uninteresting, and lonely. Yeah!! You may be disappointed by the results you will get, i will advice you look for someone who you trust, someone you can share all your concern with without fear. This people should be someone who has been in the same page like you and they were able to fight their fears of leaving their comfort zone. Listen to them when they are talking to you, follow every step they took while in the process. This will help you get the necessary skills to help you fight your fears and step out of your comfort zone.
Take one step at a time. If you think stepping out of your comfort zone will be so easy that you can do it in one day, then you are mistakened. It will take a lot of time and courage to achieve it, but don't loose hope when in the process. Take one step at a time, start small then arrive big.
Always see yourself confident enough to do any task. You can achieve this if only you are the kind of person who supports every of your move towards achieving your goal. When i mean by support is that, you spark up yourself by saying some positive phrases eaxt time you embark on a goal. Phrases like "yes, i can do it, it is so possible", will help boost you self-confidence that will in turn help you to step out of your comfort zone.
Know the main reason why you want to step out. It is a good thing that you come to a point in your life when you decide to step out of your comf0rt zone, but you have to know the main reason to why you desire a change in your life, what really triggered you to take such decision. The more clear the reason is to you, the more motivated you will be in achieving your dreams.
A new life begins at the end of your comfort zone. The journey of stepping out of your comfort zone will lead to a more confident, positive, and productive you. Improvement on every side will set in. Don't wish to remain in your comfort zone any longer, work towards stepping out if you really want to grow.
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Obey or Disobey
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Like we all know "Obedience is better than sacrifice". Should they obey and later in life regret it, or should they disobey and later become thankful for the decision and path they took in their career. I know i am already putting you in suspense, sorry for that,and don't feel bored already because i have a great opinion to share in this article.
In my previous articles, i have been focusing on self-love, self-development, and the rest of it. But today this particular issue just hit me so hard that i got to realize that i will be a victim to it so with everyone of us here. We are all going to get married to our partners sometime in the future and this issue will always show up when we start having kids. Still putting you in suspense. I'm sorry.
In a situation where yoh have a child and you give maybe your opinion, choice of what you want them to become, advice on the vareeryou want them to pursue, and they refuse to follow it or listen to you. How will you feel?
Will you feel bad? Or respect their own choice of career?
Nowadays, especially in my country, parents force their kids to follow the career the choose for them, and sometimes this kids do have passion for this career. A parent would tell their child that they want him/her to become a medical doctor, but this child has passion to become an artist, and refuses to listen to them. In my country, this alone has projected you as a stubborn kid before your parents.
And if the child still insist in their choice of career, the unsupportive parents will hit them with ugly image of a disastrous future if they don't follow their own choice of career. Sometimes the society makes some parents behave this way. Where they are seeing other peoples kids become medical doctors, lawyers, engineers, etc being successful in those career, they will see it as a golden opportunity to also push their children to pursue any of those careers that are paying very well.
As a parent if you don't spend time with your children to really understand who they really are, what they love doing, their dream career, you have successfully contributed to downfall in the future, it might be emotional. Education is so good and i encourage it, but forcing a child to go to school, follow a particular career (your own choice), will lead to a half-baked and unfullfilled dream, and everything will be meaningless to them because their mind is not in agreement with the path their parents choose for them.
Should they obey or disobey?
You will become a parent one day, so you can answer this question for yourself.
Some parents mostly focus on the best paying career in town, the kind of respect that career will bring to their kids, this are the main reasons why they choose careers for their children. They won't want them to pursue their own personal aspirations. And a child that drops his/her dream career and follows that of their parents will never have a hopeful future, depression and disappointment will set in along the way.
Their main focus is landing a good paying job, and they forget that there are decisions they don't make for people, no matter their age, and sex. This kids already have what they want to become register in their minds, so when they are forced to follow the path they never wiehed to follow, there will always be a conflict between the two choices.
If we want the best for our kids, then lets encourage and give them all the support they need.
Parents, NGOs, schools etc, should encourage our young generation to purse whatever career the want as long as it will no cause any damage or harm to their future. Send them to organizations where they will learn or get more knowledge about what they intend doing. Appreciate them for the little efforts they put in actualizing their dreams. Create a suitable environment for them that will allow them to dream big about thier career, and also join them in the dreaming.
Before i end, i will ask again; Is it right that a parent for choices of career on their children, or should they allow them to chase their dreams and aspirations?
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Always Be There For Yourself
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It is so natural that at some point in our lives we think of other people more than we do to ourselves. Just few questions before i begin what i have for today.
How many number of times have you praised others for their success? Check and see if it is the same you have done to yourself?
How often do you forgive others? Have you done same to yourself on a regular basis?
You are always there for other people in times of their need? How often do you spend with yourself alone when you are in difficult moments?
If you have never given yourself the level of attention you give to others, don't feel bad about it, it happened to me back then. I have the knowledge of what it feels like to put other peoples needs infront and never consider to care about your own needs, giving out your last for or beverages when you are still hungry.
We are always there for others no matter the time they need us. We suspend important things we ought to do for ourselves just to be around people comforting them. For our loved ones like our families, friends, we make sure that we support them in their career even when others don't do. But when it comes to our own selves we feel so tired and lazy to even say a positive word to ourselves.
It is not a bad thing to show up for other people when they need us, but what matters is that, do we also do same to ourselves even more than what we do to others. I am aiming at self-love. I could remember when i realized that i needed to give myself more attention, it wasn't easy as it took me time to master it. I grew the habit of always being there for me, doing things that will bring joy to me, and i did this without the validation of anybody. In the process i got to understand who i really am. If you don't spend time with yourself, you will never know who you are, what you like and dislike, you best color, etc.
Several times, the strength and positivity i used to support others then, i channeled it to my side. I gave myself all the support i needed, i forgive myself for every mistakes i made, loved me like never before, and not waiting for anyone to do it.
The whole thing led me to self-love, loving myself for who i am. And i would want you to do same because you will have this inner peace with yourself.
Applaud yourself always
You will always have people around you to apply you whenever you are successful on a particular thing. You shouldn't be so comforted and relaxed with such mentality if you want to grow, it is good to expect cheers from people, but you shouldn't put all your mind on the support and encouragement that comes from others before you can achieve your goal in life. Not everyone that cheers you meant it, and sometimes the very people you had expected to get their support may never show up for you.
So now what do you do in such a situation? This is where self-love will come in, remind yourself of who you are, what you are capable of doing, how far you can go in life. Get the support you need from within you, know your value, and don't forget to always celebrate every successes both small and big.
Give yourself some quality time to have some fun
Don't be too busy with other that you forget to give yourself some quality time. Give yourself the best treat even, maybe doing the things you love doing, go to the cinema, or getting a massage. Just doing this alone will make you come alive, your mind will be refreshed. Don't let a day pass you by without creative some spare time for yourself. Like you have been going extra miles for people, do same to yourself and you will always that you for taking such step.
Forgive yourself for every mistake
In the process of learning how to always be there for yourself, you are bound to make mistake. Don't be mad or maybe get angry with yourself, know that in every of this mistakes there is a lesson to take out from it. If you forgive others, then you should do same to yourself without much delay. Just know that you are doing yourbest and everything will be fine.
Engage yourself in doing the things that gives you joy
If all what you do is pay attention to other peoples ideas and opinion, you will never come to the place where you would discover what gives you joy and peace of mind. If you really want to learn how to be there for yourself, then you need to do things that brings you joy, things you do with passion. What is most important is you being happy, and that requires that you remove the things that will bring displeasure to you and focus more on the things that will add great things to your life. This life we see is just too short, and wasting it on irrelevant things people and things is not worth it.
We all need to experience joy from within, but if we feel lost in the process of searching for this joy, don't be troubled as the solution to it is not too far from you. Spend some quality time with yourself, do what makes you feel happy, always be there for yourself everytime you need help. By this you will start to experience joy, you will enjoy peace from within, and the love you have towards you will grow more and more. Don't wait for anyone to validate you, be your biggest supporter, shine your light like never before and let the world know how worthy you are.
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Go for the YES
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Many times we try to do new things that will either bring a change to our lives or maybe we are starting a new career, and we tell it to people close to us, majority of this people will say NO, don't do it. Using myself as an example will be like; "pejudear, No that thing won't work for you, No you will never succeed with such an idea, No i don't have any money to support you." All you get to hear is no all the time and they will never get tired of saying no.
Getting this kind of response from the people we hoped on will make you feel discouraged, and sometimes we allow their NO to kill our efforts, dreams and aspirations. We come to a conclusion that if this people we trusted would say that our dreams can never be a reality, that it is impossible, then truly those dreams of ours are impossible.
I titled this article ***"You Will Always Find A YES Within Every NO"*** with a reason. Not everyone that laughs with you wants you to succeed, you present your goal to someone and all they do is try to discourage you from achieving that goal. Some of the NOs response are out of jealousy, they don't want you to be more successful than they are.
But i am telling you now that you shouldn't put every no you get from people, especially when it has to do with your career into consideration. Because behind those no(s), there is a yes, and that yes is on the inside of you. There is a force around you that has the power to resist every no(s) from those negative people. We are the only one responsible for our downfall if we allow the no of other people quench the fire of yes that is burning severely in us.
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After today, if you share your goals with people and they try to discourage with thier usual no response, don't panic as you walk away to a quiet place and think of ways you can turn their discouraging reponse into a positive one.
Not everyone was suppose to be in our lives, same with advice. Not everyone was suppose to give us advice on how to go about our journey through life. If it occurs to you that the person you so trusted to get a positive response from gives you a no, friends it is better you drop such a person and move on with your life as they are not meant to be part of your life.
Sometimes this negative response will block us from seeing how successful our goals will be, it will make us want to give up on our dream, but if we can build the courage to see this negative response as a pathway to something better, this will help keep our focus on how to achieve our dreams even with the no response from people.
Our plans everyday should be how we can change every negative no into a positive yes. Since i began writing here on read.cash, the determination of not allowing my fears to limit me helps me to come here everyday with good articles for us to read. I don't let the spirit of no i cannot write something people can read to stop me and this keeps me going here.
When you get a no as a response from someone next time, don't feel bad or try to look down on your dreams, but try to fight and make a yes rather and let this people what never wished you good regret why they ever gave such negative response to you.
When they say no, say yes, yes to challenge, trying new things, say yes to new opportunities. Make it happen for you, support yourself so that you can be a blessing to your generation and the world at large.
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Building Up Confidence
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It is so possible, but somehow tougher to build up confidence, and this can be done by telling yourself that you are the best even when others write you down. Every of your thoughts about yourself and the words which you confess with your mouth are positive. If by any way people call you ugly, don't forget too soon that you were wonderfully made in the likeness of God Almighty, God is not ugly, so you can't be ugly. Never look down on yourself if you want to build confidence.
Lets be practical here; We all have people we admire, and 100% of the people we admire are successful fellows. Have a mental picture of that successful person you admire so much, try to see if that person felt the same way you do about yourself.
Take for instance, if the person you admire the most was Messi or Christian Ronaldo, both of them are successful in their careers and we all know that. Have a mental picture in your head where you are having a conversation with them, and in the conversation they were telling you what was bothering them. Messi said to you "I am so troubled because of Christian Ronald", or the way round, Christian Ronaldo voiced out "I am so troubled because of Messi". As their admirer how will you counsel them without causing any harm to any of them? I am so sure you wouldn't want to say anything negative, but you will let them know every of the outstanding qualities and skills they possess, going on to say that you would never compare both of them because you like them for who they are.
This are positive words, if you could do it to someother person, then i wouldn't see why it is too difficult and impossible to do it to your own self.
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****How then can you build confidence****
Don't be afraid to make mistakes, even when you are being laughed at don't be distracted. Keep focus and learn from your mistakes because you have something you are aiming at to get. It will never make sense to them but it is for your own good. Make yourself do things that seem impossible, things that looks crazy in the eyes of others. Don't ever feel bad that people will laugh at you or what they will think about you. Remember that you want to help yourself achieve something spectacular. Trust me you will never regret it.
**You have all what it takes to recreate how people see you. When they notice that of all what they have done and said, you have not given up but the more confident you become, they will burry their face in shame and stop talking negative about you**.
Take a piece of paper and a pen, write down all the peculiar things about yourself, whatsoever thing you know how to do, write all of them down also. Stop putting your mind on other peoples life, focus on making your own life look even more better. Always be grateful for the things you have cos a lot of people out there don't have what you have. Being grateful always will help build your confidence.
Letting fear of rejection by people get hold of you. This has a great effect on you to make you loose your self-confidence. To build it, you have to know that not everybody was suppose to be part of our lives, fight this fear and learn how to control it by being conscious of the fact that we can't make everybody love us. If people don't love you back, this is where you will learn to love yourself for who you are. Fight this fear and win it and you will build confidence in the process.
Any task that seems hard to do, we will never want to do them. For instance, writing a promotion exams at your work place, the questions set won't be simple, and because we need the promotion badly we will result to taking shortcuts so that we can write the exams and pass. Looking for shortcut, and other hacks with never help us to build our confidence. The journey to building confidence is not a cheap one, lots of challenges will set in, but with the right mind and persistence you will surely earn your confidence.
The main foundation to building confidence is believing in yourself. If you can't believe in yourself then all your efforts to building confidence is a waste of time. To achieve this, you have to believe in yourself, love yourself the more, and always say positive things about yourself.
The journey to building confidence is not cheap like i said earlier. In everything that you do and at some point you have this fear in you, just know that behind that fear lies confidence. If only you can fight the fear, then you will earn confidence at the end.
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Is It Real? Love At First Sight
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Love at first sight!! What a great topic to talk about. Before i share what i have with us, i hope we all had a wonderful time on vals day, I did as well by loving myself the more. I decided not to visit anyone or even go out with anyone. It was just me and myself alone, self-love is so sweet and the feeling is out of this world.
Back to our topic for today!! The topic looks captivating and you are so curious to read what i have shared. Love at first sight to some people seems like the most perfect thing in the world to happen to them. I have got this feeling before, and i guess each and everyone of us here have had such moments before. A funny scene when you see somebody for the first time, just looking into their eyes, everything about you changes. Your mood, how you talk and your action. You will have this conviction within you that you have found the right person.
Majority of us here, if asked this question, the answer will be YES. And if your answer is NO, and truly you've not experience this before, then just know that you have missed one of the most amazing feeling ever. The feeling is unexplainable.
A mental picture of the moment is created in your head, you see yourself having all the fun with this person, eating the best meal in the best restaurant in town, and lots more. But in reality, you are limited to just staring with a smile. Haha!!!
In the very moment you are staring at this person, doing all you could to get the attention of this special person, lots of questions will drop in you head like " I'm i just having a crush on this person, or is this true love". After this you will want to seek advice from your friend, some will encourage you to try your luck, while those funny friends will discourage you with "there's nothing like love at first sight". The bad response is enough to break your heart.
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Love at first sight is so real, and it doesn't count out anyone from experiencing the magical feeling of it. You only give it time before you can conclude that truly it was love or some crush you had on the person. If you are finding it too hard to get your mind off that person you met few days back at some random location, just know that the whole of you has just fallen only love with that person.
If this is happening to you, you are so free to try your best to get that person in your life, but it shouldn't be by compulsion. At some moments you should know what to do and not when you are around this person.
Getting to fall in love at first sight is not devine, it is just a normal feeling and it has nothing to do with "we will be together forever". Sometimes getting into a relationship with this special person might not last as there is bound to be a breakup. This does not tells that you were never in love at the first place.
Anybody can have aan experience of how love feels like no matter the age or gender. It does not solely depend on the continous meeting between the two parties. Love at first sight can be expressed best with a true heart, and it is the most innocent of all as it leads you to fall for a particular person on sighting them for the first time ever.
Love at first sight is real!!!
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Self-Love
*February 12, 2022*
What a moment to be here again. Wow i am feeling so excited, hope everyone is doing pretty good this saturday. It is saturday, so i am going to talk on a random topic. But before i begin, let me ask you few questions and i hope you have the best answers to them.
**•** For a moment, have you ever paused to think about what kind of feeling you will get to be good enough for yourself alone and not other people?
**•** How will it feel to be good enough as you are and not mind what people will say?
**•** Have you ever stopped and thought about living your life the way it suppose to be and not care if other people appreciate it?
****Lets know what self-love is****
Self-love could mean anything to you as we have different views to something. For me self-love is believing in yourself and not minding what people will say or do. Self-love means loving yourself the mom bo matter your mistake, failures, and messy lifestyle. Self-love is when you see the need to change and you encourage yourself to step out of your comfort zone to try out new things that may seem extraordinary. Self-love means showering yourself with an unconditional love.
As the saying goes "Health is wealth", self-love is maintaining a healthy lifestyle, not allowing your body system to get damaged by few minutes pleasure. Self-love is understanding yourself more than anyone else, you are so aware of your inner strength no matte the situation you are in.
***Best regards to my first sponsor here. Thank you for loving what i do here and seeing the reason to motivate me the more. I love you so much.***
**What if we lived out lives this way**
What if we live our life without doubting ourselves, but just with full understanding of who we truly are we know what we worth, accomplish every set goals and have this unconditional love for ourselves that we can't keep within us but spread it to others who believe in us? What if we just live our life and stop stressing ourselves over what people think or say about us, not everyone is suppose to be in our journey of life? What if we live out life on our own opinions alone, it could be the only thing that matters about us?
**Reminder**
Self-love in another way i would say is being good and fair enough for yourself and not others. People will only see your truth worth when you are good enough for yourself.
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Give close attention to the thoughts that dominates your mind more often, are they negative thoughts, thoughts that are filled with doubts of what you can do, or who you are. If this are the things that floods your mind and they make you feel bad, imagine the kind of feeling you will get when you replace them with positive thoughts, you don't dwell in your past mistakes but you can more on how to build a better version of you.
You could imagine what it will feel like to experience abundant self-positivity and self-love. It will be a nice one, so you should stand your grounds to make sure you fight to have such feeling everyday of your life. And in the process of this, you would discover that self-love can be achieved with much stress.
You will always remain undefeatable because of self-love. Nothing can stop you because through you action you have sent a message to the world that no matter what happens, no matter the criticism, you still going to stand strong. Haters will always be there, but with the wall of love you have builded roundabout you, no critics can make you look your self-trust. Every be strong, practice self-love the more and things will work out just fine for you.
**Self-love has a freeing power**
Some years back when i was so tormented by negative reports, critics, and negative thoughts. I made up my mind to free myself from the bondage of all of this things, and self-love, and staying positive was the only solution at the moment. Luckily for me it worked for me, i was able to free myself from every negativity that was stucked in my mind. I practiced self-love and i watched my life change for the good.
Negative thoughts has not been erased completely from my mind, it still shows up but not so powerful and dominating as before. I forgive myself for allowing it come around and try my best to push it away everyday. Self-love has really helped me and i hope you practice it too and enjoy its freeing power
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Thank you for reading!!!
Writing Is Just Amazing
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Hello everyone, it's so good to be back here again after a long while. It wasn't intentional that i absent myself from here, but due to some ups and downs, i had no other choice than to take a break.
Before i go into what i have to share with us today, i want to use this medicine to say a very big thank you to @Talecharm for seeing the best in me. I got a notification that i have a new sponsor, i was surprise to see that it is her. Joy filled my heart immediately, the motivation i got was out of this world. Thank you so very much for this support, now i know that all my effort here is not in vain.
The sponsorship inspired me to come up with this article, it's not going going be a long one, but i hope you get something out of it.
Sometimes we are too comfortable and relaxed at where we are and forget to seek for change. Few days ago when i was inactive here, a lot happened toel me that made me realized that i am sliding back into my old self, character, and behavior. Every night i wouldn't stop crying, seeking for ways to deliver myself ones again. I forgot so soon that i have a special lifestyle which is capable of taking me out of this mess i am in 'Writing'.
When i realized this, with a teary eye, i got hold of my pencil, picked a notebook and started writing. All i wanted to see myself write at that moment was how grateful i am, how truly i love myself, my thoughts at the moment, and suddenly my teary eyes got dried up gradually. I was so happy that I've got a tool to fight bad moments.
It was so difficult for me to tell my feelings to anyone, but putting it into writing really helped me a lot. If the little i wrote could help push me out of my same moment, then i see writing a saving tool. It brought thjs feeling of newness upon me which made me felt better.
I just hope that someone reading this will get inspired and get help too. Making writing a part of us will be so nice because there are situations we go through which we can't share with anyone, keeping it inside of us will cause more problem to us. This is were writing plays a great roll in our healing process, putting down those things on a paper will give us the feeling that we have let it go off our mind.
Writing is a force itself, and it is so powerful. It has the ability to pull you out of sad moments everyday. When we do it consistently it will become part of us, and through this we might get smarter and wiser.
Life has a lot in it, both the good and the ugly moment. If unfortunately you are hit with the ugly moments, find something within that will keep you standing firm and strong even in your darkest days. I wouldn't be here today to celebrate the sponsorship i got if not for the short moment i got myself writing about me. If you've not discovered what will work for you, i encourage you to pick a person and a jotter and start writing. Whatsoever will make you happh, just write it down and observe how you will get better and better gradually.
From today, i will not stay far away from writing because it is my source of strength and inspiration. The next time you feel rejected, sad, just write and you will feel better again
Don't let anything stop you from discoverimg that thing that brings you light, if writing seems not to work for you, don't lose hope. Keep searching for your own saving tool. You are worthy of every good day that comes
Thank you for reading!!!
How Far I Have Gone
Hello Read Dot Cash family, how is everyone doing around here, hope everything is so fine. I never wanted to write any article today, but on seeing the great articles in this community brought a fresh energy on me, haha, that's why i decided to write. Since January has ended, i will be making a summary of all the articles i have made here for the month. Hope you will find some good lessons in it.
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Edited by: **pejudear** https://read.cash/@pejudear
**The Uncomfort Zone Where The Magic Happens:**
This was my first article here on the read.cash platform, until today i don't know what gave me the boldness to come up with such a great article. In this article a young lady was so afraid of stepping out of her comfort zone into the uncomfort zone. She was so comfortable where she was not knowing that she was limiting herself from growing im every aspect of her life. Comfort zones will always have all the luxury we would ever desire, but if we stay long there we will never realize who we truly are, what we can do, etc. I was forced out of my comfort zone bacause i needed to find my passion. It was a thing that scared me but i never worry because i know exactly what i wanted to achieve. Moving out of our comfort zones may seem impossible, but be bold enough to take that first step into the uncomfort zones, and the experience you will get will help build you into a better version of you.
**Read full article here:** The Uncomfort Zone Where The Magic Happens https://read.cash/@pejudear/the-uncomfort-zone-where-the-magic-happens-6f1971b5
The word i thought of "Strong":
Everyone here have had ugly moments that made us sad in one way or the other, moments that will make us want to give up on ourselves. As long as we are still staying in this world some days won't go as we planned, an know this that after a teary night comes a joyful morning. Sometimes this setbacks are there to make us stronger than what we were before. No matter what happen, keep believing in yourself, have this confident assurance that everything will be alright. And above all, love yourself the more as this will make you more stronger and confident enough to without any situation.
**Read full article here:** The word i thought of "Strong" https://read.cash/@pejudear/the-word-i-thought-of-strong-0878916f
This time, I won’t let fear win - Pejudear:
At some point in our live, we've always given3n fear the chance to rule over us which is not suppose to be so. And if we still allow fear to enslave us, we will never realize the great opportunities that lies beyond what we are afraid of doing. If because of the fear to fail we are afraid to try out something then we are loosing a lot because in every mistake there is always a great lesson to learn from it. Like i said in my other article, staying in our comfort zone is a sign that we are afraid to try something new and extraordinary, move out of your comfort zone and start working towards achieving your dreams, and stop allowing fear to limit you. Lets be bold enough to challenge fear starting from today, it can never win again. Take this into consideration and you will be glad you did.
**Really full article here:** This time, I won’t let fear win - Pejudear https://read.cash/@pejudear/this-time-i-wont-let-fear-win-pejudear-08b9cfe1
Celebrate small achievements: Growth mindset:
As a writer here on the read.cash platform, i celebrate myself for every article i write. Though it may not be the best around here but i still celebrate myself for it knowing that a journey of a thousand miles begins with a step. My tomorrow will always be better than now. No matter how small our dreams may be, we should celebrate it, because the more we celebrate it the more it grows into something huge. Take a look at your life and see how far you have gone, friends our lives is worth celebrating. Always be happy for the little you have friends.
**Read full article here:** Celebrate small achievements: Growth mindset https://read.cash/@pejudear/celebrate-small-achievements-growth-mindset-0c7f5c9a
Love who you are:
Loving who you are sounds like a very difficult thing to do, but as you are growing everyday learn to love yourself as each day passes. Remember a journey of a thousand miles begins with a step, start from somewhere. There are days when i fill like giving up on myself just for nothing so serious, and there are days i love myself for everything i do. It won't just happen so easily, but when you have mastered the proces with time, loving yourself for who you are will worth everything. No matter who you are, the mistakes you have made in the past, what you are capable of doing etc shouldn't stop you from loving yourself. Friend will always disappoint you the very moment you need them the most, but the only person who will be there for you is YOU. When everything seems ugly and dark, be your best friend. You can only stay positive and happy always if you love who you are.
**Read full article here:** Love who you are https://read.cash/@pejudear/love-who-you-are-e6975ffb
I Hope You Dance:
I see dance as a best way to express ones feelings. It is so full of lessons to learn from. If we love dancing then we will know a lot about life itself, our self-confidence will be strong. Dance has so much in it that if i want to mention them, the list will never end. Some people say it's another way of doing exercise, but i see it as an incredibly spiritual phenomenon which has the ability to mend a broken heart, heal the body and soul and the mind. Get on your feet and start dancing now if you need a change in your life.
**Read full article here:** I Hope You Dance https://read.cash/@pejudear/i-hope-you-dance-2faa3850
Have a dream:
I define dream as that one thing you love doing so easily without stress you are so passionate about it. Everyone of us have dreams, very few know exactly what is their dream even from a young age. But if you've not come to the know of knowing what your dreams are, find something and start doing, those things that makes you happy when you do them. You should never settle on one thing if you want to discover your dreams through this method, try doing different things to see what you like and what you dislike. It is likely to take a longer time before you realize your dreams, don't give up, continue and at the end you will be happy you did.
**Read full article here:** Have a dream https://read.cash/@pejudear/have-a-dream-794502ae
I owe a lot to read.cash and BCH:
This is a personal one here. Read.cash has really impacted my life in so many aspects, it is given mean an opportunity to discover my writing skills, and also giving me the opportunity to earn the best crypto BCH. I know very well that even moment i spend here is not wasted as i am learning from other writers here. I am not up to a month since i singed up here, but i am feeling like a year old in the platform. The love and acceptance from other members is nothing to be compare to other platform. I love this community of Bitcoin Cash lovers. I owe a lot to read dot cash, and i hope that through out my stay my contents will impact the community on a positive side.
**Read full article here:** I owe a lot to read.cash and BCH https://read.cash/@pejudear/i-owe-a-lot-to-readcash-and-bch-c8107ba7
Just a simple and true fact: Bitcoin Cash is the future:
I won't say much here as we all know that BCH has all the potentials to becoming the world currency. If we really want to enjoy true freedom, lets fight to make Bitcon Cash achieve its true purpose to which it was created. Freedom is all we need, lets make it happen.
**Read full article here:** Just a simple and true fact: Bitcoin Cash is the future https://read.cash/@pejudear/just-a-simple-and-true-fact-bitcoin-cash-is-the-future-e9e27dad
I can do this | You can do this | BCH can do this:
No matter how it seems now, lets just keep our focus straight. A lot of discrimination will come by in all of this lets derive inspiration to even fight the more. We are heading somewhere, so we shouldn't allow what people say to make us doubt ourselves or what we believe in. We will all get to out destinated point in life. BCH will fulfill its purpose no matter what. We are made to win and winning will be ours forever.
**Read full article here:** I can do this | You can do this | BCH can do this https://read.cash/@pejudear/i-can-do-this-you-can-do-this-bch-can-do-this-8a6b96b0
This is just a summary of all the articles i made for the month of january. I hope i will do better this month. Thank you all for the inspiration. I love everyone.
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**Thank you for reading!!!!**
I can do this | You can do this | BCH can do this
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Hello everyone, hope y'all are doing good today. It's the last friday of the first month of the year, lets make it a memorable one as we have 3 days left before January walks away. Today if possible i will talking about two good topics, haha! This is how friday got me, it's a special one and i have to allow myself to flow with it.
As humans which we are, we were created differently and each of us here has differents habits. It might be the good or the bad, and that makes us who we are. If we are so unfortunate that we possess the bad habits, sure there is enough room to change and grow above such habits, but we really need to be careful at this point that even in the process of growing, if we don't focus we may end up in seeing ourselves in living in our old habits again. This bad habits are never good, the will shield you from becoming who you truly wanted to become, opportunities will pass you by.
Personally, i have developed myself to grow above certain things that seems to weigh people down, but i am human afterall and there are days that seem so hard and ugly that i want to lose hope on myself and just end it all. Those habits that i assumed i have grown above will find a way back, making me to make negative assumptions through our the whole day. That's how it is, but in all of this i still have that confident in myself that in no distant time i will be back on my feet, and continue to grow the more and push myself to learn frompast mistakes and do more better than before.
I could remember that one of the things that really bothered me was getting assurance from people and not care to know how to give myself that self-assurance i so much needed. But i am happy now that in the process of growing i learn to celebrate my own self, give myself that thumbs up finger that i begged people for several time. This is the best thing i have done and sometimes i need more of it. Not just this, i have learned also to argue with every negative thought in my head, like what is that thing that can prove to me that this negative thoughts are true. And i get no answer for that.
Every morning, i look into the mirror and say to myself that "I CAN DO THIS". I remind myself of who i have become, my inner strength, and that i will win this battle of breaking old habits completely.
Winning is not assured everyday, but if you determine to win, definitely you will become become winner at the end. There are days i will be so lazy and unmotivated, and fighting to let myself loose from this old habits will seem like a failed battle. But i will keep on fighting no matte what because each time i remember how painful it was to depend on people to self-assured me, and this people will do as it pleases them not caring about my own emotions. But at last i never wanted their validation anymore as i have learned to shower myself with it as i want. This is what i have been desiring all my life, to give myself the opportunity to love myself.
I advice us today that no matter what, we all have to stay alert and focus. It might have been that we have been fighting this old habits that seems to weigh us down and that whole thing looks as if we are loosing already. Don't worry because as long as we are fighting, we will get more stronger and wiser than those habits of our past. Often time while we are fighting the negative things in our head, lets remind ourselves of who we have become, how far we have come, how stronger and bold we are. Even when it seems hard, keep on pushing forward because we can do it.
Whatever kind of past habit that you are fighting to set yourself free from it, know this that you are superior to it, you decide if it stays or go, that even if the fight seems impossible you will not stop fighting until you become the very kind of person up so wish to be.
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Like i said in my article 2 days ago that Bitcoin Cash is the future, i still stand and believe in what i said. I won't have to ring it everytime into the ears of the unbelivers to hear and know that BCH is actually the future. Forgot the fact that it is not used in every aslect of the worlds economy, but it has all the potentials to become the worlds currency.
Bitcoin Cash is a digital currency which is been stored in a virtual wallet on our smartphones, computers etc. This is why i say it has potentials to become the worlds currency. The stress of carrying bags of money around will be lifted from us, the low transaction fees involved, freedom to spend it spend it anywhere, anytime, and with who you like.
Reflecting back to the 70s, the internet was so condemed for the reason that it was going to replace the old ways of communication. A lot of this unbelievers as i will call them gave the opinion that the internet and the things it came with like the E-mail, and mode of transaction will never last long because to them it was not secured. Giving excuses that they have no assurance if mails sent will get to the right destination. It wasn't their fault because they never understood how the internet works.
Things have really changed so fast. During the olden days era, people will need to move ar distances before they can have access to use a postal service, but it is not like that now as the internet has taken over the world. Without it, the world will be lacking a lot on every aspect.
Because of the internet, we all can stay at the comfort of our home and read about great happenings around the world, going to the library will be an option as we look up anything on the internet with our smartphones or computer.
Will traditional fiat currencies stay
for ever?
We have all wish to see all the nations of the world come together as a one body to do some good transactions, we can never achieve this if we have different currencies, it is only achieveable with a single currency and that currency is Bitcoin Cash. The internet has really affected the world, things are changing for the better.
Just because of the internet and advance in technology, the limitations of distance between two countries have been shortened, we are all few meters away from each other. The internet have touched almost every corners of the world except for the currency we are using.
Nobody will ever like or be happy to pay huge fees for just converting a currency to another one, and in the process enriching the exchange dealers. But if there is just one currency, i don't think there will be need for this fees, such thing will cease to exist as everything will be decentralizes. I would never want a stranger interfere between any private transaction i will want to have with my clients or whosoever, i am talking about a third-party. I don't know if you will feel comfortable with such process?
**I hate the banks for this - Invading peoples privacy....**
I don't know their motive, whatsoever it is doesn't give them the right to come in between the transaction of two people. This is automatically giving Bitcoin Cash an advantage over fiat currencies.
A lot of scams that are happening now are linked to traditional fiat currencies and the transaction made can't be tracked all because it depends on human management. Whereas its isn't so with Bitcoin Cash were every transaction can be tracked on the blockchain.
Good things like Bitcoin Cash will always take time before it is accepted. And i am sure it will replace fiat currencies at the end.
**Final thought**
Like the internet, Bitcoin Cash will take over the world when the right time fully comes, and that will land us at a point were we will trade, transact, and own just one currency.
Soon Bitcoin Cash will take over the world and be there forever
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Just a simple and true fact: Bitcoin Cash is the future
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Bitcoin Cash as we all know is a decentralized peer-to-peer electronic cash system that is not controlled by any central authority. It works just like our normal traditional currency. Today BCH has really attracted the attention of investors, merchants, and businesses around the world.
People won't just start using any crypto out there just because it is been hyped, but Bitcoin Cash possesses lots of great qualities which has attracted many to since it was created: it provides security, efficiency, privacy, fast transaction, no third-party involved, and its autonomous nature.
Because of the overwhelming traits Bitcoin Cash possesses, it has become a success in a short while so many people didn't see it coming. Other cryptos out there have attempted to attract more people to it side, but Bitcoin Cash has done this without struggling. This amazing currency has something that arouses excitement.
The Truth
Bitcoin Cash for now may not be able to completely push traditional currencies out of sight. We all know that the the fiat we are using are controlled by the government and it is used everywhere in the world. But know this, where there is high rate of inflation in the world, this would be a great chance for Bitcoin Cash to thrive there.
Already, Bitcoin Cash is as old as methuselah in the ears of everyone of us here, it is not a new thing to us as we have had the opportunity to do some transaction with it, either buying, or sending to a friend, holding it in a safe wallet for some gains. I would add that as you are accumulating this great coin invest some of it because Bitcoin Cash is here to stay.
A lot of persons have argued about the future of Bitcoin Cash, they would say it is a useless coin that would never go far, it is liable to collapse. But NO!! People who have seen the future of this great crypto won't say such because the advantages of what they so believe in outwieghs the negative talks from the people what don't believe in it.
I only have this confidence that Bitcoin Cash is the future because as far as the economic system of the world is still very much around, BCH has all it takes to dominate traditional currencies on a higher side.
This reasons keeps my confidence alive
Bitcoin Cash can be possibly seen as the future because of this reasons:
Bitcoin Cash is borderless - Unlike the traditonal fiats that have limitations, BCH can be used across the world without any limitations. No delay, it is instant and requires no international fees with a cost-effective transaction to anywhere in the world. Just the internet and a working smartphone, you are good to go.
Mobile payment - Bitcoin Cash is much more a safe digital cash option and it is absolutely the right choice for mobile payment due to their decentralized nature.
Private data - Loan apps, banks, have a tradition of keeping in their possession the private datas of their customers. They can never guarantee that those datas will be sad. Bitcoin Cash doesn't operate this way, it brings down the requirement for any transaction to just numbers and letters to confirm a transaction between two entities. Tell me why people will not choose Bitcoin Cash to be a global currency.
***Bitcoin Cash has advantage over fiat curreny......***
Our governments, since they have the power, they can choose to print more notes whenever they feel like with the intention of stealing from it citizens. And in the process of printing too many notes, it loses its value over time.
As long as we allow the government to keep on behaving this way, we will keep on having problems that will never be solved.
Slowing down the rate of fraud - Online fraud has been increasing lately because of the improvement in technology and this is sending a very serious and dangerous threats to investors, and businesses. Bitcoin Cash has the capability of tracking the true identity of a product with the help of a powerful blockchain technology.
***And lastly for now...***
Low fees - Sending fiat currency to a family staying in another country will demand a lot of fees from you. But its isn't so with Bitcoin Cash as it enables affordable transaction process of any amount to anybody, anywhere, at anytime not minding the location.
**Final Thoughts**
With all of this attributes, Bitcoin Cash has a higher chance of being adopted by many as the currency of the future. A lot of other crypto have come and gone, but our BCH is still around and doing good. Lets make it achieve it main purpose to which it was created.
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I owe a lot to read.cash and BCH
Read.cash is not only here to promote the BCH currency, but it is doing more than that. It has put food on peoples table, helped settle people bills, OMG!! They are so many of them and that's why i owe a lot to it. To be very sincere with us here, i owe a lot to this great community, read.cash and bitcoin cash. This two are the main reason why i am still here.
All the time i have spent here i never talked about the financial part of my life, although i never wanted to share it here, but i think it is important i do right now after realizing the little benefits i get from here help solved some financial issues i had.
read.cash has really done a lot for me
already...
Read.cash has done more for me other than helping me to have a legal source where i earn few coins. Read.cash has given me the opportunity to make better friends here. Part of my life would be a dimmer space without their splash of rays in it.
I was never into crypto until i got to know about read.cash and BCH. So far, i have gotten this framgment of knowledge about crypto, not that deep though. But with time i think i would be a pro in it. Haha!
I have been hearing of SmartBCH here and in other platforms, still very new in that area. As long as read.cash still exists and with the great articles about BCH and SmartBCH, like i said earlier, i will be aiming becoming a pro. It will definitely look on me.
It's good news to share with you all that the few days i have been here has really impacted my life. I am yet to see a platform like this one, everything here is interesting as you are been appreciated with some amounts of crypto on your articles. The things i have learned here so far has change the way i see things, widen my view about things, and lots more. I can never get this anywhere else.
Getting involved with read.cash and BCH has really helped me to develop more on my writing skills which i have been so afraid of the past years.
I take this wonderful community as my second relaxation spot. For the few times i have spent here, it has enrich and i appreciate that no matter how small it is. More joy from here and that's why i can never give up on myself.
For everything i have gotten here, i so wish that i will have the capability to pay back to this great community every good thing i have achieved and also for enriching me.
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**It is a short one, thank you for reading!!**
Have A Dream
There is this special kind of feeling of excitement you get whenever you've achieved something big, something you never thought will ever happen, joy overflows in you when you are at the peak of achieving that one thing you so dreamed of. For sure!! Your days of hard work is actually paying you. I just hope y'all have a taste of this kind of feeling just like i am having right now after dealing with fear of writing. Today i have my 7th article on the read.cash platform.
If you are too lazy or allow fear to take charge over you, then you will never be any where near the success point of your dreams. Your dream will never be out of reach, if you are focus, give the whole of yourself into those things you so much desire to get, you will be surprise at the things you will accomplish.
I was so nervous on the very first day i started writing here on read.cash platform, this made me to push myself in a manner that led me to see how loaded and strong i was more than my fears, and that i was competent enough of turning my dreams to reality.
Truely speaking i wasn't expecting anything big from my first article, i was so careless about it, but in the process of my writing i learned so much about myself, my expectations, and above all what it will cost me to see those expectations come true.
What you should know: [Using writing as
Key point]
**If you don't write, no one will ever read your work.**
You could be having this fear of writing about something you have no knowledge of and if you come up with a piece of article, people will never read. The few days i have spent here has taught me that even though i write an article on some random topic and Mr. A doesn't read it , there will always be Mr. B, C , or D to read it, just because they love and believe in what i am doing.
It just needs that boldness from you, put those creative ideas into writing. The only thing that seems like harm, but it is never harm people will do to you is ignoring your work. They won't read it, but never worry because this attitude from them can open you up to great opportunities you never expected.
**Just follow the passion, even when it seems impossible**
Sometimes things rarely go the way we had planned it. Personally i had to adapt to this fact, you should never lack this one ability 'adapting'. When i had the ideas of what to write by fear would8 give me the chance to pen it down, i became so worried and frustrated.
All i needed was someone to whisper to my ears that i can do it, as i was deeply caged by fear and negative thoughts. As i began to push myself to adapt to those unpleasant moments, i had no other choice than to deal with my fears, erase them off my mind, and hope that i will start writing successfully without fear of anything.
I adapted and here i am today, writing freely like a pro. Haha!
You should learned to adapt to odd happenings that shift us away from our original plans, far more better things are on the other side of wildest dreams.
**Begin the journey of loving yourself**
Begin this said journey by having the habit of writing the things you love about yourself. For somepeople, achieving this is quite difficult, but it will be so lovely if you are able to come up with that you so much love about yourself and surely this will ignite something in you to desire to go higher.
**No matter how many people read your work, just continue and be who you are.**
Even without having too many expectations, i still have this confident assurance that my writing skills will improve with time and more people will read my work. Seriously i wasn't expecting to have more than 5 views on my first article, but it suprised me that i had more than 5 views.
With time, i will put less attention on the number of people that reads my article and care more about the positive impact i will live in the lives of the few people that will have the chance to read my work. The only person you can ever be is you, so just be who you are, that is your power.
**My ending thoughts**
As the saying going " behind every successful figure is another figure behind it making it succeed." I wouldn't have gotten part of the inspiration i needed without read.cash and you as an individual, i am so grateful that i have you guys.
For everyone who spare their time to read few of my articles here and also learn something from it, i appreciate you. And my love extends to everyone who gave out their tips to support me.
Everyone of you inspires me get up everyday and think of what to write for the day and this is making me grow the more. For you reading this, you've made me feel special and loved already, i thank you from the depth of my heart. Cheers!!
I will submit finally by saying that things rarely work the way we plan it. Sometimes we wish for a quiet environment but the kids won't let us get it, we wish for speed and delay will set in, in all of this we should learn to adapt and follow the process slowly. We should always have this confident assurance that the hard work we have put in accomplishing our dreams will pay off no matter how things turn out to be. Spend more of your free time around people that will stand by you and make sure you succeed. People that will correct you on your mistakes and not mock or laugh at you.
Above all, have a dream, work towards achieving it, and finally when it reaches the point of manifestation, show it to the world and reflect on how far you have gone.
**Thank you for reading!!**
I Hope You Dance
And what i was always thinking was so hard for a very long time now, was a very simple thing to which if seriousness is put to doing it, you are good to go. Stared at my smartphone for few secs, unlocked it with my pattern and headed straight to my music folder. Selected the right song for that moment and hit the play button, slowly slowly i allowed my body to move to the rhythm of the music at its freewill.
At some point i noticed the funny moves i was making and it got me laughing, not needing any negative response of anybody. Now i am on my feet, i just kept on dancing and laughing at the same time until i got to realize that dancing was exactly what i needed.
Having a great moment like this to dance taught me the precedence of gorgeously and just myself. I learned to laugh at myself through dancing, this is something i never wanted to do in my whole life. If you need all the freedom you could ever imagine to get, just leave how to laugh at yourself. I got the freedom yeah!! Dancing gave me the opportunity to grow my morale more, raised my egotism and made me feel so relax and safe in my own skin.
Pejudear would never value the time she spents on her own, why because i did not admit myself that much then, but dancing made me to value every moment i spent alone, gave me a mental picture of what it will feel like to have pleasant moments by myself. This was taking me somewhere great and better, and i knew it from the start. Dancing has been my greatest teacher so far, it has supplied me with lots of joy, hope, happiness, and has given me a chance to love myself the more no matter what i do.
This is a screenshot of a song by Lee Ann Womack and Sons of the Desert "I Hope You Dance", written by Sanders Mark Daniel / Sillers Tia M. So much fell in love with the song, in the hopes that i would never loose my sense of wonder, i would learn to accept every tough challenge and dance rather than hid myself and loose sight on good opportunity that comes my way. Dancing means everything to me, or if i had my way i would say it means more than life to me, but NO!! God means more than life to me.
Every good music that plays, i appreciate it with my funny dance moves. I made up my mind that i was never going to allow anybody know the real me, or stop me from becoming the person i am or would ever be. Dancing has so much affected every part of my life, the feeling of this is so unexplainable. Now i am so satisfied with the kind of person i have grown into, because of this, i have been able to grow and push myself beyond everything that seem to limit me.
Dancing broke me into pieces and molded me into a new person, i saw myself from a different angle, i began to feel more dazzling in my own skin and also in my personality. Whenever i was feeling down, maybe i have been dissapionted, stressed, or even angry, i will let it bother me so much because i have a cure for it. Just playing some good music with my funny dance moves will send relief to me.
It is quite understandable that not everyone reading this will relate to what has really helped me throughout the past years, but you can always do it in your on convinient way. Whatever has the ability to make you express your emotions in a rightful and healthy way, that makes you feel relaxed and safe, just go ahead and do it.
As you dance today, just give yourself the chance to see how wonderful you are, allow yourself to be confident enough to feel and see the beauty in you. Don't ever let anyone take away your joy. Make sure to surround yourself with the right set of people that will push you up and love the kind of person that you are, a dancing one in that case. Haha!! Not everybody you meet were suppose to be part of your life.
You will find this funny....... Don't be so comfortable to stay aroud people who don't dance, always moody, this kind of people who will never smile back at you. Personally, i ended every relationship with people who made me felt unworthy often and surrounded myself with people who truly love me for who i am.
Friends, the next time you feel depressed and uncomfortable or maybe someone just sent you a gift and you are so filled with joy, play some good music and make yourself dance to the tune of the guitar, or whatsoever joyfully. Don't ever leave depression, or even anger barrier you from dancing, make sure to dance with all of your heart and have a free space to laugh at yourself. You will love yourself the more and accept who you truly are if you give dancing the opportunity to make you laugh at yourself.
Although dancing didn't fix all my difficult moments, but it really went a long way to help me love the person typing this now the more. I so much desire that you take a step and dance after reading this article.
But love yourself more cos it will make dancing look so good on you!!
**Thank you for reading!!**
Love who you are
Sharing how my yesterday was with you - Pejudear
It's me again pejudear, i have this big dilemma of allowing anything disturb or bother me in a way that doesn't seem good or right, making me to feel bad or depressed. Yesterday i was swept off my feet, as my day was so ugly. I couldn't concentrate on anything. Almost all the ugly moments and negative thoughts in the entire wirld runs through my mind. Everyone around and who dares to say a word to me tends to piss me off. Not to talk of my own self, i was so angry on the inside of me that i will always find a way to attack myself for something not worth considering.
We all know that some days are always so bad, yeah really!! And yesterday i was deeply swallowed by the ugliness of the day. Unlike me, this time i needed someone to deliver me from this ugly grip. I needed someone to whisper to my ears that everything will be alright. I felt so empty even after expressing myself over and over again. I can only find a way to cope only when the right decisions is made.
I do this often when things that concerns me turns out the wrong way, when they don't seem to happen as i expected it to, when my plans for the day or moment fails, when i am being hit by hurtful words from people around me, or when i misuse funds ment for important stuffs. I would never have the right mind to think at such moment, all i do is cry, feel broken, and sometimes i feel hopeless.
When the situation isn't so bad, i force myself out. Reflecting back on those years i was still a teenager, i was told by so many people that my feelings were not genuine and that i had this part of me that overreacts a lot. For the fear of getting such feedback from people again, i am so careful that i select the right words i say when i am around people. I just hold back some things so i won't be a problem to someone.
Everything looked disorganized, i felt like a big mess walking around the whole place, my life at that moment looked even chaotic. I thought!! I am never near being perfect and i have never thought of standing in front of perfect. I always respect this fact that this is my true self, even on days when it hurts so much. I now have this true understanding of my life, and it is so different from others. I don't intend on hiding my feelings for the fear of not letting others see it as genuine. Allowing your fears to fill your thoughts will do you no good but harm, making you not fit mentally.
If days like this appear and i am lucky to be in it alive, i get myself more space and breath like never before. I put every of my feelings into writing, not always perfect though, but i try my best to write something down. And each i see myself writing down how i feel at every moment, i will feel great relief and refreshed. Everything will seem like reacting hardly to a situation, but in a right way. Each time i find myself writing like i am doing now, i am able to spell out all my fears and setbacks, and i learn more new things about myself and everything happening around me.
I see writing as a medium through which my eyes are being opened up to have the knowledge of what is going on, it gives me the confidence to know that no matter how ugly the situation may look, it's isn't that bad. Through writing, i get to remind my humble self that things don't just happen, but for a purpose. And whatever that purpose is, no matter how good or bad it seems, it came around for my growth.
The moment i thought of writing this article, that was yesterday, i was having a bad day. And trying all i could to get myself to the right spot where i could be there to support myself , and not depending on someone to help was so hard. Half of my life, i have always depended on my family, and now it is different as i have grown into a time of my life where i was sorting out things on my own.
As i began writing, i was so fussy and concerned about some unknown facts, i felt much okay because i came to a point where i recognize that i overthink a lot, i battled with anxiety, and i force myself to do certain things that makes me feel down health-wise.
After coming to the knowledge of this, i still love who i am. Those ugly moments of my life are what build me, and before i began the journey of depending on myself alone i knew very well that a lot of days just like yesterday will always show up. But in all of this, i still give myself the chance to feel how i felt, and right now i forgive myself for getting angry at me, at the end of the day i smiled and moved on.
Reflecting back on those days of my youth, if i ever had a bad day, it will take me longer time to heal, but i am so much grateful for the kind of person i have grown into. Smiling is what i do often, and hoping for a better tomorrow than what i had today.
What are those thing you do that contributes to making you feel better when you are having a serious ugly and bad day? Just love who you really are and nothing else
**Thank you for reading!!**
Celebrate small achievements: Growth mindset
28th November, 2021, Helen a friend of mine had this curious sensation that on the 11th January, she will be celebrating another year of success in her career. It was her choice to celebrate on this day because it was a day she became more stronger as a woman, a day she began the journey of life that has been so flabbergasting, giving her lessons and experiences she has even seen.
As others where celebrating the just finished christmas, she was so focused on making better plans for yesterday, making sure that everything will turn out perfect.
The Day Finally Came, January 11th
Happening at a well decorated 150 capacity hall. "She really planned for this day, i exclaimed"
Everywhere was lighted with colorful lighting, the air smelled good. Oh wow!! Helen has good friends. Most of the things from the decoration, food, music, etc, where done by her friends. And i am not left out, i also contributed to the success of yesterdays outing.
***↪Fast forward to the main reason why we are sitted in that hall..........↩***
Helen took over the stage from the MC.
Welcomed everyone that was invited, made a few jokes, and everybody laughed out loud.
***Clears her throat..*** And made a request for the dj to play I Won't Give Up - By Jason Mraz, softly in the background.
She bagan her speech by telling us how far she has really come in life the past years. With a soft charming smile on her face, she began to spell out every of her achievements, she never thought or believed that she will ever get the point of satisfaction, happiness, fulfillment, and self-assuredness, she has been experiencing.
The past years of her life has been so ugly, filled with anguish, lessons to learn from, and moments to grow. So many times in my lonely moments, i make a flashback on where i was one year ago, and where i am now.
I never believed that i will ever have the boldness and strength to fight my fears, but i eventually did. Most of my friends sitted in this room, including my naughty self doubted that i would succeed and not go back to how i use to be. For so many years, i had visualized the kind of better life i wanted for myself, but i never worked on making it a reality, because i was always afraid of making the right decisions that would have made me feel how i am feeling now. The kind of stress i would go through just to make those good dreams of mine a reality put me in a fearful mood always.
But in all of this, i am so happy that i made up my mind to deal with my fears. I am the happiest person on planet earth because for the very first time, i have come to realize how satisfied i have been of who i have changed into, and how hard i have fought to become her.
After a so many days of frustration, pains, hardwork etc, now came growth. All of this is the reason why i am celebrating today. I see it as an obligation to always set out time to celebrate our victories and achievements in life, no matter how small they may appear to be.
Today being the 11th day of January, 2022, i want to celebrate me for not only fighting fear and not surrendering, but for being strong enough to find the passion and assurance of myself to learn from the experiences i have had the past years.
Setting out a special day to congratulate and celebrate yourself on the successes you have had, and how far you have grown gives you the chance to realize that you still need to press on. I stand here today to encourage you all from the depth of my heart, that you should reflect back on those lonely days when you thought you would never achieve your dreams, and see where you are today and celebrate yourself for everything you have achieved. It's okay, you might have not gotten to the expected point in your life, but you are not where you were yesterday, you are steps ahead in achieving those set goals. This is success worth celebrating.
Giving myself kisses for a "Successful me, and a Successful one year", i celebrate me because everything looked impossible, but i created a mind of possibilities. I took myself to moon when i had enough space to grow in a kind o manner i never saw happening.
Most of us here are really trying your best to molding yourself into a better version of you. Mistakes will set in, and frustration, but only if you are so committed in celebrating those small victories, you will continue to move into the space of success.
Without doubt or questioning, i know there have been days in your journey through life when you felt like giving up, but you find yourself still on the path of fighting to succeed, you keep pressing on. Celebrate those little wins friends and be proud of who you are today. You are more stronger than who you were few months ago just because you kept on pushing yourself to aimed to be a better version of you.
Be happy about everything you have achieved so far, and keep on fighting to achieve the very thing you always wanted. With hardwork, patience, dedication, and self-love, everything that seemed impossible turns possible.
I will submit by charging us to take out some free time and look back on how far you have come, pen them down and tell yourself how happy you are for the success so far.
**Thank You....**
Everyone applauded her for her speech....
And the fun contined until 4pm....... "What a day well spent, i exclaimed again".
Thank you for reading!!
This time, I won’t let fear win - Pejudear
And she asked herself,
What is this unknown thing about fear that tends to held people down from manifesting their true self?
*Jennie was so deep in her thoughts......*
Looking back at my past life, the only thing i would ever use to describe myself then would be 'fearful'. My self-distrust, and continuous desire for self-confidence started at an early stage of my life when i decided to follow my dream career, and BOOM!!!, it gave birth to this crazy fear that has never been so good to me. It's been really a rough journey, as i have lost several time to fear. I have been so fearful of ever thinking of being perfect, been so fearful of taking huge opportunities that ever come my way.
Oh FEAR!! You have been so unkind to me so many times. Shattered my morale, with all this defeat, self-distrust about me as a person, and my competencies have really grown into something huge.
With all the complements, praises, and recognitions i get from people, i have not succeeded in accomplishing all the goals i set for myself. This slavery of self-distrust and failure, has put me in a small dark box where i have struggled all this years to see a bit of light. Always angry with myself for not accomplishing any of the goals that i had allowed to slip right under my fingertips.
*Moving out of her bed and sitting in front of the mirror in the corner of the room....*
Jennie talking to the person staring back at her..
You there, staring at me, i have been so angry with you for allowing fear to take a bigger part of your life. But what have you done about this anger, frustration, regrets, nothing. Not until few hours ago that you have realized that fear, and lack of self-confidence has taken over a bigger part of your life.
*Pointing at at the person in the mirror, and reminding her of her past mistakes and failures.......*
You have no sense of worth, that is why you gave yourself out to the wrong people and they end up threating you bad, just for the fear of not being able to stay alone. You have been so insecured, that is why you have always avoided having great conversation with people, just for the fear of not having anything good to contribute. You have really stopped yourself from trying anything me, all because of fear of making more mistakes.
If you keep on fearing failure, you will never come to the knowledge of knowing the great, and important lessons you will learn from those failures that will help you grow in lot of ways that you have never dreamt of.
Hey you there, from today, i give you the homework of trying out something new, things that will scare you. Try to do things that will put away this silly excuses you have been giving, things that will shut the door of your mind on your fears, but allowing you to be an inch closer to achieving your goals.
Hey you again, all those good dream goals you would never stop thinking about, but you haven't done anything about them because of fear, begin to take a step towards it from today.
Doing something new entirely is extremely scary, but i am challenging you today to work on things you are afraid of, things that will move you into a new space of growth and opportunities, that will help build your sense of worth.
*Jennie listen to me, still pointing at the mirror.....*
It is likely that you may fail along the way, you should take it as fun since it is part of the process. Know this Jennie, this failure will give you the opportunity to find more strength, learn more, and grow, until you finally succeed. Don't ever think of giving up on those dreams that you have, say no to the all the negative ideas,and voices in your head, have a feel of the fear, and continue moving forward.
*Out of her thoughts into reality* ...........
*Talking to herself now....*
For the past few days, i have been so fearful of starting an online class, because i was so afraid of speaking to people. I saw it as something that will never be possible, but the idea kept growing in my mind everyday.
I have now decided to come out of my comfort zone and take the risks, because never will i want to see myself as not good or competent enough, making me to turn my back on the opportunities that will come my way
This time around, i won't let fear win over me. Beginning to build my own rome from today.
*Falls on the bed and doses off*
*Try something new today, that will bring discomfort to you, you will be shock at how good and talented you are.* - Pejudear
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The word i thought of "Strong"
This is me!
I am this kind of person that loves telling people stories about myself. On one of those days, Ken came around the house, and we chatted for a while until something he said something that triggered me to share a part of me with him. I had barely spent 3mins, sharing my story with him when he stopped me and asked me "if i would ever want people to hear my tale, what simple word will i want them to know about my story?"
Oh my God!! That was a hard one, but every question has an answer. Silence took over....
I was so deep in my thoughts immediately, thinking about my rough journey through life over the past years. Those moment of growth and heartbreak. Laughter broke the silence in the room. It was a funny moment when we got to know that were both thinking of a similar word, but since the question was thrown at me, my own word was taken.
*Me to Ken*
**Peju:** All i want people to think about when the get to hear my tales is "**STRONG**".
I will never feel proud or arrogant because the great word strong paints a picture of me and my crazy, but interesting stories. Nobody had ever become strong in a blink of the eyes, i am not an exception. It's a process of time, and before you get to this stage, you will pass through difficult moments, you will definitely be hurt, frustration will set in, moments of joy, happiness, and smiling.
And at this very moment i am typing this, i know very well how simple i can be pulled down emotionally when hurtful words are being said to me, reminding me of those moments in my life where everything seemed scattered, when i never considered myself to be worthy of anything good. Trust me, when this sets in, i am being carried into the space of flashbacks of all the unpleasant memories i have had, and this will make me become afraid that everything that had made me a strong lady has been shattered.
When i find myself dwelling in such moments, i am being remembered of my very own life when the people i had put my trust on for confirmation of my truth self-worth, were the same people who told me several times that i was never worthy. I will always feel bad, i will be reminded of the frustration that took charge of me when all i wanted was to be accepted. I never knew that all this while, i was searching for acceptance in the wrong place, and it took me a long time to know that the only person that can ever accept me was the very person that stares back at me when i look in the mirror.
I finally concluded that all i needed was my humble self, and not anyone else to make me feel worthy for anything. After so many years of staying in a toxic relationship, i finally walked away. The very day i set myself free from such relationship, was the day i finally opened myself up to to find my true self. This day is very special for me, on this day i walked away from a toxic world and walked into my own self-love space.
I have realize that i am always ready for and capable of whatsoever i put my mind to, if you see me, you will know that i am an amazing person on every side. Boldness flows all over me for the very first time in my entity life. I felt so much confident and happy this morning, that at some point, i had to pause myself in total disbelief that i have really change, to the extent of having confident thoughts.
***But why does it pierce through like a sharp object when i am taken back to those darker moments of my life?***
Not everyday seems to be easy, but if it eventually comes, i just want to delight myself in it, be happy, and smile for how far i have come in life. Most days could be so hard that it puts me in the space of doubt, not allowing me to look myself in the mirror without having a second thought about myself. I am immediately pulled back into the lonely space i found myself in for years.
If it happens that you find yourself or have been in this kind of situation too, and reading this my crazy tale to this point is reminding you of some unpleasant memories, how you have been messed up in life, don't forget that we are all humans, life will always be messy, everything will be okay. Just allow the feeling to be there. If possible, allow the tears to flow out from you eyes, laugh it out if you can, cry some more. Don't ever let your emotion at this point know what you are really made of, and how far you have come in life.
I am going through some hard moments, so with everyone of us here, just know that you are never alone. No matter how the minute the problem may seem, just know that it will be okay. Take a deep breath!! Have this confident assurance that you will get another new day to wake up and look yourself in the mirror and realize how amazingly beautiful you are.
My journey through life have really given me a lesson to learn, and have made me realize that i am human, definitely i will have ups and downs. It is so possible to feel extremely positive today and extremely negative tomorrow. It doesn't really matter what you are facing in the journey of life, what matters the most is that you get to love yourself the more through it. Setbacks will come, mistakes will always show up, don't worry, cos they are only there to make you a stronger person.
Being truly honest to yourself will make you love yourself self the more during this time. You will cry the whole of the night, but joy cometh in the morning. You will keep having this confidence in yourself, because you are worth believing in. Exiting that toxic relationship really brought a relief to my soul. I was always happy for the bright future that lies ahead of me. Now when i stand infront of the mirror and behold the pretty smile on my face, i smile the more, because the person looking back at me from the mirror is far more stronger than before.
Thank you for reading!!
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The Uncomfort Zone Where The Magic Happens
Looking at my blank screen like a baby before i started typing, immediately i was overwhelmed by my own thoughts. Until now, i never thought to myself that i will ever write, or that i will ever share a piece of article, or that i would ever sign up to a platform that will demand me to write.
Over time, i couldn't recount how many times i had to force myself out of my comfort zone. As a person i never liked or welcomed the idea of writing long form articles. But each day that passes, my desire for writing grew stronger, i needed people to read my own work, have a feel of what i've got on the inside of me through my writing. Oh! I am beginning to feel more bold enough, and this feeling is hitting fear off me.
If i was ever told that i will have this passion one day, i would never listen or believed such a fellow. I was so relaxed and comfortable in reading other peoples work, and it's making me feel bad about myself. But now i have come to realize that i need to bring out the writer in me. I never thought i would have this passion one day, that i will desire to change from being just a reader to a writer also. The change is finally come, and i need to give it way.
Other personal issues of life have made me face a lot of challenges, causing me to step out of my comfort zone to do something extraordinary. But yet, this is another one here, making me to move out of my comfort zone of always reading other peoples work to writing mine. After finding enough comfort in congratulating, and upvoting other peoples publications, i am now being moved to also put my own out there for people to read.
Writing scares me, haha, but i have no other choice than to do it. I hope throughout this period, i will be creative with great topic ideas, making people feel safe, entertained, and relaxed throughout. It will shock you to know that our comfort zones has everything sweet in it, the joy of staying there is out of this world, everything feels comfortable. **BUT FOR A REASON!**
If we feel we should stay more longer in our comfort zones, we will never get to realize the kind of precious contents we carry on the inside of us, how talented we are, and how creative and knowledgeable we will be when we opt to trying something new entirely.
Right now, i have been sent out of my comfort zone, haha. It is not a problem to me as it will allow me to discover my passion, and i desire to be sent into more new uncomfortable zone. I will be shaken and scare at first, but i have got nothing to worry as they will help me to grow in experience, wisdom, and also put me in a good position to become a better version of me.
Know this, each time we come to a conclusion and take that first step outside and beyond our comfort zones, we are automatically telling ourselves without say a word that we are so ready for any challenge that comes around, give ourselves the opportunity to yearn for growth and change on every side.
Everyone of us reading this has comfort zones, that place where we feel so relaxed, and comfortable, you don't want to stress out your brain in thinking of new ideas. But have we ever thought of what will happen if we move from the comfort to the uncomfort? I have my own answer to that, and i guess you do too.
Here i am now, i have been pushed out of my comfort zone, i was so scared at the start, but i know my life will never remain the same. I have opened up myself to great opportunities i would never have dreamed of. And trust me, my life will change for the better.
We should never be afraid of getting out of our comfort zones it might look tough at the start, but the experiences you will get will change your life for good, it will have the ability to make you into a better and more stronger you.
On the outside of our comfort zones lies a beautiful space for growth, and everyone of us so deserve such an experience.
@pejudear
