Speaking of appreciation to a husband, it made me remember the struggles of my husband at home. Then I saw a post on Facebook that's really relatable to our situation. I, being the one working and my husband is left alone with the kids.
I always wonder what they do at home and I feel like I'm missing something. Sometimes they would video call me during my free time and show me what they're doing, what they were watching and eating or if the kids are experiencing problems.
Sometimes hubby would show me the children playing with their cousins. He shows me some funny videos of the kids. It's some kind of a relief for me when I'm feeling exhausted.
I would like to share these pictures posted on Facebook. They were very cute and I find it very close to our family's reality.
This one is the first illustration of what exactly happens to my husband when my youngest wants to sleep. Everyday, they would sleep together, the two year old gets a comfy feeling while sleeping in his tummy.
The next one. He buys toys with the eldest son. My son, as a kid, he gets attracted easily with toys. He then drags his dad in the toy shelf and my husband would choose the best toys he could find. But due to lack of budget, I cannot afford to buy some things that they would find. I would just tell them to come back next time when I have enough money. They both frown, which I find funny.
Cooking is not my husband's forte. But he does know how to cook, he actually is a good cook. When I'm too tired or feeling lazy he takes over the kitchen and prepare a simple meal. Every morning, he prepares and fills my lunch bag with goodies. I find it sweet, and a simple kiss in the cheek as a sign of my appreciation would be enough to make him smile. Sometimes I'd like to pretend as if I'm very tired and feeling sick so he would cook for me. 😜
Sometimes he would film the kids playing then show it to me so that I wouldn't miss seeing their experiences and funny moments together.
During meal time, my husband is the one who prepare food for the kids. He makes sure of their safety especially from foods that are choking hazard. My husband is the one who does most of the spoon feeding to them and including me. 😅
When we travel, I try to pack our things. I prepare all things needed and I double check them. My man would review everything then rearrange if he doesn't like my packing arrangements. From clothes to their water and milk bottles. It happened several times then I quit since it just wasted my time. I let him do the packing since then. Honestly, this man is too conscious of color and size arrangements. He is very particular with the cleanliness and proper storage of our belongings.
I know, most parents can relate to the next photo. It can be very annoying when your kids play with Legos and other toys with small parts. This is what happens. When there's a lot of mess, always expect to step on something that could make you shout with little bit of tears in your eyes. 😅
Bathing the kids is fun. We don't have a bath tub but he dips them in large drums and give them time to play with water and bubbles.
It's amazing that the kids only want their father to cut their nails. Hubby got used to it. When I'm at home, I do all the chores but when it comes to the kids, he's the best person to handle them.
The next photo gave my heart a little warmth. This happens every time the kids asks for milk. From cleaning to sterilizing and preparing their formula. This picture is the exact same picture of when he prepares milk for a crying hungry toddler. He carries him while scooping the formula to his bottle.
Dads have creative minds, indeed. My husband also makes this carton play house for the children and he plays with them as if he was the same age as them. Hubby is a playful person. When it comes to toys, he's the most excited and he is even more excited to unbox those toys than my children. Lol! I make toys for them, too.
Cleaning them up is his daily struggle. Water is gold at home. He gets into a very bad mood when there's no water. When one asks to go to the toilet and the other one fills his nappy, he has to wash them or bathe them when necessary and a 100 liter tub will never be enough for a day.
You might ask, where am I when my hubby is doing everything for the kids. Well, at daytime on weekdays, I'm at work. When I arrive home after work, I prepare our dinner then set up my eldest's printed modules. I also do some extra work to earn some extra income which is a very big help to our household bills.
On weekends, I spend most of my time cooking their favorite treats, doing crafts with them and take a rest for a while. Weekends are the only days for me to put my hands on to the kids. And I'm grateful to have a husband who acts as the mother when I'm not around.
Being a mother is really not an easy job and I understand that being a man, my husband would feel like he's different from the others. That's why when I'm at home, I never complain when he asks to go out with friends and hang out with them.
This relationship isn't perfect, we also turn into monsters sometimes when we have misunderstandings. At the end of the day, we put ourselves together, set aside our arguments and focus with the kids.
Men of this kind should get the most appreciation and love they deserve. Never judge a non working husband because he works and manage the undending mess at home. Be kind to your husband. 😘
Very informative post