Human beings are very complex beings, we say some things and then we may not do what our lips say. It’s like when we are upset in a relationship, we say no to the questions we are asked or we just say "no or yes" according to the moment to generate more pressure.
When we are upset, we always say what we don't want to say, because at that moment we seek to hurt the other person. But it happens that when we think about it better, we manage to hurt ourselves more.
I think we should avoid at all costs to get so upset with a conflict where we can get to shout offenses to the other person with whom we are arguing.
I don't know why we are people used to seeking conflicts instead of living in peace. Why don't we stay away from situations that can provoke arguments? Why not give the reason to others and leave with our heads down but with the satisfaction of having avoided a conflict?
It is really hard for us to live in peace and love? Things on the street do not happen as we wish. There are always things we don't want to see, or feel.
What do you do when you have been in a queue for a few minutes and someone suddenly arrives and wants to get in?
Don't you feel the irrepressible desire to say:
"Please, it's my turn, go do your queue too".
We all get annoyed, that’s the action that the person does. It’s not the fact that he is getting ahead of us and there begins a conflict that could have been avoided. It’s all thanks to two things.
First, thanks to the person who has performed an abusive action with others who are in the line.
Second, thanks to us not tolerating people who pass over us without asking for permission, or thanks to them not explaining why they should stand in front and not at the back, to the end of the line.
Because of these things we are complicated people who always have to be in disputes. Not everyone can or wants to comply with established rules and wants or prefers to act above others.
The complexes that we have stored in our hearts make us very different from each other. We may be similar in some aspects and ways of feeling or thinking but in the end we are all different, with personalities established or to be established according to our needs or our character.
We are so complex that sometimes when we describe ourselves we say that we don't know why we do some things.
Sometimes we want to be happy but our mind plays us and the situation becomes sad and difficult to change. It’s when we allow and give ourselves enough time to move from this state of sadness that we can get to the state we wanted to be at the beginning.
Sometimes we cannot control being happy. It’s then when anything like a silly comment, a trivial episode, a strange situation brings out laughter that is very difficult to keep quiet. We even cry from the laughter we emit.
If we manage to understand what happened and we tell it, the listener will most likely not find it funny enough to burst out laughing. But the fact is that it did happen and we loved that laugh-out-loud moment of laughter that made our stomachs hurt from the effort it caused.
We went from a moment of uncontrollable sadness that we couldn't stop for a while, to another moment of uncontrollable laughter. But for my preference it is better that my stomach hurts from laughing so much than that my face hurts from crying so much or in the last case that our head hurts from the altercation we had and could not avoid.
Almost all of us go through these episodes. I have read it many times in some posts here and there.
We all have a personality type that defines us according to how we normally react to daily life events. Although I have already mentioned that we all go through moments of sadness, I should rather say that I have gone through these moments as any human being can go through, but I also think that the difference is whether we stay for a long time immersed in sadness, worry or dispute.
According to my personality, we will accept to stay or not in a situation that is more pleasant one than the other. I take a load off after being upset by situations that I cannot control because they are caused or driven by other people. I try to get out as quickly as I can of the sadness, the dispute, the confrontation to feel free again without feelings that drag me to feel bad.
I love to find balance and that my body and my being are in healthy peace.
I wanted to do this article because like everyone else I too am taken out of my states of balance on occasion. I really prefer serenity… I don't know about you but I can read your opinions.
Human are really complicated being, we are designed in that way because we have this IQ that made us think or to be rational than a normal animals.
I am complications being as well, I tend to be argumentive sometimes but when the opponent cannot get what I meant then I'll leave the argument not because I lose but because I want peace, it is said that one word is enough for a wise man so then I'll leave it right there. Hehe I don't know if my comments made sense at all 🤣