Our different mothers

March 28, 2022

There are many types of mother same with the many types of children in the world. The behavior of the children depends on how the parents discipline them. I as mother, is one living proof that motherhood will become hard if you are taking it the hard way.

When I was still in my teenage years I never questioned the strictness of my parents. It did benefit us for we become closer since the three of us(my two older sisters) don't usually go out after school hours. We became homebodies, my older sister being interested in sewing clothes while the other one became passionate in cooking,all were guided by Mum. I on the other side who has no hand talents rustles into reading books. But she sometimes join me in the living room, sat on the chair next to me, very focused on answering soduko lol!!. It's always her habit to answer whenever Grandpa buys newspaper she would immediately take out the page with the soduko part and then answer it before handling it back to Grandpa since he'll also be the one to answer the crossword puzzle, like father like daughter.

Our Mum guided us up until today. The reason why even my sister is already married is she's still living with us is because Mum is very possessive on us her daughters to which we never complained though for we are all close to our parents and we don't want also to be separated from them.

You might be asking what's the connection of the title from what I am saying above.

Well, last Saturday as per my previous article, since I didn't come home, Mum kept asking me for updates on what and where I am or if I'm with my friends. To which my other friend felt irritated whenever Mum calls or when I need to reply to her messages. I just ignored her cute irritated glare and kiss those munchy cheeks and explain to her that Mum gets a little like that whenever I'm off work and can't come home.

I am well aware that they're not in good terms with her mother and that they always had conflicts when she's comes home. I once shared this also about her last year, it was during her birthday that we went to our friends house to celebrated her birthday and to also attend a virtual conference.

When it was time for our sharing she's the last one to share her testimony. From then she told us that she envied the closeness I had with my Mum and also to my other friend whom is the host. She then shared that she never once had in intimate bond with her mother ever since. She then said that whenever me and Mum says "I love you" before ending the call make him angry and irritated, because she never get to experience receiving those kinds of words from her mother. Her father died a day before her birthday and ever since then she didn't celebrate special occasions at home, she always come to us during those times.

Her journey on becoming a teacher came only from her hard work, with no support from her mother. And now that she's finally receiving her salary as a public teacher only then that her mother took notice of her. She would sometimes call my friend to ask for money to pay her loan to which my friend would send money instantly and not receiving even a simple thank you in return. Not to talk bad about her mother here but I witnessed some of it since were always together most of the time.

She then continued that she has her big respect to my Mom since she also got to experience how my Mum care whenever she sleepover at our house.

In our journey of faith, she was the first to be renewed and the I came a little after a year. But she confessed that even though she forgive her Mom, the heavy feeling whenever she saw us her friends being close to our mothers, it always makes her cry. She kept on crying while sharing her testimony.

After the sharing, we were then tasked to say our thoughts regarding the testimonies of on each of the sharer. My thoughts kept on coming back to Langga(OfficialGamboaLikeUs) here, on how her mother treats her. I always say that I'm not good at comforting people and finding good words that would feel them at ease so I was kinda nervous and this is what I said to her:

" well, as for me, there are different types of mother and it's just so happen that your Mom maybe the not affectionate one. Yes, I am really close to my mother but she's also not a perfect mom, she also have flaws and she also have a bad behavior especially her possessiveness over us her children but we accepted it. Pride sometimes might be the reason on why you're not in good terms with your mother because you never learn to accept the fact that you both had mistakes and that you need to settle it together.Mothers are not perfect and it depends on how you accept it. I'm sorry if I offended you, but as for me, I always forgives and give way on my Mom, not because I owe my life to her but because my love for her overpowers everything and she is to me to.Let's just keep on praying that all will be well between the two of you.And please don't be a stubborn 4' shorty."

The moment I finished telling her my thoughts, she just stared at me for like a couple of minutes, then cried while hugging me, and....... smack my head (it hurts hhahahaa) I hit her head also with a pillow before grabbing her long hair, yes that's how crazy we are, crying while laughing and hurting each other ..kidding..

Nowadays, I often saw posts on socmed regarding kids who despise their parents on being hard on them. Not letting them go out to hang out with their friends, always scolding them into focusing on their studies first before entertaining their leisure. I don't want to offend others but being strict doesn't mean they don't love you or they don't trust you. Believe me they trust you, they just want to guide and protect you. They want you to be strong because they'll never be with you for the rest of your life to guide you. Take it from me who grew up with strict parents.

I know some of you will say, "easy for you to say because of this and that" , I tell you it's not that easy.Many times I complained because of their strictness but never get to broke their rules because I know that it's whats best for me.

I really meant it when I said that mothers are not perfect and even though they are aging they are still learning on how to become a better person. I as mom, really got a long way ahead of me in raising my kid . I also applied to him some bits of the behaviors my parents taught us and I am hoping I can be a little half the same as what my parents taught me.

Again all stated about mothers are just my thoughts.

How about you? What type of mother is your Mom?

Thank you for reading!

@mommykim