Do we live alone or in company?

Although I have repeatedly read that we were born alone and we must understand that this is true, my mind does not end up believing it. I search the world for facts that make me change my mind, my particular way of believing that we didn’t come alone, we are not alone and we will never be alone. On the contrary, I am more and more convinced that we have come into the world accompanied and that we are leaving in the same way.

I have seen some people and watched some documentaries where their writers or actors are of the opinion that we came into the world alone and I base my beliefs on my own experiences.

I remember births in the delivery room of newborns who actually come in the womb connected to their mother. In some not very pleasant cases, when the bond between the baby and the mother is cut, the baby's anatomy does not work. They come with some kind of pathology that does not allow separation. But these are very particular cases by default.

Although they are rare cases it can happen like many things in this world. A person could not imagine that this could happen in something that is as natural as birth.

We aren’t made to be alone, we are able to endure loneliness because we created tools to do so. But ultimately we are made to live in pairs, to live in community, to interrelate, to create company.

It’s not something imposed by society, it’s something that we have in our genetics that we should or feel the need to group with each other.

When we are in a public place we always keep the thought of looking for people we know in the crowd, if we do not manage to see anyone we know we start a conversation with strangers for whatever reason.

Is this a need to feel accompanied or is it just a habit that we carry ingrained in our minds?

The clearest case is when we go to the doctor's office, to an appointment with a specialist, or when we take our pet to the veterinarian. We converse with people we have never seen before. Is it a need to know what problems that person or pet has? Or is it a need to engage in conversation to feel the companionship while we wait?

 I don't really know the answer. But I do know that we do not like loneliness. In the last few months we have lived, due to circumstances, being cut off from friends and family. This has, as a result, increased the stress level of people due to the separation. With extreme cases of people who wanted to be with others and were confined with the one they didn’t want.

But there have been more cases of depression, suicide and homicides due to isolation. This makes me think more and more that we are not born or made for loneliness. It’s a different case if we choose to live in solitude and we feel good about it. But these are the exceptions.

It’s difficult to think that if we are people who are born united with another person, who create bonds of friendship from our first days of life, who seek to be accompanied by friends, partners and pets, we are people who think that we come alone and leave alone.

I still think that having read a lot of things about it and having my own ideas I doubt that this is true. We are never alone. That we think so and adopt this behavior according to our personality is one thing, but that we are ever really alone, I don't think so.

There is a lot of energy around us. Our thoughts are energy, our voice is energy. Everything is attraction. Our word has a lot of power. When we think of someone who left us physically and our mind flies to meet a sad or joyful thought, the energy that is produced makes something happen.

It says in the law of the conservation of mass that "It is neither created nor destroyed, it only transforms". So if our laws teach us this, why do we dedicate ourselves to think the opposite? We aren’t alone, we are accompanied by our loved ones in another parallel scale. But the important thing is that they are there. Don't we feel them? Some people do not feel the changes around them when they think or talk with people who have passed away.

For my way of living my life this is what I have been able to conclude so far. Maybe tomorrow in this infinite changing world I will learn and modify my way of seeing things and stop thinking and feeling that we are not born alone, we do not live alone and we do not die alone.

These are my own ways of thinking and I don’t try to change that of the people around me. Let's be happy with what we have and with what we think and let's not try to change anyone in their ways of living or thinking. It’s vital to live our own experiences, pleasant or not. They are the ones that will give us our own experience and our own way of life.