You did everything. You gave it all. You grinded hard, you pumped all your sweat and blood out. It took all of your endurance and all of your stamina, but still your best was not even good enough. Have you experienced that? It's a bummer right? Wait, that's just the understatement of the decade. It's really insane.
Alright, be honest. Reading that title, what came to your mind? What did you picture? What did it make you think of? Does it have something to do with a bed? With a partner? What? Well, it may have a remote connection to that, but no, this one is not about something as exciting and exhilarating like that. It will just be about the everyday struggles of every "nice" guy out there.
The Nice Guys
So who are these mysterious people that we call the nice guys. These guys are basically the good boys we all commonly know. And as we all know being "good" is pretty subjective so we'll just play along with the general and most common attributes that are associated with the nice guy image.
Caring
Nice guys are known to genuinely care for others. They care for others other than themselves and this is regardless of sex and age.
Gentle
They are also known to display characteristics of kindness and consideration to everyone.
Agreeable
They are also known to be amicable with other persons and seldom be a part of any confrontation since they appear to be super likeable and nothing can really be complained upon them.
Respectful
They exhibit tremendous respect not only to women but to everyone without looking at gender or age.
Aside from that, it's imperative to the nice guys to have it deeply engraved into their personality the traits of, loyalty, honesty and romanticism. They are also compassionate and emotionally sensitive, for themselves and towards others. Of course, being a nice guy has also those traits that can be seen as negative by others. Usually nice guys have those fast food body types, inferior looks, often lacks self-confidence. They are also looked upon as "boring" since they are leading a simple and quiet lifestyle.
Nice Guys in Movies
The movie industry as you know is where the human's wildest fantasy come true or partially realized. And it's not really different when they depict the nice guys. In movies, specially if it is a romantic comedy, there is that concept that is always played upon wherein the nice guy gets the girl in the end, after doing a grand gesture in front of the leading lady. But that could never be farther from the truth in real life.
If a nice guy tried something along those lines in real life, he may be called a creep or he may be welcomed with a slap right across the face. But of course, there are those special cases when a nice guy gets the girl in the end, but those are super rare a case, and they need to really be celebrated as glorious victories of mankind.
Nice Guys in Real Life
Usually, nice guys in real life are not as fortunate as the nice guys in the screen. And all of us know a nice guy amongst our peers. Have you ever heard the line that goes...
"I wish I could find a guy as nice as you" if you did, you probably know how much it hurts to have your heart broken by the girl of your dreams, and I feel for you. And if you're a girl, you may have talked to a nice guy before, you may even hugged one, you may even cried on a nice guy's shoulder and you may even said that very same line to one.
Since nice guys are by nature emotionally compassionate, they are usually dragged into the friendzone and their shoulders leaned on when the girl wants to cry hard about the hurt and the pain that she is going through with her romantic partner. And the nice guy's job is to console her while he's drowning in tears inside.
That famous line isn't complete though, the complete statement for that is : "I wish that I could find a guy as nice as you, not you in particular, just as nice but better than you."
That's harsh, that's just plain bad, but it's the general truth in dating. The nice guys finish last when it comes to ladies choices in men. Most of them goes for the "jerks", the bad boys, the cool ones and those boys next door.
Epilogue
So does that mean you need to change yourself to get the girl? Well if you're a nice guy and you want your piece of the action, go do what your heart yearns for go be the bad guy for once, but as you change yourself, you may find that it's all superficial and that ecstatic feeling is just temporary and nothing but a fleeting moment of existence. If I were you, I'll just stick to being that nice guy and continue on the nicest path, who knows, there's just that nice girl waiting for her nice guy around that nice street. If you have to change yourself for someone, then everything from the start is fake.
Of course "change" is different from betterment. You can better and improve yourself without changing your very personality and sense of self.
Hey there!!!
Wow! You're here! I must say, I am surprised and I am really grateful for the visit. I really appreciate you coming by and I would hope that you drop a comment below so we can have a quick chat. Do you know a nice guy in your life? :)
I just want it to be known that I really cherish the time you spent here and as always...
Cheers!!!
References:
Image 1 : https://www.istockphoto.com/photo/shoulder-to-cry-on-gm169993064-24431493
Image 2 : https://aimeesbrain.wordpress.com/2017/07/21/grand-ish-gestures/
Image 3 : quotemaster.org
Reading that title, what came to your mind? habang iniisip ko sagot dito natapos ko na basahin ang lahat. haha. Feeling ko yung nice guy yun yung mga lalaking torpe? not sure though. haha. Ayaw ko na ng mahabang explain basta tingin ko sila yung mga taong nice talaga kaya karamihn sa kanila nasa friendzone. haha. But parang sa utak ko maliit na porsyento na di sumasang ayon sa comment ko na to. Ay ewan. haha.