Children should be raised with positive discipline. Not with abuse or restraint.

When we have a child, no one tells us how to be a parent, the child does not come with an instruction manual, much less a description of his personality, his behavior. The old school tells us that we must raise with character, with discipline, with severe punishment. That comes from the grandparents and that is how our parents were raised and many of us went through that time where the child was reprimanded with the father's belt or with the mother's sandal.

Although I was raised in a home where we were 12 siblings and at home there were always 7 or 8 of us, I learned by watching how others behaved. I remember that if my siblings were told or scolded for something, I took it to myself and avoided making the same mistake. I think thanks to that I was saved from many punishments by my parents.

But nowadays things have changed a lot, even society has created laws and institutions to protect children and adolescents from family violence. Hitting a child to modify his behavior was so normal that even in school we were beaten with a wooden ruler if we misbehaved.

I remember that there was a phrase "Teachers are our second parents" and I can say that there were good teachers, who really taught us, but there were others who solved everything with a ruler. I can't forget a chapter of my life and I would like to tell you about it below.

When I was about 9 years old I went to school late, I was in a hurry because if you arrived after singing the hymn you had to stay in the duck for a long time listening to the scolding of the teacher. That day I had the bad luck to get a cousin who was younger than me and I told her to run so we could get there on time, but when we were a little short the girl fell, scraped her knees and got her uniform dirty.

I don't remember if I got in on time or not, I only remember that when I was in the classroom they went to pick me up and took me to my cousin's classroom; when I went in the teacher Yaneth (who we all knew as severe) asked me why she made her cousin fall? That left me surprised, at no time did I make her fall, I ran on my side and she ran on hers, but I had not finished talking when that teacher asked me to put the palm of my hand to hit me for my fault. I also remember she had a green pine branch and she hit me so hard that I took her hand away.

Taking my hand away was worse, they said that if we took our hand away they would hit us more, but when I tried to put it again I was not able to and I turned around and went crying to my classroom, but before I left that teacher hit me on my shoulder and on my back.

I have never been able to forget that, I feel anger and pain because I was just a child and even worse because I did not deserve that punishment.

Luckily that teacher left the school soon after and I think things got better for us.

Years later I met her again at a meeting with friends, I was already a woman and she did not recognize me, I swear I was provoked to tell her a few things but why, surely she was not going to remember and that was not going to solve anything. I just ignored her and stayed away from her during the whole meeting.

The truth is that terrible things used to happen before and the worst thing is that many of us believe that it was okay, but the truth is that it marked many children forever and that is where violence is born.

I understand that if we must put discipline at home, establish rules, parameters, limits, teaching the principles and values, so that when we go out to face society we have a minimum of desired behavior.

Our children deserve respect, but parents also deserve to be respected; the use of violence and punishment in the lives of our children is unnecessary, useless and inefficient. That is why I am still searching for tools that will allow me to be a better mother. It is very important that there is a school for parents, that we educate ourselves a little and for that reason I would like to talk to you about positive discipline, which is advancing more and more every day and is gaining ground in society. Positive discipline has its studies and it would be great if it could reach more and more people.

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