How I Learnt to Finally Take Action
We as a whole have things we need to do throughout everyday life. Spots to go, individuals to see and dreams to be figured it out. In any case, for a few of us, there is a sure fear or uneasiness that surfaces when you're prepared to begin. For other people, we unexpectedly lose our inspiration and accept that we needn't bother with it or don't mind any longer.
A few of us are fortunate and can perceive our failure to act and afterward pass up having a go at, falling flat and improving until we arrive at progress. Be that as it may, now and then it's not all that straightforward.
Destroying yourself right into it might really encourage considerably more calamity in light of the fact that there is something inside that is thoroughly out of sync with most of you. Additionally you might be disregarding yourself by driving yourself to act. However, by first respecting the issue inside, you can then make a move later on.
The two components that can keep you from making a move are musings and feelings.
Thoughts are approximations of the real world. They aren't reality. The things that play to us are frequently the expressions of our folks, friends and society about right versus wrong, things that have occurred in the past to us or others and how to keep away from issues and boost benefits.
If you somehow managed to examine the things your psyche thinks of, the greater part of the contemplations it concocts aren't accurate right now. Things didn't play out the manner in which you figured they would, that individual accomplished something you didn't expect and your thinking about a subject was silly since you did exclude enough factors when you reached your decision.
Contemplations aren't truly solid. Instinct, then again, is truly dependable however that is a premonition and not an idea that starts from one's brain. It's imperative to know the distinction on the grounds that an idea will rise up out of the psyche and afterward one's body responds genuinely to the idea and afterward we tragically call that instinct.
Feelings are the second component that can hinder individuals from making a move since they are denser than thought yet additionally on the grounds that they embrace and backing the idea. Feelings are thick to the point that they can totally cloud the prospect that motivated them.
They additionally fool individuals into imagining that as long as they can dispose of how they believe, they can make a move. In some cases that might be sufficient yet at times it isn't. Feelings are clear squares yet musings are ethereal to such an extent that we fail to remember that contemplation is the main offender.
On the off chance that you notice anything around you, those things were first an idea. At that point individuals felt roused to make the things and afterward they made a move. In the event that you're not ready to make a move, this is on the grounds that there is an idea or an inclination/feeling that is negative. By focusing onto the idea or feeling and releasing it, that is when alleviation comes.
Here is the process:
1. Understand what you need to do
Remember that you may unexpectedly "neglect" what you need or what you need to do. This is your psyche attempting to guard you by causing you to keep away from the circumstance.
You understand what you need. It's what you've been thinking about for quite a long time, weeks, months and perhaps years. It's the very explanation you're perusing this post.
2. Be in a peaceful spot where you will not be upset
3. Ask yourself, "What is my opinion about [the thing you need to do]" or "What is my opinion about the idea with respect to [the thing you need to do?]"
In case you're getting some information about how you feel, feelings will emerge. In case you're getting some information about how you figure, musings will emerge. The advantage of zeroing in on feelings first, contemplations second is that on the off chance that you manage the feelings first, managing the considerations later will be a lot simpler.
Additionally, in some cases you might not need to manage considerations at all since you may have disposed of the idea at some prior point in time however the feeling remained. Since it is denser, it is normally the more prominent obstacle.
The advantage of zeroing in on musings first, feelings second is that in the event that you are new to this cycle, it very well might be a simpler presentation into the interaction. What's more, when you perceive how successful the interaction is, you will at that point feel more good handling feelings from there on.
Cataclysmic reasoning was something I was constantly blameworthy of. What's more, relinquishing that prepared for much more activity. So you are allowed to pick between beginning with feeling or thought.
4. At the point when the feeling emerges, permit it to be there
You may feel a few sensations all through your body. Your body may shake or you may yawn. Notwithstanding what occurs, simply permit it to occur and permit the feeling to be there. Your body is giving up and ousting the feeling that is keeping you stuck.
In the end you will quit feeling the feeling. By then, rehash the inquiry you posed and permit the feeling to come up and permit your body to respond. The more you do this, the less feeling you will feel until you stop to respond by any stretch of the imagination.
5. Address thoughts explicitly
The means above mitigate feelings just as the feelings that prop up bad musings. Be that as it may, now and again considerations must be supplanted with more favorable and avowing thoughts.
With the negative feelings far removed (subsequent to finishing stages 1–4), disclose to yourself why your failure to act will keep you from carrying on with the existence that you need. You will find that it is far simpler to change how you think in light of the fact that there are no regrettable feelings keeping you down.
You will likewise see that musings truly have no force in the event that you don't have faith in them. When you can perceive how trivial a thinking is or how valuable a musing is, your feelings change and afterward your activities stick to this same pattern.
At the point when one's contemplation and feelings are moving a similar way, activity is the normal outcome. However, in the event that one's musings or feelings are negative, activity in a good heading is unthinkable. In the event that we can show restraint toward ourselves and honor the components inside that keep us from pushing ahead, we can at last begin to completely change ourselves to improve things. Or then again in any event, we can at last take a risk without the dread that we will destroy our lives.
How To Move in Life Forward Faster
Envision that you will begin an online store. Having the option to achieve something energizes you such a lot of that you begin attempting to make everything wonderful all along. Along these lines, you search for every one of the recordings and articles on the web that can assist you with accomplishing it.
You enter a site page, they clarify outsourcing and how it made one individual a very rich person. You watch a YouTube video; they disclose how sending product to Amazon has made them $10,000 per month.
At the present time, there is such a lot of data on the web that these even repudiate one another. You will peruse how contributing to a blog is dead in numerous spots, while others will reveal to you how in 2020 they could make four and five figures each month by composing.
The fact of the matter is that we presently live in the data age. That regardless of what we need to do, we can figure out how to do it. We can be anything we desire to be, and we can figure out how to be that thing, normally for nothing, on the web, and utilizing the web. A few sources concur that we ultimately won't need to look through elsewhere:
Today we live with more data than some other point in mankind's set of experiences. As per Google, the web produces as much data like clockwork as the remainder of all of mankind's set of experiences consolidated. And the entirety of that data is hypothetically in a flash open by us every one of us. It's genuinely stunning.
The issue is that there are such countless individuals mentioning to us what the correct thing to do is that it regularly negates others, and everything just become a data whirl. We quit doing what we need to do on the grounds that there is an excessive amount of data that advises us to do it or not, and we wound up not understanding what way to take.
Hence, I have embraced the activity first attitude. This has assisted me with avoiding all the data that I figure I may require all along and simply begin doing what I need to do.
**Make a move previously assisted me with accomplishing anything in life rapidly.**
At the point when I was 18 years of age, I was working in a PC fix focus. My fantasy was to move into programming. Around then, I just had the essential information and no experience taking meetings, so I go through a half year with courses and attempting to "set myself up" once to understand that I was never going to feel prepared.
I chose to quit considering and began sending resumes and procuring experience with meetings, and after three weeks, I was recruited as a Developer in a bank. I burned through a great deal of time planning for something, and eventually, I didn't utilize any of that data.
**Making a move is consistently the progression to progress.**
Stephen Moore composed once, "For quite a while frame, I didn't compose on the grounds that I needed certainty. After I distributed interestingly, I understood I'd effectively hopped the greatest obstacle," Sinem Gunel, on her Youtube video about how she began composing, said, "I found the stage, and following 60 minutes, I had my first draft fit to be distributed." Right now, they are two fruitful substance makers.
Regardless of the number of examples of overcoming adversity you read over the web, every one of them incorporate a beginning. No one has been fruitful by doing literally nothing with their life.
So if making a move is definitely what will assist you with accomplishing your objectives, and not simply plan, study and read on the off chance that it is "the best thing" as far as you might be concerned, that ought to be the initial step you should take when you need something. At the point when you start something, even without realizing how to do it, you accomplish what the 92% of individuals don't do as per science: **Making a move!**
In the event that you need to improve in any part of your life quickly, disregard perusing and investigating the most ideal approach to start and zero in on making a beginning. Terrible work is superior to no work since when you are making a beginning, you can improve it later, however you can't develop at something you are not doing.
At the point when you make a move first, regardless of whether you fall flat, you know precisely why, and you can get ready better for the following event. However, in the event that you are just contemplating your opinion "is important" to be fruitful in something, and you just continue perusing and learning, you won't ever know whether what you are doing is the thing that is truly going to work for you.
Making a move originally assisted me with staying away from the expectant tension and dread since I don't give my psyche time to consider whether I'll be acceptable at it, and I not, at this point let others advise me on the off chance that I will succeed in light of the fact that, simultaneously, I understand what it's best for me.
Three Visualizations that Changed My Life
I might want to impart 3 stories to you. 3 experiences that changed my life on account of basic perceptions that assistance me recount better stories consistently. I have been lucky to meet many moving pioneers throughout the long term and have been furtively seeing how they get things done, plan and recount stories with information. Here are 3 things that I most likely use at any rate once per week.
Kindly remember that these tips are only a hint of something larger. I have rarely heard things like "we should prepare a neural organization model dependent on crude advertisement impression information that will consequently make ...", you get the significance. Yet, if you somehow managed to get some information about things like CLV (Customer Lifetime Value), ARPU (Average Revenue Per User), CAC (Customer Acquisition Costs) versus CLV, and some different measurements, nobody knew how they were doing. I figure everything should begin with the essentials like key measurements, unit financial matters, objectives, and once you have a strong center, you can expand on that.
**How about we get into it.**
**I love Waterfalls**
Indeed, additionally the ones at Yosemite Falls (which we chatted with my accomplice during our US excursion), yet today I will show you an alternate class.
Before, when we introduced our objectives (to financial backers) and how we planned to accomplish them, it was more similar to scraps and pieces. A drive here, a drive there. I think introducing it as a basic cascade diagram assists you with recounting an amazing story - where we are, the place where we need to be, and how we will arrive. It has everything in one straightforward picture that everybody comprehends and you can zero in additional on the WHY.
With this visual we have a reasonable goal before us and we can likewise envision our advancement, similarly, to occasionally check our presentation en route. What's more, when we get too drenched in everyday business, we can return to this image to invigorate our brains and see a greater picture.
I truly like how it places things in context and you can add more setting with short notes/features. You can likewise pleasantly shape the possibility by showing the commitment of a particular to a group or individual to the objective.
Another utilization case could be unit financial matters, it can show plainly how income aggregates and how expenses decrease it. In the accompanying model, just the income parcel (ARPU) is shown.
**With incredible force comes extraordinary obligation**
I would say that the main thing about these 3 perceptions is that they drive me to clear my musings and departure from everyday undertakings and all needs. They compel me to distil my contemplations and go from 30 concurrent drives to only 3 or 5 structure blocks. It's something I can generally return to and see the 10,000 foot view.
Possibly at times I invest a lot of energy considering which visual to pick, yet toward the day's end, I think this decision is significant as it assists you with conveying things plainly to everybody around you. What's more, that applies to all perception errands, I generally play to perceive what best depicts the story I need to tell.
Furthermore, obviously the establishment is acceptable, strong information, engineering, and instruments (in a specific order). Without these things set up, you could be unleashing ruin by spreading things that depend on flawed information.
As Spider-man once said:
**With basic and amazing representations comes incredible duty**
(or something to that effect, right?). Great perceptions need quality data/information with restricted commotion and predisposition. You can't stay away from inclinations and confounding information 100% of the time and I trust it is your obligation to associate the information with the vision/story you are attempting to tell.
That is it for now, much obliged for perusing this far! Expectation it assists you with recounting all the more impressive stories and add setting to your slides. Also, because of each and every individual who added to my toolbox in the course of recent years (not simply those referenced here).
As I Accumulate in Life, I get more mature
As much days are passing I am getting more mature and as much life is accumulated the more mature we get. This is the rule of life, and I live with the flow of being more mature. **More accumulated the more mature.** This all depends from the lifestyle you choose.
The most ideal lifestyle choice isn't to lie in bed until you awaken normally, or to sit at home and sit idle. Be that as it may, with a gathering of similar individuals brimming with positive energy running together on an ideal street, there is a story en route, strong bit by bit, unadulterated distance. Hello!
Any experience is collection. The more an individual aggregates, the more developed he becomes. The more experience you have, the more drawn out your life will be. He has a ton of involvement and a strong life. Having endure risky preliminaries, life has gotten further developed. Life has power through torment. After the trial of disappointment, life will be brilliant. Hello!
Regardless of the number of individuals care about you, don't lose one, don't give up! Regardless of how long an individual has adored you, you ought to esteem the assumption and be appreciative!
It turns out how an individual sees himself in his heart and what sort of vision he can feel in the rest of the world. Simultaneously, it likewise affirms the Western axiom, "Others see you a similar way you see yourself," isn't that right? The world is a mirror. How you see yourself will be yourself.
A straightforward word Good morning we should discuss positive energy Good morning consistently
First light after rest. Joy and pity is life, torment and pleasantness is life. Regardless of whether it's uproarious or abandoned, don't miss the landscape you see. All things considered, in the event that you don't proceed onward, you should proceed onward. Regardless of how agonizing it is, you can forget about it after rest. Pursuing tomorrow after yesterday will deplete each blessing. Neglecting while at the same time strolling, you can feel each moving toward satisfaction. Bitterness doesn't remain for the evening, insensibility is satisfaction. Good day!
There is consistently disappointment throughout everyday life, except it may not be that you can't stand terrible outcomes, however that you can't dispose of the awful state of mind. Everybody just has 24 hours per day. On the off chance that you squander one all the more second agonizing over things, your glad time will be abbreviated by one second. Better to be less wistful, more decided and quiet, and acknowledge existence with the most ideal demeanor.
Pray fervently, give a valiant effort, get ready for the most noticeably awful, and keep up the best demeanor. Make sure to recall, fail to remember what to neglect, change what can be changed, and embrace what is correct. The sun is in every case new and consistently is a decent day. Hello!
Character involves personality. Sympathy is a sort of personality, and recuperation is a method. Expert of life, never let your feelings control you.
Men like to say to ladies "you are my last harbor", which doesn't contact. Who needs to return home when the scene is interminable! At the point when you don't get along, the last exit is home! Simply an extra tire.
In this world, the solitary thing that will not part with you is your folks and cash in your pocket.
The harder the fantasy is in the heart, the further from the real world. Try not to trust that the pie will tumble from the sky, and don't anticipate that God should feel for you. The best way to see another sky is to buckle down. We may similarly also feel that endeavors that bring results are activities, and endeavors that don't bring results are works out. Regardless, any abundance is an indispensable component of your life. Great morning Monday!
In any case, not the existence of adoration. So the high points and low points, legends, love her and her adoration, none of them endure. As indicated by the legend of Qin and Shang, just the cutting edge remained, and the relatives were deploring. However, it should be an offer: win the world, lose yourself. ... ... Maybe this is likewise the value ladies need to pay for their prosperity!
Excruciating and agonizing interaction. So give yourself a fantasy and move around there. Without a fantasy, life is aimless.
"I will bring in cash as long as I can imagine it," such countless ladies yell this trademark, and numerous men are glad to be raised by ladies! Yet, I am in every case exceptionally grieved that ladies make a solid effort to make men live well. Men raise ladies as a result of duty, ladies raise men in view of grief. Shortcoming is consistently enamored.
As you pick, stoop down to wrap up. There is no sad circumstance on the planet, just the individuals who urgently need it. Standard advances can likewise finish a long excursion. The individuals who have yearnings have 1,000 plans, and the individuals who have no goals have numerous challenges. The primary youth is presented by paradise. The second is to buckle down alone. At the point when I awaken each day, it isn't my own ringtone that awakens, however a fantasy. Hello!
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In memory of My Grandmother, God Bless
At a time when the effects of the war were still on and people's hopes diminished, a young woman was full of hope because she was pregnant. It was her first pregnancy and she was very happy, her baby was only 3 months old, and for the people of her village it was a very common thing. Within his own family. Her mother-in-law and father-in-law did not care about her situation and always expected her to work.
Things were very busy in the village, the busy pace of the woman, which started before the morning, continued until it got dark, and she was doing the household chores of the family who retreated home in the evening. Food, dishes, laundry, preparations for the next day. Every job was looking after him.
That day was an ordinary day. Everyone who got up early in the morning took their place at the beginning of their work according to the distribution of tasks determined without speaking. A different job was added to the routine work done for the last month. They were building a new house for themselves, and the materials of this house were carried by the households from the courtyard of the old house to the construction site on the ridge. The woman's husband was the most involved in the construction of the building. He wanted to finish construction until the baby was born, because the house they lived in was too small.
Although the woman did not like housework very much, she was very competent at outside work. Picking wood from the forest, mowing grass for his cows, sowing crops, planting potatoes were all too common and easy for him. Moving the stones to be used in construction to the construction site was added to the work he had to do recently.
While the business of the woman was increasing, the belly was growing rapidly. She, on the other hand, was wearing very loose clothes to hide her belly, she was breeding by taking off her hunchback. Because it was a shame to show your pregnancy next to the elders. The rapid and excessive growth of his stomach made him uneasy. Still she is trying to think that this is normal. She didn't want to worry about it.
She was already a very cold-blooded woman, and she kept it very well when she was not easily touched or touched.
The woman was again in the courtyard of the old house to move the stones to be used in construction to the new construction site about five hundred steps from the courtyard of the house where they lived. The thought of carrying the basket on his back bothered him this time. But thinking of her future baby and her new home, she began to pick up the stones and put them in the basket. He felt the basket, decided that it had reached sufficient weight, and lifted it over the garden wall. She felt a very slight pain in her abdomen as she did this, but she did not care. Then she slid slightly forward in front of the wall herself, leaning backwards to get the basket on her back. She tucked the strings of the basket in her arms and pulled it up to her shoulder.
She stood firmly on the ground and balanced her. As he tried to get up from his seat, taking power from the ground with his hands, he got a terrible pain in his stomach. She had never experienced such pain in her entire life, she was so hurt, she was surprised at what she had been through.
While writhing on the one hand, she tried to get up again, letting go of the pain and making another move. The second pain was even more severe and unbearable than before. He put his hands on his stomach, his teeth interlocked. He dropped the basket on the ground, got down on his knees, holding his stomach and dragged it home in pain. There was no one at home, she wanted to shout, but she forced herself to silence so that it could be heard. She did not want to fall on the peasant's tongue, bead and bead of sweat had accumulated on her face, she took the hijab between her teeth and tightened it with all her might. Thinking it was an abnormality, he felt a warm discharge between his legs, felt it with his hand, bleeding, surprised, frightened, but still could not shout. He tightened the hijab in his mouth with a little more force and his strength was decreasing. The pain became more unbearable. The bleeding continued to increase. Then he noticed that something was pouring out rapidly with the pain, and at the same time another pain, even more severe than the first, began to take over his body, the bleeding accelerated to stand up, he saw a mass fall to the ground between his legs, then another.
She understood the reason for the excessive growth in her belly. She gave birth to twins alone, but unfortunately, their most born babies died before they were born. it wasn't even. She felt sorry for her lost babies, but it did not last long, she remained silent as she was taught, God gave and took it, although this thought gave her some relief, her heart was stuck, and a strange feeling settled in the middle of her chest.
Fearing that he would be rebellious, he began to pray quickly, on the other hand, he used the sheets and towels he had taken to stop the bleeding, walked to the door to put the babies in a basin and take them to the garden, and then the spot collapsed.
Call of Eternity and My First Love
Posture my dreams as you wish and then give life to the seasons and do not give credit to my love. I am writing my thoughts for my first love.
My inner voice climbing the walls of loneliness and my breath embroidering love. Of course, in my soul and emotions that I have kept as hidden as I am hidden, and while I was hastily loving and weaving dreams from smiles, I tended to lose again and again for the sake of my lost years, dear because I was granted my soul and it was not what I lived with regret, the race of my soul and the indispensable I fell in order to live with what it deserves. once on this road.
My chest?
Or is the presentation of a lost sarcophagus your destiny?
Maybe an instrument without a spear.
Oh, and that judgment within us that is hidden in the universe laden with cangs.
I am a pattern. What?
If it is an image, I have never inclined to somebody, but I inclined my existence because I came in full with my nothingness and I am leaving.
Divination is hidden before and the universe was the master of transcendence.
Isn't that mercy anyway?
Isn't that fire that the moon bends in the clusters and the wind of love?
My being plundered and that child and my pure side, and not that I obey like a rhyme hidden in the remainder of each line, but I fell into an annotation one by one with the order and the disorder in me and the enthusiasm and love that came from me.
Maybe I am a relative shadow in the eyes of people.
And sometimes I am a failing note: sometimes loaded with gamble, sometimes full of effervescence.
My burden and my hardship are reserved with God.
I am also the faithful slave of the holy soldier who is remembered by the singing mercy, the season hidden in me, and my pale pastime.
My life passed in the cellar of love, and while I was crying silently, I finally drowned and drifted into another cellar at my own age.
Love was my most precious value, but I could not predict life, after all, I fell in love with being without s / it, and sometimes I faded and sometimes glowed in the periphery of my heart, and as I got cold, my heart pulled myself and my soul into falaqa.
I did not feel sorry for myself from time immemorial, because pain and sorrow was my first step, and people chose attributes and I cried to the universe in order to be worthy of my smiling face.
It was a mild wind and the pain of my absence and perched in my cage, sometimes I miss migrating birds, whereas I was a native of love and loneliness and a slave.
Sometimes backbiting.
Of course, the apocalypse is hidden in them that sometimes people host me.
I was a thoroughbred victim and naive, and I opened my heart of purity and opened it, until my wound and pain passed over me and realized that I had surrendered to a wind: I was the wind itself.
I blew me inside.
Sometimes I kept silent outside me and whipped my soul, my wound grew as it grew and finally I came together, it was me first and the madman inside me, however, love was the toy of people, whereas I was overcome by the people I started to love my pains and I understood that my pain was what made me close to me and even more. It was very cruel, my dear.
His derman was hidden in Him because it was He who taught.
Not knowing that love is wisdom and blessing, I was struck once by the wind of love.
With my child mind, I understood that love was another dialect and not what people understand: on the contrary, love was the center of the universe.
I loved it as much as I could, but it was not enough.
As I valued my loved ones, my wound grew, but I did not even patch it, I did not even ask why, because love was hidden in me, and I was fed with my pain and pain, and I promised to hide in my heart, and my auspicious word, love was just as much a curse of the universe, after all, love has succumbed to me and I inclined to love more.
Presentation of the Lord.
It's also the migration of loneliness.
I took my revenge from myself and ran away from myself, even though I always knew myself close to myself.
Z / was a relentless journey, a trap that I had embarked on and I fell into, of course, I am after mercy and the complicated journey in me, after all, I was the only traveler on this road and what I was tested on is a huge truth.
The one who casts my soul.
In which voice you feel my inner voice dominates.
My braided hair and bangs, and my devotion, after all, I was tired of the mystery in me.
Absence.
Thank goodness in absence.
Thank God patience.
In patience, my love and my soul washed with water and my unyielding wickedness.
My color is white.
I was well versed in loneliness and pain.
Then I came to such a turn that:
Either I was far away from me or I was the one who would present me to me, with the consent of God of course.
My words smelled burning and the lodge in me had already been looted, but I had gotten my first and last shelter.
If it was a wind, I was blown away.
If it was a mourning I was defending.
If I was a sincere heart, I consoled myself until the end.
Whatever was ambiguous came to light at last, and I unraveled the cipher and the blind knot inside me.
Love was more than a syllable, and an annotation to a superhuman power and mercy itself.
However, I was just at the beginning of the road and at last he opened his arms, mercy on me and that huge downpour.
In secret.
In your word.
And in the embers.
My temple and mourning and indispensable.
It was to love more with the peace of reaching myself, and the only being that offers me this is the only being who deserves to be loved while he is the one who deserves to be loved, just as he taught me, since I managed to be the same person as I was born on the day I was born, I just fell silent and praised and here is the sun for me for the first time that day. He was born and not sinking.
*****I wrote a poem as a bonus;*****
Anamorphosis
Life is very similar to anamorphosis
Seems formless
Or in every respect
Giving another meaning
Anamorphosis that wants a correct angle
It is a controlled technique method
Its range stretches as wide as possible
Unlike life, anamorphosis
Cannot be perceived by sight
While asking for a special look
Si mgeye can turn into symbol
Close to the theory of relativity
Doesn't look exactly like him either
Anamorphosis, also used as coding
It is not completely coding.
Think of it like life, kind of like that
There's a little bit in everything
In favor of mystical esoteric hangout
So he doesn't give himself away
Everything is hidden in details for those who do not understand
Known for its anamorphosis detail
Right angle observation is essential for him.
By defining perspectives
Has become active anamorphosis
Good tool for craftsmen
Used in all areas of art
He is one of the pioneers of the art of hiding
Used in music in painting in poetry
Da Vinci was the first to demonstrate this method
In both his poems and paintings
Later he used it a lot
Anamorphosis is a measure beyond measure
It can also be called the illusion technique.
Man's life is a mirror to himself
When anamorphosis roller is called
Reflection comes to mind with a mirror
You hold the beveled mirror in the picture
It gives you the normal look
The statement to sit crooked and speak straight
Only this far could find its place
Of course you see the truth here
This is not a separate issue...
A Story of the Lost World of Values
This is the meeting of friends for 40 years, even the story of 50 years of friendships. These friends are not people brought together by a union of destiny, but people united by a faith.
They came together every year. At a dinner meeting, they formed a conversation council and dispersed. Some of them have reached the Rahmet-i Rahmana. They have more meetings nowadays. The more they miss each other, the more they seek.
They were having trouble at one such meeting. They complained about the irregularities imposed on them in the power of a powerful party. One of them was the last to be the governor of a province. The man had taken an exam. The examination commission had chosen one, and the Governor wanted the examination to be canceled. He also ordered that the candidate named after him be won illegally.
Our Governor friend, who did not comply with the order, was pulled to the center like a criminal, and he was left under suspicion as if he had done a wrong job.
A knowledgeable retired general manager took the floor, a friend who studied at the same time. He turned it over and brought various examples; he kept telling his older religious worker friend that what he did was wrong. He made it so honey that everyone listened to him with great enthusiasm and approved with his eyes. He was applauded as a great political genius.
However, the values they believed were one hundred percent opposite. He was speaking convincingly about the need to contradict what he believed. However, this group was raised as a defender of values many years ago.
Where had they come now? Seeing that it was their turn, a few of them were taken to the other side, and they were advising to treat each other as a matter of interest. From where to where? What was it, but not the erosion of these values? What was this, not the overturning of the ehram of truth?
Doesn't that mean denying themselves, their personality? Was it that they were brought up? Did they set out for this purpose? Where were they now intending to go? They were preparing to make concessions on their beliefs for a three-penny position, position and benefit, and they were telling each other about it like genius.
Values were not eroded, but eliminated altogether. For years, neither suffering nor struggles had been fought. Was it all wasted? Did all these humiliations endured in vain, were all these sacrifices made in vain?
What about this way of behavior that meant denial of self? Was this why they were brought up and put into life? Would they take on the morals of those they took over from their hands? If they would show the same behavior, what difference would they have? What was the meaning of their existence? If they would look like their enemies, what was the point of their existence?
This is why these people valued them? What did it mean if these values were turned upside down? How do we explain this contradiction now? Doesn't that mean suicide for all of us?
We want to point out this contradiction, this bad trend. We reject this departure whenever we can. We reject this return to the fait accompli. As long as this soul is in the body, it will be like this. Know it like this.
Poems I Made With My Desolation
Whenever my presence gets me busy, a spider web hidden in my cocoon makes me invisible. I love being a butterfly, so I feel the joy and peace of writing daily articles and poems. Still, I wandered like a silkworm.
I want to climb into people's lap like a kitten.
Come see that; I was scared like a bird, but I did not stop flying and loving.
What color and season? Which emotion, which time and which place?
Even though I tend to be like everyone else, even though I tend to be like everyone else due to my existence, with the awareness mechanism that I have embraced with my desolation, I will step up and reach peace and happiness.
The story of endless desolation
*Where the light rubs on the colors it has lost*
*In the deep grief of an exiled darkness on the moldy walls*
*on their pale scarred faces.*
*of bodies whose shadows have fallen into other climates*
*Like searching for traces of fate*
*to the untimely separations left unfinished*
*drifting from time after time*
*sorrow clouds of angry souls*
*Quietly in your contemplative gaze*
*In the trembling hands of the breaking storms, the cold winter frosts*
*like many trying to hold on to a dull gaze*
*drops of rain falling from the eyes,*
*mingling with the tunes of an old song*
*helplessness of aspirations.*
*Among the faces I don't know*
*the broken lines of my own face*
*hovering on the walls.*
*The last season of a past life,*
*in the dead-end streets of a ruined city.*
*The painful wounds of an old spring*
*in the weary evenings where the sun once went*
*after hopes left where time ends*
*The remaining bodies take the lead in the disorganization of souls.*
My belief in the existence of peace in this world has ceased completely, especially since my one-man world and my heaven that I built for myself were set on fire years ago and when I suddenly lost my home as a wasted citizen and before. No matter what job I have entered with the right of my wrist, while misfortune and troubles do not fall off my collar.
While my dreams are proprietary and patented, my best friend embraced my dreams and suddenly turned away, and what am I still up to?
**Is it a happiness that will not occur and a peace that will last?**
And almost everything I owned and my loved ones were stolen from my hand and my soul was seized. But is it not every day heralds a new hope and a new beginning, and while I can write a foundation as much as I can write, while I can feel myself flying in the air with enthusiasm in some of my writings, and while I have preserved the endless love in me and can reproduce it, while the Lord has finally reconciled with myself and my greatest love has come to me. And while I know that everything in the world is transient and loving the child inside me like crazy, even as I identify with this gigantic mercy created by writing and rush to my Lord without interruption.
You, on the other hand, are the only beauties that bind me to life: I thank you and you with all my heart, who presented me to me and accompanied me in every writing and poetry born with the sparks of the Divine Fire.
**Moreover, I am at the very beginning of the road and there are so many things that I have to overcome thanks to you who take care of my pen, but the best is when I have that strong bond with life and you.**
I Pursue the Human and Causality Principle
There are moments when we find ourselves in front of a door even though we never thought about it. That door opens at that moment, that is, we experience a scratch, a moment of occurrence. We must face a way that we did not think and planned that way, that way, at that point.
I can give an example, years ago, when I was in a very sad and really bad situation, I was walking to the metro station in a shopping center in Istanbul. It was late at night and the weather was very cold. As I walked along a long corridor alone, I was thinking about the events that deeply injured me and wondered how I could carry myself home.
And what happened at that moment? My dear friend, who has been my troublemaker for years, appeared at the end of the corridor and we came together in that huge Istanbul, at that time, then, in that tunnel, without any contract or communication. “This is exactly what I needed” I said, when I saw him at the end of that corridor my heart softened, of course I couldn't help but cry. And the fact that he could be there that day at that hour was completely like a gift delivered to me!
Often we have muttered this sentence to ourselves in our lives: "Why is this happening to me right now?" Why am I upset, why I am deceived, why I cannot get this job offer I want, why I cannot get promoted, why my budget is not enough for my expenses, why the woman I like does not answer me, why does this man not love me? Why are these, these situations, these conditions always happening to me?
Here in this article today, I want to look at the reasons of our life flow from another perspective. Why does it cause us to be filled with anxiety like a reed fish in the middle of the oceans, sometimes with compassion like a mother's lap, sometimes with compassion like a father's hand, in the way that the whole flow is, sometimes in deep waves? Why shouldn't I sit here today as I write these words and think about the possibility that you might make a small change in your life when you read them at some point in the future?
Let's take a closer look at how dear Bedri Ruhselman explains our subject of causation with his beautiful work, the Divine Ordinance and the Universe:
No event is uncaused in the universe. All events, relations, interactions, organizations, changes, distributions of the universe, in short, the formations, transformations and deformations of all combinations of matter; great evolution occurs as a cause and result of each other and in connection with each other. This is a manifestation of the great causality principle in the universe.
No occurrence without cause or consequence is unthinkable. The mechanisms of the establishment and distribution of all relationships in the universe operate according to this principle. No event is idle and detached. Every event is directly or indirectly linked to other events. Thus, the whole universe, with all its parts, is interwoven with a great network of bonds, the nodal points of these bonds are the cause and effect necessities of the causality principle. Every event is the result of the above and the cause of the next.
Events occur for many reasons. But above all, events take place according to the provisions of the law of cause and effect.
Let's look at the life we live with you here today based on the laws of causation; Let's ask questions, even the events that we think are not related to ourselves (events that we have no choice, such as the family we were born in to our mother and father, or the city where we were born) are actually a reason behind an outcome, and all this let us realize once again that it is a part of it.
There is a cause and a consequence in this world, including our state of being human, which we simply interpret. A plant has found a place in this world to produce the oxygen that every breath we consume will consume, and some living things have found a place here so that they can survive when we convert oxygen. The sun is here, perhaps just for a fleeting smile, so that humanity may be happy every time they wake up. Our spouse and children, in order to accompany us on this life path and contribute to the future results that we will actually lead.
These lines may be to answer this question when they are read a thousand years later, or to create only one question in your mind as you read these words today or, let's be simpler, to accompany your warm coffee.
**No occurrence is unthinkable without cause or consequence.**
I Take A Journey To Reach My Roots
Nothing in my life is a coincidence. If it means that the hand of God, which we call coincidence, touched. What you will read in a moment is a true story that is completely lived-in. I am one of the extras of this story. But the main hero is the Creator who wrote the entire script, at all times, in all dimensions! And I think there is no God, there is no story. I believe in it beyond thinking. Everything is from Him… A flood of emotions that I cannot describe, a state of love that makes life meaningful, my tears shed for no reason. I bow with respect to the eternity and infinity of the soul, its unity.
For exactly this reason; **CREATING ANOTHER REALITY IS POSSIBLE!**
Sometimes we don't know what we are doing, why we are doing it. There is only a heartfelt feeling. There is no description, words are not enough. When we are a part of that divine plan, we swim in the ocean of our own spirituality. With the realization that we are a drop, we feel that we are one and one with the vast ocean.
As always in life, besides all the negativities, positive things have also happened. Someone got married, someone fell in love, someone graduated, someone became a parent, someone adopted a cat or a dog, someone moved to a new house, someone changed the city they lived in, someone was longing for their family. We can't ignore that there are things that went well, like all these examples and more. Well, if you are going to say goodbye, how about doing it by paying a little attention to the things that are going well?
Whatever we pay attention to, it grows and expands. If we want to grow the positive in our lives, we need to pay attention to the positive. That's why it is important to focus on positive experiences and emotions as much as the negativity we experience in life. You don't need to make an extra effort or re-create anything for this. You just need to pay attention to what is present, what you already have. How do you say? Let's go together in order.
I am sure there have been many things that you have enjoyed. Write at least three examples you find on paper. If it comes to mind more, don't hold back, write yourself. Maybe it can be an enjoyable movie evening with your family, or a pleasant video chat with your friends or an online course you attended. Think about what else was there? If you have completed this step, you are now ready in peace!
I'm sure you had a lot of time to learn new things during the quarantine process. This could be a song you've just heard or even a recipe. When it comes to success, big things can come to mind. If you have had a great success, of course do not skip it, write it! However, it is important to be able to see and appreciate not only great successes but also small successes in life. Think about it, what have you accomplished, even a small step? Maybe you finished that book that you just couldn't finish, or you tried a dessert you just learned and achieved the consistency just the way you want it, it's all possible!
***Distinctions, obstacles are only in the mind. The main thing is feeling one and whole. Fear and anger tear us away from this feeling. It imprisons our own hell. On the other hand, Heaven is the consciousness that we are created and created with infinite possibilities in the quantum field on earth.***
Building solid relationships The shortcut to happiness
Although the first relationship we establish in our life is with ourselves, the next ones are always around us. The greatest criterion, from our mood to our quality of life, is the solid relationships we establish with our environment. The stronger those relationships are, the more protected and stronger we feel towards life. But the formula for establishing long-lasting relationships, both in bilateral relations and with our social environment, is to change ourselves, our perspective and our behavior.
**1. Recognize that everyone, including you, can have flaws**
This acknowledgment allows you to be receptive to the mistakes of your friends or people around you. Knowing that there are people who understand and accept them as they are in the face of their mistakes, since being understood and accepted is the most important thing people expect from the other side; It is the beginning of solid friendships. Sentences that begin with criticism or "**if it were me**" may make the other party feel inadequate rather than bonding.
**2. Set aside your filters**
Share your failures as well as your successes. Showing only your strength to people can make them feel weak. However, due to the nature of life, good things can happen to people as well as bad things. Sharing these moments with your friends as well as your joys, discovering common feelings and supporting each other is good for you and at the same time, it will enable you to establish a deeper relationship with the other party. The gathering of people who experience similar events will connect both sides with invisible ties.
**3. Avoid lying**
The foundation of long-standing friendships; whatever happens, it passes through sharing the truth. A relationship based on trust is the guarantee of a friendship that will last for years. Unrealistic relationships that contain lies will succumb to time and may let you down in an unexpected moment. For this reason, if you want to establish a relationship that spans time, avoid lying carefully. If there is a situation that you cannot share with him, it is better to keep it to yourself than to resort to lies. The more effort it takes to create the sense of trust built over time, the easier it is to lose.
**4. Support in difficult times**
Just to listen sincerely; Being with your friend in difficult times and giving the love and support he / she needs is perhaps the biggest investment you will make in your relationship. Over the years it will not be forgotten. The other party will feel safe and put you in a separate, deep place in their life. Supporting in difficult times is both the cause and the result of solid and long-lasting relationships. Knowing the existence of people who support him, while trying to both understand and overcome the events he encounters in life, will make him more courageous in the way of dealing with events.
**5. Show your love**
Perhaps one of the biggest awareness that Covid 19 and the year 2020 we left behind brought to our lives was "to show our love while there is time". In this period when we painfully experience that we are not certain a minute later, it was perhaps our greatest inner achievement to tell, show or make people who are important to us feel our feelings. As unsound relationships collapsed, we kept the ones that really mattered to us in our lives. We sent flowers to the friends we couldn't be with on their special days… Or we listened to each other's troubles through video calls. We carefully healed our invisible wounds. If you haven't done these yet, you won't be too late. Since deep friendships and long-term relationships are values that extend over time but add meaning to our lives, right now is the time to start showing your love.
Another question for us, then, how much do we enjoy being able to sleep healthier in our bed every night and hug that person we love or continue our curious book? In our act of drinking coffee, which has been given us (!) Over and over again, how much can we enjoy being able to look at the same beautiful view one more day in front of the same window and drink another sip of our warm coffee?
Remember, when you connect happiness to being loved rather than goals and to strive for it, you will discover how it is a great lightness to live life with strong relationships that give you confidence and peace.
**Sir, I am very happy. Wherever I go, I meet beautiful people. How everything has changed.**
**No You have changed.**
Increase Your Self Awareness with Psychological Counseling
As always, I want to start my article with a nice word: "**Know yourself**". You may have heard this phrase written at the entrance of the Temple of Apollo in Delphi, Greece. For example, in **The Matrix**, the Latin version of "**Temet Nosce**" is: Self-awareness is what is meant by knowing yourself. Self-awareness is defined as being aware of one's emotions, strengths, needs and motives. A person with strong self-awareness neither criticizes himself unnecessarily nor has dreams. Instead, he prefers to be honest with himself and others.
People with high self-awareness know how their emotions, discourses and thought patterns affect themselves, others and their work. They are aware of their values and goals, in which direction they are headed, and why they are going in that direction, so they can easily turn down an offer that looks good in the short term but does not fit their values. Those who lack self-awareness ignore their deep-seated values and therefore make decisions that will lead them to experience internal conflict. For example, they can choose a profession that is not suitable for them only because it is fashionable and profitable of the time. Decisions of people with high self-awareness are compatible with their values. As a result, they seem passionate and energetic no matter what they are doing.
**What is self awareness?**
Research shows that when we can see ourselves clearly, that is, when we get to know ourselves, our self-confidence and creativity increase. We start to make more rational decisions, build more robust relationships, and communicate more effectively. We are less likely to lie, cheat and steal. Whatever we do, we do it better, become a more effective leader, make our employees happier and our company more profitable. Researchers define self-awareness in various ways.
While some see this concept as internal self-awareness, which is the ability to observe our inner world, others define it as external self-awareness, which is the difference between how we look at ourselves and how others see us. Inner self-awareness describes how clearly we can see our values, passions, desires, harmony with the world, reactions (including thoughts, feelings, behaviors, strengths and weaknesses) and their impact on other people. A study found that high self-awareness leads to professional satisfaction, more satisfying relationships, personal and social control, and happiness. It has also been shown to reduce anxiety, stress and depression. External self-awareness, on the other hand, means knowing how other people view us in the context of the factors listed above. People who know how they look by others feel skilled at showing empathy and being able to look at things from an outside perspective.
**How to develop self-awareness?**
It is assumed that introspection, that is, searching the causes of thoughts, feelings and behaviors, increases awareness. After all, what better way to get to know yourself than to investigate why you are and behave that way? However, research shows that people who are introspective and constantly try to analyze themselves in a self-focused way have lower levels of self-awareness, professional satisfaction and well-being. The trouble with introspection is not that it is an ineffective method, but that many people misapply it. To understand this, let's take a look at probably the most common self-understanding question: "**Why?**"
Why you are probably asking the question to understand your feelings, behaviors and attitudes: Why do I behave this way? Why is this like it happened to me? But research says the "why" question is a surprisingly ineffective question of self-awareness. Again, researches show that it is not possible to reach many of the thoughts, feelings and motivations that we are curious about. Because many things take place outside of our conscious awareness (unconscious), we invent answers that seem right to us but are often wrong and distorted. Since the human mind is rarely rational, judgments are seldom free from prejudice. You cling to the answer you find without questioning its validity, ignore the evidence, force yourself to approve the first statement that comes to your mind.
Asking the question of “why” also causes useless and negative thoughts and the thoughts in the mind we call rumination. For example, "Why didn't I succeed?" The person who asks the question to himself focuses on his fear, inadequacy and insecurity. Therefore, people who constantly question themselves have a high level of depression and anxiety and a low level of well-being. Again, research shows that in order to make an efficient internal evaluation and to avoid unproductive thoughts, the question of “what” should be asked, not “why”.
The "what" question allows you to maintain your objectivity, focus on the future, and find the strength to act in line with new ideas. Stuck to the questions "**Why I feel so bad**", "**Why I can't love myself**" makes your situation worse. Instead of these questions, “What are the situations that make me feel bad? And what do they have in common? " It helps you to be better and happier by protecting you from the trap of negative thinking cycle (rumination).
**How does psychological counseling help in increasing self-awareness?**
It is very difficult for a person to try to get to know himself. As I said above, introspection requires a skill and if one does not know how to introspect, he gets lost in the question of "why". For this reason, it is best to get support from a psychological counselor in the journey of getting to know yourself.
**Psychological counseling helps in this process as follows: Your problem, negative beliefs, rumination in your mind, unrealistic self-perception and expectations from this process, your needs, things that do not go well in your life and things you want to improve in your life are determined, your goals are determined and By using methods and techniques suitable for your goals, you are able to manage your mind and your life in this direction.**
Welcome my new age: Half the road may actually be the head of the road
**What a full number the new age was. When I was a kid, the numbers were too big for me. When I heard that a person is 36 at their new age, I would have a hard time grasping. I thought he was neither old nor old. Is it really half the way? If it's half on the way to 35, does that mean I'm starting the second half?**
However, I'm just getting started. I'm just noticing my surroundings. It is as if I see the sea for the first time, I breathe the iodine smell for the first time. It is the first time I smell a narcissus flower. As it turns out, I realize how much of my 36-year life I have actually lived. I have frozen my life in a glass bowl and my ice is now thawing. I get rid of every burden of mine at every new age. I notice more and more with each new age. My self. I am at peace with every layer in me.
Happy Birthday. Fortunately, you came to this world. Do you realize what's wrong when you think life is so cruel to you at times? This road is yours. You should have spent it as a friend with yourself, it teaches you every steep hill you encounter. For example, you have to come to terms with the concept of loneliness. The test of life tells you this. It says learn.
You are tested with a completely different dimension of loneliness every time you say "OK, I've had enough", did you notice? Remember, dear girl, if you don't make peace with this, she will always find you. And today is the best day for you to make peace and be friends with him. Come on, celebrate your awareness, it's in a feast mood.
Maybe this will be the only test of life for you. How lucky you are, notice this. You will be enough for everyone, you will heal your own wounds, you will be bandages for other people. Who knows, it will touch other people's lives, you will be the "good luck" of their sentences.
Maybe that idealized life won't be for you. But that will never make you worthless. On the contrary, you will step more firmly on the soil, the more you will root. You will say I'm here, contrary to all stereotypes imposed by society! I am alone, one and only. The whole world is in my hand! Let me go around this place. Let me give the love that overflows me only to myself. Let me caress my own hair and show myself compassion. Let me not multiply .. Let me mingle with many, multiply the layers of my soul. Let me meet each and every new layer of mine. Let me listen to myself with my heart and ear. Sometimes I listen and heal myself as if listening to a troubled friend.
**I am aware!**
I came to this world to meet myself. Everyone who is with me, that I try to keep, is a reflection of me and is there to remind me of many features that I have not noticed, in my life. I will welcome them as well as my most beautiful guest and I will give them a way when necessary, thanking them for their contribution to me ...
Do not force the impossible. Look at what happened. Instead of saying amen to the prayer that will not happen, thank what is, late! Why not, how could it be better!
Run to the wounded healer in you, be an ointment. Remember, you only need you.
Hug the little fragile girl inside you. Don't try to be everyone's everything or someone's unique. Look what you can be yourself. Be the closest to yourself first. Remember you are all!
If you want to live your life in love and harmony, try to look at the person as a whole. As you judge him, know that he has difficulties too. Just like you. As you criticize, see the need for love or approval that actually underlies your behavior.
While belittling, try to see the good sides as well as the bad ones. This will strengthen your perception and raise your love energy. You're not alone. Your pain, loss, renunciation and disappointment.
**What are they called human beings?**
Are you limiting people with one-sided labels? Doesn't it have both successful and unsuccessful sides? He is as loving as he is angry or he fought as much as he gave up, wins as much as he loses ...
Once you see people and life, you start to use the best of your potential.
**What do they call human beings?**
To hear or not to hear.
To see or not to see.
To be or not to be.
To receive or to give.
Running away or getting caught.
Compromising to be him or not to be him, saying "I'll never be like him".
Fray or wear out.
Not being able to see it happening the same.
To know or not to know.
To belittle or to giants.
To see the value of what is meaningless or the meaninglessness of what you give meaning to...
To win and to lose.
Doing the things you say I don't do.
To give up what you say I do.
Laughing and crying.
To understand, not to be understood.
Being strong and staying powerless.
To be in joy, to stay in pain
To get lost in love in anger.
Waiting and holding.
Changing constantly and dancing with different emotions.
To remain aware of the cost in benefit, the good in evil or not to remain.
Holding it by the hand when it falls.
Holding on to the extended hand or not seeing that hand at all when it is wrong and has run out of hope.
Not being able to quit at all or quitting completely.
To love, to be loved or not to be loved.
Acceptance, patience, haste, fear, loss, freedom, captive
Fall and get up, what they call human beings.
To stop and walk.
Being you, not me, being us.
Not being alone and being alone.
To give up where you say I wouldn't go.
To be able to stay in the place where you say I don't stay for months, maybe years.
To be what you judge and face it.
What people call people
Pushing and pulling.
Stay and run away.
What people call people
To be I, to be you, to be us, to be one.
**Dear woman!**
*You are, walk all the way alone. Let there be no one to accompany the scenery. Get it!*
*You know. You enjoy the uniqueness. You celebrate yourself, your birth.*
*So glad that I have you! I congratulate you with the deepest love in me.*
*Happy birthday, glad you are going through this life.*
*Let no one know its value. You know!*
***Happy Birthday.***
The Reasons Of The Feeling Of Worthlessness And My Suggestions
**Maybe we live the day, week, or month when nothing works, our motivation slips out of our hands, and we focus entirely on giving up.** Our self-esteem has left our body and we are covered with a simple feeling of "worthlessness". Breathe, because we all live that day in some way. It is a known fact that those vulnerable emotions imposed by a fast-paced lifestyle take up all of us from time to time. Your feeling this way says nothing about your character or talent.
The only annoyance is that the longer you stay in a situation where you feel worthless, the more you will begin to lose your clarity and vital skills. Because although it is normal to feel this way, staying in that emotional state can become a choice.
“**Worthlessness**” manifests itself with different reflections in every person;
*-Heavy and dull pain in the body,*
*-Negative thoughts about self,*
*-Caused crying spells, hopelessness and depression-like troubles,*
*-Social anxiety,*
*-Loss of life purpose, loss of interest in life, etc.*
When a person who feels worthless is unable to find a way out for a long time, he is likely to move away from his existing social relationships, be unable to express himself emotionally, talk in a negative tone, be lethargic, not satisfy his self-care needs and unfortunately develop bad substance addiction when he reaches the extreme limit can be directed.
**What causes such disruption of man's relationship with himself and the world?**
**1) Could people tell you that you were not okay?**
Being criticized and humiliated by others in the past are the most powerful experiences that instill feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness in people.
While it may seem difficult to understand why someone is trying to lower someone else's existence, many people grow up in homes that have been repeatedly told they are worthless. For many reasons, some parents are able to create a family institution where they project their own disappointment with life and teach them that they are not actually worth loving. At other times in your life, your boss or colleagues can make statements about your performance that make you feel that you are not good at anything. Being criticized frequently can then lead to the person's inner voice being based on criticism, and to speak in a judgmental tone towards himself and his environment.
**2) Have you ever had a childhood trauma?**
Neglect, abuse and maltreatment that have left a permanent mark in childhood can all play a role in the development of feelings of worthlessness. Many of us carry the traces of these negative memories into our adulthood as a "feeling of worthlessness".
**3) Do you compare yourself to others?**
We spend a lot of time looking after others, reading about others, wishing to own another life, earning more money, owning a different job or home. Gratitude has just become a cliché word. The less we have, the more worthless we can feel.
**4) Have you experienced a big change in your life?**
Sometimes a change in our identity can change our sense of self. Career, marriage, etc. Since processes have been described as an indicator of success for many of us, we can use blaming ourselves as an easy coping method when we experience divorce or job loss. Consequently, as major changes bring with them both acute and chronic stress; inexperience in relation to stress or misleading perceptions of stress; After a serious setback, such as financial problems, divorce or job loss, it can make us feel worthless.
**5) Do you have health problems?**
One last thing to consider is that you may be experiencing a health problem that is beyond your control. It is an important step to listen carefully to your body and pay attention to what it tells you. The wisdom of the body gives you clues as to whether you are actually experiencing physical or psychological distress.
If your attention is constantly outside, it will be difficult for you to listen to that wise voice and to recognize your body. If you are experiencing uncontrollable emotions or physical pain-like symptoms, consulting a specialist without delay will help you avoid many troubles.
**Ways to deal with the feeling of worthlessness**
Without forgetting that feeling worthless from time to time is a phenomenon that everyone experiences, we can look for ways to cope with this feeling without being chased after it.
**1. As we take great strides in the path of personal development, our sensitivities will increase at the same rate.**
If you are a person working on yourself in this field, you should know that feelings of worthlessness are also a part of this development. You may now come out of that untransformed space where you were always right, disperse judgment, and face your true shadows. The thing to note here is that you can practice accepting yourself as you are. Mindfulness exercises are very useful for those who are closely interested in personal development. Otherwise, reading books, listening to speeches or taking seminars that make you feel incomplete, wrong and inadequate will only make you feel more worthless.
**2. You are exactly where you need to be.**
One of the biggest misconceptions in our view of psychology is the idea that when we feel bad, we should immediately escape from it. "**Negative**" emotions are just as healthy as positive ones. Where we suffer is our reaction to negative emotions, whereas any emotion alone is a healthy and normal part of life.
Being prejudiced against negative emotions; It will also impede your growth, maturation, and your search for meaning and purpose. It can then be said that sometimes feeling worthless is not a barrier, but a catalyst for growth.
**3. This feeling is temporary.**
Emotions are often scattered, random, and unpredictable. In the brain; There are so many connections between events that a delightful image reminds you of that resentment you experienced when you were young, while a bad smell can make you feel a happy memory. Everything is shocking for an unaware person. When these connections are noticed, you know that they are temporary. Famous neuroanatomist **Jill Bolte Taylor** argues that any emotion lasts much shorter than we think. According to Taylor, the chemical emotion process takes only 90 seconds.
**4. Have a different experience that you don't have in your life.**
"**Contrasts**"; It enables us to ask better questions and thus build deeper connections with ourselves. In this way, we also empathize with the struggles of those people we call others. Thinking in the same way all the time and giving the same reactions is one of the biggest damages that a person does to himself psychologically. However, when we are curious about the feelings and experiences of both ourselves and other people; We can be compassionate instead of judgmental. Instead of labeling ourselves, we can be open to new insights. As we develop different paths, it will become easier to break our molds and deal with our sense of worthlessness.
**5. Stamina is super power.**
Being emotionally resilient is a concept related to turning the negative aspects of emotions, thoughts and events in their favor. Spending hours on social media to avoid negativities and ignore them, watching all episodes of a series in a row can sometimes be enjoyable and relaxing, but these approaches cannot eliminate that deep pain. They only have benefits if they give you time to cope later. If it is a means for you to suppress, the result may of course be a path to spiritual collapse.
It can be helpful to take steps in the responsibility topic to increase resilience. Because essentially, we are the only one responsible for our lives. In addition, breathing studies are practices that can affect people's endurance and their perspective to events in this sense. Another possible way is to benefit other living things. Being able to reach all living things that really need and help, regardless of quality or quantity, is the greatest strength-providing feature people can acquire. You don't even need to do anything wonderful, extraordinary, sometimes just being there for another creature can improve both your and your life.
****Finally;**** **Looking at the truth objectively will make you feel grateful and see that you have potential and skills in many different areas. You don't have to believe every bad thought that comes to your mind.**
Brain-Based Therapy New Wave in Neuropsychotherapy
***Nowadays***, with the advances in science and technology, the mystery of the brain has begun to be solved. Naturally, psychology and psychotherapy are also affected. In this article, I would like to tell you about a brand new approach that I have been working on for a while and that is suitable for our biological codes.
This approach is called Neuropsychotherapy. Neuropsychotherapy, in short, is a holistic psychotherapy approach based on neuroscience, that is, the working principles of the brain. Based on the fact that the brain can change, this method aims to open new and healthy pathways in your brain, activate positive emotions and reduce negative emotions. By integrating the right and left brain lobes, it helps to increase your functionality at the last level. Sigmund Freud, Donald Hebb and Eric Kandel are contributors to neuropsychotherapy with their work.
Neuropsychotherapy is a method that changes the brain. As an adult, you may think your personality is fixed and unchangeable now, but that is not the case at all. The brain continues to change in adulthood. Things that can be shaped and preserve this form are described as "plastic". The brain is one of them, it changes even in adulthood. This feature of the brain is called "**neuroplasticity**". Experience changes the brain, and that change is preserved.
With the change of the brain, another very interesting change is happening. Memories also change. You remember any event you have experienced in the past in different ways at different times in your life. This information shows that memories can change form. So memory is misleading. Your past is not actually a faithful record, but a product of restructuring. Neuroscience tells you to be cautious that when you refer to the memories of your life, not all details may be quite right.
Some of the reasons for remembering memories differently are due to what people tell you about yourself, while others are due to your brain filling in the gaps reasonably (**reconstructive memory**). Therefore, if your answer to the question of who you are is based solely on your memories, this also imprisons your identity in a continuous and changing story.
When you start to think about who you are, you realize an aspect that cannot be ignored: the fact that you are a living being that is conscious of your senses, that you can experience your existence, that you are here now, with which eye you look at the world, and watch and perceive the colorful movie you are in from the center of the scene. This is called consciousness. Who you are at any given moment depends on the elaborate rhythms your neurons exhibit in their firing pattern. Neuron is the name given to the cells that make up your brain. And neurons are constantly communicating with each other. This is called a neural network.
During the day, a conscious "**you**" emerges from this integrated neural complex, and at night (asleep) when the interactions between your neurons change very little, this "**you**" disappears. When morning falls and your neurons return to their complex rhythms, you become conscious again. So what determines who you are is actually just the things your neurons turn over at all times. Your perception also determines how you make sense of the events. The problem of meaning has not been solved yet, but we can say this much: The meaning of something to you is all about the network of cerebral relationships established by the memory and memory formed by your life experiences and your personal expectations.
Here, neuropsychotherapy helps you with the basic concepts such as brain, neuron, neural network, memory, neuroplasticity, reconstructive memory, consciousness and perception, in terms of how you want to be. There are four essential categories of neuropsychotherapy that include specific techniques:
**1. Techniques related to the brain**
This category is based on current neuroscience studies, and neurons (**brain cells**), neurotransmitters (**chemicals that enable communication between neurons**), mirror neurons (the term used for neurons that fire when we do any movement and observe someone doing the same movement), memory, right- It includes the concepts of left brain lobes, neuroplasticity (**the brain's ability to change**), brain and mind. Understanding the biological structures and scientific findings of the human brain and mind is very important in psychotherapy. In the therapy process, the main goals are to establish new and healthy neural connections in the brain, to improve neurotransmitter levels and to connect the brain with the mind.
**2. Techniques related to the therapeutic relationship**
During the therapy process, the relationship is generally based on the existential-humanist approach.
**3. Techniques associated with integrating the right and left lobes of the brain**
The third category of neuropsychotherapy includes techniques that I have adopted as a psychological counselor for the holistic approach of the body, mind and brain. Techniques such as Brainspotting, Coherence Therapy, Emotional Awareness Wheel, Somatic Experiencing, and Mindfulness fall into this category.
**4. Techniques related to the emotional state of the client**
The fourth category is based on strengths-based approaches around emotional balance, hope, and self-efficacy development. Techniques such as Solution Focused Brief Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, which is basically a Cognitive Behavioral therapy, are used. These help the client restore balance and increase the sense of hope. Focusing on strengths decreases resistance and increases motivation and desire for change.
***As a psychological counselor / therapist, I have adopted a neuropsychotherapy approach that focuses on body-mind-brain integrity. I have been working on neuropsychotherapy for a long time and I use the following techniques in the four main categories that are inseparable from each other, which I have mentioned above: I provide my clients with a basic psychoeducation as brain-related techniques, which is the first category. The second category, the existential-humanist approach to establishing therapeutic relationships, Coherence Therapy, Mindfulness, emotional awareness and self-developed Call-Back Therapy to help integrate the right and left lobes of the brain in the third category, and the fourth and final category, techniques related to the emotional state of the client. I use the Cognitive Behavioral approach, Solution Focused Brief Therapy, strengths and values, reconstructive memory and rumination work, and Carl Jung's shadow work.***
Five Big Factor Theory and Personality Test
Each of us knows, understands and evaluates both oneself and others in a different way. While some of us define ourselves with the work we do or with different roles like mother / father, for some of us only our name or interests can be enough to define ourselves and our personality. Beyond knowing ourselves better, personality models that enable us to be more aware of our responses and behaviors help us gain insight into our personality traits and all our behaviors associated with these traits.
Although the personality of every person in the world is unique and unique, know yourself what constitutes personality, why personality models are needed, why it is important to know personality traits and find out which personality type we have with personality tests: What is personality? What do personality tests and personality models do? We shared with you in detail in our article.
The Five Big Factor Personality Model, which is known as the most valid and reliable personality model in the world, is the first personality theory that comes to mind when it comes to personality theory. Developed by the American psychologist Lewis Goldberg as a result of his experimental research in the 1960s, the scientifically-based 5-Factor Theory of Personality, also known as the Five Big Factor Theory, is another psychologist known for his groundbreaking work in the field of personality psychology, **Raymond Cattel**'s 16 basic personality traits. It was created by gathering under the theme. According to Goldberg, what we call personality basically consists of the following 5 subheadings:
Openness to experience
Conscientiousness
Extraversion
Compatibility (Agreeableness)
Emotional balance (Neuroticism)
These five factors are actually known as the 'Big Five' because they contain most of the terms related to personality traits, although they do not cover everything about personality in all dimensions. For example, the compatibility factor is generosity, compassion and warmth in the positive sense; in a negative sense, it includes our behaviors and attitudes such as aggression and anger. Below you can find explanations to help you get an idea of what aspects of the personality these factors cover, as well as explain each factor in more detail.
**1. Being open to experiences**
Being open to experiences expresses the depth and complexity of an individual's mental world and experiences. The dimension of being open to experiences, which can also be called intellectuality or imagination, is associated with our willingness to try new things, our creativity, and our ability to go beyond our comfort zone. Our personality traits associated with the dimension of being open to experiences are as follows: Imagination, insight, diversity of interests, originality, audacity, preference for different and diversity, intelligence, creativity, curiosity, understanding, intellectuality, deep and detailed thinking.
If you have a high openness to experience, you are very likely to be someone who loves learning, enjoys art and aesthetics, has a career in which creativity is at the forefront, or is engaged in hobbies that require creativity, and loves meeting new people. On the contrary, if you have low openness to experiences, you probably prefer diversity in your routines, habits, and things you always do; You are someone who does not like to go beyond the comfort zone, has been working in the same job for a long time and is interested in the same hobbies, and is interested in more concrete and realistic trends in art-related issues.
**2. Liability**
The responsibility dimension of personality includes our tendency to control our impulses, and our socially acceptable behaviors; in other words, it includes features that facilitate our goal-oriented behavior. People with high sense of responsibility can generally be quite successful in matters such as delaying pleasure, obeying the rules, being planned and organized. Our leading personality traits associated with responsibility are continuity, persistence, ambition and passion, perfectionism, self-discipline, consistency, predictability, control, reliability, resourcefulness, diligence, energetic, perseverance and planning.
People with high sense of responsibility are generally known as people who are relatively more successful in their academic lives and careers, who can shine themselves in jobs that require leadership, and who stand out with their ability to move forward with determination, determination and tirelessness in line with their goals. On the contrary, people with low sense of responsibility show personality traits that postpone their work in all areas of their lives, act with impulses and rush.
3.**Exvertedness**
This dimension, which represents two ends as introversion and extroversion, expresses where we get our energy from and the communication we establish with other people around us. While people with extroverted character traits usually gather energy by staying in touch with other people, for people with introverted character traits, communicating with other people can be tiring and consuming. For this reason, people who are defined as introverts can renew their energy by staying alone. The main character traits associated with extroversion include sociability, sociability, joy, energy, talkative, ability to express oneself openly, fun, love and affection, friendliness, and self-confidence.
Extroverts are generally known as people who can make good use of the opportunities brought by their social relationships and the networks they create, enjoy being in crowded places, feel comfortable with other people, warm-blooded, and like to take action and entrepreneurship. On the contrary, people who can be described as more introverted are known as those who prefer to remain silent rather than speak, aim to express a lot with few words, have strong insight and like to think.
**4. Compatibility**
The compatibility dimension of personality defines how well we are on the same plane with other people and how well we can get along. While the extroversion dimension is concerned with our energy resources and our quest to interact with others, the dimension of congruence is a concept related to our orientation towards others and thus focuses on how we interact with others rather than whether we interact with them. The leading personality traits related to the dimension of adaptability are altruism (thinking of others), trustworthiness, humility, humility, patience, moderation, courtesy, grace, loyalty, selflessness, helpfulness, sensitivity, friendship, joy, and thoughtfulness.
People known to be adaptable are generally well-loved, respected, and respectful of the needs of others in their communities. As these people generally have very few enemies; They stand out with their compassion and compassion towards their loved ones and their empathy towards other people's troubles and problems.
People who are on the opposite of the compatibility spectrum, which can be called incompatible, are generally known as people who are not respected and loved by most people. Incompatible people tend to be insensitive, insensitive, rude, grumpy, hostile and sarcastic.
**5. Emotional balance**
Emotional balance, the last dimension of personality, does not mean living a meaningful life or feeling self-sufficient, but how comfortable and peaceful a life is in one's own body. Therefore, it focuses on the ability to manage one's emotions well and how balanced the emotional world is. The main personality traits associated with emotional balance are as follows: optimism, courage, calmness, comfort, low emotional arousal, self-compassion, acceptance, self-confidence, balance.
If you are a person with good emotional balance, you probably trust yourself and other people, thinks the world is a safe place; Because you are sure of yourself, you can move forward with courage to embark on new adventures. Conversely, if you have neurotic tendencies, that is, if you are emotionally unstable, feelings such as tension, sadness, and anxiety may be more dominant in your general mood. You may also have trouble with your self-esteem, get angry very easily, or doubt yourself.
Love has been brought down to this world for Human Evolution
We are in this world to experience. For example anger. Think of the energy overflowing within us like volcanoes overflowing. Think of that impulse, the desire to destroy, to do harm, whatever it is that angers or angers us. "How could he do this to me?" Imagine how we reached the loudest tone of our voice when we question, how we shouted and shouted, and how we spread that anger energy around us in waves.
Then there is another example: Jealousy. A vast sea inside us swells, swells and swells in such a way that there is no other way than to overflow. Words pour out of our mouth, *"How can he be his, not mine?", "How can he like him, not me?", "How can he suit him, not me?", "How can he win and I lose?"*
Let's move on to another example, put a little more needle in ourselves, for example the feeling of revenge and hatred. The mixture of revenge and hatred turns us into a storm, he will be punished for his actions, all his actions will be avenged, if I am unhappy he will also be unhappy, if I lost he will lose and experience the same bad feeling, the same feeling of loss. If I hate it, of course there is a "right" reason.
In this article, I want to take a closer look at perhaps the most sublime energy that we have the chance to experience with you in the world today. This is different from all the energies, all the frequencies we have described above; it's neither jealousy, nor anger, nor hate. Today, our topic is an energy that we have the chance to reflect to the world during the period we are in this world and that may re-create all the molecules in this world: Love.
In fact, love that causes many events and tests in the life of the world It is one of the most powerful factors that play a role in direct and indirect ways both in the formation of self-knowledge and in the development of conscience. Without love, the ways to acquire self-knowledge and the opportunities for the mechanism of conscience to produce positive or negative consequences would have been greatly reduced, and as a result, the possibilities of examinations, experiences, observations and analogy would have been severely limited. Because love; By supporting both the higher elements of the conscience, it helps the proliferation of self-knowledge directly, that is, with a conscious understanding, through the events it brings about in positive ways; In addition, it serves to increase self-knowledge indirectly and automatically, by means of analogy that arises from the painful and tormented consequences that the mechanism of conscience provokes when necessary and causes them to occur.
When it comes to love, one should not always dwell on its narrow meaning. The narrow sense of love that people understand is a small part, albeit an important part, of the great role that a broad concept of love has played in the development mechanism. So, what we mean by here is infinite aspects and forms of love.
Love is the attraction to anything. Everything, every reality in the world; It can attract people and entities at every stage of development in various ways, depending on the place and person. Hence, there can be love for everything at all levels. Love is such a general and comprehensive subject. Even the physicochemical interests of substances towards each other are perhaps the most material and primitive preparation of the love seen in higher beings, which is a necessity and necessity of the beings at that stage.
For example, with love, a person is helped, a sacrifice is made to save someone who falls into the sea, a hungry person is fed, crying tears are calmed, and at the end of all this, a feeling of relief, a sense of peace and even happiness comes to the person.
With this state of affection, the energy of love is reflected in the world with examples from every point of nature for human beings; Plants only produce oxygen to be used by someone else without ceasing, without getting tired, without jealousy, the sun sends its magnificent energy to us every day with love, without thinking and sacrifice, tall trees shade those who cannot afford it, fruits grow for living beings in need, the world turns unexpectedly around the sun and to that magnificent divine order. According to him, a caterpillar turns into a butterfly just so that the flow of nature will not be disturbed and fertilizes the flowers that it cannot see one more day, rain becomes life on the soil, soaks it up and takes its drought so that people can feed. And despite all this, all this pure, unrequited, unconditional and unexpected love, we humans have not been able to get our share from a little bit of love.
Today, let's ask ourselves together, what conditions do our love depend on, more money, more faith? Do expectations take place in our lives as love? Should we earn money in return so that we can give it with love? As if this is not enough, are we lending a helping hand to those in need just so that everyone can applaud us?
**So let's ask once again, where is love in this universe? If true love, pure flow, that divine energy has been brought down into this world to truly become part of human evolution, where is this love today?**
Enneagram Personality Types and Personality Test
I am here again with a long and interesting article that you will pray. **Enneagram** personality types model in its simplest form is a typology system that defines character through several interrelated personality types. Although it is a model that is frequently used as a personality test, especially in the wellness world and organizations, it should be underlined that it is not accepted as a valid model as other personality models due to the limited evidence-based research on the Enneagram personality model in psychology.
The Enneagram personality types model is represented by a diagram consisting of 9 interconnected points. Each of the 9 separate points in the diagram represents a personality type. The Enneagram diagram, which consists of 9 personality types, also consists of 3 different elements. The first element on the outside of the figure is a circle connecting all the dots, the second element is a triangle inside the circle connecting personality types 3-6-9, and the third element is with lines connecting personality types 1-4-2-8-5-7. forms an irregular hexagonal shape.
By placing the basic nine personality types included in the enneagram diagram into the three-element diagram, the system becomes much more complex and creates three key “centers” that focus on 27 different sub-personality types as well as behavior, emotion, and thought.
Although it remains a mystery how and by whom the Enneagram personality type model was first created, various sources indicate that this personality classification first appeared in ancient Greece; He suggests that it has reached the present day, synthesized with the teachings of religions such as Christianity, Judaism, Buddhism and Hinduism.
Although ***George Ivanovich Gurdjieff*** is the name that brought the Enneagram personality type model to the western world and made it popular, the first person to use this model in terms of personality classification was Oscar Ichazo, known for his potential and personal development. In the later period, psychiatrist Claudio Naranjo expanded the theory of Enneagram personality type model and brought the 9 personality types under this model to the world of psychology with a psychological framework.
**How are Enneagram personality types determined?**
Each of the 9 personality types that make up the Enneagram personality types model contains various dominant behavioral patterns, motivational factors, and things that the person is afraid of. Personality analysis made according to this system aims to determine the personality type of the individual and to realize his / her strengths and weaknesses and to realize his / her potential in this direction.
**Basic personality type**
According to the Enneagram Theory, each of us has a dominant personality type that we are born with, and this personality type that we are born with can take shape and change over time, through environmental factors and our experiences. Since our experiences in the external world and our innate character traits are in constant interaction with each other, on the one hand, our character traits determine our reactions to our experiences, on the other hand, our reactions to our experiences mediate the shaping of our personality and behavior.
**Sub personality types**
Although the Enneagram system suggests that a personality type is more dominant in all of us, it says that our personality is not only composed of this dominant type, but a whole of different sub-personality types. According to the Enneagram personality types model, each of us has a basic personality type as well as at least one or more sub-personality types that have a significant impact on our entire character, but not so dominant enough to change our basic personality type.
According to the Enneagram theory, it is not possible for us to switch from our dominant basic personality type to another personality type. However, since this dominant personality type and all the factors related to the subtypes of our personality can show temporal and situational differences according to our health status, well-being, habits and preferences; It can be quite difficult for us to understand what personality type we have by simply observing our behavior or attitudes.
Although the Enneagram personality test is not the most reliable way to find out which personality type you have, it contains all the information you need to understand your dominant personality type and define your personality in the best possible way. With the Enneagram personality test, it is possible to discover your sub-personality types that affect your dominant personality as well as your dominant personality type.
While each of the nine character types that make up the enneagram diagram and personality model is known by both their numbers and names, each also has its own potential strengths and weaknesses.
**Type 1: Innovative / perfectionist**
It is extremely dependent on its rules and principles. For this reason, they can often be judgmental and show uncompromising attitudes. Throughout his life, he is a perfectionist in all his responsibilities and jobs. As he prefers to move towards a goal, he can easily control his impulses and emotions while moving towards his goals. It attaches importance to honesty and integrity. His biggest fear is lies, injustice, and direct deviation. He can analyze very well the right and wrong ways of doing any job.
**Type 2: Benefactor / donor**
It has a very generous character and can therefore always please the people around him. He has a strong passion for being loved and accepted by others. Often times, they may ignore even their most basic needs in order to make other people happy. He puts an incredible energy into his relationships, but being so connected and concerned with others can at times be perceived by the people around him as in need of his relationships. He is sincere and sincere in his behavior. He is a good listener. He can easily feel exhausted and tired because he ignores his own needs.
**Type 3: Success / performance oriented**
Regardless of the work he does, he is at the forefront of achieving success as a result. It has a harmonious character and is very hardworking. Sometimes he can be a workaholic because he focuses on being successful in every job even though he doesn't need it. Continuously exhibits progress and development oriented attitudes. It gives importance to how it looks and is perceived from the outside. He can ignore his feelings and desires in order to be successful. He is good at communication.
**Type 4: Individual / unique**
It has creative ideas and a forward-thinking character. He can express his feelings and thoughts very well. Sometimes he can be self-centered and put his own wants and needs before everything else. Identity and self-awareness are extremely high. He can easily be touched and isolate himself from other people in order to experience his emotions freely.
**Type 5: Researcher / observer**
It is innovative and forward-thinking. Their perceptions and intuitions are very clear. Makes extremely smart and logical decisions. He examines every subject thoroughly, attaches importance to details and thinks very deeply. Often seems silent and thoughtful. It evaluates the decisions it makes with an objective perspective and generally acts with its logic in decision-making processes. Therefore, it may seem callous and apathetic.
**Type 6: Loyal / skeptical**
Responsibility awareness is extremely high. He tries to complete each responsibility and task in the best possible way by dedicating himself. Usually it builds long lasting, strong and solid relationships. He is respected in all his relationships for his reliability, loyalty and dedication. Sometimes it can be overly worried. He tends to see events and situations constantly from the negative side and focus on the negative.
**Type 7: Curious / adventurous**
He likes to live spontaneously and enjoy the moment. He is extroverted in his relationships. He enjoys socializing and meeting new people. Besides loving adventure and the unknown, he always searches and finds a way to have fun. He is easily distracted and may have trouble focusing. He thinks fast and superficially. He always approaches events and situations with a positive perspective; is optimistic.
**Type 8: Defiant / guardian**
It has a tough, dominant, confrontational and challenging character. He stands firmly behind every decision he makes and is extremely confident. Shows success in any job that requires leadership. Due to its inflexible, dominant character, it can overwhelm the people around it and exhibit aggressive attitudes. He does not hesitate to express his thoughts as they are. He prefers to be clear and act rather than speak unnecessarily.
**Type 9: Peaceful / mediator**
It has a character that is extremely harmonious and easy to understand. From time to time, he may exhibit attitudes that show that he is arrogant and indifferent to the person he is facing. He tries to avoid conflict and disagreement as much as possible. It makes an effort to harmonize the other members of the group in which it is included. He doesn't like disagreements, quarrels, and disagreements with others. He can put his wants and needs in the second plan in order to create a peaceful and peaceful environment for himself.
**What is it good to know about Enneagram personality types?**
Enneagram personality typology is used to classify individuals according to the 9 character traits listed above. The aim is not only to enable the individual to gain insight into their own personality, but also to give clues about how to better relate to other people and the outside world, and to help the person realize their potential.
Although the scientific studies on Enneagram personality types and the evidence on their effectiveness are not yet at a sufficient level, it is one of the most important reasons for this approach to become popular when it is used as a tool to get to know oneself better and establish better relationships. The Enneagram personality types model, which allows an individual to gain insight into their strengths and weaknesses, can be extremely useful in recognizing our common traits with other people and developing strategies to communicate effectively.
**Enneagram personality types test**
Enneagram is often thought of as a tool for self-analysis and self-improvement, as it allows us to see our strengths as well as our mistakes and weaknesses. It can guide us about the steps we need to take to realize our potential, as well as to better know our strengths and weaknesses, our development areas, and contribute to our self-awareness.
Personality contains highly complex processes and concepts; Therefore, it is not possible to make sense of personality and to fit it into a frame, even with the most valid and reliable methods. Although the Enneagram test helps you gain insight into yourself; Like every personality test, it will not be sufficient to make a definite inference about your character, motivations, behavior, strengths and weaknesses.
While it may be fun to solve these kinds of personality tests and make inferences about yourself, we also want to remind you that you should not put yourself in stereotypes and labels by taking the results too seriously.
**Although the personality of every person in the world is unique and unique, it is important to learn what constitutes personality, why personality models are needed, and why it is important to know which personality type we have through personality tests.**
The Most Comprehensive Personality Indicators and 16 Personality Tests
I want to share a very long article. Have you encountered someone who identifies themselves with strange letter codes like **INTJ** or **ESTP**? The **Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)**, a personality classification known for its personality typology consisting of four letter systems, is a personality inventory designed to describe personality type, strengths and preferences.
This inventory, which divides personality into 16 separate groups according to various characteristics, was developed by Isabel Myers and her mother Katherine Briggs on the basis of Carl Jung's studies on the theory of personality types. Today, the MBTI inventory is known as one of the most widely used personality assessment tools in the world, along with the Big Five Factor Theory.
Following Carl Jung's work on personality closely, Myers and Briggs suggested that a more detailed personality analysis should be done to facilitate the applicability of the theory and to enable it to be used as a tool to understand individual differences. They structured the characteristics of 16 personality types in detail in order to be used as a guide in important matters such as career and career choice, and as a tool to make people's lives happier and more meaningful.
According to comprehensive analysis made with the answers to the questions in the Myers-Briggs personality inventory, it is known that all individuals around the world have one of 16 personality types. The purpose of MBTI is to help people better explore and understand their own personalities, including their likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, possible career choices and compatibility with other people.
According to this theory, since no personality type is "better" or "worse" than the other, the purpose of the inventory is only to help you learn more about yourself and to take more accurate steps to realize your potential.
According to the Myers-Brigss personality type classification, each of the 16 personality types consists of different combinations of 4 subcategories of the personality. Character traits that make up these 4 subcategories consist of four different bipolar dimensions: extroverted - introverted, sensory - intuitive, intellectual - emotional and judgmental - perceptual.
**Extroverted (E) - Introverted (I)**
The extroverted-introverted concepts first emerged in Carl Jung's theory of personality types as a way of explaining how people interact with the outside world and their experiences. While these terms are familiar to most of us, the way they are used in MBTI is slightly different from their popular usage.
Extroverts get their energies from communicating with the outside world and tend to be action-oriented in general. They enjoy social interaction and feel energetic after spending time with other people. Introverts, on the other hand, get their energies from communicating with their inner worlds and tend to be thought-oriented in general. In their social interactions, they are nourished by establishing deep and meaningful relationships, and by spending time alone, they gather energy and feel renewed in this way.
According to the Myers-Briggs approach, we can all exhibit situationally extroverted or introverted character traits; however, while for some of us introversion is more dominant, for others, extroverted character traits may be more visible.
**Sensory (S) - Intuitive (N)**
This dimension of personality involves learning how the individual collects information from the outside world. Just like extroversion and introversion, we all receive information sometimes using our senses and sometimes intuition, depending on the situation. However, according to MBTI, some of us use our intuition more intensely in this information retrieval process, while some of us tend to use our senses more. Since people who use their senses more tend to focus on details and learn by experiment, they are more interested in deep and intense experiences. In contrast, the intuitive people pay more attention to patterns and the connections between objects - experiences - people. They enjoy thinking about possibilities, imagining the future, and abstract theories.
**Intellectual (T) - Emotional (F)**
This dimension of personality focuses on discovering how we make decisions based on the information we gain through our intuition or senses. People who choose to make decisions by thinking pay more attention to facts and objective data. Due to their motivation to make the most consistent and logical choice in decision making processes; they tend to make decisions based on objective data, which are often impersonal. In contrast, people who choose to make decisions with their emotions are more likely to consider other people and emotions in their inferences and decisions.
**Judgmental (J) - Perceptual (P)**
The final dimension of personality, judgment and perception, includes understanding the ways to cope with the problems faced by the individual in the external world. Those inclined to judgment often prefer to make decisions with clearly defined frames and definite results. People who are prone to perception show more open, flexible and adaptable character traits.
Judgment and perception of these four dimensions of personality, all of which are interrelated, help define whether you are extroverted when receiving new information (sensory and intuitive) or making decisions (intellectual and emotional).
**Myers-Briggs personality types**
The Myers-Briggs Personality types are expressed in letter combinations determined by which end you are closer to in each of the four different dimensions of personality above. For example, if you are extroverted (E) in your communication, your senses (S) as a method of getting information, focus on thoughts (T) in decision-making processes, and prefer judgment (J) as a way to cope, your personality type is called ESTJ.
**ISTJ - Interrogator personality type**
People with the ISTJ personality type stand out for being planned and organized. They plan everything in advance, carefully, down to every detail. They care about being organized in all aspects of their lives and enjoy it. In case of any disorder, mess, or things don't go as planned, they can work without rest until they get everything back in order and complete their work.
ISTJs are both responsible and realistic. They can work steadily, resolutely and quickly to fulfill their responsibilities, using their ability to make logical decisions to achieve their goals and complete their tasks. They can ignore distractions and focus easily. They are generally known as trustworthy people. They care about traditions, rules and laws. They can be strict and prescriptive because they choose to follow pre-determined rules and procedures.
**ISTP - Craftsman personality type**
People with the ISTP personality type are often result-oriented. When there is a problem, they want to quickly understand the underlying cause and quickly resolve it. Although ISTPs often appear quiet and withdrawn, they can display surprisingly relaxed movements around other people. They enjoy new experiences; For this reason, they may display behaviors that excite them or even involve risk. They prefer to make judgments based on objectivity rather than personal beliefs or values.
ISTPs are not easily attuned to other people's emotions and may seem like they lack empathy or insensitivity. They can suppress emotions to the point of explosion by ignoring not only other people's emotions but also their own.
**ISFJ - Protective personality type**
ISFJs enjoy everything structured, framed, organized, and strive to maintain this order in all aspects of their lives. While people with this personality type tend to be introverted and quiet, they are also pretty good observers and analyze other people very well. They also have a sharp memory because of their deep and detailed observations of other people; They can remember almost anything in all its details.
Those with this personality type adapt very well to other people's emotions and feelings. Although ISFJs are good at understanding their own emotions as well as others, they often have a hard time expressing their emotions.
**ISFP - Artist personality type**
People with the ISFP personality type like to keep their scale of choices wide, so they often tend to delay decision making just to see if something changes or new options emerge.
ISFPs are polite, friendly, sensitive and quiet. After spending time with other people, they often need a time to stay alone and recharge their energies. For this reason, they usually prefer to spend time with a few very close friends or family.
Although people with the ISFP personality type are quiet and withdrawn, they are known for being compassionate and considerate of other people. ISFPs are very easy to get on with because they know how to accept other people as they are. They like to focus on the details. They prefer to enjoy the moment rather than worry about the future. It is a priority for these people to "take a step" rather than imagine.
**INFJ - Defensive personality type**
With their strong intuition and ability to analyze emotions very well, people with the INFJ personality type are known as the most empathetic. People with this personality type have the deep beliefs and ability to maintain their determination necessary to get what they want.
Although they are introverts by nature, they can form strong and meaningful connections with other people. They enjoy helping others, but also need some time and space to be alone to recharge. Since they can analyze the good and the bad very well, they are very good at turning the bad things into good. When they have to make decisions, they place more emphasis on their individual concerns than objective facts. They like to take control of everything around them by planning, organizing and making decisions as early as possible.
**INFP - The mediator personality type**
INFPs tend to be introverted, quiet, and timid. Being in social environments causes their energy to be exhausted quickly. For this reason, they prefer to stay in touch with only close friend groups. They generally proceed by relying on their intuition in the decisions they make. They focus more on the big picture than the details. They can be very meticulous about the things they really care about or the projects they're working on; however, they tend to ignore ordinary or boring details. When it comes to decision making, INFPs like to diversify their options. Just in case anything changes, they can delay making important decisions.
**INTJ - Architect personality type**
People with the INTJ personality type tend to be introverted and generally prefer to work alone. They take the big picture into consideration and like to focus on abstract data rather than concrete details. They prefer to act logically and take steps within the framework of objective facts in decision-making processes. They want to be in control, feel organized and planned in every environment they are in.
**INTP - Thinking personality type**
INTPs are generally known for spending time alone, quietly and thinking. Because of their introverted character, they prefer to socialize only with groups of close friends. They enjoy thinking about abstract concepts and tend to value their intelligence rather than their emotions. INTPs like logical explanations based on objective information rather than subjective feelings. Therefore, they behave extremely logically and objectively while analyzing their data and making decisions.
Because their thoughts are flexible, it is extremely easy for them to break the mold. People with this personality type tend to take the big picture rather than focusing on small details and details. INTPs prefer to keep their options wide and only follow the structured plans in their actions.
**ESTP - Persuasive personality type**
ESTPs are people with very strong communication skills due to their extroverted character traits. They make quick decisions. When they encounter any problems, they quickly evaluate the options and find the best possible solution. They tend to be spontaneous rather than planning too much. ESTPs deal with the concrete and the real instead of abstract concepts. They prefer simple information with which they can think rationally and act immediately.
They are observant in their social relationships and often notice details that other people never notice. ESTPs don't like to plan. They react spontaneously and can often be quite impulsive or even take risks.
**ESTJ - Executive personality type**
Individuals with the ESTJ personality type place a lot of value on tradition, rules, and self-assurance. Maintaining the status quo is important for ESTJs; for this reason, they often get involved in state-related functions, government agencies and non-governmental organizations.
Sometimes they can be seen as rigid, stubborn, and tough in nature. Their self-confidence and strong beliefs help them succeed in putting plans into action. But sometimes they can appear overly critical and aggressive, especially when others are unable to meet their high standards. People with the ESTJ personality type are often described as their reactions are predictable, determined, and practical. They are very open and honest when sharing their opinions.
**ESFP - Performance oriented personality type**
People with the ESFP personality type are very practical and resourceful. They prefer to learn through hands-on practice and experience and do not like theoretical discussions. They perform excellently in situations where they are allowed to interact with others or learn directly, through experience.
ESFPs live in the moment and sometimes cannot imagine what the long-term consequences of their behavior might be. They like to try new things and try to solve the problems they encounter instantly. In addition to having a strong awareness of their environment, they can be very understanding when it comes to other people. They can understand what others are feeling and know how to react.
**ESFJ - Caregiving personality type**
In addition to enjoying helping others, ESFJs also need constant approval by other people. They expect their kindness to be noticed by others and therefore appreciated. They are sensitive to the needs and feelings of others. They want to be liked by others. Therefore, when the other person is indifferent to them or does not care, they can easily get hurt.
ESFJs also have a strong desire to control and manipulate everything around them. Organizing, planning, and programming helps people with this personality type feel dominated by the world around them.
**ENFP - Champion personality type**
The communication skills of ENFPs are excellent. In addition to being very enthusiastic and cheerful, they also really care about other people. ENFPs are very good at understanding what other people are feeling. It can be said that they can be very good leaders, given their efforts, attractiveness and creativity.
People with this personality type absolutely dislike routine and prefer to focus on the future rather than the present or the past. While they're great at generating creative and original ideas, they can sometimes put off important tasks until the last minute. ENFPs can be easily distracted, especially when working on something that looks boring or ordinary.
**ENFJ - Donor personality type**
Because ENFJs are outgoing, they enjoy spending time with other people sincerely and sincerely. Their communication skills are strong and they are generally known to be warm, affectionate and supportive. People with this personality type are not only good at encouraging other people, but also gain personal satisfaction by helping others.
ENFJs are often so interested in devoting their time to others that they may neglect their own needs. Also, they tend to criticize themselves too much. They blame themselves when things go wrong, but don't appreciate themselves enough when everything goes well. They are also good at building consensus among people during conflict or discussion.
**ENTP - Debating personality type**
ENTPs enjoy interacting with a wide variety of people. They chat very well and love to involve everyone around them in their discussions. They focus on the future rather than instant details. They can never finish what they started fast because they focus on the big picture rather than current needs.
ENTPs enjoy spending time with other people, especially if they are in an environment where they can talk or discuss something they are interested in. They are generally quite comfortable and easy to deal with. However, sometimes they get so caught up in their own ideas or plans that they can ignore their close relationships. They are extremely inquisitive and try to understand by carefully examining everything that is going on around them.
**ENTJ - Commander personality type**
People with the ENTJ personality type enjoy spending time with others. They have strong verbal skills and interacting with other people helps them feel more energetic. ENTJs prefer to think about the future rather than focusing on the moment they are in. Often they find abstract and theoretical information more interesting than concrete details. When making decisions, they give more importance to objective and logical information. Personal feelings and the emotions of others hardly affect their choices and decisions. Making decisions by planning ahead, having a schedule or roadmap gives them a sense of predictability and control. They are quite rational; They are good at identifying problems quickly and do not escape responsibility.
**Myers-Briggs personality test**
The Myers-Briggs personality test aims to reveal your personality typology by measuring which end you are closer to in each of the 4 different dimensions of the personality we mentioned above. After choosing the expressions that are closest to you, each of which is intended to understand your tendencies in four different dimensions, at the end of the test you can see which end of each dimension, how close you are and what personality type you are.
Although the personality of every person in the world is unique and unique, let's examine personality tests and personality models to find out what constitutes personality, why personality models are needed, why it is important to know personality traits and what personality type we have with personality tests.
Time to Activate Our Senses and Emotions
I am in a transformation. We are now all aware that the new order that started with the pandemic last year and which we are still trying to adapt to is actually only a part of a much larger transformation. Although the answer to the question of what exactly changes is the order, the world, or are we, we are changing.
Energy change is one of the most important parts of this change. The masculine energy that we have felt dominant for decades now also needs to be balanced, so we are in a period where we need to own and nurture our feminine energy.
Masculine energy is the energy to act. How we communicate, our behavior, and our relationships with others are extensions of our masculine energy. Therefore it is very important. Aware of this importance, these are perhaps the most focused issues for years. We fed our masculine energy more, especially as business life takes up more space in our lives. We constantly received feedback on our "**behavior**". What we should do, what we should not do, how we should do, and the issues we constantly ponder over how we should interact with the outside world are always the subjects of masculine energy. Therefore, we have kept these on our agenda so much that the topics of our feminine energy may have been secondary.
Feminine energy is related to our senses and emotions. How we experience what happens to us in life, our conscious and unconscious values, beliefs and our relationship with ourselves are the extensions of our feminine energy. In fact, we have left these feminine energy issues in the background, which are necessary for us to fully experience life. For example, in business, we've been told that we should always be rational - **masculine energy** - in business there should be no room for emotions - feminine energy. Then we had to be goal oriented all the time - **the sterile energy** - we were not able to get things done in the flow - the female energy. Let's think of the compliments we received, the business results of a manager who receives feedback saying “**You manage your team very well**” are examined numerically, how much control he has, and the rationality of his decisions. All are masculine energy issues. I wonder how many people correspond to the feedback “**you are a very good manager**” because they have a high ability to empathize, because they actually put forward something much more passionately by engaging their emotions, or because they are more flexible than strict? These are all feminine energy issues and are important issues to be valued. Now we need to keep our perceptions about these issues clearer. Of course, the essence is to balance.
We need a collective awareness in order to bring feminine energy issues to the forefront, as we have always nurtured masculine energy in recent years. In fact, over the past year we have started to feel our need for our feminine energy much more, but it cannot be said that we have yet been able to name this need. Now is the time to do something about it, naming it by name: We need to feed our feminine energy.
For example, in the new working order, we do not have the chance to say that I am used to meeting face to face. Sticking to the rules comes from our masculine energy, but thanks to our feminine energy, we can use our ability to adapt.
*Let's set goals, focus, but what?* In an environment where there is so much uncertainty, the ability to revise the goals, to be open to the determination of some issues on the road, and sometimes to continue without a goal, is all thanks to our feminine energy that provides us with our ability to stay in the flow.
-It is not possible for us to maintain our relations rationally in a period where we are all having difficulties. So just thinking rationally will not be enough. We are at a time when using our ability to empathize is perhaps the most important. “Okay here is your home, how well it works. He does not have a problem, and he should do this at this time. " With this sentence, which is uttered with very limited information, such as, it will not be possible to be a manager anymore. In our private life, if we direct our relationships with limited information such as "it looks like that" and "it is understood that way", it may create problems in the long run. We should listen carefully, empathize, be aware that there is a lot we do not know about the other person, and treat everyone as kindly as we can.
Unfortunately, our movement energy has been limited and we have to be patient. Our steadfast side is our feminine energy.
- In the fight against pandemics, we see that it is not enough to do something individually, we can only reach a result when we do some things collectively. It is the feminine energy that allows us to approach issues collectively rather than individually.
-The way to adapt as this change is happening is to be open to change, for this we need our feminine energy.
-And maybe we are at one of the times when we take a closer look at our relationship with ourselves. Our relationship with ourselves, our personal awareness, and self-compassion are all subjects of our feminine energy. Especially during this period, we should listen to ourselves better and do our best to strengthen our relationship with ourselves.
We need to activate our senses and emotions. We have to trust our instincts, we need to start hearing that voice that we have neglected for a long time, our feminine energy is calling out to us.
Until today, we have focused on our masculine energy, that is, being needed and respected. However, our criteria for success are also changing; Our feminine energy, trust in us and how unifying we are will now determine our success.
**We all have both energies. The call to feed our feminine energy is not just a call to women, men also need to feed the feminine energy in them. We are in a great transformation, we are already witnessing technological developments every day, the way we live and the way we do business are changing. We also need to balance our energy in order to keep up with all this change process and stay in the flow.**
Let's Make Delayed Ideas and Dreams Our Reality
**There are a lot of things that are puzzling us.** Nobody is like you, nothing is like you imagined. Maybe you tried so hard to belong, to be a part of this world, maybe you always attributed your feeling lonely here to your own flaws, drugged yourself, ignored, refused. You accepted to be a black sheep with one side, you always wanted to be understood with one side. **Could we have reached the end of this chaos?**
Could we have reached the end of this "**heavy illusion**" world where the mediocrity, the dictator of the righteous, the perception of the "**truth**" coming out of a single lathe, everybody knows everything and the "**truths**" are piling up? Now, can every soul stop being ashamed for being itself and celebrate its existence to the fullest?
*Can anyone now be the eternal expressionist of their own reality?*
Can the disaster cursors, those who do not believe in magic, who cause fear and anxiety while drooling in their own drama, be buried in the soil gradually?
Can our age begin? Can our thoughts, ideas, and lives that are judged as childish, naive, stupid, impossible, dreamy, distant from the truth constitute the new reality?
Could the world be a paradise for those who remember themselves and feel enthusiasm for their experiences, who do not even need to think of judgments, who enjoy being in it with the awareness that you can clearly share every state, who are playing the game, who do not need the presence of falsehood in any way, and who share their treasure with each other endlessly?
Because I'm so bored. I was tired of this world experience devoid of imagination, love, possibilities and magic. The liars, the mentality that equates lies with "**truth**" Those who seek and seek treason behind everything. It is their frightened false heroism that introduces their concerns as the real world. I was bored with the mediocrity of the human mind. I did not come out of a single lathe! Nobody came out, I cannot accept being cut and chipped in the same sawmill. Do you do?
Yes, it is very difficult not to be the same, you may be unloved, left alone, judged a lot and humiliated a lot. You may feel betrayed, your faith, and most of all, your self-belief may weaken and you may come to the point of giving up. You may come to the point where you can yield to heed and be involved in those worry sellers, you may feel empty inside, you may start to find life meaningless. And maybe one day you will start believing that it really is the same as everyone else and become convinced that life is a dull interval without magic. You can give up everything and let yourself go with the flow, leave the fire inside to drown in your ashes.
But still there remains a grain that does not give up. Hold on to that junk! That speck is your truth, my truth, the truth of the world, of all magic!
***Nothing else. Nothing but him.***
Do you see? Everything they know right, dictate, believe, kill and die for. It changes one by one. Everything they hold on, everything you hold on to.
Do you dare to cling to what is inside?
Do you dare to hug what is yours?
It's easy to get lost in the crowd and become a fist together for a single dream.
Can you lift your fist for your truth, for your own bit, for what you are? Do you stand behind yourself with all your being, even if no one comes after you?
*We call it courage!*
*This is how man confronts himself!*
*Do you have the power to stand behind yourself?*
*If yes, we set out, singing the song of our own world...*
**Greetings to those who hear, understand, and share.**
Struggle to Get Rid of Anxiety and Despair
Psychology and the human brain are an ideal research area for me. The theme of a platform recently was ***"Move slowly"***. Slow motion tries to show how fast life is mentally tiring modern people, based on the fact that the brain can focus on one task at a time. As we rush around to adapt to the world where everything flows at an incredible pace, the stress level rises without realizing it. Increasing stress levels cause problems such as anxiety, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, burnout syndrome and chronic fatigue. Behind all of this lies an endless thought cycle in the mind. This negative thought cycle is called rumination.
Just as the endless chaos of modern life consumes you physically, rumination consumes your mind. Its conclusion is chronic anxiety. Often times, people see their chronic anxiety about rumination, which includes unlikely and exaggerated thoughts, as a sign of a problem with them. This leads to self-blame and reproach, and a struggle against anxiety that perpetuates rather than remedies it. In fact, anxiety is a natural part of life. Anxiety is the side effect of a skill that supports the survival and reproduction of the human species. Therefore, in this article, I will focus on understanding and managing anxiety rather than eliminating it to deal with it.
To understand anxiety, let's first look at these two basic laws that guide life. The first law governs our interactions with the physical environment we live in. This basic law of the outside world goes something like this: The more you try and act, the more likely you are to get what you want. Nothing is guaranteed, but you can increase your chances of getting what you want by putting your best effort into it.
This is the basic law governing our interaction with the outside world. But we don't live life according to this single law. There is a second fundamental law specific to our inner world, which consists of thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations. The law of the inner world goes something like this: The more you resist your thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations, the more you are exposed to. Because the law governing these things is the opposite of the rule governing the outside world.
Fortunately, we don't have to manage our thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations the way you deal with the outside world. Because the act of constant effort and struggle, which is the law of the outer world, backfires in the inner world. Trying to apply the law of the outside world to the inner world leads to pursuing solutions doomed to failure and experiencing pain and frustration every time. This situation causes the peace and tranquility you are after while struggling with anxiety and despair to escape from you, and a solution can only be achieved by complying with the second law. But our basic instinct is usually to treat everything the same way, to oppose whatever we don't want, wherever it may be. Let's look at another rule that causes this instinct: the Rule of Contrasts.
The rule of contrasts is an important rule of thumb that applies to many symptoms of anxiety. Much of your instinct for how to deal with anxiety is to take its content seriously, to resist it, and to seek ways to avoid it. Viewing anxiety as a danger sign naturally leads you to treat it as if it is danger. For this reason, you need to find a different remedy for the uncomfortable and suspicious feelings caused by anxiety and hopelessness. The way to this remedy is to distinguish between what is in your brain and what is in the outside world.
When you get caught up in anxiety and despair, you think you need control over your brain, and a ruminative cycle of ***"Why"*** questions begins in your mind. But actually the purpose of the ***"Why"*** question is not to get an answer. The question of why is more of an expression of opposition, accusation, and an angry demand by a top authority to rectify this injustice. For this reason, the ***"Why"*** question is more of a complaint than a question.
This question makes people feel weaker and more pessimistic about the future, because it implies that others, perhaps God, must do something to solve the problem. It means putting out the responsibility for your own life and giving up your own power. Because if someone outside has to do something, you can wait as much as you want without worrying about anything.
***Insisting on looking for a cause that causes anxiety and despair makes rumination*** *(Negative thinking cycle)* ***permanent. There is another method used when working with these.***
The Courage of Freedom and a Path to Power
Solitude. To be found only. Being single. To be able to stay alone. Live single. Listen only. Sleep only. Taking one breath. All actions that can be done alone; drinking coffee alone, traveling, having fun, walking, reading, experiencing. Also, I don't need anyone's presence ever since I started laughing alone on my hardest day.
I would like to start our story with a description of solitude from **J. Krishnamurti**'s About Ourselves:
Solitude has a very different meaning; There is beauty in solitude. Being alone is something completely different. And you have to be alone. If man is freed from the shackles of the social structure that includes greed, jealousy, greed, ignorance, success, status, and becomes free from them, then he is truly alone. This is something quite different. Then a feeling of great beauty, a tremendous energy comes into being.
So what makes solitude so special? Why do we hold tightly to the spouse next to us, the friend, the career in our life, the whims, everything else? In other words, what is there that we cannot find in ourselves, and we look for it in the other person? Why is it so boring to be alone, why do we fall into emptiness when the other does not speak with us and we cannot find a situation to engage with the other? What keeps us from being alone? What is it when we stand alone with me, which we cannot stand and cannot bear to see? What is the reason why we need television sound while we sleep? What binds us to the people we put up with on holidays just to be with us? I want to go, but what sets us in fear that I will be alone?
In fact, the answers to all our questions meet at the same point: in the concept of I! Loneliness compares me to me. Our thoughts stay with ourselves when there is no other person around to kill time. We find time to take care of ourselves, our regrets, what we wanted to do but could not find the means to do, what we were good and bad, that is, everything we did as one. So to the real thing. In fact, being alone forces us to look at the most important thing in life, that is, me.
I went alone to the Canary Island of Spain. In Tenerife, I reviewed my life alone in my hotel room, and I went to the sea every day on the nearby beach, I did a lot of walking and jogging on the beach... My vacation that I went alone was such a wonderful opportunity to take a breath for me, which I still cannot forget and spent alone. I remember it as one of my best times.
And again, on that trip, I bought a ticket to go to a city I wanted so much, Buenos Aires, for the first time, by myself, and just to be my 30th birthday gift... It has been my most important travels where I met myself and evaluated my life by walking on the streets alone, alone with my own inner voice, in a city that I did not know by just reading a book without talking to anyone for 10 days.
And it's hard to believe, but the turning points in my life always came after these lonely breaths. This time, when I reached what I could do alone, the integrity of being me, brought me the best twists of my life. All my thoughts were immaculate, I solved all the questions that confused my mind during these periods of solitude, I connected the aspects I fought with myself to peace during these solitary vacations, and I always came out of these periods of solitaryism.
Here is alone. To be able to be alone, to be able to walk alone, to be isolated from everything that blocks your mind, burns you, and you can never let go. Being able to spend time with yourself just taking your own time and seeing that this is actually a wonderful force. After experiencing this magnificent power, this courage and this liberation, there will be no turning back.
Are you ready to turn a free, bold and powerful page today?
The Capacity of Possibilities to Delay Gratification
Like me, you may even be thinking, "**Why am I delaying my pleasure?**" Now, pleasure is such a strong feeling. Especially at the present time, I also think of this question among all the almost perfectly working strategies that brands, the digital world, and culture use to manage and control us.
***Should I delay my pleasures?***
***Can I give up the things that I want to do but have to give up?***
***How good am I at doing things that I don't want to do but have to do?***
If you are afraid to ask yourself these questions or are delaying your answers, maybe you should check out what the discipline means to you, below you can find the items to make it easier for you.
***Poor self-discipline signs***
-You will feel lazy. You have a structure that tends to procrastinate.
-You are having trouble with deadlines.
-You have habits such as binge eating, excessive sleep, spending a lot of money, and excessive social media use.
-You get bored of life's routine. You have a tendency to avoid things you have to do.
-You get angry with yourself about how little work you've done. You show success under your capacity.
Even if you know you can do better, you are often disorganized. Perhaps most importantly; You keep saying “**I have to realize myself**” but instead you are the spectator of others self-realization.
Studies show that some people never develop this capacity. Although the answer is uncertain, the role of genetic effects is unclear. But most of the signs clearly show that the parent's child-rearing quality is the decisive factor! At this point, culture, child-rearing methods and education system are important factors that enable the development of self-discipline.
The feeling of being valued, taking care of oneself, and taking due care are the cornerstones of self-discipline.
***Self-discipline is love!***
Scott Peck defines love in his book "**The Less Chosen Path**" as follows: Love is the will of man to expand one's own self to support one's own or someone else's spiritual evolution. It is the one of will powerful enough to be translated into action. Love is an act of will.
How close or familiar is this definition to the concepts of love and will that you use in everyday language?
The act of will also means to choose. Self-discipline is the voluntary assignment of yourself to your own life.
While you constantly postpone the exercises and hobbies you want to do. While you fight not to buy the necklace you see on the internet, not to eat the hamburger, while parents continue to actively blame the environment and society for the schools you cannot go, the departments you cannot read, the professions you cannot do, the relationships you cannot establish, even as an adult; In short, can you say that you really love yourself when you have the strings of will attached to the hands of others?
It is our will to delay or control our pleasures as subjects that will lead us to the state and understanding we really want to be.
Willpower; The situation removes the time factor that is brought before our eyes, like a veil that prevents us from seeing the cause-effect relationship between the event and the self.
Willpower, discipline; it is the capacity to perpetuate belief in oneself, regardless of whether it is day, month, year, short or long!
Do you see the possibilities of expanding your will to support yourself and others?
***Have a good read, with the hope that your possibilities turn into action.***
I'm Ready To Get Rid Of The Burdens Of The Past Today
**I will tell you a very unknown story. It's a good story about two monks going from one village to another.**
On the way, they come across a crying young girl sitting on the bank of a river. One of the monks goes up to the girl and asks: "Brother, what are you crying for?" The girl said, “Do you see the house over there on the opposite bank of the river? I came this way early this morning, I crossed the river easily on foot, but now the river has risen and I cannot return to my house. There are no sandals ”she says. The monk says "**Oh, no problem**" takes the girl in her arms and carries her to the opposite bank of the river.
The two monks continue on their way. Two hours later the other monk said, “**Brother, we have sworn never to touch a woman. What you do is a great sin. Touching a woman didn't give you pleasure, that is, an unusual feeling?** " he says. His friend replies, “**I left him behind two hours ago. You still carry it, aren't you?** "
In the same way, we carry the old burdens, events that happened hours and days ago in our minds, cabinets and brains. Maybe we blame our cat, maybe blame others, maybe grapple with regret, maybe throw ourselves into even more bottomless wells about all these things that we can't change anymore.
Today, in this article, I want to look at the humpbacks of this past with you. Let's intend to leave there everything that has been done, lived, happened, finished. Even if we can't do it right away, let's alleviate the regret and the heavy responsibilities we put on ourselves.
So why are the burdens of the past so heavy for us, have you ever thought? This is a very important lesson in our story; that what happened can never be reversed or changed. We actually continue to make ourselves go through a mistake, for example, that we regretted in the past, over and over again. A single event, unfortunately, does not end in our minds at once! We condemn ourselves in our own minds to live the same things at this time, in the new and again, just for a bitter betrayal, perhaps a loss, maybe a defeat or a mistake that we experienced in our time. Are we going to stop trying again just because we were rejected once, will we be afraid of standing up just because we were destroyed once, will we never win just because we lost it once, and will we not reach the joy, love, career, success, happiness we were looking for in the end just because we lost once?
Here we are, thinking the same thing again and again, riveting regret and getting angry with ourselves again. Today, we are bringing back again and again an event in which we are not able to intervene at the present moment.
So let's go back to our story and ask; How many of us are the monks who took the girl across in that story and left the incident there at that moment and continued on their way? And how many of us continue to experience and express the effect and regret of an unchangeable flow, a process that has remained in the past, despite the passing of hours? Years ago, I had to end my marriage for reasons that hurt me deeply. In the next period, I tried to understand why I was experiencing this situation for a long time and avoided any private relationship for a long time just because I fear that I might experience the same things.
Although I thought so much, I could not understand the reason why these events happened to me, nor did I see that the escape process I was in at that time was correct from the point of view I am looking at now. Actually, all I had to do was to leave what was going on at that moment .. Living whatever was to be experienced like everyone else, leaving it behind and continuing on the road. Unfortunately it didn't take me just two hours to reach this point like the monks in our story, it took me much longer!
If you are accompanying me in this post today, I would like you to think, are the humpbacks of the past on your back? For what reason do you continue to blame or try to understand yourself for concepts that you still cannot correct, change, or interfere with? Let's make some changes and get back to today. We have big clean pages, beautiful roads to walk and amazing stories to tell.
***Are you ready to get rid of the burdens left behind?***
Peace of Mind by Slowing Life
**In my last post on another platform, I mentioned the importance of slowing down, that our reaction when we can't slow down is either to give up everything and do nothing, or to get caught up in the vicious circle of rushing like a hamster.** Today, I think it is important to look a little deeper into this ***“haste”*** state of affairs.
Due to the time we live in, we all take the point of view that we need to catch up with something. For this, we do not hesitate to use all our energy to achieve that goal and we stay with our battery dead at the end of the day. Even though everything seems so simple like this, when we are in fear of ***"catching up"*** and ***"falling behind"***, unfortunately, we may not always show this common sense. At least I am one of those who cannot always show this common sense, but struggle.
**Why should we stop rushing?**
We are deeply mistaken that when we hurry, if we do not hurry, we will have achieved our goal with a greater margin than we did. I can tell from my own experience that this results in very little difference each time. You may have an appointment to catch up and you can try to catch up with your vehicle at high speed, by throwing shears, by entering and exiting the safety lane. While doing all of these, we spend a lot of energy, our risk of having an accident, the possibility of facing a heavy traffic ticket, etc. When we think about it, we are faced with the question of whether we have actually won these fifteen minutes, which we think we have won. There may be situations where it is expensive because of its lining.
This does not mean take your time in situations that are vital to you. The situation I am trying to express here is the situations in which this turns into our way of life. In a body that is constantly being stimulated in this way, some undesirable situations are likely to occur in the long term.
If you are making an intense effort because you are afraid of what will happen when you are a few minutes late where you need to go, then it may be useful to evaluate how real your fear is. You can follow these steps for this:
When the urge to rush is awakened within you, or when you notice that it is starting to wake up, focusing on your breath for a minute can greatly help you control this impulse. In step two: If I don't rush, what could be the worst? If I hurry, what could be the best and the worst? We can evaluate it objectively. This approach can help you look at the situation from a distance and clearly.
If, after doing all this, you still feel like you are falling behind and straying from your schedule, then you may need to reevaluate the situations you prioritized in your life. For example, you can start by reorganizing things that are not in harmony with your goal. Perhaps it can be facilitating to redefine priorities and differentiate between urgent and necessary tasks. Or you can work effectively by taking short breaks.
**Sometimes the solution is so simple that suggestions that do not seem worth trying even in our eyes can be the solution we are looking for. If this is the case, I think it is essential to look at ourselves objectively here, too.**
We Should Dare to Journey Within Ourselves
**Sometimes I want to travel inside myself.** Are you aware that psychology, which is a very comprehensive scientific field, appears in many different parts of our lives? From the books we read to the movies we watch, the science of psychology permeates many different areas of life. One of the topics closely related to psychology is fashion. As someone who has studied both fashion and psychology, I immediately remembered Jung as soon as I watched the short film that the Dior fashion house made to promote its new collection.
In this short but impressive film, we witness the inner journey of the woman who is the main protagonist of the film. Throughout the movie, we come across some archetypes of Jung. Two of them are anima and animus.
Jung was a person interested in esotericism. His work was influenced by Eastern philosophies such as **Buddhism**, and even wrote a book on **Kundalini yoga**. In 1927, after the **Sinologist Richard Wilhelm** sent Jung to his work "**The Secret of the Golden Flower**" on Taoist alchemy translated from German, Jung became interested in alchemy. During his many years of friendship, Freud often expressed his dislike for Jung's interest in esotericism. Freud thought that Jung's frequent mention of mysticism would have a negative impact on their careers, and he constantly warned Jung, whom he regarded as his heir, about this issue.
In Analytical Psychology theory, the whole personality is called the psyche. Ego, personal subconscious and collective subconscious. One of his contributions to psychology is the concept of the collective unconscious. People are born with this collective subconscious. He named his collective subconscious images archetypes. The term "****archetype****", which he brought to the world of psychology, is defined as the structures that organize our perceptions, regulate, change and develop the contents of consciousness in the psychology literature.
Anima represents the feminine side of the male psyche, while the animus represents the masculine side of the female psyche. A man has a shared image of a woman that is unconsciously inherited. A man's anime is shaped by his mother, and a woman's anime is shaped by his father. Anima and animus help one discover the opposite sex. According to Jung, every man finds people who fit his female image (**anima**) attractive. On the other hand, women are attracted to men who are suitable for their animus.
Going back to Dior's collection promotional film that reminds me of Jung, we should point out that this movie also has feminist elements. Anyway, Maria Grazia Chiuri, the Italian creative director of the Dior fashion house, is a designer who frequently adds to feminism in her collections. The T-shirts with the words **"We Should All Be Feminists**" in the collection that Chiuri prepared in the first year she became head of the French fashion house attracted a lot of attention. As we all know, the fate of the heroines of the fairy tales is to wait to be saved by the handsome princes in the fairy tale. But there is no princess waiting to be rescued in this short film directed by Matteo Garrone. The main protagonist of the film, the woman, takes a journey towards herself, encounters and integrates with the aspects that she suppresses, and eventually becomes a sort of savior of herself. This is where individuation, a term that Jung brought to the world of psychology, comes into play.
Individualization is finding our authentic self by recognizing the anima and animus and combining it with the repressed parts of the subconscious, including the shadow archetype. It is connecting the consciousness and the subconscious. In this way, we become a complete human being at peace with all aspects. The goal is to become an indivisible whole; Being a single, harmonious, unique individual means that a person is his own essence.
**Our hero dares to take a journey into himself, discovering all parts of his soul, including his shadow, and uniting with his anima and animus. I wish you days full of courage to explore all aspects of your being.**
My Greatest Strength is Adjusting to Circumstances
***I live in a world so fast that everything is flying around me. Man also adapts to the super-fast current time over thousands of years of evolution.*** Can you give up? Of all your beliefs and fears that you believe are keeping you in the world? Can you pull aside everything you know in one move and forget all your pain in one move and dive into the flowing emotion? It is the hero who does this, the hero inside!
Being able to adapt is the most visible feature of man in evolution. People got used to making tools after the fire was found, writing history with the discovery of writing, living in other lands in other countries with the migration of tribes, production and consumption with the industrial revolution. Nowadays, people get used to technology, discussing its harms and benefits, we need to break many patterns we learned in the past to enter this world.
It is difficult to carry happiness, enthusiasm. Carrying love is difficult. The loveless heart, not knowing what to do with it once it wraps you, gets tired. To balance it, to go without holding onto that waterfall, it needs complete confidence in the heart, in its belief in the whole. That belief gives him a chance to flow at any moment, to let himself go to the current and sink in the sea of emotion. What is it but holding on to your fears, trying to stop the flow? The old thing in your head is to mix your past loads into the flowing water, to make it a raft, to avoid feeling the water. Can you leave yourself naked. Whatever you can get it? Independent of everything, from all that you know, from all your masks, from your fears, from everything that you think you have made?
**Can you let go of shaping, sculpting, trying to resemble what is said, turn over? Do you dare to live as it is?**
**When love comes, do you have the heart to say yes with your pure and permeable heart?**
This is why everything, brother, in every work, practice, purification, to develop your confidence, the ability to open your arms into love and leave yourself in the void. It is the practice of letting go of everything and mingling with the speck of water there and forgetting that you say **"I"**. To be able to say we is the state of being whole. Expansion to infinite is the practice of being one iota.
Change will only be beneficial if it progresses in line with our will and wishes. For this reason, it is very important to observe ourselves in daily life, to define our habits that we have changed, and to be able to look at how we feel within these definitions. If we ignore the points we neglect ourselves in order to keep up with the speed of the fast flowing world, we can realize that this change will not be in our best interest and we can reduce our speed for a moment and look at what is happening from the outside.
**"The only constant is change"** a flexible approach to change offers us different possibilities and opens other doors. Resisting change by witnessing that everything around us changes, on the other hand, solidifies us and can distort our perception of understanding what is happening. We must take advantage of every moment that we have the opportunity, our intention, our will and our power to change. We have to realize that it is useless to change the outside effects in our life and that the only thing we can change is our own consciousness and perception. As long as we are honest with ourselves, we must be confident that experiencing change is not scary.
Experienced Human Death in Absolute Final Moment
**I often write words that I am impressed with. I am trying to create beautiful stories based on these words.** *****And man met death.***** He gave up everything about this life that connected him to breathing in this world. He gave up the worries of tomorrow, planning his summer vacations, buying a new car, owning a new home, starting a new business and this life.
Ironically, when death came he just stood before him, it just came for him. At another time, when one was dying to be alone, when death came, unfortunately, he realized that he could not take anyone with him and ask for support from anyone… And death was the story that suits him; the patient came to his bed to find him or when he was driving too fast, in the arms of the woman he loved, or just having a good day with his grandchildren. Death would find the right moment for him, no more, not less.
**In this article today,** I want to look at the concept of death with you. Have you thought about your own death? What and why is death? Why is birth so special? Why is it manifesting with a different story for everyone? Why does being as alive as life end by being as cold as death? Why did God create death for human beings? Plants may die, animals may die, but what about humans? Why does man pass away from this world with the same end? What if death is so real, what awaits people afterwards?
If death were among us today, how would this end be described? What crosses the minds of those who are human at the last breath What they can take with them, what they can leave here, those who will miss them, how old they are that day or just what they can't do, that time cannot catch up? There are so many unanswered questions about death that we, human beings today, have perhaps not reached the point where they can grasp this. Today, I want you, who accompany me in this article, get closer without fear one more step with the concept of death, the verb to die, the existence of death, what causes death and everything related to death.
Let's try to understand all these unanswered questions from the book of the Divine Ordinance and the Universe from the pen of our beloved Ruhselman:
After death, the being is of course liberated, but if it has not yet completed all the preparatory practice for the task plan in the world, it is not considered to have finished the human phase. Therefore, although he is separated from the body, that being is still at the level of a human being. Because no matter what happens, he has to return to the world again to finish his unfinished job. And until the preparatory exercise there is completed, its home will be the world, humanity in the blueprint!
The human being that passes through there, or rather, when it dies, is isolated from all effects, has to spend a while in the spatium. There is also an important reason for this: After a being has made the application of his plan of the life of the world, he aims to account for the things he has gained during that exercise, to digest them completely and to exclude them. For this, he must retreat for a while, return to his own knowledge, that is, he must make an accounting by comparing his previous knowledge with the information he obtained in the last world life.
Here, after death, the entity cuts its contacts from around and enters a state of complete isolation, allowing it to take the necessary actions to digest this information easily. **Spatium,** then, is a deep and profound moment of auditing and accounting for life, being. And one of the reasons for the interruptions of human life that continues throughout the entire world cycle, which is called death, is to provide this opportunity.
Death is perhaps not as bad as it seems. Perhaps, as we believe today, everything is not the end of life coming to life and being human. Maybe the story will be rewritten, maybe the efforts will be given again, maybe it will be reborn and die again. Maybe falling leaves of a tree does not mean losing its leaf forever.
Perhaps, contrary to what we believe, death is actually facing the reality of life. Maybe everything continues after he died. Maybe we will not let go of the connections and results of what we have done or not done in this life. Maybe we will just live and see, there is no need to think so deeply, to question this degree.
And the human being, on whom the universe was laid down and the world was placed at his feet, met his death at that moment! And death must be glorious and necessary enough to be worthy of his life!
**And man has experienced death!**
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