Each of us has childhood memories that we cannot forget. Even if we did forget, there will always be an event in the present that will make us remember those unwanted memories. The thing about 'the past' is that it happened and there is no option to undo things that have already been done. The same goes for words that are spoken. There is no way to undo the past but there is a way to make the future better than the past.

The world is wide and so it is with the option we have in life. One can be an abused child before and chose to become an abuser later because of revenge. The other option will be someone as a saviour of all the other abused children. Someone who will stand and fight for the children's rights and give them a chance to have a better future. Don't you think that this second option will be better revenge than mirroring our bad memories? No other people can understand others suffering than those who experienced the same situation theselves.

Abused is just one of the examples I am using in this story.

Other than this example...

Should someone who has a loved one killed by a murderer become a murderer to compensate for their loss? Should they kill the murderer with their own hand to make up for the loss?

The real question is, will that be enough? Will killing the murderer give back the person we lost. Will, it really be enough to live with grieving and guilt for the rest of our life? Are you thinking that suicide will be the next option? If you are not then you are most probably blessed with a good life.

If...

We kill the murderer of our loved one and be satisfied with the revenge at that moment but then a few seconds later, a few thoughts come crossing our minds. These thoughts are...

• What if this person has a child? A child that is incapable to understand the reason for losing a parent in a murder case. Then this child grows up to become just like me. I ended up creating another loop of bad memories for the world. When will it end?

Well...

It probably will not end.

But...

If we chose the other option I stated above. Will it make a change to the broken world we once knew? Perhaps it would not change the world but it might create a better place for those within our reach. The feeling of becoming a saviour for those in need is compared to the feeling of becoming an abuser or murderer. The feeling of becoming the saviour we once needed. The feeling of being in control of life as we want it to be for us too.

Our past does not matter.

Importantly is our decision for the future and our actions in the present. I know that even if we have the ability to let go of our past, some people from the same past will not let us go.

Let them be. They are difficult to be ignored but as human we have a gift to be bored. They will get bored eventually except the have the obsession to make other people life miserable. This kind of people usually having a miserable life themselves and to make them feel better, they love to be superior to other people despite being miserable themselves. They need help more than us.

So, either leave them be or help them realize their own disappointment.

"Once broken consider sold"

Sounds familiar?

Therefore, even if we think that our broken heart is destroyed or not able to be save from misery, it is still valuable and worth to be give a second chance like the kintsugi bowl. It is broken, mended with gold and value much more compared to before it broke.