Resentment is a source of suffering, do not allow anyone or anything to steal your happiness.
Do you know of any case or do you know of someone who holds a grudge in his or her heart? Maybe you do and maybe you share with me the idea that it is very sad to see this kind of cases. Here we could spend all day talking about hundreds of cases of people who have lived unhappy all their lives for not knowing how to overcome episodes that have marked their lives.
It is proven that resentment and resentment do not give us happiness, I am convinced that these horrible feelings are a barrier that do not let us be happy.
According to the dictionary it tells us that resentment is a resentment that persists over time and resentment is the action of anger and pain that lasts over time. This in turn is hidden in our heart and is expressed in hatred and revenge.
There is a part of all this that has always seemed illogical to me and many people do not understand me when I want to express it; it is that hatred and resentment are closely linked to time, that is to say that no matter how hard we try to change what happened, it will be impossible to do so. So what sense does it make for me to live with resentment if I cannot alter what happened to me.
Here is where we have to understand why we must let out all that hostile feeling that does not let us live and at the same time try to forgive.
Resentment is a source of suffering, that is to say that every time we remember that moment in which we were hurt, in which we were made to suffer or annoy, then we are suffering again and it is as if what was in the past happened again; then all that pain becomes a source that radiates pain and each time the suffering becomes stronger and stronger.
I am not a judge to judge anyone, but this week unfortunately I had to tell my sister that she should leave all that past behind, unfortunately she has a grudge against our younger brother, who with his attitude has made us all upset and then the next day it is as if nothing had happened. We both agree on something, and that is that our brother is a good person, but sometimes he gets his wires crossed and says things he should not.
I tell her that a lot of those things have happened, and we should put them behind us and try to resolve what is in the present, talking to him with LOVE would be the first step and second I would like to listen to him to see what he has to say. Maybe no one has ever listened to him, maybe he wants to say many things, so we should give him that opportunity.
On the other hand I have always said that feeling these feelings of hate and resentment for so many years is what keeps us from moving forward and I compare it to a sack of concrete stones that we carry on our back and makes our walk heavy.
Resentment drives us to take destructive actions that do not help us to grow. Unfortunately, resentment is like the fuel that moves the engine and drives you to act destructively. When we act out of resentment we become as bad as or worse than the person who hurt you. We become so blinded that we don't mind speaking ill of that person, wishing them harm, hurting them or getting even, and that can have very serious consequences for your life. There are many who even, and forgive me for being exaggerated, but there are many cases in which they have even ended up in jail for wanting to take revenge on the other person.
Resentment leaves us tied to the past and does not let us flow and it seems to me that it is not logical that the person who hurt us so much deserves to be so long in our mind and our beloved heart.
Now I want to tell you the following to finish, if you are going through something similar and you can't forget that person then you are saying that you can't forget her because she is very important to you and the truth is that I don't believe that anyone, much less a person like that, is more important than us.
I definitely conclude that nothing is more important than me, nobody is more important than my peace, my serenity, my joy.
So from now on do not give importance to those who no longer have it and do not allow anything or anyone to steal your happiness, whoever they are.
For today I want to leave this topic until here, but it would be good that we put into practice some types that I found on the internet to learn how to overcome resentment and very soon we will analyze the topic of forgiveness.
First: accept what happened and understand that life is full of injustices.
Second: increase the level of self-esteem. People with low self-esteem live anchored to hatred and resentment.
Third: Be positive. Review what are the lessons and learnings that this experience has left us.
Fourth: move on.
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