Christians: How to use new technologies to demonstrate good emotional communication.

There are characteristics that can never be missing in an affective relationship, even though technology has taken space in our lives, we must adapt to these new times and continue to show our loved ones how much we love them, no matter if you use Ws, Facebook, zoom or any application you can think of.

Technology has changed our lives, we are others from there, apart from that, in the last year and a half the pandemic adds yet another situation we have had to adapt to.

Now we meet in a different way, we communicate with our relatives in a different way and even when we go shopping we behave differently. I mean, we used to go to the market and there we would meet Juana, Carmen, our cousin, we would talk to the butcher and he would know how I liked the meat or chicken just by looking at me. But now, NO! Nowadays you only have to download an application, call and they bring the food to your door.

Based on this thought I want to insist that we have to learn to get together, relate to each other and make friends in a new way.

In my case I have thought a lot about emotional relationships, I really do not want to lose my friendships and I would not want them to move away from me, because sometimes it costs a lot to rebuild that friendship. In Venezuela we have lost many friends, they have gone far away in search of better opportunities and a better quality of life. With many of them we still maintain this affectionate, affectionate communication, of complicity, but there are others that have been lost with time.

Today I would like to talk to you about these characteristics that, wherever we are, should not be lost in our affective relationships.

LOVE must be expressed

First of all, I believe that if there is no evident and specific manifestation of LOVE there cannot be a good affective relationship. But I am not talking about generating a routine or expressing something that sounds empty, but having nice details from time to time, worrying about the other person, asking from time to time how he/she feels, sending a detail, with a good meal, in short, there are many ways to show the affection we feel for each other.

The mere fact of setting aside your time and dedicating it to that person is very important, especially nowadays where time is short, it is not enough and we have thousands of things to do and when dawn breaks it is already six o'clock in the afternoon and if Monday starts, the weekend is already here and when the year begins, December is almost here. It is terrible to see how time goes by and we do nothing to keep those beautiful friendships that God put in our way.

Someone once said "Tell me how much time you spend with me and I will tell you how much you love me" today everyone, young, old, women and men alike, invest a great deal of time in social networks, but have no time to foster a conversation of affection either with the one who is at home or with the one who is elsewhere. The groups of Ws that have been formed often end in discord, separation, insults or simply to say good morning or happy birthday, but no one is really interested in how you woke up today, or how cool you achieved this or that. They are empty things, that's what I call them, it bothers me to see that nobody writes anymore, they just send a thousand meaningless emoticons.

How beautiful is technology, blessed be the man who shortened the distances with the cell phone, the internet and all these things. But you definitely have to know how to use them; if you want to have a good relationship with your loved ones, get closer to them, invest time in them, but not to send repeated chains, cards with pre-elaborated messages, I am not totally against this, many are beautiful and make you laugh, but the best thing would be to write what you feel, focusing on respect, love, affection; better said, if you are going to give your time, make it worthwhile, offer quantity of time with quality. Turn technology into an ally to be a better person, so that those who are on the other side of the line feel your love, your affection, your kiss and virtual embrace.

And for those you have at home, do the same, show them all your love. Love must be nurtured every day, that's why we must caress and express ourselves. Just like when we were sweethearts, when we touched each other and sighed. If we express ourselves by making the other person feel valuable and recognized, this will generate a wonderful relationship at home.

The first thing you must do is to organize your time, if we want everything to go well you must establish priorities and based on this you will not have excuses to say that you do not have enough time. The normal thing is that you have time left for everything that is valuable to you.

Stop for a moment and think about those people who were part of your life, an aunt, a cousin, a schoolmate, that neighbor you played with as a child, think about them, how long has it been since you wrote to them, how long has it been since you asked them how they are doing. I used to think that if they didn't do it, I didn't have to do it either, but someone has to give in, someone has to take the first step and give the other the confidence to do it too.

How nice it is to have friendships all over the world, we Venezuelans now have acquaintances even in Patagonia, keep those friendships, keep them and offer them a sincere affection without expecting anything in return, there is a phrase that says that "there is more happiness in giving than in receiving" and if the only thing you have on the internet then take that tool to take advantage of the truth.

Use the language of love to be happy and make others happy, express the language of love with the tools you have, bless, wish good things, talk about beautiful memories, laugh, say hello, talk about your feelings, recognize the good things.

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