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Are some of the social media comments you're getting upsetting you?
Do you get sucked into arguments on social media?
Do you want a way to deal with negative comments that will keep your mind at ease?
If you can answer 'yes' to any of these questions, then this advice is going to help you.
How to deal with any kind of comment that is negative, in a rational manner:
Before responding to any negative comments, there are a few questions you should answer... Is the person that is upsetting you using an anonymous account? What is their reputation like on social media? Are they joking and trolling, or are they being serious? And, should you bother even answering?
If they're using an anonymous account, there probably is no reason to respond. A courageous person that is actually interested in debating instead of arguing and being rude will at least have the decency to use a transparent account. If an anonymous person is upsetting you, the best solution is to simply ignore. If it gets very serious, then obviously the best option is to block. Most social media websites will allow you to block.
If someone is being rude and upsetting you, ask yourself who is that person. Usually, it is the people that have no reputation or a poor reputation on social media that will act rudely and upset others. You'll notice that many of these annoying people have hardly any friends, and they don't have the communication skills to build up a large list of followers. In that case, they're not worth your time. Ignore.
If someone keeps on trolling and getting on your nerves, then nothing you say is going to change their behaviour. They're simply trolling to get a reaction out of you. Okay, it can be fun responding back, but is it worth your time? Could you be doing better things? If you could be spending your time in a better way, ignore.
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How to not get sucked into arguments on social media:
I've found that the best way to not get into arguments on social media is to avoid trying to win debates or to make a point. If you express your opinions without wanting to 'win' or prove a point, then you won't be as invested in people's opinions. If you are less invested, you'll tend to act less emotionally if they say something upsetting or untrue.
If something is true to you and you have a lot of evidence which backs up your claim, there is no need to prove your point or to force someone to believe you. Let the person you're talking to have their say, and you have your say, and leave it at that. If you have to repeat something more than twice, you probably aren't giving yourself respect. Stay within your boundaries and you will preserve self respect and also maintain the respect the other person has for you. If you push past your boundaries and their boundaries, then you are more likely to get dragged into an emotional argument that leads to nowhere.
Keep things simple. Never try to win a discussion. Share an opinion and let the other person have their say.
If you follow the basic principles in this article, then you will be more at ease on social media. I've used the same principles in this article to manage a page of over 24,300 followers. When things get heated, unlike before, I can deal with the problem in a rational and calm manner. What is important to me is that I'm providing people with value and knowledge.
I do not care about winning arguments.
If someone has a bad reputation, it's not likely that I'm going to respond, especially if they're saying something negative. My time and energy is worth diamonds.
Article written by Tiago Hands: https://www.instagram.com/tiago_hands/
So true,you can say that again and again...trying to prove more points we create and atmosphere of being sucked hence give a less invested opinion