My Thoughts About Second Chances

JULY 20, 2022

Do you believe in what they call "LOVE IS SWEETER THE SECOND TIME AROUND?"

What are the chances that couples who broke up will end up being in each other again?

Why is there a need for them to end their relationship if they're going to reunite again?

Have you heard about the song of Tj Monterde's "MALAY MO TAYO?" It speaks about maybe the love is right but at the wrong time. Or it is really unclear if what will happen next, if they will end up together or not but the lyrics says something like, they will take a risk. It is clear that the ending is unclear but what if they are really destined for each other. Love is always risky, when you love someone there are chances that you will be hurt or you will hurt each other. It will always up to you if you wanna give it again another try.

Some people give second chances but others do not. Some people gives a person a second chance depending on the reason if why did their relationship end for the first time.

With my opinion, people do not deserve to be given second chances when CHEATING is involve. As they say, "once a cheater, always a cheater" Trust will be much affected in this situation and regaining trust that was broken is not that easy to be restored completely. You can not love someone whom you can not trust.

Chances are, if you have given someone a second chance who cheated on you, then that person's mindset will be "he / she will be forgiven again once he / she will cheat again and that will be a reason for that someone to take you for granted. Do not easily believe someone if they say to that they will change, it is always easy to tell a word but it is difficult to prove.

I am not telling that people are always the same, there will be people who are really willing to change for the better in order for the second chance that they receive will be worth it but just be very careful to someone who are just only good in words but lacks in action. Before you give them second chance, evaluate / observe them first if they are now really sincere about the relationship. Do not be "marupok" and give them right away the second chance that he / she wants.

Second chances should be given to someone who is really worth it, worth it when the reasons why you separated are with good intentions just like you need to fix yourself or you need to study first because that is what you need to prioritize.

Second chances are not worth it when the reasons why you broke up is because someone cheated on the relationship, whatever kind of cheating is not valid. Most cheating comes in the form of third party and when someone cheated us, it is really difficult to put back the trust. Trust is like a just that once it's broken, it will never be completely be restored again.

It will always depend on the person who you've done wrong will make the decision if you deserve a second chance or not, lucky are you if you were given that chance because not everyone has the courage to give someone a second chance. Those persons who gives people a second chance really have a big heart, they have a very understanding heart, so do not waste that second chance, it will always be once in a lifetime and you really need to treasure that, one single mistake may ruin everything, so just be very careful not to hurt them again.

For those who were not given second chance, hope that what happened in your relationship will be a lesson. You may not create a goos memories again with your ex, but promise yourself to be better or to be the best partner in your next relationship. With those experiences that you had with your ex, I know you've learn a lot, just apply those lessons that you had learn with your future partner and just do not mess up.

Never ever date someone if you have no intentions of marrying that person. Date someone because you aim for forever, not because you just wanted to have what you call "boyfriend" or "girlfriend".

If you are only dating because your purpose is to be married with that person, I guess the relationship that you have will be great. It may never be perfect because there is no perfect relationship but it will be worth it. And cheating will never ever enter your mind, so if you do not cheat, then there will be no chances be given to you because your love will not fail.