How do you handle a child who behaves the way you don't like?

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Parents are finding it difficult to raise children in this millennium where certain encumbrances are being raised to create barriers between them and their wards for God knows what. Culture and tradition has taken a backseat to what is alien.

As far detached as Africa is from the Western world, the distance could not prevent the encroachment and manifestation of strange ways of life from dotting decent households. No doubt the advent of the internet into the nook and crannies of even the remotest villages is partly responsible for this menace. 

Children are blessings, as such parents must create strategic ways to deal with any child who deliberately breaks domestic and social rules prescribed for proper upbringing.

With a child, if you are disappointed with his or her behavior, as a parent, you have to address that child by using the “ I ”. “ I can't stand this behavior ”. Avoid the “You are unbearable”, which calls into question the whole being of the child. Talking about the behavior using the “I” also minimizes the grievances.

In addition, accompanying the reproach with a positive element will lead to positive feedback, beneficial for confidence. 

Finally, humor is useful when one feels hurt and disappointed with a child. As an adult, resorting to making fun of an attitude by the child tends to reduce tension after a proper reprimand from his own parent. 

Sincerely, @izge.




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In fact, children are the adults because no one can talk.

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4 years ago

This is a very interesting article. Now a days the care of the child is too hard

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4 years ago

I think the best thing to do is to sit them down and talk to them

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4 years ago

Parenting is not an easy job lol.. thank you for this article

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4 years ago

Thanks for sharing this

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4 years ago

It's a little bit hard for parents to control there children this days well it's computer age, so parents need to keep calm and train there children from start, not when they're guy grown

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If problem behaviour is causing you or your child distress, or upsetting the rest of the family, it's important to deal with it. Do what feels right. ...Do not give up. ...Be consistent. ...Try not to overreact. ...Talk to your child. ...Be positive about the good things....Offer rewards. ...Avoid smacking...There are many things that can cause a child to have temper tantrums, emotional outbursts, and general “bad” or unexpected behavior. These can include biological reasons, like being hungry or overtired. They can also include emotional reasons, like not being able to cope with or describe their feelings. Their environment can also influence behavior..... Normal behavior in children depends on the child’s age, personality, and physical and emotional development. A child’s behavior may be a problem if it doesn’t match the expectations of the family or if it is disruptive. Normal or “good” behavior is usually determined by whether it’s socially, culturally, and developmentally appropriate. Knowing what to expect from your child at each age will help you decide whether his or her behavior is normal..... Children tend to continue a behavior when it is rewarded and stop a behavior when it is ignored. Consistency in your reaction to a behavior is important because rewarding and punishing the same behavior at different times confuses your child. When you think your child’s behavior might be a problem, you have 3 choices: Decide that the behavior is not a problem because it’s appropriate to the child’s age and stage of development. Attempt to stop the behavior, either by ignoring it or by punishing it. Introduce a new behavior that you prefer and reinforce it by rewarding your child...

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4 years ago

We should keep our children care and can give them support to the work they did

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4 years ago

Thanks for sharing

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4 years ago

Great

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4 years ago

This is a huge challenge for parents. With love care and advise.

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4 years ago

Yes,parenting is such a hard part of life(as what i've see to my mother haha coz i'm not a mother yet lol)But us,who are kids we should take the discipline that our parent gave us because they know what will be good for us😊So we just need to obey them so that god will be happy😊

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4 years ago

Discipline and proper way to approach him or her to follow your words, having a focus on their doing and take some.action about it was the best thing to do,

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4 years ago

oh, it is really a very good article indeed. thanks for sharing this

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4 years ago

Indeed. Being a Parents requires a lot of patience,to be able to understand how a childs behave. A child behavior must be correct and guide in a right path while still young.

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4 years ago

Good thing to know

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