A complex personality.

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3 years ago

Human beings are very complex beings, we say some things and then we may not do what our lips say. It’s like when we are upset in a relationship, we say no to the questions we are asked or we just say "no or yes" according to the moment to generate more pressure.

When we are upset, we always say what we don't want to say, because at that moment we seek to hurt the other person. But it happens that when we think about it better, we manage to hurt ourselves more.

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I think we should avoid at all costs to get so upset with a conflict where we can get to shout offenses to the other person with whom we are arguing.

I don't know why we are people used to seeking conflicts instead of living in peace. Why don't we stay away from situations that can provoke arguments? Why not give the reason to others and leave with our heads down but with the satisfaction of having avoided a conflict?

It is really hard for us to live in peace and love? Things on the street do not happen as we wish. There are always things we don't want to see, or feel.

What do you do when you have been in a queue for a few minutes and someone suddenly arrives and wants to get in?

Don't you feel the irrepressible desire to say:

"Please, it's my turn, go do your queue too".

We all get annoyed, that’s the action that the person does. It’s not the fact that he is getting ahead of us and there begins a conflict that could have been avoided. It’s all thanks to two things.

First, thanks to the person who has performed an abusive action with others who are in the line.

Second, thanks to us not tolerating people who pass over us without asking for permission, or thanks to them not explaining why they should stand in front and not at the back, to the end of the line.

Because of these things we are complicated people who always have to be in disputes. Not everyone can or wants to comply with established rules and wants or prefers to act above others.

The complexes that we have stored in our hearts make us very different from each other. We may be similar in some aspects and ways of feeling or thinking but in the end we are all different, with personalities established or to be established according to our needs or our character.

We are so complex that sometimes when we describe ourselves we say that we don't know why we do some things.

Sometimes we want to be happy but our mind plays us and the situation becomes sad and difficult to change. It’s when we allow and give ourselves enough time to move from this state of sadness that we can get to the state we wanted to be at the beginning.

Sometimes we cannot control being happy. It’s then when anything like a silly comment, a trivial episode, a strange situation brings out laughter that is very difficult to keep quiet. We even cry from the laughter we emit.

If we manage to understand what happened and we tell it, the listener will most likely not find it funny enough to burst out laughing. But the fact is that it did happen and we loved that laugh-out-loud moment of laughter that made our stomachs hurt from the effort it caused.

We went from a moment of uncontrollable sadness that we couldn't stop for a while, to another moment of uncontrollable laughter. But for my preference it is better that my stomach hurts from laughing so much than that my face hurts from crying so much or in the last case that our head hurts from the altercation we had and could not avoid.

Almost all of us go through these episodes. I have read it many times in some posts here and there.

We all have a personality type that defines us according to how we normally react to daily life events. Although I have already mentioned that we all go through moments of sadness, I should rather say that I have gone through these moments as any human being can go through, but I also think that the difference is whether we stay for a long time immersed in sadness, worry or dispute.

According to my personality, we will accept to stay or not in a situation that is more pleasant one than the other. I take a load off after being upset by situations that I cannot control because they are caused or driven by other people. I try to get out as quickly as I can of the sadness, the dispute, the confrontation to feel free again without feelings that drag me to feel bad.

I love to find balance and that my body and my being are in healthy peace.



I wanted to do this article because like everyone else I too am taken out of my states of balance on occasion. I really prefer serenity… I don't know about you but I can read your opinions.

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Human are really complicated being, we are designed in that way because we have this IQ that made us think or to be rational than a normal animals.

I am complications being as well, I tend to be argumentive sometimes but when the opponent cannot get what I meant then I'll leave the argument not because I lose but because I want peace, it is said that one word is enough for a wise man so then I'll leave it right there. Hehe I don't know if my comments made sense at all 🤣

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3 years ago

Yes, I understand. Sometimes it's better not to argue. I think when we don't argue we are already winners. Arguing doesn't necessarily make you the winner of the conflict. It can only give you credit for better arguments but it doesn't mean they are true. So it's better to be happy and not argue.

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3 years ago

I agree that it can give credits for better arguments but arguing can give stress sometimes so it's better to avoid it, I'll try to master it this time 😁

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3 years ago

I wish you success. Sometimes it can be very difficult not to argue. Because our inner self wants to be fair and believes in discussion to solve.

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3 years ago

Hello. excellent article. You have come to control your emotions in certain day-to-day situations. Commonly when we reach that point, it is attributed to controlled emotional reactions, having emotional intelligence, I also call it maturity. Congratulations!

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Thank you my dear sister, if at my 60's I don't grab some maturity then all would be lost. lol. lol.

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I'm a person that is too complex.. One moment I am fine, the next moment I am sad, later I am mad 🤣🤣 Just kidding. In terms of dealing with arguments.. I always choose to control my emotions to avoid further discussion.. I don't really like arguing with someone in person..

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3 years ago

We don't like arguments but there is no way to avoid arguing sometimes when you see injustice in front of your eyes. Sometimes you realize that you allowed an argument and it is too late to avoid. Sometimes the best thing to do is to keep quiet so as not to give way to an argument.

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3 years ago

Good evening my beautiful Gertu, how are you?

What an interesting topic, I have always thought that everything starts at home if in our homes or environments we see moments of violence if our parents or representatives are explosive, and they instill in us that we must solve everything with shouts or arguments, then when we grow up we are like dynamite, we explode very quickly.

Obviously, some situations take us out of our minds, because they are out of our hands, for example, the situation you mentioned, of course, it is annoying, but it also influences how we express ourselves to that person, if our tone is already challenging, authority or rude, it is impossible to avoid creating a discussion or something bigger.

Unfortunately, the human being has shown that he prefers war to peace, and we see it a lot in history, civilization after civilization spent until his last days fighting each other, just to get something that in the end they lost, in the current era we are still the same, full of hatred, resentment, we are uncomfortable to be at peace, we always have to have some latent problem there, because otherwise, we get bored, and no doubt this is contradictory, I prefer peace, I prefer calm to problems, one of the virtues that I have is patience, so I always avoid conflicts because it makes me uncomfortable to be there arguing for illogical things.

I totally agree with you, we are all different, as they say over there: "Each head is a world", although I would add: "Each head is a world, although some look like islands". Have a nice night beautiful friend, rest

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3 years ago

But even if you grew up in a boisterous environment you have the power to not repeat your history and to somehow seek to change it. Sometimes those abusive people are predisposed and even if you speak to them in a soft tone they are ready to attack physically or verbally. I think out of habit.

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3 years ago

Choosing peace over argument is power. Not everyone can do that. We must choose our peace of mind that to those things that can ignite arguments. I personally don't like arguing so I really control myself and not say anything

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3 years ago

It's the best. It is not cowardice to walk away from conflicts, it is to be wise to avoid worse situations.

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3 years ago

True! I could not agree more with this

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3 years ago

I really hate conflict and arguments that's why I just shut my mouth and stay away from toxicity. 😩 It's better to just keep to myself that words I want to say that to argument with those people who's not even ready to listen to ir side.

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3 years ago

It is the best. They take away your peace and they go on the same, looking for more conflicts.

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3 years ago

There is one thing, that popped into my mind, when you said someone cut in front of you in the queue. It is very sad to see that some people can be bought. There are videos on youtube a person cuts in front of people. First those people are upset, than he says don't worry I pay for all of your shopping. So he does and nobody is upset anymore. It should not work like that, but money talks.

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3 years ago

That happened to me on one occasion. The gentleman stood in front of me, he was told it was my turn. He tried to pay and had no money. I offered to pay for his groceries and he left. That was the end of it.

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3 years ago

Control what you can control. Be the better person. Sometimes we don't have to say anything or react to a situation because would rather have peace.

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3 years ago

Yes, it's preferable to keep quiet and let the person pass. You are happier that way.

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3 years ago

Sometimes people will challenge just to prove their superiority and we can just render them powerless with silence.

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3 years ago

Yes, sometimes it is better to remain silent to avoid continuing or starting a dispute.

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3 years ago

Every personalities may differ when we deal with it. I all have that sometimes but i takes time to change it ☺️

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3 years ago

There's a personality of mine, who's actually rude at all, I wouldn't talk to anyone even if they call my name I just gonna look at them, and there's me a jolly happy person who loves to hang out. I'm the jolly person lazysnail

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3 years ago

We react in different ways to eventual situations.

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3 years ago

I am such a short-tempered type of person and I know and embrace this side of mine. Because of that I always make sure that I could control it as much as I can. I explode dependent on the person, the situation or the reason. I do also believe that my education and my professional degree help me to be more calm and more often my reason why I should needed to be calm.

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3 years ago

Sometimes it's best to remain silent to avoid conflicts because many people do not change.

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3 years ago

This is just well said. Human as we are, we are opt to feel different feeling. Sadness, happiness, and the like. Just like what you have said, it is still our choice if we will choose to get stuck on such sadness. Why stay on such if that is not what makes you happy? And human as we are, we have a choice to make. And it depends on us whether to choose to be drowned with negative thoughts or look at the brighter side of the way, and be happy.

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3 years ago

That's how it is, it's up to us to stay in the unpleasant times. Or live in happiness.

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Truly. The choices is ours to make.

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